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9y, 2m agoPosted 9 years, 2 months ago
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#1
Sad thing is Suze - some people just will not get involved. Pretty digraceful as it sounded quite bad!
#2
Well done for stopping though, makes me still believe people are kind, like you and your husband have demonstrated.
#3
Its a common psychological effect, some people just don't want to get involved, there have been cases of women being raped in public, in day light, with people passed on by.

In the OPs case I would have stopped, mainly because I have been trained in first aid, which I think they should teach in schools. Once when catching a train the girl in front of me passed out, and people strided over her to get to the train, It didnt take much effort to check her airway, put her in the recovery position and call an ambulance.
[helper]#4
I used to commute into London on a motorbike. One day I hit a patch of ice at about 25mph and although I was okay the weight of the bike had me pinned to the ground and I couldn't get up. So what did the drivers behind me do? waited for a gap in the oncoming traffic so they could drive round me......
#5
I had an accident some years ago and rolled my car. Me and my girlfriend dragged ourselves up the embankment we had rolled down and attempted to wave someone down to help us. I had blood running down my face and we looked quite bad but it took 25 cars before someone did. Some people are just to busy or just dont care anymore. its quite sad really
banned#6
Sounds like there are a lot of wa*kers out there. I had a bike accident once, where I ploughed into the back of a car (my fault I was temporarily distracted), however I flew over the rear of this car and landed in the road next to the drivers door. The driver stepped out of the car stepped over me lying in the middle of the road, and walked to the back of his car to see the damage I had caused.
#7
suze
Last night whilst Hubby and I where driving home from the weekly shop, ahead of us was a car flashing.

Turned out to be an accident had just happened. A young girl was wandering in the road whilst there was an older lady in a car across the road and another empty car in the ditch.

We stopped to help and the young girl (who was from the empty car) came into our car whilst my Hubby rang for ambulance, police etc. The young girl was ok thankfully, shaken up but ok. The older lady was upset and shocked.

It happened due to a sudden and very hard rain downfall. But, what shocked me was the car that had originally flashed us to warn of an accident ahead had carried on!!!

How could you pass by a scene like that? Hence the title of this thread.


It doesn't sound like anyone was seriously hurt which is good. It is difficult to judge the other person without knowing their circumstances - I suspect many people would think twice about stopping if they had no first aid knowledge, were on their own, and it appeared no one was hurt. Would you have so readily stopped if you were on your own? Although I think the least you should do is stop and ask if they need any help, and contact the emergency services if they are not able to do so. It would play on my mind if I just drove on without checking all was in hand.

Well done for stopping and helping out though - my wife is a doctor and we have ended up stopping at several accidents over the years and it is amazing how many people want to know what is going on but don't want to get involved.
#8
maybe some people dont want to get invloved for other reasons maybe the other driver was a man alone and didnt feel comfortable stopping for a young girl and an elderly lady alone stranger things have happened.

i remember when my dad went to the shop once and a lady was busy talking to her friend she has a pushchair and a toddler the toddler was about to push the pram into the path of an oncoming car, my dad realising what was going to happen stepped in and grabbed the pushchair seconds before being pushed into the path of a car,
the mother turned round and started screaming at my dad saying pervert, peadophile someones stealing my baby etc a crowd of people gathered until an elderly lady came running up and explained what she had seen was my dad saving the baby whilst they all argued my dad just walked off.

my dad swears to this day he would always think twice if he found himself in a simaler situation

sadly really next time he might not react quick enough
#9
its not sad or any other

its not compulsory to stop because someone had an accident, if u did stop for every accident you saw u would be busier than the ambulance or police lol

sorry if that sounds harsh

i would only stop if i was the first person at the scene of the accident or id just drive on
[helper]#10
UltimoScorpion
Sounds like there are a lot of wa*kers out there. I had a bike accident once, where I ploughed into the back of a car (my fault I was temporarily distracted), however I flew over the rear of this car and landed in the road next to the drivers door. The driver stepped out of the car stepped over me lying in the middle of the road, and walked to the back of his car to see the damage I had caused.


Now that is bad. Gives you a warm feeling for your fellow man when than kinda thing happens...
#11
Sorry, I know its a bit late, only just read the thread. Muffin, you cant possibly have such little regard for others that you wouldnt at least just stop and roll down your window to ask if they were ok???!!!

