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hi im just after some advice, i had my first baby on 1st september and shes gorgeous lol but now im feeling like ive been battered, my back is aching all time, and around my middle and top of my legs … Read More
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7y, 9m agoPosted 7 years, 9 months ago
hi im just after some advice, i had my first baby on 1st september and shes gorgeous lol but now im feeling like ive been battered, my back is aching all time, and around my middle and top of my legs are aching when i walk, also i didnt need any stitches or anything but its so sore down below when i go to the toilet, i know its going to take a bit to feel normal again but is there anything i can do to ease the pains and aches, ive been talking pain killers and had a nice hot bath but it doesnt seem to make it much better, im presuming this is normal after giving birth, thanks to anyone who can help or give me any tips.
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#1
pads kept in freezer!!!
Oh and congratulations!
#2
Thought that read 'advice noticed i've had a baby'

Aww poor you. Hope your feeling better soon.
#3
yea... a new babba.. congrats all round.. yes my advice is to lay off the sex for a few weeks hubby will have to wait.
#4
Congratlations hun, and I hope you feel a bit better soon. Try not to do too much ( I know its hard with a new born) and keep having those baths and keep taking some painkillers :)

It will get better soon !
#5
congrats, i didnt find anything that made it better, only time! but was only the first 5days or so that was bad. it does get better!
#6
aww ur baby is only 2-3 days old.... thats nothing... be prepared to feel sore for a while but it passes quickly. ur body has gone through a MASSIVE ordeal...i felt like i had been kicked by a horse and defo couldnt walk properly. also i had a weird pain in my butt for a month or 2! the joys of giving birth :)

best thing for u really is rest..... do what they say and grab some zzzzzz whilst the baby sleeps. take it easy and let ur partner/mum/friends do the chores...u look after u.... u need to recover :)
#7
Well you should think yourself lucky that you didnt require stitches with it being your first.

With my first I had to have 5 stitches, 4 little ones and 1 big one inside as they called it, about 3 days later I was soooo itchy that my midwife had to take them out.

Feeling achy is very normal, after all you've only just pushed the baby out, just try to get plenty of rest, anytime the baby is sleeping you also try to have a nap.

In a few days you'll start to feel better and you can get out with your pram, well thats if the rain ever stops.

Congrats on the new addition.
#8
magicbeans
aww ur baby is only 2-3 days old.... thats nothing... be prepared to feel sore for a while but it passes quickly. ur body has gone through a MASSIVE ordeal...i felt like i had been kicked by a horse and defo couldnt walk properly. also i had a weird pain in my butt for a month or 2! the joys of giving birth :)

best thing for u really is rest..... do what they say and grab some zzzzzz whilst the baby sleeps. take it easy and let ur partner/mum/friends do the chores...u look after u.... u need to recover :)


Speaking of pains in the butts, the first time you need to go for a number 2 is like giving birth again lol.
#9
Congratulations! :)

izzyboy5;6197125
congrats, i didnt find anything that made it better, only time! but was only the first 5days or so that was bad. it does get better!

:thumbsup: yeah that's true otherwise we would all stop at having one baby :whistling: :lol:
#10
How about trying some ibuprofen gel rubbed into your back etc? At Lloyds I think they do a 10% gel (everywhere else is 5%) And congratulations- I'm due on the 23rd!! Counting down the days!
And yes it's normal to be reeeeeeeally sore down there, I mean you've just stretched it loads and popped a baby out, it's bound to feel sore and bruised. Also, your back's probably getting used to not having the weight of the baby any more and going back to how it was, so all your muscles are moving back to where they were. It's not very nice, but it is normal. You could maybe ask your doctor for some anti-inflammotary tablets?
#11
Can we all be HUKD Uncles and Aunties please?
#12
When you go toilet for a pee lean forward a touch.I felt a touch sore for a couple days after mine.Might be a good idea to have a bottle of water to give a squirt down there.

Aching back I had 1 for being laid down to hospital bed practically all the labour 1st time round,also epidural probably caused it,so if you were like that,maybe thats why for back ache.

I think you will feel better in next few days,could def been worse if stitches,so your lucky really as so many women do have to have them through tears or cut.

You midwife should be still coming to visit before changeover to health visitor so might be worth mentioning if you still sore into next week.
#13
And remember your ribs etc are all still soft from being pregnant.

My midwife told me she reckoned it took about a year to get back to the way you were before being pregnant.
#14
Ahh yes I'd forgotten about your 1st number 2 ..owchie (I also had piles) I just used to take a mag with me and was patient Used to say Take that's song have a little patience was about me having a poo!
Isnt child birth lovely
#15
midjet666
How about trying some ibuprofen gel rubbed into your back etc? At Lloyds I think they do a 10% gel (everywhere else is 5%) And congratulations- I'm due on the 23rd!! Counting down the days!
And yes it's normal to be reeeeeeeally sore down there, I mean you've just stretched it loads and popped a baby out, it's bound to feel sore and bruised. Also, your back's probably getting used to not having the weight of the baby any more and going back to how it was, so all your muscles are moving back to where they were. It's not very nice, but it is normal. You could maybe ask your doctor for some anti-inflammotary tablets?


