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CSA employs tough tactics with Dead Beat Dads

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7y, 4m agoPosted 7 years, 4 months ago
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banned#2
they have done ****** all with my ex.

My partner works 50 hour weeks to support me, him, my daughter and our daughter together (although he see's them both as his :-D ) while her bio dad swans off on holidays every few months!

Grrrrrrrrrr :x
#3
CSA are a ****ing joke
#4
lmaooo
After about 7yrs of chasing the CSA finally contacted me recently to tell me they will be taking csa of of his wages... including arrears he was supposed to be paying debt collectors of £6 per month, YES SIX QUID which he failed to do!

So now hes gonna be £40 per week worse off.
#5
pcnutta
lmaooo
After about 7yrs of chasing the CSA finally contacted me recently to tell me they will be taking csa of of his wages... including arrears he was supposed to be paying debt collectors of £6 per month, YES SIX QUID which he failed to do!

So now hes gonna be £40 per week worse off.


Awww does your heart bleed for him? ;-):roll:
#6
I have never been less than £27 a week, one xmas I was paying £113 a week over several weeks, I am sorry for doing some overtime really I am.
I have 1 child that I don't see to pay for, work it out?
1 Like #7
hunchback
I have never been less than £27 a week, one xmas I was paying £113 a week over several weeks, I am sorry for doing some overtime really I am.
I have 1 child that I don't see to pay for, work it out?


The child lives and breathes because you created her/him. That child although you dont see them is still in need of clothing and food and a roof over their head, at the absolute minimum which the mother contributes to as her part in the responsibility for creating that life. And you do too. There, worked out ;-)
#8
snowflake
The child lives and breathes because you created her/him. That child although you dont see them is still in need of clothing and food and a roof over their head, at the absolute minimum which the mother contributes to as her part in the responsibility for creating that life. There, worked out ;-)


£113 per week?
As you can see from my response. am I in denial?
No I think not.
#9
snowflake
Is that 15% of your salary or from arrears from when you didn't pay or had arrears? Cos you tell me it's none of those reasons and I can get you a number to complain.

Get me a new number as I have been on to several numbers and no one helps.
This was 3 years ago.
#10
Rockhound
I contribute a lot more than that..and I have my girls for 6 nights out of 14. I dont grudge a penny for them.


I don't grudge a penny of my wages, its the way the CSA treat me that I find offensive.
#11
hunchback
I don't grudge a penny of my wages, its the way the CSA treat me that I find offensive.


Yep - i think you have something there- I have heard very many cases where they are OTT in the way they treat people. But i do object to Dads shirking their responsibility..annoys me intensely..
#12
snowflake
So are you saying it was none of those reasons? If so I'm curious :?


nice manners btw


That is what I am saying, it was a mix up and it took me 5 months to get over paid money back!
#13
snowflake
So are you saying it was none of those reasons? If so I'm curious :?


nice manners btw


Pot/Kettle
#14
Rockhound
Yep - i think you have something there- I have heard very many cases where they are OTT in the way they treat people. But i do object to Dads shirking their responsibility..annoys me intensely..


To be fair that does my nut in as well, the whole fathers 4 justice things springs to mind but thats another story possibly....
#15
the misconception is that getting money from an EX via the CSA, does not give a single mother on benefits any MORE money, it just means that the EX will be paying a portion of her benefits instead of the government.
#16
Just quick note, I am not a dad and definitely not a dead beat dad.
#17
snowflake
Ahh, ok, so you've had the money back, ok, so you dont need a number?

Got it back eventually yeah, but still if I could get a number to complain to someone that could actually make a difference that would be good lol, anyway, its just the way I was treated to be honest, makes you think if someone else could not get that hassle? :oops:
#18
Shirking responsibilities is of course not acceptable and any parent must of course contribute,however in all cases there are two sides to every story with the CSA being used by one partner to get one over on the other on regular occasions(not all of course).

Everything is not always as clear cut as it seems:)
#19
DudeyGeeza
the misconception is that getting money from an EX via the CSA, does not give a single mother on benefits any MORE money, it just means that the EX will be paying a portion of her benefits instead of the government.


Brings it to mind, how much does the mother actually get from a CS claim?
#20
electriclinux
Just quick note, I am not a dad and definitely not a dead beat dad.


Thats why I asked if I could use your thread as a joke. Peeps dont seem to get the joke atm xxx

Thanks hun xx

This was the real csa thread....

http://www.hotukdeals.com/item/480354/csa/
#21
My mate is now paying for his sons through CSA. His ex loses out now as it's less than what he was paying before she reported him lol. He is now no longer allowed to see his sons and me my god son as she is now all bitter and twisted.

