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Ok I need advice!!! How to get my husband to quit smoking!!!! He's been at it for 20 years and wants to stop but can't! Any advice?

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2y, 2m agoPosted 2 years, 2 months ago
Have tried lots of things... Any successfull quitters out there with advice??
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2y, 2m agoPosted 2 years, 2 months ago
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(1)
go and buy him a bag of willpower cause thats the only thing that works.
the fact your searching rather than him is the reason he is a smoker and digging his own grave.
the thing that will help hom the most is tell him how worried you are and you dont want to be left alone. remind him the things he will leave behind and how disgusting you find it.
so he'll have a tough couple of weeks, big deal its not painful and as your husband you deserve it.

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#1
Tbh, HE has got to want to quit. It wont work if he dosent x


ooooops, just read it properly! sorry. Has he tried e cigs? Ive heard theyre very good.

We went cold turkey when we stopped, (over 8 yrs ago!), it was very difficult. It was like constant pmt, bear with him if he stresses out, its so easy to go back on them. Appertite increase was difficult for me to deal with. Ive got a very bad sweet tooth now!

Edited By: hocka on Jun 29, 2014 19:05
#2
hookah pen shish pen same kina thing i had mine 4 months now and never had a fag and if i go past someone smoking it makes me wretch of how bad the smell is. i highly recommend them
#4
THIS worked for me. Just get him to read it.
#5
Get vaping. ....I see more people vaping nowadays than people smoking
#6
I quit smoking by taking up cycling. Tobacco-free lungs kinda trumped the draw :) of nicotine! That was seven years ago and not had a toke since.
#7
Been on ecig a year and do occasionally have the odd cig but was on 30 a day before.!!!
#8
I ditched a 20 year habit over-night with this - http://www.vipelectroniccigarette.co.uk/photon-express-kit-p-235.html?osCsid=cno6qa5p2sjrj3gg5rdkfr1q14

Vaping is the way for anyone wanting to quit cigarettes. So easy I am annoyed I never did it ages ago.
#9
champix worked great for me
#10
tell him to put the money he would have spent on fags in a jar (if he's a 20 a day smoker that'll be £5-8 a day, depending on whether he uses rolies or buys fags). let's assume he spends £5 a day, that is £35 per week. £35 x 52 = £1820. Enough for a holiday to the carribean for 2 for a week.

Keep reminding him that he's smoking away your dream holiday every time he lights up. He's also paying to kill himself.

This worked for me, smoke free for nearly 2 years.
#11
fuhu78888
tell him to put the money he would have spent on fags in a jar (if he's a 20 a day smoker that'll be £5-8 a day, depending on whether he uses rolies or buys fags). let's assume he spends £5 a day, that is £35 per week. £35 x 52 = £1820. Enough for a holiday to the carribean for 2 for a week.

Keep reminding him that he's smoking away your dream holiday every time he lights up. He's also paying to kill himself.

This worked for me, smoke free for nearly 2 years.

Also, remind him that the first week is by far the hardest, by the end of the second he wont even miss them.
#12
I stopped after getting sick and unable to smoke. Also reduced how many a day like instead of smoking a full cig leave some. Go on roll ups and slowly get weaker blend over time. If he really wants to he needs something to fill the spare time.
#13
Alan Carr "the easy way to stop smoking"book /chewing gum/looking online for other success storys.!And above all remembering you have to get time behind you so hang on in there it doesnt happen overnight.The cravings get alot less as time goes by but you have to be patient.For me it didnt get easier as everyone claims it got harder for a while but i kept telling myself if i felt this bad and wanted to go back tomorrow/next week i could (but i also kept telling myself why go back after doing a week/month as i wouldnt have to do that time again).I wish after 25 years plus i did it years ago.
No easy answer and whats good for one person might not work for another but i hope this is helpful.
Good luck if i can do it anyone can ! :)
#14
I was discussing the e-cigs with my sister "whose a nurse" and works in a health centre and she was telling me about a man who was found to have a lot of oil in his lungs/heart area after he died. He did smoke and went onto e-cigs Im I know not of his cause of death etc. Take this at face value but maybe do a bit more research on the e-cigs before trying. Otherwise consider hypnosis but be sure you go to the right one. Check out Rob Kelly's Purehypnoanalysis/Thrive program if you are serious. I quit when twenny regal KS were £2.22 shortly after the budget increase!!!!
#15
My partner has quit. He smoked 20 a day. He smoked a ecig. But cut it down. Now he is smoke free since jan. To be honest he had no choice. We could not afford for him to smoke. So that made it easier for him to give up.
#16
If he is going to find it difficult, remember he has rearlly got to want to stop I think he should try (imo) the safer alternative which are the ecigs.

