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As per title If a 20 year old runs away from the house - can the police get involved Or is it 18 and under only Thanks Read More
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3w, 3d agoPosted 3 weeks, 3 days ago
As per title If a 20 year old runs away from the house - can the police get involved

Or is it 18 and under only

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3w, 3d agoPosted 3 weeks, 3 days ago
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MarioMan
Firefly1
MarioMan
mrty
Adult, and no crime committed? Unless you believe them a danger to themselves or others and can convince the correct professional of this then no, the police are unlikely to get involved.
No crime commited
I think they're planning to leave country.
Guessing if no crime commited, there isn't much to do to stop them leaving the country
Any adult with capacity (I.e mental health not influencing their decision) and not wanted with police can go where they want.
Yes I get that but the situation in context is quite different
The 20 year old after finishing his exams recently has pretty much left. All of a sudden. No questions or anything. Just a text saying bye.. completely out of the blue

I'd advise you to phone 101 now if you think they are boarding a plane in the next few hours and tell police you are concerned for their welfare because it is out of character and, whilst you understand they are an adult, you worry they may be ill based on the total irrational behaviour as you've had a loving relationship for X years and they have been very stressed recently.

That way you can have few regrets as you have tried :) I don't think anything will happen, but what if they seem irrational at border control in the airport and then there is a comment that perhaps they are not in the right state of mind? People can put things together if concerns are raised, even if not acted on at the time.

EDIT: Police (Dunno about 101 themselves) can leave a note on a person's record. It doesn't count as part of a criminal records check, but just can say they may be vulnerable or gives some context to a situation that may evolve and involve them in the next few days.

Signs of depression include:
Low mood / No pleasure in activites they usually find enjoyment in / Low energy / Apeptite changes / Weight changes / Early morning wakening / Difficulty getting to sleep / Concentration reduced / Feelings of worthlessness
(You don't need all of them)

Any hallucinations / delusions (voices, seeing imaginary things, delusions = fixed false belief held despite evidence to the contrary and against society as a whole beliefs) expressed before departure should definitely result in concern for their mental health.


Edited By: Firefly1 on Jun 02, 2017 00:25: .

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#1
Adult, and no crime committed? Unless you believe them a danger to themselves or others and can convince the correct professional of this then no, the police are unlikely to get involved.
#2
if they were in danger or have committed a crime, then yes, otherwise they would be on missing persons register.
#3
mrty
Adult, and no crime committed? Unless you believe them a danger to themselves or others and can convince the correct professional of this then no, the police are unlikely to get involved.


No crime commited

I think they're planning to leave country.
Guessing if no crime commited, there isn't much to do to stop them leaving the country
#4
MarioMan
mrty
Adult, and no crime committed? Unless you believe them a danger to themselves or others and can convince the correct professional of this then no, the police are unlikely to get involved.
No crime commited
I think they're planning to leave country.
Guessing if no crime commited, there isn't much to do to stop them leaving the country

Any adult with capacity (I.e mental health not influencing their decision) and not wanted with police can go where they want.
#5
Firefly1
MarioMan
mrty
Adult, and no crime committed? Unless you believe them a danger to themselves or others and can convince the correct professional of this then no, the police are unlikely to get involved.
No crime commited
I think they're planning to leave country.
Guessing if no crime commited, there isn't much to do to stop them leaving the country
Any adult with capacity (I.e mental health not influencing their decision) and not wanted with police can go where they want.


Yes I get that but the situation in context is quite different


The 20 year old after finishing his exams recently has pretty much left. All of a sudden. No questions or anything. Just a text saying bye.. completely out of the blue
#6
if it's out of character then I would report it
#7
MarioMan
Firefly1
MarioMan
mrty
Adult, and no crime committed? Unless you believe them a danger to themselves or others and can convince the correct professional of this then no, the police are unlikely to get involved.
No crime commited
I think they're planning to leave country.
Guessing if no crime commited, there isn't much to do to stop them leaving the country
Any adult with capacity (I.e mental health not influencing their decision) and not wanted with police can go where they want.


Yes I get that but the situation in context is quite different


The 20 year old after finishing his exams recently has pretty much left. All of a sudden. No questions or anything. Just a text saying bye.. completely out of the blue


Have they displayed any signs of depression?
#8
MarioMan
mrty
Adult, and no crime committed? Unless you believe them a danger to themselves or others and can convince the correct professional of this then no, the police are unlikely to get involved.
No crime commited
I think they're planning to leave country.
Guessing if no crime commited, there isn't much to do to stop them leaving the country
Unless it's too somewhere such as Syria or they've classed as vulnerable (physical/mental disability/issues) then no-one will be interested.
#9
Well whatever the case, hope the missing person is found and it's a happy ending. God bless
#10
MarioMan
Firefly1
MarioMan
mrty
Adult, and no crime committed? Unless you believe them a danger to themselves or others and can convince the correct professional of this then no, the police are unlikely to get involved.
No crime commited
I think they're planning to leave country.
Guessing if no crime commited, there isn't much to do to stop them leaving the country
Any adult with capacity (I.e mental health not influencing their decision) and not wanted with police can go where they want.
Yes I get that but the situation in context is quite different
The 20 year old after finishing his exams recently has pretty much left. All of a sudden. No questions or anything. Just a text saying bye.. completely out of the blue

I'd advise you to phone 101 now if you think they are boarding a plane in the next few hours and tell police you are concerned for their welfare because it is out of character and, whilst you understand they are an adult, you worry they may be ill based on the total irrational behaviour as you've had a loving relationship for X years and they have been very stressed recently.

That way you can have few regrets as you have tried :) I don't think anything will happen, but what if they seem irrational at border control in the airport and then there is a comment that perhaps they are not in the right state of mind? People can put things together if concerns are raised, even if not acted on at the time.

