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Thought i'd say hello on misc forum.. also share some thoughts with you.. I'm 25, wife is 24... Been together around 3-4 years and we are about to have our first child.. When i say 'About' - Wifes … Read More
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8y, 2d agoPosted 8 years, 2 days ago
Thought i'd say hello on misc forum.. also share some thoughts with you..

I'm 25, wife is 24... Been together around 3-4 years and we are about to have our first child.. When i say 'About' - Wifes contractions started (very painful) at 8pm last night, got to around 5mins at 3am - slowed a bit since.. Started to come closer together again today.. So not long now.

To be honest, i think i've been walking through the clouds a little bit ever since she became pregnant.. Never really acknowledged it.. Still went out with the lads as normal.. Only occasional inconvience was wife burning a hole through my credit card every time she went shopping (£400 for a damn 3 in 1 travel system pram thing) etc.

It's now hitting me like a ton of bricks. I'm sure flights to mexico are going cheap due to the swine flu, any links? ;).
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8y, 2d agoPosted 8 years, 2 days ago
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#1
Grr can someone move this to MISC plz :P
#2
ahaha was going to say!
#3
nice,congrats but you have posted this in FS forum!!!:thumbsup:
#4
Baby for sale or trade for PS3 games.. In around 1-3 days. ;)
#5
congrats btw and £400 for 3 in one thats a bargain lol , with all things aside i think she deserves it the whole lot after all birth isnt a bunch of roses and shes given you something money cant buy ;-)
[admin]#6
Moved.

Congrats by the way :) It's a scary thing, but as soon as you see your new baby it'll all be worth it :)
#7
spritey
Baby for sale or trade for PS3 games.. In around 1-3 days. ;)


Lol Congrats. £400 for a buggy! Thats dear!
#8
welcome to HUKD :)

good luck with the imminent arrival of baby x x
#9
Yup - it does hit you, and won't hit you properly until your stood there holding him/her in your arms - and then again when you finally bring them home.

Good luck - were 9 months down the line - and honestly - it gets easier. (So many people say it - you won't believe it - but it does.)
#10
juliet_bravo
Moved.

Congrats by the way :) It's a scary thing, but as soon as you see your new baby it'll all be worth it :)


Spot on :thumbsup:
#11
Don't worry its not as bad as everyone makes out, well it wasn't for us anyway.

My little girl is 8months now and not had a sleepless night since she was 6 weeks old and she is a very good baby, so maybe we got lucky lol
#12
bargainhunter2009
Lol Congrats. £400 for a buggy! Thats dear!


A 3-in-1... I've seen more expensive
#13
Thanks for the kind words :).

Yeah i think my biggest worry has been losing some of my freedom, i'm quite an independent guy. It's going to be quite an adjustment i think.
#14
spritey
Thanks for the kind words :).

Yeah i think my biggest worry has been losing some of my freedom, i'm quite an independent guy. It's going to be quite an adjustment i think.


being a daddy means NO freedom... in this house anyway.. your gf might be kinder than me lol
banned#15
3 in 1 travel system lol, you'll use it for like 6 months then move to a buggy, waste of cash, but been there done that burnt my cash too.

You'll enjoy every day of your life from now on, trust me having kids is the wake up call you need :thumbsup:
#16
ClarityofMind
being a daddy means NO freedom... in this house anyway.. your gf might be kinder than me lol


Same in this house - I get none - he get's none :giggle:
#17
Becksdawe
Same in this house - I get none - he get's none :giggle:


god I know all bout that! lol

actually my hubby wrangles bits of freedom here and there, he sees his mates and sees films and stuff by himself when he wants to. I prolly get more freedom than him really.. its just in occasional blobs lol
#18
sculpturatus
3 in 1 travel system lol, you'll use it for like 6 months then move to a buggy, waste of cash, but been there done that burnt my cash too.

You'll enjoy every day of your life from now on, trust me having kids is the wake up call you need :thumbsup:


Turn's into a pram aswell..

See this worries me even more, give your men some freedom ;). I haven't been out drinking with the lads for 7 weeks, as i've been banned from that point till baby was born.. Desperately need a night out.

I managed to book in a weekend out 2 weeks after baby is born, convinced wife to go to her parents for that weekend.. It did take a big bunch of flowers and sex in the city boxsets as a prezzy to convince her though.
#19
when baby comes u havent a hope of getting a night out for a veryyy long time lol

risk it and you'll be in so much deep doodahs lol
[admin]#20
spritey
Turn's into a pram aswell..