26th here,I wonder who will have 1st out of us 2?
#16
AshleyRFC
Speaking of pains in the butts, the first time you need to go for a number 2 is like giving birth again lol.


lolz i was lucky i didnt have any stitches either...just tears... and made sure i was fibre-d up so didnt feel too bad for me.... so my advice..loadsa water and fibre!
#17
Yaaaaah! new baby

Good luck..Crongratulations awell
#18
AshleyRFC
And remember your ribs etc are all still soft from being pregnant.

My midwife told me she reckoned it took about a year to get back to the way you were before being pregnant.


Yes likely,9mths on,9mths off.
#20
it's all normal feelings honey you've been battered inside and out by having baby

give yourself a good few weeks to recover, mention to the midwife when she comes to see you

you prolly wont start feeling back to normal again until a month or so after the birth xxx
#21
Lets face it tho, if someone sat you down before hand and told you all this, you would either not have any or just have 1, but we all promise it does go away, I've had 3 and others on here have had more, we wouldn't keep putting ourselves through it if it didnt get easier with time.
#22
My sisters midwife told her to have a wee just before she got out of the bath, cause she was really sore and stinging down below. She said it worked, I just laughed at her cause I'm a good sister like that :-D
#23
thanks for all the advice, ive not had a number 2 yet and i had a feeling it would hurt lol i definatly wont be letting my fella near me for ages and ages lol my beds quite low so its a pain gettin up in the night with my back and legs aching so much. i still cant believe she came out of me its so weird to think 3days ago she was still in my tummy.
#24
pink-ka
thanks for all the advice, ive not had a number 2 yet and i had a feeling it would hurt lol i definatly wont be letting my fella near me for ages and ages lol my beds quite low so its a pain gettin up in the night with my back and legs aching so much. i still cant believe she came out of me its so weird to think 3days ago she was still in my tummy.


You will def feel better soon.
I waited 4 wks last time and 8wks 1st time round till bedtime stuff.
#25
Congrats :)
Its normal to feel like that its hard work and sore too. As for weeing I found (I cant believe I am writing this on a forum lol) leaning forward when on the toilet so your hands can touch the floor works, no stinging on your graze, I was lucky enough not to have stitches both times but the graze was ever so sore.

You will be feeling great soon xx
#26
Oh my god...you've just reminded me about the first number 2....that was more painful than anything else....it was bell shaped and wouldn;t come out....LOL at the TMI !!!

Congrats by the way - I'm jealous :(
#27
I think we waited about 5-6 weeks with the first, my advice tho, get yourself on some form of contraception before you even think about it lol.
#28
jellybaby22
That does actually work...and was easier than having to have a shower so I could wee...TMI I know...:lol:


weeing in the shower really stung me, the leaning forward did the trick, although would have been a strange sight :w00t:
#29
I think they recommend 6wks wait if no major damage and if you feeling ok in yourself but I think it's different everytime and some have much sooner than others. I think the 1st time you do after a new baby can always be a bit nervous and worried if it be ok anyway.
suspended#30
It will all take time you had to fit a babys head through there........ so its going to feel sore. Your lucky you didnt need stiches.... i had them with both and with my little boy needed one on my wee hole.... god knows how
#31
Firstly congratulations - you will feel better very soon. I had stitches with both of mine 4lb 1 and 7lb 11!! See if you can get some arnica tablets, they are amazing for helping with the healing process
#32
Congrats on your little one :-)

Have you tried Lavendar Oil in your baths? It will help any soreness down there, and is calming for your head too - just a little therapy to help your body mend.

Also as the ladies have talked about leaning forward to have a wee - or doing it in the shower - you can also get a jug of luke warm water and pour it on you as you wee - but sitting back as norm in this case.

I've heard arnica is amazing - and something you should keep for bruises when your LO starts running around (not that I am wishing the time away) lol
#33
Congrats!! your baby is so new still, I started to feel a bit better from about 7-10 days, I wore the biggest softest sanitary pads available (cheap ones aren't so nice!) I found them so comforting-you could also try peeing directly onto them rather than in the toilet as they soak the wet away from you quickly, obviously wash yourself straight after and change your pad!

Also a little lavender oil in my bath did wonders for me, both for healing and relaxing!
#34
Im pretty sure with my first baby i had some kind of stuff to put in the bath - possibly arnica based?? Also dont use bubble bath etc as that will only irritate it more.

Congratulations by the way - did you have a girl or boy/name/weight etc???
#35
can you buy arnica from supermarket or do you have to get it from doctor?

just looked on asda website can get it in a gel form , might try that.
#36
pink-ka
can you buy arnica from supermarket or do you have to get it from doctor?


Its herbal, you can get it from any chemist or health food shop
#37
i had a girl, 8lb3 called her Lucy.
#38
pink-ka
i had a girl, 8lb3 called her Lucy.


Wow she was quite big. Well done to you XxX

Lovely name too!
#39
pink-ka
i had a girl, 8lb3 called her Lucy.


Wow 8lb 3 and no stitches! lovely name too
#40
8lb 3 for a first one!! I was induced with my first one as I had pre-eclampsia, and he was 5lb 2. I had a 2nd degree tear but no stitches.

I'm dreading this second one, I live in a council house and we're having the electrics done, new radiators and boiler, new kitchen and bathroom. I really can't complain as it's all done for free, but it's going to be up in the air and they're starting next week, and I doubt they'll be finished before the baby's here! We've had to clear out loads of stuff so we have some baby stuff round my nan's, and my mom's and the in-laws too. Also trying to juggle my son's first time at nursery. It's so awkward!!!

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