I also think if he goes down that route to not go for the cheapies. He will be frustrated and end up going back to tobacco.

I smoke ecigs as an alternative and not the route to stopping (I don't want to)

The device I am using will let you set the length of a drag in 10th of a second increments......... great if you want to slowly reduce the intake of nicotine, rather than reducing the nicotine content of the ejuice.

Mine at the mo' is set at 3.9 seconds. If I wanted to stop I could reduce that to say 3.6 seconds after a month or so....... and so on.
#17
Ellie Phant
If he is going to find it difficult, remember he has rearlly got to want to stop I think he should try (imo) the safer alternative which are the ecigs.

I also think if he goes down that route to not go for the cheapies. He will be frustrated and end up going back to tobacco.

I smoke ecigs as an alternative and not the route to stopping (I don't want to)

The device I am using will let you set the length of a drag in 10th of a second increments......... great if you want to slowly reduce the intake of nicotine, rather than reducing the nicotine content of the ejuice.

Mine at the mo' is set at 3.9 seconds. If I wanted to stop I could reduce that to say 3.6 seconds after a month or so....... and so on.

Whats the make and where you get it from?
#18
krazyasif786
Ellie Phant
If he is going to find it difficult, remember he has rearlly got to want to stop I think he should try (imo) the safer alternative which are the ecigs.

I also think if he goes down that route to not go for the cheapies. He will be frustrated and end up going back to tobacco.

I smoke ecigs as an alternative and not the route to stopping (I don't want to)



The device I am using will let you set the length of a drag in 10th of a second increments......... great if you want to slowly reduce the intake of nicotine, rather than reducing the nicotine content of the ejuice.

Mine at the mo' is set at 3.9 seconds. If I wanted to stop I could reduce that to say 3.6 seconds after a month or so....... and so on.

Whats the make and where you get it from?

This is it
http://www.joyetech.com/product/eVic.php

and I got it from here
http://www.theelectroniccigarette.co.uk/
#19
go and buy him a bag of willpower cause thats the only thing that works.
the fact your searching rather than him is the reason he is a smoker and digging his own grave.
the thing that will help hom the most is tell him how worried you are and you dont want to be left alone. remind him the things he will leave behind and how disgusting you find it.
so he'll have a tough couple of weeks, big deal its not painful and as your husband you deserve it.
#20
Champix worked very well for me although apparently I was a little grumpy for a few weeks, I quit 4 years ago and am so glad I did, speak to your GP, good luck! :)
#21
I locked mine in the cellar for a fortnight! That helped get it out his system! Obviously drastic measures but it worked! He's now half the fella he was but not faggin it anymore! oO
#22
If he wants to go down the ecig route like the other 1.3million of us get him over to planetofthevapes.co.uk

A great forum :-), helped me cut down dramatically and slowly gradually stopping
#23
Pretty simple, chop his hands off and superglue his lips.
#24
Taking up exercise helps, constant reminder that its ruining your life. When you get fitter it will make you feel better and less likely to go back to the habit
#25
To get the best advice on vaping go to Uk vapers forum and ask on there - unbiased and friendly.

Edited By: prol on Jun 29, 2014 21:54
#26
Nicotine patches worked for me - and they were free from the stop smoking clinic at my GP surgery. I can't believe I smoked for so many years. I think it's a big plus that smoking is banned in pubs though, definitely makes it easier to quit. Whilst I think that vaping is better than smoking, it's even better if you can kick nicotine completely.
#27
R3DD3R5
champix worked great for me


Have to agree. I smoked for 25 years which was about 30 a day and I went to the doctor who refers you to no smoking clinic. Once you have done the no smoking clinic its back to the doctors for the tablets.

They worked because I tried everything including hypnotherapy.
#28
Thanks everyone! I have tried telling him how he's gonna leave me and the kids etc we have done the ecig and possibly most things he tries to quit but doesn't last long at all!! B and I know I shouldn't but I am beginning to take it personally!!! Why won't he quit if he knows and understands how he is killing himself???!!!
#29
blobbythin
Thanks everyone! I have tried telling him how he's gonna leave me and the kids etc we have done the ecig and possibly most things he tries to quit but doesn't last long at all!! B and I know I shouldn't but I am beginning to take it personally!!! Why won't he quit if he knows and understands how he is killing himself???!!!