See this worries me even more, give your men some freedom ;). I haven't been out drinking with the lads for 7 weeks, as i've been banned from that point till baby was born.. Desperately need a night out.


...And when was the last time she went out drinking with the lasses? Prob more than 7 weeks ago eh?! Get yourself out to "wet the babies head" in a couple of weeks, and once you're both in a routine with your new baby things will get back to normal. Ish.

You'll both need to have space now and then, she's probably feeling pretty rubbish at the moment aswell so appreciate that you'll need to takeover sometimes and let her have a bit of time to herself.

And you being banned from drinking 7 weeks before due date might seem harsh to you, but when you're pregnant with your first baby and every twinge sets you thinking you're going into labour, she probably just wants to know that you'll be there and by her side when it finally happens.
#21
spritey
Turn's into a pram aswell..

See this worries me even more, give your men some freedom ;). I haven't been out drinking with the lads for 7 weeks, as i've been banned from that point till baby was born.. Desperately need a night out.

I managed to book in a weekend out 2 weeks after baby is born, convinced wife to go to her parents for that weekend.. It did take a big bunch of flowers and sex in the city boxsets as a prezzy to convince her though.


i have to agree with you here you do need time to see your mates as does she why dont you do what we do once everynow and agian one of us gets the night off with our mates whilst the other stays in with bubba
#22
Becksdawe
A 3-in-1... I've seen more expensive


Yeh and I have seen a lot cheaper!!!
#23
bargainhunter2009
Lol Congrats. £400 for a buggy! Thats dear!


Not for a travel system it isn't.

Congrats. Listen, as a new dad myself, it will take a while to get to grips with the shock of the whole thing, and adjust your lifestyle as well.

However, there are so many moments ahead of you that will justify the sacrifices you're gonna have to make - treasure them all.

Good luck and congrats when the new arrival comes.
#24
juliet_bravo
...And when was the last time she went out drinking with the lasses? Prob more than 7 weeks ago eh?! Get yourself out to "wet the babies head" in a couple of weeks, and once you're both in a routine with your new baby things will get back to normal. Ish.

You'll both need to have space now and then, she's probably feeling pretty rubbish at the moment aswell so appreciate that you'll need to takeover sometimes and let her have a bit of time to herself.

And you being banned from drinking 7 weeks before due date might seem harsh to you, but when you're pregnant with your first baby and every twinge sets you thinking you're going into labour, she probably just wants to know that you'll be there and by her side when it finally happens.


See my wife uses that excuse 'When was the last time i went out' - but i've not stopped her.. She's not wanted to go out due to being pregnant. Not my fault is it ;). Plus she doesn't drink alchol anyway, so she hasn't missed much.

Plus all my family live abroad, hers don't.. So i need my friends, as i'm only one out of mine that still lives in England. ;)
#25
Grow a pair son.
#26
When I was pregnant every cigarette my hubby smoked, every alcoholic drink he drank, even coffee ( ewww the smell ), peeved me off terribly lol
#27
spritey
See my wife uses that excuse 'When was the last time i went out' - but i've not stopped her.. She's not wanted to go out due to being pregnant. Not my fault is it ;). Plus she doesn't drink alchol anyway, so she hasn't missed much.


not your fault... you def had summin to do with it lol
#28
ClarityofMind
When I was pregnant every cigarette my hubby smoked, every alcoholic drink he drank, even coffee ( ewww the smell ), peeved me off terribly lol


Hehe.. My wifes a vegetarian, doesn't drink alchol, coffee or tea. Her only vice is dime bars at the moment lol.

thesaint
Grow a pair son.


You're funny.
#29
spritey
Turn's into a pram aswell..

See this worries me even more, give your men some freedom ;). I haven't been out drinking with the lads for 7 weeks, as i've been banned from that point till baby was born.. Desperately need a night out.

I managed to book in a weekend out 2 weeks after baby is born, convinced wife to go to her parents for that weekend.. It did take a big bunch of flowers and sex in the city boxsets as a prezzy to convince her though.


I didn't trust ANYONE fully with my lil girl for up to 6-8 weeks after not even my fella, was constantly texting my man to make sure she was ok.

