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8y, 2m agoPosted 8 years, 2 months ago
yesterday morning i took my daughter to school as i droped her by the door the teacher greeted her with good morning but my daughter didnt reply,so she decided to go up to my daughter and started saying a reply would be nice,and the approach was just bad i didnt mind her saying it but it felt like she wanted a reply no matter what.
so i told the teacher my daughter is very shy and that she was not well this morning,she just jumped at me and started saying stuff like i dont teach her enough and that a reply would be nice and am this point thinking i dont need to deal with all of this and i just couldnt beleive what was happening
i explained to the teacher my daughter had not been well as she has been constipating which makes her very upset and trying to make a conversation or getting an answer are very slim.
i thought the teacher would have known this and acted in a profesnol manner.
That morning i tried making so much conversation with my daughter before she went to school as she was feeling realy down i wanted to see a smile on her face before she went to school and this teacher just makes the matter worse.
on top of this the teacher making coment like my daughter is imply.(whatever she meant by that)
all this had happned so i decided to call my daughters teacher an hour later asked if i could talk to her after school which she agreed to.
me and my daughters mother went to see the teacher and was explaining to her what had happned that morning and you wont beleive it this teacher walks in the class (the 1 i had issue in the morning with)and starts to say to me are you talking about me?, i didnt answer as i felt i didnt have to answer her,
but all i did say to her was that i would appreciate it if i can talk to my daughters teacher for 5 mins and shes there telling me well i need to speak to the teacher about tommorows lesson,am now thinking how rude is this teacher am there talking to my daughters teacher and shes telling me she has to talk to her,well my daughters teacher told the teacher we will talk tomorow about the work and she just walked away.
I mean how rude is this teacher i found her comments and attitude very rude if she can behave with me like this i wonder how she is acting with the kids in school.

my daughter didnt go to school this morning as she was upset about yesterdayand top of this not being well, i have never had any problems with the school teachers,all the previous yeacher has always commented good praisel towards my daughter.

i my wife called the school up and told them she is upset and that shes not well and wont be comming to school,
no teacher has called me nor has the head teacher

what are my rights what should i do? i havent spoken to the head teaher as yet but my daughters teacher has mentioned she will talk to the head

any help advice tellephone numbers would be appreciated

i spoke to the head she had said sorry but it dosent make anything good,she states the teacher didnt mean anything by it. and that the teacher was upset about how i had dealt with the situation.

so i said how do u explain when am talking to the teacher and she just walks in and buts in,how rude is that?? and she stated she wasnt aware of it and that she would have to speak to my daughters teacher regarding that matter.

she has agreed to meet me on monday while she investigates the matter further.
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8y, 2m agoPosted 8 years, 2 months ago
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#1
How old is ur daughter?
#2
i'm sorry you kind of lost me somewhere in the middle. however, i think you should indeed talk to the head teacher if you are concerned. i take it your girl is going to primary school?
#3
my daughter is 5 yrs old
#4
if you dont get a satisfactory result from speaking to the head teacher then contact Ofsted
#5
5 years old !! thats completely wrong of the teacher.
#6
Sounds like a tough one, I cant speak from personal experience but my partner, her sister and mother are all teachers. From what i know there are some very different teachers out there and the people who know most of all who are good teachers and who are rotten teachers are....... other teachers!

I think the point im trying to say is that teachers have a tough job, even more now-a-days, but if there is a proper complaint about a teacher, the best person to speak to is infact, another teacher. If you have any friends or a friend of a friend who is a teacher, ask their opinion on the situation and also ask if they know the teacher in question or the school head teacher. Its a small world and any feedback could be helpfull in making a decision what to do next.

There is also a website called [url]www.ratemyteacher.co.uk[/url] , chances are that the teacher you encountered might not be on it but its a long shot anyway.

There is also the chance that this is an inexperienced teacher or possibly a student teacher on placement / probation which could change the situation.

Or she might just be a sarcastic cow!

Hope this helps, Please update how you get on!

Kevin.
#7
I would talk to the head teacher first, hopefully they will be more responsable/reasonable.

You can find out (sometimes) if other students/parents have had problems with the same teacher on this site : uk.ratemyteachers.com

Good luck :)
#8
I got lost around here

me and my daughters mother went to see the teacher and was explaining to her what had happned that morning and you wont beleive it this teacher walks in the class and starts to say to me are you talking about me, i stayed calm and didnt answer as i felt i didnt have to answer her,


Are you the father ???????
#9
ifyoudontask?
Sounds like a tough one, I cant speak from personal experience but my partner, her sister and mother are all teachers. From what i know there are some very different teachers out there and the people who know most of all who are good teachers and who are rotten teachers are....... other teachers!

I think the point im trying to say is that teachers have a tough job, even more now-a-days, but if there is a proper complaint about a teacher, the best person to speak to is infact, another teacher. If you have any friends or a friend of a friend who is a teacher, ask their opinion on the situation and also ask if they know the teacher in question or the school head teacher. Its a small world and any feedback could be helpfull in making a decision what to do next.

