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Am i being unreasonable? re Christmas

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5y, 11m agoPosted 5 years, 11 months ago
In October my brother and his girlfriend invited me, hubby and 2 children to their for Christmas day. They live 60 miles away so would be out for the day so asked hubby if he fancied spending Christmas at my brothers and he said yeah and it would be nice.

A couple of weeks later we sold our car (had been planning to sell it for a while) so rang my brother to say we wouldnt be able to make it for Christmas. He was gutted as would have been the first Christmas we had all spent together as a family in 15 years.

I decided that with my Christmas money i got from my grandad to organise renting a car to go. I asked him about this and he got in a mood saying he would be bored there and didnt want to go. When i questioned him about it and that he agreed months before he said that he didnt think we would be going anyways and i got the feeling he only said yes before as he knew we wouldnt have a car for Christmas.

Hes now decided that hes not coming with us and is going to spend Christmas day on his own. Our children are 9 and 5 and think its totally selfish and unacceptable for him to say this, to go back on his word and cant understand why he would prefer to spend christmas day on his own rather than me, kids and family. He gets on with my brother and doesnt have any probs with him.

Am i being unreasonable?
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5y, 11m agoPosted 5 years, 11 months ago
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banned#1
Kill him. :) Job done
2 Likes #2
yep, wish the wife would take herself and the kids away for the day, that would be the best present ever.
#3
each to there own i guess :{
#4
tl;dr

yeah, what would he rather be doing? ... seems unfair on yourself and the kids and quite rude...
banned#5
yes, stay at home. problem solved and a 5 year old calling an adult selfish should get a slap
#6
selfish git
banned#7
sounds like a plank
#8
Zer0Cool
yes, stay at home. problem solved and a 5 year old calling an adult selfish should get a slap


I didnt say my 5 year old called him selfish.. i called him selfish. I was just saying how old our children were..
#9
Nice husband - Great dad

you must be so proud
1 Like #10
So you are not going to let your kids spend Christmas with their dad???
Obvious solution would be for your brother and girlfriend to come to you. Your brother should be fine with this as he is so keen for you all to spend Christmas together.
Your hubby may be creature of habit and not want to go anywhere else??
4 Likes #11
Selfish get, christmas is about family and time together...get him told, or tell him it wont only be christmas day he will be on his own!
banned#12
why do you need to use your grandad's crimbo money? i hope you're going to see him on xmas day too?
1 Like #13
chloroform is your friend
#14
bykergrove
why do you need to use your grandad's crimbo money? i hope you're going to see him on xmas day too?


because he had already moaned about using 'our money' to go and that were supposed to be saving. My grandad lives too far to visit :(
#15
Sounds like a bit of an ****??
4 Likes #16
sounds like he is having an affair and looking to get his end away when you and your children are at your brothers
#17
NUMPTYJ!!!
#18
numptyj
sounds like he is having an affair and looking to get his end away when you and your children are at your brothers
To be fair....it was the first thing that came to my mind also. Not necc whilst they are away on xmas day, but it does sound a little fishy.
#19
60 mile drive in the freezing cold, with 2 kids going "are we there yet, are we there yet, are we there yet, " of course he will be looking forward to it.
#20
michelleleemoo
NUMPTYJ!!!


no shouting please :p

well it might be true...even though harsh lol

Edited By: numptyj on Dec 03, 2010 20:54
[mod][Moderator]#21
Lulu'sMammy
numptyj
sounds like he is having an affair and looking to get his end away when you and your children are at your brothers
To be fair....it was the first thing that came to my mind also. Not necc whilst they are away on xmas day, but it does sound a little fishy.

went through my mind too, guilt makes people do weird things, hope its just him being a spoilt selfish man though op
banned#22
CuteKitty26
bykergrove
why do you need to use your grandad's crimbo money? i hope you're going to see him on xmas day too?


because he had already moaned about using 'our money' to go and that were supposed to be saving. My grandad lives too far to visit :(


why don't you host the dinner at your house? how far does your granddad live out of interest?
#23
boabbyrab
60 mile drive in the freezing cold, with 2 kids going "are we there yet, are we there yet, are we there yet, " of course he will be looking forward to it.


its not all about him though, where's the thought for his kids, bet he liked making them though
#24
numptyj
sounds like he is having an affair and looking to get his end away when you and your children are at your brothers
nice, bet the OP was not even thinking about that, now she is going to pretend to go and sit in the car round the corner and spy on hubby.
#25
Its my brothers first Christmas in their new house and just thought it would be nice to get out this place for a while, ive done Christmas at my home every year since weve got together 11 years ago.
My grandad lives 170 miles away :(
1 Like #26
michelleleemoo
boabbyrab
60 mile drive in the freezing cold, with 2 kids going "are we there yet, are we there yet, are we there yet, " of course he will be looking forward to it.


