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A Confession: I have a fear of driving on MOTORWAYS! :(

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5y, 11m agoPosted 5 years, 11 months ago
Anyone else have a fear of driving on motorways like me?
I really want to overcome my fear of driving on motorways because im a big girls blouse when it comes to driving at high speeds. The meer thought of having to drive on motorways makes me sick with fear!

I am really peeved off at myself because of this and I hang my head in shame:(
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5y, 11m agoPosted 5 years, 11 months ago
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#1
You're not the only one! :(
5 Likes #2
I would rather drive on a motorway than through a city. Nice big wide lanes, generally straight.

I have a reasonable 'fear' of city driving though, especially somewhere I've never been
#3
ive never been on a motorway since i passed my test 2years ago, im to scared but ive got my partner who drives us to places on the motorway, i only stay local and i even go the long way round to a place rather than jump on the motorway at the side of our house.
[mod] 2 Likes #4
It's safer on a motorway than on urban roads. Nothing to be ashamed about though.....at least you admit it rather than put yourself and others at risk and put yourself in a situation you can't deal with.

Is their any family/friends that will accompany you/help you on the motorway to allow you to build your confidence?
#5
sancho1983
I would rather drive on a motorway than through a city. Nice big wide lanes, generally straight. I have a reasonable 'fear' of city driving though, especially somewhere I've never been
totally agree with you 100%.
#6
my driving instructor did motorway lessons but i never bothered, if you do want to try why dont you ring a local driving school up and see if they offer the same thing.
#7
Syzable
It's safer on a motorway than on urban roads. Nothing to be ashamed about though.....at least you admit it rather than put yourself and others at risk and put yourself in a situation you can't deal with.Is their any family/friends that will accompany you/help you on the motorway to allow you to build your confidence?

I've told my brother to help me with my driving on motorways, but he has no time :( I guess im gonna have to take some refresher motorway driving lessons or something... oO
2 Likes #8
why not try on a sunday (generally a bit quieter) get on at one junction and come off the next, just to get a feel of the speed. What initially scared me was joining the motorway thinking i would'nt be able to get on due to the speed of the cars but people move over. Cant stand middle lane hoggers tho.
#9
I hate getting onto the motorway itself and worry that either no one will let me in or as you can't always see what carriage people are in like when it's dark and I'll go into someone who is in the slow lane when I enter the motorway. Once I'm on the motorway it's fine.
#10
What is it about them that you fear so much, the speed, trucks, lane changing?????
#11
It's getting on the motorway in the first place that I hate, once I'm on it I'm fine.
#12
greg_68
What is it about them that you fear so much, the speed, trucks, lane changing?????

The speed, changing lanes, and joining on and off motorways :|
#13
i was a bit nervous at first but totally fine

they are better than normal roads everyone moving in the same directions, wide lanes, driving continuously in a straight line without having to keep altering your speed. miles easier

a sat nav is a good idea as it makes your feel more confident as you can focus on the driving and the sat nav can focus on the directions and sorting you out if you get lost taking a wrong turn
3 Likes #14
One of the worst things I see is people trying to join a motorway doing 40-50mph, you need to going a comparable speed to the moving vehicles already on the motorway. Some of them are downright dangerous, saying that trying to join when going too fast can be just as bad. Judge and match the speed and it's fairly easy and stress free IMO.
#15
dtaylor21184
i was a bit nervous at first but totally finethey are better than normal roads everyone moving in the same directions, wide lanes, driving continuously in a straight line without having to keep altering your speed. miles easier a sat nav is a good idea as it makes your feel more confident as you can focus on the driving and the sat nav can focus on the directions and sorting you out if you get lost taking a wrong turn
I always use my sat nav on the motorway and i do feel more confident. It moo's at me when im speeding as well :D

Edited By: aunty jane on Feb 10, 2011 19:42
[mod][Moderator]#16
I haven't driven since I had my daughter 16 mths ago, I've lost my nerve, I don't know why, I've been driving for 24 yrs, but the thought of it now is very scary!
#17
sancho1983
I would rather drive on a motorway than through a city. Nice big wide lanes, generally straight.