There is also a website called [url]www.ratemyteacher.co.uk[/url] , chances are that the teacher you encountered might not be on it but its a long shot anyway.

There is also the chance that this is an inexperienced teacher or possibly a student teacher on placement / probation which could change the situation.

Or she might just be a sarcastic cow!

Hope this helps, Please update how you get on!

Kevin.


Lol u beet me too it :w00t:
#10
I think you need to speak to the head as soon as possible to get this sorted out
#11
Some of the stories i have heard about other teachers is totally shocking! Its amazing how some have managed to become qualified!

But i must say i have also met some fantastic teachers who go far beyond what is required!
#12
"on top of this the teacher making coment like my daughter is imply.(whatever she meant by that)"

Could that be impolite??:thinking:

I couldn't understand what happened when you and your wife went to meet the teacher? Did you happen to discuss about the morning's incident?
#13
You don't ned this and nor does your daughter. I have 3 family members who are teachers and they would never scare kids from being in their classes or try and belitle them in front of the parents. Thats bad. I hope the matter gets resolved very quickly. Go to the Head before the teacher does, because I bet the stories will be totally different. Good luck with it all and hope your daughter gets better soon :-) xx
#14
I'd go up the school now hun!! Speak to the head
#15
[QUOTE=

I couldn't understand what happened when you and your wife went to meet the teacher? Did you happen to discuss about the morning's incident?[/QUOTE]

Think it was a different teacher who greeted the girl at the door, not the girls normal teacher!

I think?
#16
I used to be a Nursery Nurse and worked in a school for 2 years and i never encountered anything like this! If i had i would of reported it straight away!

How awful for your little girl, teachers are meant to be role models for our children and i certainly would not want my child looking up to this teacher!

I would certainly complain to the head teacher and also inform your LEA, hope you get some answers :thumbsup:
#17
Call the head today before taking it any further and explain the whole situation to them then take it from there and hope it goes well for you.
Let us know how you get on
#18
ifyoudontask?
Think it was a different teacher who greeted the girl at the door, not the girls normal teacher!

I think?


I think thats it thats what i understood after reading it a few times
#19
ifyoudontask?;2952473
Think it was a different teacher who greeted the girl at the door, not the girls normal teacher!

I think?

I read it again, I think you are right. :thumbsup:
#20
[QUOTE=ifyoudontask?]Think it was a different teacher who greeted the girl at the door, not the girls normal teacher!

I think?[/QU

we went to discuss to my daughers teacher after school regarding what had happned that morning
#21
I would go to the head teacher as soon as possible and hope that she/or he takes the matter on board.

But talking of head teachers,
I once worked as a caretaker for a school, and one of the normal teachers
did not turn up for work one day.
So in a bit of a panic they called in a relief teacher.
When I was cleaning the rooms a little later on
the relief teacher started talking to me,
and she said she couldn't beleive it,
that the head teacher had rung for a relief teacher to stand in for a couple of days,
and she didn't care what the relief teacher did, even if she showed the kids
videos all day, it doesn't matter.
Anyway the full time teacher never went back to work.

I guess I was just a little shocked at the head teachers attitude.

But best of luck to you. :)
#22
Marina
I read it again, I think you are right. :thumbsup:


the teacher who greeted my daughter and deemanding a reply was diffrent to the teacher i spoke to after school
#23
"i decided to call my daughters teacher up an hour later asked if i could talk to her after school which she agreed to."
That looks like an appointment to me. How come she was not there to meet you? Sure take it to the head teacher quick. :thumbsup:

EDIT: Which school is this, if you don't mind?
#24
charver
I would go to the head teacher as soon as possible and hope that she takes the matter on board.

But talking of head teachers,
I once worked as a caretaker for a school, and one of the normal teachers
did not turn up for work one day.
So in a bit of a panic they called in a relief teacher.
When I was cleaning the rooms a little later on
the relief teacher started talking to me,
and she said she couldn't beleive it,
that the head teacher had rung for a relief teacher to stand in for a couple of days,
and she didn't care what the relief teacher did, even if she showed the kids
videos all day, it doesn't matter.
Anyway the full time teacher never went back to work.

I guess I was just a little shocked at the head teachers attitude.

But best of luck to you. :)


Talking of bad teachers..............


I knew of a teacher that was Sh@**ing a probation Teacher in the disabled toilet a couple of times a week, They were found out when the probation teacher left and her temp email address was being deleted or something. She had all the email chats with the other teacher on it, times, days, feedback!!!!! The only thing was it couldnt be proved!


How awful!
#25
It's like when I went to a meeting at our local high school
a couple of weeks ago, my daughter was just going into high school.

The head teacher made the statement,
" If any parent has any problems, make an appointment to see us,
do not just come up to the school without an appointment "

I understand why he says that, but it also makes you think,
it gives them time to get their stories right, if they need to
cover for each other. :whistling:
#26
Check this out and definitely threaten getting ofsted involved and watch them poop themselves, maybe print off this leaflet and wave it about making sure they see the ofsted logo when you go to speak to them. Teacher needs to sort it out or get out by the sounds of it. No way would I have stood for that.