its not all about him though, where's the thought for his kids, bet he liked making them though


lol
#27
michelleleemoo
boabbyrab
60 mile drive in the freezing cold, with 2 kids going "are we there yet, are we there yet, are we there yet, " of course he will be looking forward to it.

its not all about him though, where's the thought for his kids, bet he liked making them though
of course he liked making them, it's the end result 9 months later that he did not like.
banned 1 Like #28
CuteKitty26
Its my brothers first Christmas in their new house and just thought it would be nice to get out this place for a while, ive done Christmas at my home every year since weve got together 11 years ago.
My grandad lives 170 miles away :(


sex ban?
#29
boabbyrab
michelleleemoo boabbyrab60 mile drive in the freezing cold, with 2 kids going "are we there yet, are we there yet, are we there yet, " of course he will be looking forward to it.its not all about him though, where's the thought for his kids, bet he liked making them though
of course he liked making them, it's the end result 9 months later that he did not like.
speaking from experience?
#30
boabbyrab
michelleleemoo
boabbyrab
60 mile drive in the freezing cold, with 2 kids going "are we there yet, are we there yet, are we there yet, " of course he will be looking forward to it.

its not all about him though, where's the thought for his kids, bet he liked making them though

of course he liked making them, it's the end result 9 months later that he did not like.


thanks for yr wisdom (where's the rollie eye smiley when you need him)
#31
Xmas is about give and take and it sounds like he's not doing much giving......unless of course the other posters are right and hes having an affair
banned#32
michelleleemoo
boabbyrab
michelleleemoo
boabbyrab
60 mile drive in the freezing cold, with 2 kids going "are we there yet, are we there yet, are we there yet, " of course he will be looking forward to it.

its not all about him though, where's the thought for his kids, bet he liked making them though

of course he liked making them, it's the end result 9 months later that he did not like.


thanks for yr wisdom (where's the rollie eye smiley when you need him)


it's because nine months later... a baby came out.
#33
Lulu'sMammy
boabbyrab
michelleleemoo
boabbyrab
60 mile drive in the freezing cold, with 2 kids going "are we there yet, are we there yet, are we there yet, " of course he will be looking forward to it.its not all about him though, where's the thought for his kids, bet he liked making them thoughof course he liked making them, it's the end result 9 months later that he did not like.
speaking from experience?
yep, 3 times :(

Edited By: boabbyrab on Dec 03, 2010 21:07
2 Likes #34
boabbyrab
Lulu'sMammy boabbyrabmichelleleemooboabbyrab60 mile drive in the freezing cold, with 2 kids going "are we there yet, are we there yet, are we there yet, " of course he will be looking forward to it.its not all about him though, where's the thought for his kids, bet he liked making them thoughof course he liked making them, it's the end result 9 months later that he did not like.speaking from experience?
yep, 3 times :([/quote]Thats a really awful thing to say, even in jest.
1 Like #35
boabbyrab
Lulu'sMammy
boabbyrab
michelleleemoo
boabbyrab
60 mile drive in the freezing cold, with 2 kids going "are we there yet, are we there yet, are we there yet, " of course he will be looking forward to it.its not all about him though, where's the thought for his kids, bet he liked making them thoughof course he liked making them, it's the end result 9 months later that he did not like.
speaking from experience?

yep, 3 times :([/quote]

if you have 3 kids and feel this way you ought to be ashamed of yourself. Oh and not all kids are 'are we there..............' i regularly do 80 miles with mine and don't get that, maybe if you gave them the attention they deserve they wouldn't feel the need to try and get it another way
#36
punch him

never been much of a diplomat myself

peace man!
banned 1 Like #37
michelleleemoo

if you have 3 kids and feel this way you ought to be ashamed of yourself. Oh and not all kids are 'are we there..............' i regularly do 80 miles with mine and don't get that, maybe if you gave them the attention they deserve they wouldn't feel the need to try and get it another way


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[helper] 1 Like #38
OP - you know what you should do - speak to your husband and sort it out with him. Very little good comes of posting things like this on here.....as you can see by some of the comments already.
#39
michelleleemoo
if you have 3 kids and feel this way you ought to be ashamed of yourself. Oh and not all kids are 'are we there..............' i regularly do 80 miles with mine and don't get that, maybe if you gave them the attention they deserve they wouldn't feel the need to try and get it another way
wow, what do you use chloroform, sleeping tablets?
3 Likes #40
There is a sort of comfort at being at your own home at Christmas... shoes off... walking to the loo in your undies.... putting your feet wherever ..... spilling whatever... and doing whatever... Can't do that at someone elses house.

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