I have extremely thick, unruly hair just past my shoulders. It depresses me as it always looks like an untidy hedge and gets me down all the time. Are there any of you with hair like this that could recommend what to buy for it to calm it. Please don't recommend straighteners as they split it and add frizz also don't want it layered as I had that done a few years ago and it stuck out even more! Would like to look half tidy for Christmas, lol thanks.