I have a reasonable 'fear' of city driving though, especially somewhere I've never been


Same here :)
#18
wishihadadonkey
I haven't driven since I had my daughter 16 mths ago, I've lost my nerve, I don't know why, I've been driving for 24 yrs, but the thought of it now is very scary!
I had a break of 16yrs took a refresher course and im driving better today than i ever did before (did only have my license for 6mths back then really didnt enjoy driving at all) cant get enough now. :)
#19
Like others have said, could you not go on a course with an instructor? Other than that how else could you conquer your fear?
#20
I'm terrified of driving full stop. Did loads of lessons about 6 yrs ago and then lost my nerve. Starting lessons again on monday but automatic this time, need to pass quickly as will have to commute for my new job.

I will be avoiding motorways when/if I pass, the thought fills me with terror, I hate being on motorways as a passenger and have to stick my head in a book to stop me from 'breaking' and saying watch that - basically driving my OH potty!! lol
#21
The amount of 'drivers' who are scared of driving on just another road is ridiculous. Note this is not (just) personal, it may be a problem within the driving test.

Who here has the same problem with tunnels?
#22
OP - have you actually driven on a motorway yourself or it is the thought that sends your heart racing. I get really anxious at the thought of a busy journey or being a passenger, but once i'm driving, it's not so bad. Don't know how good your relationship is between you and your bro', but if motorway driving holds a dread for you now, having someone shout at or belittle you, could only make matters worse? You need someone who is really chilled, sympathetic and experienced. Good luck and well done for 'coming out' you are in good company :)

Edited By: jelli89 on Feb 10, 2011 20:47
#23
I always prefer to drive at night than by day. For some reason, seeing very little cars on the road just makes me feel a lot calmer
#24
You should try driving on a motorway with a (sober) friend during a quiet time, maybe really late on a clear night. Some motorway sections are well lit which makes it easier. As one of the other posters said, joining a motorway at low speed is a big no-no! Otherwise there's not too much too it and it can be less stressful than town driving with no pedestrians, parked cars and traffic lights to worry about. A good sat nav is an excellent idea as you can plan ahead when you need to be in the left lane for exiting. I do the same journey on the M4 regularly but use mine just for that.

Good luck.
#25
I had a crash on the motorway just over a year after passing my test when I was 18. Had a fear of driving on them for a long time afterwards, but needed to to get where I was going, then I got a brand new car and it just felt good again. Dont mind it so much now, but still watch my speed and drive very carefully.

My mother in law spent £100's on driving lessons and tests and doesn't drive anywhere.

The sooner we can fly everywhere the better.
banned#26
Match the speed of the traffic before entering the motorway 60-70mph, look over your shoulder but check in front to make sure a car in front hasn't stopped.

YOU DO NOT have a right of way onto a motorway....as some car drivers seem to think. You give way to cars already on the motorway, don't expect them to change lane for you.

Do not use the hard shoulder as an extra slip road, you'll only get a puncture.

Always use the 2 second rule, if someone is up your back side slow down even more.


Edited By: lumoruk on Feb 10, 2011 21:07
#27
Know someone who suffers from this,it began as a motorway fear then progressed to carriageways and since then got steadly worse so that now they rarely drive atall,apparently it's first kicks off when you're driving under stress

http://www.driving-phobia.co.uk/road-anxiety-symptoms.htm

Edited By: grabbit on Feb 10, 2011 21:11
#28
Don't driving schools offer those Pass Plus lessons anymore? They did when I passed about 7/8 yrs ago.. I think P.P covered the motorways etc??

I did struggle at one time after someone I knew had an accident, it just sowed that 'what if' seed.. I got over it, then a year later had a panic attack on the M1 and had to pull into the hard shoulder.. I thought I was having a heart attack!

