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A bit of personal advice please

jennybubbles Avatar
9y, 8m agoPosted 9 years, 8 months ago
Apologies in advance for this type of post I know that some people don't agree with them but I'm in a bit of a swither.
I had a really good friend I mean one who knew everything about me kinda friends for life deals or so I thought
Just over 3 years ago she borrowed money from me didn't pay it back (said the bank messed up but she never sorted it or gave me any information about it so I could) she stopped all contact never asked how my mums chemo was going and never even text me when Ankle muncher was born (that hurt alot!). I found out through her partner (we didn't really get on that well but each made the effort for my friend) that they had split and even so her ex-partner made the effort to cntact us when my son was born.

NOw anyway I was gutted she was one of the best friends that I ever had. It took a long time for me to get over how much she hurt me and move on. Yesterday I got an email from her checking if I still use the same email addy. I don't know what to do. I don't think I can go through all this again but part of me would love to have her back in my life again.
Should I reply or ignore the email?
Over to you and thanks for gettingthis far
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9y, 8m agoPosted 9 years, 8 months ago
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[admin]#1
I'd say reply to it and see what she says. See if she offers any explanation for her behaviour or if she apologises. She's obviously really hurt you and if you do end up talking again, just see if she realises what she's done.

Sometimes these things happen and the longer it goes on, the harder it is to make contact. Part of you would love to have her back so just give her one more chance. You might never be as close as you once were as she's broken that trust that you once shared, all you can do is see how it goes...

If she shows no remorse for what she's done though, in my opinion she isn't a friend worth having.

Good luck sweet-pea, you don't need anyone else to tell you what you should do, somewhere inside you the decision will have been made the second you opened the email :thumbsup:
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juliet_bravo
Good luck sweet-pea, you don't need anyone else to tell you what you should do, somewhere inside you the decision will have been made the second you opened the email :thumbsup:


Yes, agree with this you will have made up your mind really as you read your e-mail.

I personally find it very difficult to forgive and forget, I do turn a blind eye and make up excuses for peoples behaviour and find myself getting trampled on sometimes but, there is a point I reach where enough is enough and I generally never go back from that.

Really you have to do what is right for you and either keep things as they are at present or meet up and attempt to put things behing you and completely forget about the past.

Hope mulling things over with us here helps in some small way. :)
#3
I think JB's advice is spot on. Give it a go and reply you have nothing to lose. Maybe in her eyes she is making the first move to get your friendship back on track.
#4
i think you should give it ago, she made the first move, if she apologises i would accept it, ive been hurt by really good friends, one we had a big falling out just after we left school, we were friends from pirmary school to high school, about 6 years after we had left i had a email from her and we now talking again.
#5
id reply and go from there

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