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does your child do this as well as mine

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banned7y, 10m agoPosted 7 years, 10 months ago
My 2 year old daughter is head butting and hitting her self wit hher hands and head butting her head off the floor, doors basically anythign she can find, shes been doing it over the last few months and the health visitor said for her being 2 she should be saying more words rather than 2 word sentences.

simply things like dont touch the tv and she started head butting the floor and hitting herself, today she was round to see her friend who is also 2 for the first time and she was hitting, punching and snatching, i tried to explain to her no you have to play nicely ect but then got the headbutting and she started hitting her head wit hthe hands.

Is this normal for children at this age
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banned7y, 10m agoPosted 7 years, 10 months ago
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#1
girls do as have bad temper sorry should come out of it in 10 or 14 years , but if you are worried make an appointment to see your gp
#2
My son does the headbutting thing when he cant get his own way, he is 18 months, he also doesnt like talking although i know he can when he wants so you arent alone, headbutting is supposed to be just a frustration thing
#3
i have a 2 year old...but every kid is sooooooo different and i have heard/seen head butters...so im sure its not abnormal. u need to control these lil outbursts....for her sake bless her...i used a lot of parenting methods i seen on tv/read in books.

is she the only one or the first child. do u speak 2 languages at home..basically not speak english and therfore he is hearing 2 languages ...that delays speech. my 2 year old hardly speaks but im not overly bothered. maybe cos he is my 2nd so im more relaxed :)
banned#4
first child, english is our ownly language and shes been doing the head butting for about 6 months now
#5
when she hits /bites her friends ..ignore her...totally and make a huge fuss of the friend...try to ignore the headbutting,hard i know...as long as she is in a safe place walk out the room.IGNORE HER..NO MATTER HOW HARD..make out your doing something far more interesting than paying her attention..or try distracting her ...but i know how hard it is...!!!!!dont worry she wont be doing it forever x x xalso the speech thing...they are all different...unless you are worried yourself and she seems far,far behind other kids her age that you know...i would go with your own instinct rather than your HV...mine had no kids and was almost textbook with her advice...which is not how life goes!...you know your daughter ..go with your instinct
#6
you think thats bad?
Wait till she starts going through her "cycle"
#7
My son used to headbutt the floor as a 2 yr old (he is 3 now), dont worry too much as once they realise it hurts like hell they usually stop! Also another technique you could try is to totally ignore the behaviour as it could be attention seeking. Best of luck :thumbsup:
#8
Mate had a kid that did the headbutting thing, ended up putting their head through a plate glass window.
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Just a friendly word, get her ears checked. My son used to headbutt the wall really hard, he was trying to get the pain out of his ears (he never did it to anyone else though) Turns out he had really bad glue ear. This also affected his speech, so he didn't talk as well. It also affected his balance, being my only child, I never realised until his childminder pointed out that he should be able to jump and skip better for a 2 year old.
That being said, although he has had several grommits fitted over the years, he is now a normal and bright 11 year old !!
#10
i know exactually what you are going through, my son did the same , he used to bash his head till it bled , it took us time but we got it noticed that he has actually got learning difficulties , music theropy works really well if you can get reffered to a group ,
its very hard, we put up pictures to help him with words and communicating with us , this was what was making him bash his head he could not make himself understood, as he could not work out the words he wanted to use, or say them, my son has a problem with connecting the right words in his head ... ie if you say do you want potatoes in his head he connects that with mushrooms and is convinced you have said something different so answers to mushrooms . if that makes sence

what i can tell you is that it does get better ... my son is now 7 and could not be a more lovely boy ,
#11
esq3585
Mate had a kid that did the headbutting thing, ended up putting there head through a plate glass window.


nice and reassuring. reading the replies, maybe Chryssie and Nem are on to something, makes sense, he wants to tell you something but can't, pure frustration
#12
brangelina
nice and reassuring