I think the worst thing is to give into fear, the longer you leave it the worse it'll be and you'll just build it up in your mind.
If you can, try midweek during mid morning or something.. Forget weekends or late afternoons to begin with, too much traffic and speeding.
Its not half as bad as you think, really its not. Go for the sat nav idea (make sure its a big enough screen etc, or else you'll be staring at that and not the road!).. The changing lanes is nothing,neither is the speed really.. I tend to just chug along in the left lane at 65 (saving my diesel!), I let everyone else speed and do what they like in the fast lane :)
#29
only reason i fear of them as the scooter only goes 50 lol
go out for a few hours with a learner school on the motorway and if u feel unsafe they can just take over
suspended 1 Like #30
Nothing to be ashamed about. Some people are scared of little spiders who can obviously do no damage at all, where as a car obviously can.

I'm scared of flying, never been abroad but I will soon and may have to have a few whiskeys pre flight, unfortunately you don't have that option, lol
#31
when did you pass your test OP? the thing ive noticed a lot these days is newly qualified drivers tend to stop at a junction or roundabout and wait until it is totally clear before pulling out,
the test/instructors these days dont seem to teach new drivers how to understand flowing traffic and then this leads to problems once they pass.
OP ring around your local instructors and see if you can get lessons on driving on motorways, or as someone else said try it with another qualified driving during a quiet time. I found id rather have it busy then quiet, more things to concentrate on
#32
come and liver over here..we don't have any X)
#33
Thanks for the comments guys :D
#34
Sometimes fear is completely irrational.

I personally don't have a fear of motorway driving, if anything it's my favourite kind of driving..

I'm absolutely terrified of flying though - which is a bit of a **** - since my job requires some international travel!

I once got on a plane for a business trip, first time i'd stepped onto a prop... I quickly got off the plane, then home... Imagine having to explain that one to the boss.. Thankfully, he was very understanding.

It's weird - as i've never had a fear of it.. Been all over the world... Up until that trip... Apparently when you get older it's quite common to develop it, especially after you have a family.. Or so i've read.

I've since figured out a fantastic way of being ok with flying - diazepam 8)

Wouldn't reccomend it for driving though, hehe. Last trip was to Switzerland, was fine.. Flight back was a bit of a nightmare, bumpy as hell due to 80mph winds at Birmingham Airport.


Edited By: spritey on Feb 10, 2011 22:03
banned#35
Aren't there any motorways near you where there are 2 junctions close together? That way you can join, drive for a mile or so in the inside lane then come off at the next junction. The whole thing will only take a minute each way.

As others have said, join at a reasonable speed. The slip roads are long enough to get up 60 easily in even the lowest powered of cars and when the slip actually joins the motorway there's enough time and space to adjust your speed so your matching the speed of the traffic already on the motorway.

You might feel the urge to take it nice and slow, but don't let your speed drop below 60 as you're bound to end up with someone right up your ass. If you do overtake someone, remember to return to the left. BTW, there's no need to indicate when completing an overtaking manouvre.

As a truck driver, there's nothing more annoying than taking miles to get up to 56mph, especially after a steep climb, just to find you have to try and filter in to the fast lane because someone is pootling along at 55.

Quietest times are probably around 10 in the morning (after the rush hour and before the shoppers head out) or after 7 at night.

Also agree with vinylandtrinkets about people stopping at junctions when there is no need and as for mini roundabout, it seems most people don't know they just give way to the right like on normal roundabout. And don't get me started on fog lights!!!


Edited By: dunfyboy on Feb 10, 2011 22:11
banned#36
Note to mods; Why is "ass" acceptable but "a r s e" isn't?
banned#37
dunfyboy
Note to mods; Why is "ass" acceptable but "a r s e" isn't?


Ass is a donkey. Do you have something against donkies?
banned#38
No, just americanisms :p
banned#39
dunfyboy
Note to mods; Why is "ass" acceptable but "a r s e" isn't?


on the Battlefield play for free forum ass is turned into backside, but it lets "a r s e" through lol
suspended#40
dunfyboy
No, just americanisms :p


I'm feeling your pain man :)

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