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Quick question, when staying at friend's - should one offer to pay rent, etc? Just finished uni and staying over at a good friends' parents place (I'm trying to setup a small company at the moment)… Read More
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8m, 1d agoPosted 8 months, 1 day ago
Quick question, when staying at friend's - should one offer to pay rent, etc?

Just finished uni and staying over at a good friends' parents place (I'm trying to setup a small company at the moment). Have known the friend very well since before Uni / for about 5 years - and they're happy for me to stay. I'm just waiting for some credits to be approved so I could move forward (the small business is just about generates a livable income for someone just out of uni / but the loan would make it more workable).

The friend said that it's really okay for me to stay, as their family is very used to having people (mostly farm volunteers) staying throughout the year. I obviously try to help out / do house work / farm work / cook when possible; still, I'm very conscious that I'm staying over at someone else's place - and would be happy to pay a rent / cost, etc; the friend politely dismissed it when I offered it previously, knowing the same money will help me to grow the business quicker. Thinking of asking again. Would it be quite reasonable to offer the family a small monthly payment, for being there / or would that turn it too transaction?
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8m, 1d agoPosted 8 months, 1 day ago
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#1
tip: put the apostrophe after the s:p
banned#2
I tried my hardest to read that, but what you've written makes no sense.
#3
it would be reasonable to offer, yes
#4
adamspencer95
it would be reasonable to offer, yes
Okay - will try to figure out something appropriate to offer.

Edited By: Quicklite on Sep 19, 2016 16:38
#5
I would offer again, if they decline help out around the house like you said and when it's time to leave buy them a gift
#6
Your rent payment doesn't need to be financial, pickup some more chores, make dinner more often, pick them up after an evening out rather than them getting a taxi.

It's a very kind gesture and you should offer again but I'd fully expect them to decline a financial payment as you sound like family to them.
#7
You said you asked your friend. I would have the conversation with the parents instead. If its still no, you could get some shopping now and then, cook them a dinner, doesn't have to be fancy, bolognese or a roast, bring dessert home now and then. Just small things to let them know you appreciate what they are doing for you. If you are handy, do any odd jobs that may need doing.
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jco83
tip: put the apostrophe after the s:p


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jude7219
You said you asked your friend. I would have the conversation with the parents instead. If its still no, you could get some shopping now and then, cook them a dinner, doesn't have to be fancy, bolognese or a roast, bring dessert home now and then. Just small things to let them know you appreciate what they are doing for you. If you are handy, do any odd jobs that may need doing.
Definitely agree with this, I'm used to my children's friends staying over but usually only for a few nights at a time for which I happily cover the cost of their meals etc . However it does all add extra expenditure that your friend may not have considered, even the things like having someone else's phone and electrical items on charge, water if they are on a meter, meals etc. I would expect your friends parents would appreciate you asking them direct , and suggesting a figure so they don't feel uncomfortable. Also it depends on how long you might stay, an open ended visit is very different to having a friend stay over for a few nights.
#10
Of course you offer, surely you'd offer your parents if you was staying with them so why wouldn't you do the same with your friends.
I mean your using their electricity, heating, possibly internet and food so it's only right to offer some form of payment.
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tinkerbellian
jude7219
You said you asked your friend. I would have the conversation with the parents instead. If its still no, you could get some shopping now and then, cook them a dinner, doesn't have to be fancy, bolognese or a roast, bring dessert home now and then. Just small things to let them know you appreciate what they are doing for you. If you are handy, do any odd jobs that may need doing.
Definitely agree with this, I'm used to my children's friends staying over but usually only for a few nights at a time for which I happily cover the cost of their meals etc . However it does all add extra expenditure that your friend may not have considered, even the things like having someone else's phone and electrical items on charge, water if they are on a meter, meals etc. I would expect your friends parents would appreciate you asking them direct , and suggesting a figure so they don't feel uncomfortable. Also it depends on how long you might stay, an open ended visit is very different to having a friend stay over for a few nights.

Thank you guy - spot on - I'll go away and do the appropriate thing.
#12
I personally would offer, if they decline I would still put aside some money every month as though I was paying rent etc and then give them a lump sum at the end of my stay to use towards a holiday/maintenance or whatever they like.

Edited By: msjames on Sep 19, 2016 22:51

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