And .... I'd give if I recieve :p
#30
spritey
Hehe.. My wifes a vegetarian, doesn't drink alchol, coffee or tea. Her only vice is dime bars at the moment lol.



You're funny.


lol, bless her, a dime bar sounds lovely, havent seen one of those in years!

seriously though make sure she gets plenty of help and support, its scary being a new mum x
#31
spritey
See my wife uses that excuse 'When was the last time i went out' - but i've not stopped her.. She's not wanted to go out due to being pregnant. Not my fault is it ;). Plus she doesn't drink alchol anyway, so she hasn't missed much.

Plus all my family live abroad, hers don't.. So i need my friends, as i'm only one out of mine that still lives in England. ;)


dont mean to be rude in asking this but did you plan this baby???
#32
Congrats on baby.... hard bloody work but well worth it. I was on;y 19 when i had my first, now 26 with a 3 and 6 year old. Notice now the kids don't need me .. weird... kinda missing it..... then reality kicks in ...lol... NOOOOO more babies for me :)
#33
ClarityofMind
lol, bless her, a dime bar sounds lovely, havent seen one of those in years!

seriously though make sure she gets plenty of help and support, its scary being a new mum x


Yeah definitely - When she was in pain on Friday i surpized her by taking a half day and booked her in at an acupuncturists for a session to help pain relief and help bring on labour. Not idea if that stuff works, but she can out feeling very relaxed so was definitely worth it. I'd recommend that to anyone who is close to the end, wife went from sluggish and no energy to feeling a hell of allot better when she came out.

Was the first time she had tried it.

ilovepink
dont mean to be rude in asking this but did you plan this baby???


Kind of yes, kind of no.. We were trying for 2-3 months and nothing happened.. Then unfortunately i lost my job (redundancy). So she was going to go back on the pill - Week later we found out she was pregnant. Bit stressful that one lol.. Found another job though, just meant moving.
#34
spritey
Yeah definitely - When she was in pain on Friday i surpized her by taking a half day and booked her in at an acupuncturists for a session to help pain relief and help bring on labour. Not idea if that stuff works, but she can out feeling very relaxed so was definitely worth it. I'd recommend that to anyone who is close to the end, wife went from sluggish and no energy to feeling a hell of allot better when she came out.

Was the first time she had tried it.


sounds lovely x x
#35
spritey
Yeah definitely - When she was in pain on Friday i surpized her by taking a half day and booked her in at an acupuncturists for a session to help pain relief and help bring on labour. Not idea if that stuff works, but she can out feeling very relaxed so was definitely worth it. I'd recommend that to anyone who is close to the end, wife went from sluggish and no energy to feeling a hell of allot better when she came out.

Was the first time she had tried it.


That's really sweet :) I hope things work well for you - no matter how hard it is - it's worth it in the end.

Hmmmmm..... I'm getting Broody again LOL
#36
Becksdawe
That's really sweet :) I hope things work well for you - no matter how hard it is - it's worth it in the end.

Hmmmmm..... I'm getting Broody again LOL


i do sometimes too lol

My hubby says we can just try it and see what happens if I want lol
#37
congrats...but surely u should have chosen a better time to get to know misc then when ur wife was having contractions :o

yeah its scary for u....think how scary it is for her..... a babys gotta come out of her!!
#38
We are sticking to one kid.. I want wife wants more in the future, but i've only ever wanted one and she knew that when she meet me. Although i can imagine the conversation coming up eventually lol.

magicbeans
:ocongrats...but surely u should have chosen a better time to get to know misc then when ur wife was having contractions

yeah its scary for u....think how scary it is for her..... a babys gotta come out of her!!


Oh she's fine, sat on faceback in the lounge on my macbook telling her friends about it all. It's like 'type type type type type' 'AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH' 'type type type type type'
#39
spritey
We are sticking to one kid.. I want wife wants more in the future, but i've only ever wanted one and she knew that when she meet me. Although i can imagine the conversation coming up eventually lol.


you're still living under the illusion your views count.. must be newly married lol
#40
spritey
We are sticking to one kid.. I want wife wants more in the future, but i've only ever wanted one and she knew that when she meet me. Although i can imagine the conversation coming up eventually lol.


u sound pretty selfish. its all about u and ur nights out.

im glad ur gonna have a kid any second now....maybe its the wake up call u need to realise that the world doesnt revolve around u...and maybe u will have the respect for ur wife that she deserves

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