He has to want to quit and believe he can do it.

Get him to ask at the local pharmacy to see if they run any schemes. I quit last year after 20 years and haven't touched one since. Went to the pharmacy once a week to get CO2 measured and new patches/inhaler.

Ultimately if he doesn't want to, he won't.
#30
blobbythin
Thanks everyone! I have tried telling him how he's gonna leave me and the kids etc we have done the ecig and possibly most things he tries to quit but doesn't last long at all!! B and I know I shouldn't but I am beginning to take it personally!!! Why won't he quit if he knows and understands how he is killing himself???!!!

You may just have to accept that he won't give up. My OH was diagnosed with cancer about 18 months ago and was told that it was 100% caused by smoking and that he HAD to stop. He has now been through chemo and radiotherapy and is doing great...but hasn't stopped smoking. He attended an NHS smoking cessation clinic, had 1-to-1 support, tried patches, inhalators, lozenges, Champix, etc. Also tried e-cigs although they were not recommended by the NHS. We have had every argument under the sun about his smoking, and still it continues. He says he wished he had never started, but he says he just can't stop.
He (at one time) smoked 40 a day, and then cut down to 20-30. Now it's probably in the region of 20 a day and I can't see that changing. One day when he started the patches he only smoked 3, and says that he was miserable the entire day! The only thing we haven't tried is hypnosis and I honestly think there's no point because you really have to WANT to stop and I don't think he does because he says he actually enjoys it. He wouldn't alter his routine to stay away from smokers either, so I think that demonstates that he wasn't really committed.
Good luck, and I hope your husband is able to stop, but you may have to live with the fact that he won't.
#31
Dominatez
R3DD3R5
champix worked great for me

Have to agree. I smoked for 25 years which was about 30 a day and I went to the doctor who refers you to no smoking clinic. Once you have done the no smoking clinic its back to the doctors for the tablets.

They worked because I tried everything including hypnotherapy.

My OH tried Champix and they had absolutely no effect whatsoever... :(
#32
transit
Pretty simple, chop his hands off and superglue his lips.

Excellent idea....they should put you in charge of the stop smoking services! :p
#33
Nk74
I locked mine in the cellar for a fortnight! That helped get it out his system! Obviously drastic measures but it worked! He's now half the fella he was but not faggin it anymore! oO
:D
#34
Maybe once he has a heart attack like myself, he'll give it second thoughts if he survives it. I find the vapouriser the best. Good luck.
#35
leave him..... smoking's for dweebs
#36
I had hypnotherapy to stop me and it worked for a few days. After that I carried on smoking for months with something now eating away at me every time I lit one up. The hypnotist had put the suggestion in my mind that every time I smoked I would be that bit closer to catching a fatal disease. I wanted to stop but only after a few months of that feeling getting worse. When I stopped, so did the feeling. The champix is what helped me quit. It kills the desire in your brain for a smoke. You know. The one that always says "Smoke Time" and keeps on nagging you till you have one. That desire is taken away. Never thought I'd ever quit but I did and when I look back at it, I think it's disgusting and you can pick a person out of a lineup blindfolded who has had a smoke and you ex smokers will know what I mean and how much a smoker stinks. I mean, how we used to smell. No idea how my wife and girlfriends etc before I got married put up with that.
#37
blobbythin
we have done the ecig...

Not all e-cigs are the same! If he only tried one of those imitation cigarette looking ones then get him to try a proper personal vaporiser (the ones that look a bit like Dr Who's sonic screwdriver.) There are loads of different types and to a certain degree you get what you pay for so go and check out one of the vaping forums mentioned in previous replies, for some recommendations. I decided to buy the 'pro starter kit' from here and I don't regret it one bit - felt a bit expensive at £40 but it had paid for itself after just 5 days... and I've now not bought a pack of cigs for about 3 months. There are a million and one flavours of 'juice' available too which makes for a nice hobby trying them out!
#38
I used an e cig then a proper vapouriser nearly 2 years ago. I went from 20+ a day to the electric one with no problem. I was on them for 8 months then I stopped. I have to say it was very easy.
#39
alan carrs easy way to stop smoking. I know several people who've quit using it. I read it, quit for about a year, started again for a few months, read it again and I've been off them 3 years. I had a nicotine free ecig, when my friends were smoking I found myself eating / drinking more, so the ecig stopped that.
#40
ignore him,if he's not able to ask himself,he won't stop

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