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Embarrasing but relationship advice wanted

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banned8y, 5m agoPosted 8 years, 5 months ago
Ok so im single and have been for a while, started talking to some girls I know and I have a few that seem interested, one seems very interested other seems almost as interested but im not sure if its just as im sweet, other is a girl I like who works in Tesco but always says hi to me and gets me to talk to her even if my shopping it on a different belt and always smiles at me, shes very pretty and sweet.

The first girl is 30 years old and wanting to settle down, she was with a guy for 4 years who became abusive towards the end or went drinking every night and never contacted her.

Second is 21 and very sweet and giggly, we spend 4 hours on MSN(before I went to bed as I had toothache) she told me about her ex how she was with him 3 years and lived and had a mortgage with him, how her dad left her mum after she had 2 miscarriages, then a baby with cerebral palsy then got post natal depression and tried to take the kids away from her mum. How she was bullied at school for being overweight(prob why shes very slim and pretty now)

Third girl I like and id say is the more traditional good looking of the most, is very girly and giggly and has an Irish accent, we also have very similar interests like she is doing the degree im thinking of changing to.

So its go for the 30 year old and have a fast relationship with settling down quick and a traditional relationship

Go for the 21 year old(the second one) who like most her age likes some nights out and spending time with friends.

Or try some more with the 19 year old who I know little about but "click"

Also im out of practise with relationships, most of mine are just more female friends i.e we go up town to shops then come back and watch a dvd, or go clubbing never had a "date" as such. But the first one in particular has invited me out for a coffee at a local cafe sometime which I have never done.

So I dont know to be a total gentleman and hold her chair and help her to sit down and buy a present(shes curvy so not sure if choccys are good) or to try it with the 2nd or 3rd girl as I like all 3 in different ways.
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banned8y, 5m agoPosted 8 years, 5 months ago
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banned#1
and your age is?
[mod]#2
Road test them all and then decide. :-D
#3
what a dillema, go with what your instinct tells you!
banned#4
Lol im 24, was just worried about taking each out on dates in case another finds out and ruins my chances with them.
[mod]#5
supercell;2310690
Lol im 24, was just worried about taking each out on dates in case another finds out and ruins my chances with them.

It's a first date, not marriage............should be fine. :thumbsup:
banned#6
names in hat, pick one out, sorted :thumbsup:
#7
supercell
Lol im 24, was just worried about taking each out on dates in case another finds out and ruins my chances with them.


Why not suggest all 4 of you go out for a drink and take it from there ... You never know you may get more than you bargined for :giggle:

Worth a shot :oops:
banned#8
Four hours on MSN?

You have far more serious issues to work out before you enter into a relationship.

http://www.herecomestheboss.com/images/news/lg_naked_fat_man.jpg
banned#9
[QUOTE=vixygwim]Four hours on MSN?

You have far more serious issues to work out before you enter into a relationship./QUOTE]

And it was my first time on msn in like 3 years, only did so as the 21 year old wanted to speak on it
#10
Dont worry 4 hours is nothing!! lol
Id try them all out, just be careful and watch your tracks.
#11
since first one invited you out go out but if your dont want it to be a " first date" clarify that b4 hand. See how that goes. If you dont immediately click ie no chemistry be honest with her and see how she reacts ie that you like her personality you had fun but dont think theres chaemistry. If all is cool go with ya heart n date girl no.3.
#12
So its go for the 30 year old and have a fast relationship with settling down quick and a traditional relationship


just because she wants to settle down, doesnt mean the relationship will be fast. the thing is you should never rush into a relationship. if you do choose her, take it easy, maybe seeing her two nights per week max for at least the first 6 months - then she wont get the wrong idea. you are only 24 and imo this is too early for you to settle down, you have alot more to experience

Go for the 21 year old(the second one) who like most her age likes some nights out and spending time with friends.


this girl sounds like she has a few problems with men from what she told you about her dad. she could be the jealous/non trusting type so tread carefully here, again dont rush into anything

Or try some more with the 19 year old who I know little about but "click"


this lady as you say is at uni, so will prolly just be out for fun times at the moment. do you want a steady gf? if you choose this lady im not sure it will last very long. also taking the same course as her and going out with her are a recipe for disaster. as i say in point one, if you only see each other a couple of times a week - you appreciate each other more, have more to talk about and miss each other when you dont see them

i went out with a chap for 2 years, we only saw each other twice a week as we lived in different towns. we got on really well, had a great sexual relationship and never had an argument in the whole 2 years. we only split up due to him wanting to go travel which he did. he is back now and has been in touch, so who knows....
banned#13
Well its the way the 30 year old was talking, she said her ex hardly ever saw her towards the end and she likes seeing who shes dating often, though maybe not every day but some contact.

Theres also differences between the main 2, both are in very well paid jobs though, but the 30 year olds idea of a fun night is sitting at home watching dvds or going travelling at weekends wheras the younger one likes sitting at home too but also goes to friends a lot.

I dont think the younger one has problems with men as it was me who prompted her about her past as I thought it would be nice to know about what she did growing up.

Only other thing is girl 2 is local right now but im moving in 2 weeks to 30 miles away and girl 1 is about 100 miles away so harder to see.
#14
vixygwim
Four hours on MSN?

You have far more serious issues to work out before you enter into a relationship.

http://www.herecomestheboss.com/images/news/lg_naked_fat_man.jpg


i think i might have just contracted lifetime impotence, that is so wrong - i mean doesnt he know he'll get rsi with his hands like that...
#15
at 24 i would say you dont want to be getting too tied down. also who wants to be sat in all the time? i wouldnt go for number 1 if i was you

go for number 2 then - you dont wanna be doing a 200 mile round trip every other day
banned#16
Well I want to be both tied down and free as I have had a big family problem which changed me and made me want the real thing, but then I also want to be young and have a laugh with friends, and the old fashioned sea side holiday a few times a year.

So I like to be serious but know when to let my hair down as they say. I like to have lazy days then times when Id go up town and to a cafe and chat to my girlfriend and meet friends then come home and laze about.
#17
supercell
Well I want to be both tied down and free as I have had a big family problem which changed me and made me want the real thing, but then I also want to be young and have a laugh with friends, and the old fashioned sea side holiday a few times a year.

So I like to be serious but know when to let my hair down as they say. I like to have lazy days then times when Id go up town and to a cafe and chat to my girlfriend and meet friends then come home and laze about.

So you want your cake and eat it....tough! lol
banned#18
None of them.........

If you can't pick out of the 3 for a relationship then none of them are right

But for a one off, try before you buy may help
#19
supercell
Well I want to be both tied down ...


my g/f likes to be tied down, maybe you should have her, i'm sure she be up for being loaned out :)
#20
why dont you just date each of them, get to know them better, instead of thinking there's 3 girls i must only choose one and then thats it im commitied to that person forever lol
banned#21
dt_matthews;2310913
my g/f likes to be tied down, maybe you should have her, i'm sure she be up for being loaned out :)

???

U want my number?
#22
or why not have a foursome, sorted ;-)

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