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Exam stress before GCSEs, always crying, help needed please.

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suspended5y, 7m agoPosted 5 years, 7 months ago
My DD is currently revising for exams, she is finding it all very stressful and she is bursting crying often. I am not sure what to do, if anyone has some advice I would be very grateful
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#1
I find it very stressful sometimes when I am stuck in my room 24/7, I find a change of environment always does me good. With this weather, revise in the garden maybe?
#2
Tell her its not a massive deal. If she's going into Further Education (college, Sixth Form, etc) then all she only needs to meet the entry requirements for the school - which for the place I went to was 5 C grades (i.e. piece of cake!)

Once you got the grades to get you in where you wanna go, that's that. Nobody cares about GCSEs other than the colleges and employers if shes going straight into work
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Shove an application form for McDonalds in front of Her, she'll hopefully soon buck up :{
#4
get her a heamatite ring or bracelet. that helps with exam stress. (even as a placebo it can help, make her think it is working)

Also I would ask to speak to her head of year, as to me it sounds as though teachers are piling on the pressure.

Schools make out that GCSE's are the be all and end all, but if she is planning on going to do a-levels, or an aprenteship then once she starts them, GCSE's are pretty much forgotten.

Maybe take her mind off them for a day, and have a girly pamper session, get some face packs, and watch some cheesy movies, eatting favourite snacks. sometimes all you need to do is chill out for a bit, and go back to it with fresh eyes.

Hope your DD is ok, and gets through her exams in one piece.
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Im guessing many parents/students will tell you different things-there probably isnt one "magic bullet" answer. The problem is nowadays the pressure comes from peers/parents/teachers,and it can be relentless. 3 of mine have been through their gcses.oldest daughter will be doing them next year.

Its important to "play down" the importance,I dont mean that in a flippant way,of course they are important,but they should be getting nothing but reassurance at home that "all they can do is their best" Some people,no matter how clever they are,just arent suited to exams and the pressure attached. Take her out,for a pizza,take her to the cinema,studying/revising 24/7 is NOT a good thing-after a certain period they are just staring at pages and not taking it in-short bursts of revison with breaks is FAR more effective than hour upon hour of studying.

And.this is only my opinion,others may shoot me down in flames for it,but studying the night before an exam is a bad thing imho-if they dont know it by then,then trying to cram it the night before leads to even more frustation-the night before each exam they should relax.

Above all.lots of reassurance that you love them no matter whether they pass ten gcses or none! everyone has their own level-she is obviously conscientious about it-dont pile on the pressure at home-they get enough of that from elsewhere.
#6
oldmanhouse
Tell her its not a massive deal. If she's going into Further Education (college, Sixth Form, etc) then all she only needs to meet the entry requirements for the school - which for the place I went to was 5 C grades (i.e. piece of cake!)

Once you got the grades to get you in where you wanna go, that's that. Nobody cares about GCSEs other than the colleges and employers if shes going straight into work


Kitten13
get her a heamatite ring or bracelet. that helps with exam stress. (even as a placebo it can help, make her think it is working)

Also I would ask to speak to her head of year, as to me it sounds as though teachers are piling on the pressure.

Schools make out that GCSE's are the be all and end all, but if she is planning on going to do a-levels, or an aprenteship then once she starts them, GCSE's are pretty much forgotten.

Maybe take her mind off them for a day, and have a girly pamper session, get some face packs, and watch some cheesy movies, eatting favourite snacks. sometimes all you need to do is chill out for a bit, and go back to it with fresh eyes.

Hope your DD is ok, and gets through her exams in one piece.


Actually nowadays GCSE's are very important in terms of University placements... I know people who have gotten 4 A's at A level and still been rejected because not enough A's or A* at GCSE. If anything, GCSE's tend to be more important than A levels for certain university courses. Obviously this only concerns the highly competitive uni's.

Of course, none of that matters if she isn't planning on going to university.
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krazie2004


Actually nowadays GCSE's are very important in terms of University placements... I know people who have gotten 4 A's at A level and still been rejected because not enough A's or A* at GCSE. If anything, GCSE's tend to be more important than A levels for certain university courses. Obviously this only concerns the highly competitive uni's.

Of course, none of that matters if she isn't planning on going to university.


Complete BS.
A Levels are more important than GCSE's when applying to Uni regardless of the University.

If someone got all A* in there GCSE's but only AABB at A Level and another student got lower GCSE's but AAAA at A Level then the second student would be picked any day.
GCSE's are important when you have a limited space and you have numerous students who have matching A Levels but without the A Levels then their application wouldn't even be looked at.

Edited By: dtovey89 on May 04, 2011 15:38: .
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krazie2004
oldmanhouse
Tell her its not a massive deal. If she's going into Further Education (college, Sixth Form, etc) then all she only needs to meet the entry requirements for the school - which for the place I went to was 5 C grades (i.e. piece of cake!)

Once you got the grades to get you in where you wanna go, that's that. Nobody cares about GCSEs other than the colleges and employers if shes going straight into work


Kitten13
get her a heamatite ring or bracelet. that helps with exam stress. (even as a placebo it can help, make her think it is working)

Also I would ask to speak to her head of year, as to me it sounds as though teachers are piling on the pressure.

Schools make out that GCSE's are the be all and end all, but if she is planning on going to do a-levels, or an aprenteship then once she starts them, GCSE's are pretty much forgotten.

Maybe take her mind off them for a day, and have a girly pamper session, get some face packs, and watch some cheesy movies, eatting favourite snacks. sometimes all you need to do is chill out for a bit, and go back to it with fresh eyes.

Hope your DD is ok, and gets through her exams in one piece.