Some women shouldn't be mothers either.
#22
choc1969
My mate is now paying for his sons through CSA. His ex loses out now as it's less than what he was paying before she reported him lol. He is now no longer allowed to see his sons and me my god son as she is now all bitter and twisted.

Some women shouldn't be mothers either.


+1?
#23
Plenty of dead beat 'mums' about.
#24
The CSA will catch up with you sooner or later, and from working in HR, the child will always get his/her money from mother (or father) as they take it from the source (ie: weekly/monthly wage) - if the parent is not paying up - meaning mother/father don't even see the money they are giving the child as it goes directly from his/her account into the childs.
#25
starsparkle2311
Thing about fathers4justice is it gives all the good mothers/women a bad name, we're not all penny pinching bitter twisted cows:thumbsup:

Some of us do actually care about the happiness of our kids more than ourselves, well at least I do!!!!!!!!


If the world was made up of people like you everyone would get along and what would we do then!!!!:shock:
#26
starsparkle2311
Thing about fathers4justice is it gives all the good mothers/women a bad name, we're not all penny pinching bitter twisted cows:thumbsup:

Some of us do actually care about the happiness of our kids more than ourselves, well at least I do!!!!!!!!


+1? :thumbsup:
#27
electriclinux
If the world was made up of people like you everyone would get along and what would we do then!!!!:shock:


I don't think anyone clicked the linky in post 2 :?
#28
ClarityofMind
I don't think anyone clicked the linky in post 2 :?


I think most ppl thought you got the link wrong. I did.
#29
ClarityofMind
I don't think anyone clicked the linky in post 2 :?


I did and thought you were just implying that all bad dads were due a knock in the goolies, like that op got (but not for being a bad dad). I obviously didn't get what you actually meant....it's been a long day :oops: :-D
banned#30
do women have to pay child support if the dad takes care of the kid?
#31
robtallica
I think most ppl thought you got the link wrong. I did.


nooo I was makin a joke :p

There was a real csa thread already today here

http://www.hotukdeals.com/item/480354/csa/
#32
Charlie&Lola
I did and thought you were just implying that all bad dads were due a knock in the goolies, like that op got (but not for being a bad dad). I obviously didn't get what you actually meant....it's been a long day :oops: :-D


Trust me to try and do one thing and it ending up being something entirely different :)

oh well ;-)
#33
Sorry I think the joke at my expense (or could be potential children's expense) didn't work.
banned#34
snowflake
Yes of course!


how does it work? do you have to pay more if you earn more?
#35
snowflake
I've always worked, so every penny but for those that dont I think they receive £10 on top of their benefits?

My ex didnt pay a penny for 8 + years even though he earned over £35k a year over ten years ago, but for an off shore oil company, conveniently the csa had no way of getting him to pay. So my children have been supported by me financially. If he had even so much as sent them a birthday card with a tenner in to the kids it would have meant something.


Fair do's,but thats not typical of most cases.
#36
snowflake
Oh I think I should go to bed :? Bloody trouble you are lol :roll:


No no my fault babe, I prolly worded it wrong again... I'm always makin booboos :w00t:;-)
#37
ok, if mother is gettin 900 per month atm, then you get CSA to get money from the EX, mother still has 900 per month (plus any backdated money, but if there is none to back date then the total stays the same = 900 per month) its just that instead of the government paying the 900, they only pay say 80%, and the ex pays the 20%. Hence why the government want to find these "dead beat dads", so they can stop paying a portion of the womans benefits..
#38
ClarityofMind
Trust me to try and do one thing and it ending up being something entirely different :)

oh well ;-)



But in fairness, it did make me have a little ponder...... not that this would ever happen really, obviously, but if men were given the ultimatum of pay for your child or get a regular knock in the wotsits every month they didn't pay, I wonder how many men would actually pay up and how many would take the knock.....

I'm sure my brain doesn't work the same way as everyone elses :p
#39
Charlie&Lola
But in fairness, it did make me have a little ponder...... not that this would ever happen really, obviously, but if men were given the ultimatum of pay for your child or get a regular knock in the wotsits every month they didn't pay, I wonder how many men would actually pay up and how many would take the knock.....

I'm sure my brain doesn't work the same way as everyone elses :p


lmao!!!

I think I like your world :) :w00t:

That was the joke I was meaning after I read the cricket ball thread and the csa one.....

Obviously it just went kafloooey lol
banned#40
snowflake
15% of your salary for 1 child (net/after pension etc) and 20% for two children I believe


so if you plough most of your money into your pension then the kid gets nowt?
its up to 18yo right?

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