I thought that, thats someones angel
#13
gap30
My son used to headbutt the floor as a 2 yr old (he is 3 now), dont worry too much as once they realise it hurts like hell they usually stop! Also another technique you could try is to totally ignore the behaviour as it could be attention seeking. Best of luck :thumbsup:


Gotta agree, I got a mate who's sisters have pushed out 5 kids between them by 4/5 different dads by they're early/mid 20's (if that sounds weird yep you read correctly)

The kids are little terrors coming from troubled homes, few of them went thru similar stages with all the self destructive behaviour stuff, just gotta battle your way thru it. Hope it all turns out ok



Good avvy gap30 - ...and justice for all...ftw

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Roll on march 2nd and 28th.
#14
my 1st son done this not long after turning 2. none of his friends done it who were a cpl months older than him so people just thought he was badly behaved. he only spoke 2 words too untill he started pre nursery and then his speech picked up brilliantly. the naughtiness only lasted till he was about 2 1/2 and then he became an angel again and his friends started going through the phase once he stopped
banned#15
if your daughter is ony doing it when you say no to her then it does sound like shes being a madame, it is very hard when they are so young as comunication barriers are there, just watch and note down when she does it, see what the pattern is, as for the bad behaviour toward others, snatching, biting etc, it is very common in children, as far as they are concerned they want what they want they havent learnt etica (however you spell it - lol)
#16
My son used to do this every day for about half an hour (seemed like an eternity at the time) several times every day. I used to put him on the settee and leave him until he stopped. He'd head butt, scream, shout etc. He's 24 now! He was my third and I'm sure that made me more relaxed. I'd also get all the checks done as above though - especially the ears. I had my sons ears checked several times - they were fine. He also never babbled as my others had and at 2 years old had never spoken. He was and is exceptionally intelligent and I do wonder if that was what caused this behaviour.
banned#17
OP ur daughter sounds awesome! I would enjoy it while it lasts... Xx
#18
id say igniore the behaviour and if this doesnt work id use the naughty step. hitting and biting people isnt acceptable and kids have to learn the hard way. give them a inch...
My little boy used to bite me but i ignored it and eventually it stopped.
#19
Nem
i know exactually what you are going through, my son did the same , he used to bash his head till it bled , it took us time but we got it noticed that he has actually got learning difficulties , music theropy works really well if you can get reffered to a group ,
its very hard, we put up pictures to help him with words and communicating with us , this was what was making him bash his head he could not make himself understood, as he could not work out the words he wanted to use, or say them, my son has a problem with connecting the right words in his head ... ie if you say do you want potatoes in his head he connects that with mushrooms and is convinced you have said something different so answers to mushrooms . if that makes sence

what i can tell you is that it does get better ... my son is now 7 and could not be a more lovely boy ,



Both my sons have learning difficulties, and my youngest always used to smack himself on the head. Like your child they were both behind in what they should be saying at certain stages, quite far behind actually. They now both attend a special language unit 2 days a week and for the rest of the week they go to their mainstream school. My son stopped hitting himself shortly after he started getting the additional help, we think he hit himself out of frustration because he couldn't make himself understood. Of course it may not be this at all, but rather be a phase.
#20
does your child do this as well as mine


is it a competition? :?
#21
esq3585
Mate had a kid that did the headbutting thing, ended up putting their head through a plate glass window.


Mmmmmmm, that's reasuring!
#22
I would suggest getting her hearing checked, if she is not speaking as many words as she should be then she may need a bit of speech therapy. Its common for kids who struggle with communication to do stuff that we see as aggressive because it is their way of getting the frustration out because they cant get their point across.

Ask your doctor to refer her to a speech therapist, it doesnt hurt to have a meeting with them and they can advise you further. My mum used to be a speech therapist and she suggests making sure you get eye contact as much as possible when you are speaking to her, and talking as much as you can (e.g. when you are making the tea describe everything as you are doing it). Also, dont let other people say a word for her if she is taking a while thinking of the word or trying to say it.

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