My partner and I have an old vauxhall nova, which does the job I jguess but its petrol guage is really broken so we never know how much fuel we have left. The OH just guesses pretty much and usually gets it just right so we never run out, but the couple of times we did run out, the only people that stopped to help us were young people. Around late teens to 20s. You know the kind of people that old folks reckon are nuisances. Old people would see us pulled over in an awkward place in the dark and rain with our flashers on and just drive by, as if by the grace of god.

I totally agree with you Suze. I cant believe people just drive by without checking things are ok. Its just concern and community spirit if nothing else. I'd always stop. I'd want people to show me the same consideration.
#12
la_chique
Sorry, I know its a bit late, only just read the thread. Muffin, you cant possibly have such little regard for others that you wouldnt at least just stop and roll down your window to ask if they were ok???!!!

I wouldn't stop - because
A) It could be a horrible scam where you get a gun/knife held to your throat whilst someone steals your car

B) You may be accused of beinga pervert for just being NEAR someone else's child

C) Any number of other reasons including
"I don't want to have someone hit my car on this dangerous road ",
"I'm in a rush and don't want to wait for the police to turn up",
"I don't want nightmares for the rest of my life when I find someone's corpse smashed all over the front of the car",
"I have children of my own in my vehicle and don't want to put then at unnecessary risk"
"I'm a single girl out alone at night"etc etc.

Come and live in London for a while. It makes you very cynical very fast.
#13
I agree with Wireframes A).

But i'd still stop and ask if they need help. [Well wind my window down first.]
#14
Signs of the times I'm afraid.
15 -20 years ago I would have stopped in pretty much any situation includiing picking up hitch-hikers, people with petrol cans walking by the road, those guys with the trade plates etc.
Now I would only stop if I actually saw the accident happen, otherwise I was use the mobile or if it didn't appear serious drive by.

A whole section of society has been alienated from helping youngsters/children and that is any man over the age of about 25 years. When I was a boy I used to do a lot of cycling, often travelling between my parents house and my Gran some 35 miles. On various occasions I had to get help through one thing or another and this help was always forthcoming, always from complete strangers.
I can't remember how many times in the past I stopped to help kids that were crying, lost, being picked on or even in a shop and didn't have enough money to pay for their sweets.

Today I wouldn't dream of even going near a child unless it were the most serious of situations and even then I would try to make sure someone else was there.

Most of this has been caused by the media and in my view they have been responsible for the decline of society in this country.

Shame !
#15
suze
All that is so so very sad wireframe


If you care to explain why, i'll consider your comment.
If not, I'll assume you don't live in the real world.
The mean streets of Chester bear no relevace to London. I also assume you're a girl, "Suze", and have little insight into the perspective of a 25+ year old white male.
#16
yes it is a shame what the world is coming to. the current letigious society doesnt help matters either as anyone getting involved in accidents are also fearful of the possibilities of getting sued if something occurs. i am a trained first aider also and the procedure nowadays for various things is made all the more difficult as you have to make sure you cover your own back before helping the victim/injured party. its no longer a case of just get straight in there and helping.
i think thats also one of the reasons why people just dont want to get involved.
#17
homerian
i am a trained first aider also and the procedure nowadays for various things is made all the more difficult as you have to make sure you cover your own back before helping the victim/injured party. its no longer a case of just get straight in there and helping.


Yeah my girlfriend done a first aid course about a year ago and she was telling me that before you give someone CPR you have to take their glasses off, incase you break them.

This is because someone who had their life saved by a stranger giving them CPR, then sued said stranger for breaking their glasses in the process!
#18
No offence taken. But different places require different rules. One would hope someone friendly would stop and help your daughter. And yes, each situation would warrant its own assessment. If I witnessed the accident there and then I would probably stop and help, call the police, ambulance, whatever.
But I'd lock my car as I got out to help. :)
banned#19
I smashed my knee open when my chain broke on my bike (some of you may have seen the lovely picture), a woman stopped saw my knee, screamed and drove off. Then a bloke stopped and put my very bloody knee in his nice sports car and took me to the hospital. You could actually see the fatty layer then the flesh...was interesting.
banned#20
suze
What a lovely picture you paint Lumoruk!

I trust your knee is better?

Going by previous posts in this thread you were lucky the woman who drove off screaming didn't sue you for traumatising her! :whistling:


It was 7+ yrs ago now, completely healed thanks

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