"Date: 03 Jul 2008

Reference Number: 080113

Publisher: Ofsted

Summary

If you are concerned about your child's school, you should start by talking directly to the teachers or headteacher or, if necessary, the governing body or the local authority.

If you are not satisfied with the responses you have received Ofsted may be able to help.

There are a number of things we can do, and in exceptional cases we can arrange an immediate inspection of the school.

This leaflet explains when and how we can help."

http://www.ofsted.gov.uk/Ofsted-home/Forms-and-guidance/Browse-all-forms-and-guidance-by/Title-A-to-Z/Complaints-to-Ofsted-about-schools-guidance-for-parents
#27
If your a teacher, and you had a row with hubby/wife,
how do you know if they take that conflict with them to work,
and take it out on the kids ? :whistling:
#28
thanks for all your advice i have just called the school asking if i can speak to the head,after mentioning whom i was the reply i got was she was in a meeting so i asked them to let her know i have called and will call back later
#29
khalifazed
thanks for all your advice i have just called the school asking if i can speak to the head,after mentioning whom i was the reply i got was she was in a meeting so i asked them to let her know i have called and will call back later


Good luck!
#30
do you think the teacher has breached human rights when i was talking to my daughters teacher and she starts her issue with me? and interupted us??
#31
right from what I can make out the teacher said hello to your daughter and your daughter ignored her for whatever reason. Then it just gets lost so I'll stick to the first part.

Why shouldn't the teacher pull your daughter up for not saying hello it is manners to at least respond to someone if they say hello even if they aren't feeling up to a lengthy discussion. I'd have also thought that at 5 years old that it'd be even more important to instill some manners into a kid.

Time and time again we hear of unruly kids etc and yet when a teacher pulls a kid up for a lack of manners(wouldn't have hurt to say hello no matter if she was upset) everyone is going nuts complaining to the head wanting ofsted involved. Ridiculous.

If I've somehow got that wrong which going by the way it was written could be a distinct possibility then fair enough.
#32
I don't think the major problem is the initial hello, it's the overall attitude of that teacher that seems much too hostile.
#33
khalifazed
do you think the teacher has breached human rights when i was talking to my daughters teacher and she starts her issue with me? and interupted us??


Human Rights

C'mon man . I know this is sensitive but talking will work this out , nee point getting all worked up on here . Speak to them and explain how you felt , Human rights ........no

1 step away from saying they treat you like that cos your black /gay etc etc ...

you just need some mediation from a misunderstanding , she c ould have had an argument , split with her partner or owt , niot excusing it , but until you talk i wouldnt go carrying on about it cos your feelings will snowball and you will be totally out of context when you do speak to them
#34
SunTzu
I don't think the major problem is the initial hello, it's the overall attitude of that teacher that seems much too hostile.


Yeah i'm begining to realise that but even still come on talking about is it a breach of my human rights is just plain way over the top.
#35
ants97
right from what I can make out the teacher said hello to your daughter and your daughter ignored her for whatever reason. Then it just gets lost so I'll stick to the first part.

Why shouldn't the teacher pull your daughter up for not saying hello it is manners to at least respond to someone if they say hello even if they aren't feeling up to a lengthy discussion. I'd have also thought that at 5 years old that it'd be even more important to instill some manners into a kid.

Time and time again we hear of unruly kids etc and yet when a teacher pulls a kid up for a lack of manners(wouldn't have hurt to say hello no matter if she was upset) everyone is going nuts complaining to the head wanting ofsted involved. Ridiculous.

If I've somehow got that wrong which going by the way it was written could be a distinct possibility then fair enough.



see where you are coming from ......I pull my kids up when someone says hello and they get shy ....Its rude to somepeople and teachers are in a position to underpin these morals ....understand about her not feeling well , however think its getting a bit bigger when it could be resolved as easily ...
#36
SunTzu
I don't think the major problem is the initial hello, it's the overall attitude of that teacher that seems much too hostile.


It does , but the person is upset and we havent hearde anything from the teacher , they may have felt threatened and gave as good as they got ....
As for Human rights ........Way way way over the top in this situatuion , Your daughter has all year to go ....try and smooth all over for her sake
#37
alnbowes
see where you are coming from ......I pull my kids up when someone says hello and they get shy ....Its rude to somepeople and teachers are in a position to underpin these morals ....understand about her not feeling well , however think its getting a bit bigger when it could be resolved as easily ...


Yep and it doesn't exactly help with people on here flaming the situation talking about ofsted and pretty much egging the op on.
#38
teachers are wierd, thats why they only marry other teachers, they get a bit big for their own boots sometimes, just remind them that you are an adult and not a child, good luck hope you get it sorted :thumbsup:
#39
ants97
Yep and it doesn't exactly help with people on here flaming the situation talking about ofsted and pretty much egging the op on.


agreed .....the worst thing is we only get one perspective and then can change the outcome by the advice we pass one
#40
Sounds to me that the teacher was initially trying to be polite, could have reacted differently when they didn't receive a reply and that you may be looking to escalate this into someting it isn't.

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