EDIT: Police (Dunno about 101 themselves) can leave a note on a person's record. It doesn't count as part of a criminal records check, but just can say they may be vulnerable or gives some context to a situation that may evolve and involve them in the next few days.

Signs of depression include:
Low mood / No pleasure in activites they usually find enjoyment in / Low energy / Apeptite changes / Weight changes / Early morning wakening / Difficulty getting to sleep / Concentration reduced / Feelings of worthlessness
(You don't need all of them)

Any hallucinations / delusions (voices, seeing imaginary things, delusions = fixed false belief held despite evidence to the contrary and against society as a whole beliefs) expressed before departure should definitely result in concern for their mental health.


Edited By: Firefly1 on Jun 02, 2017 00:25: .
#11
Does sound odd.

Any reason why they might have done this?

Mental health issues?

Sexuality issues?

The police would just (politely) tell you to go away I would expect.
#12
No laws against 20 year olds living indepently, which includes deciding that they are gonna move home without telling anyone. Unless they have gone missing and are deemed to be in danger, then they will be treated as missing person.
#13
If you believe the person is 'missing' I.e out of the ordinary behaviour, there is no limit on the time to call the police. Call them now and report it.
#14
You can report a person of any age missing and the police are duty bound to try and find them . The missing person will be placed on the Police National Computer as a missing person. This means checks on them by the police or say border control will show them as missing. However a 20 year old when located can only be asked if they want the person who reported them missing told where they are. If they state that they don't then the police will report back that the person has been located and is safe and well and doesn't want to disclose their location. They are then no longer classified as missing and police involvement ends and they will not disclose their location.
If concerned about the missing person ring your local police who will try and locate the person as described above.
#15
So a 20 year old got fed up living at home and packed their bags and left. They haven't contacted anyone and you're worried about their whereabouts?
#16
Thank you all for your help and replies. The 20 year old has made brief contact but unfortunately it seems this is the end.

Edited By: MarioMan on Jun 02, 2017 20:32
#17
MarioMan
Thank you all for your help and replies. The 20 year old has made brief contact but unfortunately it seems this is the end.

i can understand the family's distress if the guy wants to be on his own. sometimes you have to let go and let them do what they want. they are old enough to lead their own life and if they regret what they have done later, they will come back. my mum wanted to throw my brother out when he was 21 but the police brought him back and said that my mum had to let him come back even though he was 21 years old. she could not get rid of him. lol. :D
#18
If the person is vulnerable contact the police. They go on vulnerability more than age.
#19
mutley1
MarioMan
Thank you all for your help and replies. The 20 year old has made brief contact but unfortunately it seems this is the end.
i can understand the family's distress if the guy wants to be on his own. sometimes you have to let go and let them do what they want. they are old enough to lead their own life and if they regret what they have done later, they will come back. my mum wanted to throw my brother out when he was 21 but the police brought him back and said that my mum had to let him come back even though he was 21 years old. she could not get rid of him. lol. :D


This is practically the opposite,

The mum wants to keep the 20 year old but the 20 year old want's to leave, and relocate abroad. Mum would have been happy to let him go, if the moron simply told her his plan. Rather than one day disappear, and then announce his plan. He is one of those people who lacks common sense and general knowledge but is very academic. Those quite nerds practically, but as you can see braver than we thought.

What's worse is ontop of all this (as he was living completely rent free, and obtained some scholarship money, which one day mum asked for for building work and would later reply) he threatened the Mum and ask to transfer it back, mum managed to transfer around 10k back to him, straight away, just a a bit more left ands He has done a runner.

Guess what's done is done, and move forward.
#20
MarioMan
mutley1
MarioMan
Thank you all for your help and replies. The 20 year old has made brief contact but unfortunately it seems this is the end.
i can understand the family's distress if the guy wants to be on his own. sometimes you have to let go and let them do what they want. they are old enough to lead their own life and if they regret what they have done later, they will come back. my mum wanted to throw my brother out when he was 21 but the police brought him back and said that my mum had to let him come back even though he was 21 years old. she could not get rid of him. lol. :D
This is practically the opposite,
The mum wants to keep the 20 year old but the 20 year old want's to leave, and relocate abroad. Mum would have been happy to let him go, if the moron simply told her his plan. Rather than one day disappear, and then announce his plan. He is one of those people who lacks common sense and general knowledge but is very academic. Those quite nerds practically, but as you can see braver than we thought.
What's worse is ontop of all this (as he was living completely rent free, and obtained some scholarship money, which one day mum asked for for building work and would later reply) he threatened the Mum and ask to transfer it back, mum managed to transfer around 10k back to him, straight away, just a a bit more left ands He has done a runner.
Guess what's done is done, and move forward.

this is why i don't want children!
#21
MarioMan
This is practically the opposite,
The mum wants to keep the 20 year old but the 20 year old want's to leave, and relocate abroad. Mum would have been happy to let him go, if the moron simply told her his plan. Rather than one day disappear, and then announce his plan. He is one of those people who lacks common sense and general knowledge but is very academic. Those quite nerds practically, but as you can see braver than we thought.
What's worse is ontop of all this (as he was living completely rent free, and obtained some scholarship money, which one day mum asked for for building work and would later reply) he threatened the Mum and ask to transfer it back, mum managed to transfer around 10k back to him, straight away, just a a bit more left ands He has done a runner.
Guess what's done is done, and move forward.

But thinking out loud, what's the other option? He clearly has a plan and from what you say appears to be able to make his own decisions. Nobody can force an adult to continue living with his mum. The scholarship money is his, and you can't withhold it from him or deduct amounts for rent/ expenses that I imagine weren't previously agreed. Yes he's not doing it very nicely, but I can't see how the police could possibly get involved in it.

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