Actually nowadays GCSE's are very important in terms of University placements... I know people who have gotten 4 A's at A level and still been rejected because not enough A's or A* at GCSE. If anything, GCSE's tend to be more important than A levels for certain university courses. Obviously this only concerns the highly competitive uni's.

Of course, none of that matters if she isn't planning on going to university.


II think taht what you have said is bang on the money. I know a girl who cannot get into Uni as the grades she got at GCSEs were not high enough.

My daughter has been accepted to go to a live in college but she needs certain grades to be there. Unfortunately this has poured more pressure on her. I feel so sorry nowadays for students as they have so much pressure on them.

Thank you for all your kind words they are very helpful.
#9
Its all down to doing the best they can. I have a 9 year old who is doing constant exams and he worries about it. As long as he does the best he can then Im not going to have a go for not doing well.

Same applies to GCSE and A-Level. Maybe its a fear of disappointment from the parents that she is getting stressed? What does she want to do when shes older? Most people end up doing degrees then getting jobs in things completely different.

A change of scenery would definitely help. Or have a day off of the revision so they can unwind.
1 Like #10
The only 'placements' a GCSE will get you into is college, and to be honest if you can't get 5 A-C's you shouldn't be looking for further education.

A Levels, even AS will be the key grades to Universities. As far as I could remember, each grade carries a certain amount of points, eg, A = 120, B = 90, C = 60 etc.

Certain Uni's require certain points as a minimum requirement for applying.

GCSE's are virtually redundant in this day and age to be honest, More employers are looking for work experience and skill sets rather than having 5 A*'s when you're 16.

Also agree with Barky, I never revised the night before, I'd have a quick flick through my notes a few hours before the exams, but never studied past 10pm on any night. Relaxation is more important than a last minute session.
#11
It can be very stressfull but you have to remind her what her reward is after they finish the exams they have the whole summer to relax and once they start on thier A Levels GCSE would be a piece of cake just motivate her and tell her to take regular breaks for refreshments or simply just relaxing and watching some TV, anything excessive is not good! Hope she does well Best of luck :D
banned 1 Like #12
Weed.
#13
Try to get her to do as many past papers as she can. Some people just revise from the text books but this isn't sufficient and the papers allow you to practice applying the course information relevant to the questions instead of just regurgitating textbook answers. It will mean more work but she should feel more confident and prepared at the end.
#14
Wow if she is struggling now then maybe she should look for work full time after her GCSE, I am at Uni studying law and it is hardcore stress. For me GCSE were a doddle never revised and managed to get A*s
banned 1 Like #15
FilthAndFurry
Weed.



yeah gardening is quite therapeutic, perhaps get some hanging baskets made up, or tend to those borders, and a visit to a gardening center is a must giving you ideas for new items for your garden :|
#16
Really GCSE. I didnt revise and still got AAABBBBCCCDE lol.

Last year A - Levels killed me I got ABDU.

This year got my final ones coming up and they are killing me further.

A Levels are killer if you have crap teacher like mine, so you basically have to teach everything to yourself. In our college lot of people flopped last year so they are retaking the year. So........yh
#17
No offence but if your DD is stressing herself over GCSEs shes gona phoo in her pants when she gets to uni. Image in more maths than your brain can cope with, learning all 60 equations and being able to show workings of how your answer was derived. along with coursework, phase tests and having to go for daily beers in the pub!

Yes i did it all and enjoyed it so much i an working and studying part time.
#18
I think it is ridiculous to say that a child who is feeling the pressure of GCSEs will not be able to cope at uni. That doesn't take into account that they are going to mature over the years that come, and get much better at handling exam stress and work pressure. I thought uni was a doddle compared to school and college when I did my law degree.
Also, plenty of courses specify GCSE requirements as well as A level requirements - one of my kids is applying for a course which has requirements for both. It isn't just about the number of subjects passed at GCSE, it is about the subjects the passes are in. She needs 5 Bs at GCSE, including English Maths and Science, which is more than she needed to get into college.

My advice for revision stress would be to draw up a timetable for the days between now and the exams, so they can see the end is in sight and can see exactly what they have to do each day. Build regular breaks into it and insist they take them. Make sure they eat properly and sleep properly. Keep telling them they can do it, and have something good planned for when it is all over. And don't allow post mortem after the exam! Good luck :)
banned#19
Can someone tell me how old you are when you take GCSEs? If legal and above board I *am* available for hugs.

In all seriousness, just follow the school of vb1 - don't bother revising, go in stress free and fluke decent results you have no entitlement to.

Edited By: vibeone on May 04, 2011 17:52
banned#20
I thought it was impossible to fail a GCSE anyway? oO
banned#21
csiman
I thought it was impossible to fail a GCSE anyway? oO


Do you mean because U isn't a fail, or do you mean they're all stupidly easy? I think both are true.
1 Like #22
Help her with revision by breaking it up so it doesn't seem like she has a whole course to study! Speak to her teachers about specific study topics you can help her revise for. Explain to her that she has the chance to resit should she not gets the results she wants. Take pressure off by reassuring that you will be happy with whatever grade she receives as long as she has tried her best.
banned#23
What's a DD?

As an aside, heard on the radio this morning:

Kaye Adams - You're daughter's off to do her maths exam. Is she nervous?
Mother - No, she's actually quite confident.
Kaye Adams - Oh, is she particularly good at maths?
Mother - No, I think she's just deluding herself.
#24
Ask her why is she feeling stressed. Is it the load of work or she can't cope with the volume of the revision work. If yes, you can sit with her or arrange for some help (tutor may be) and work out a revision plan, set milestones and set some treat with a milestone. It could be the loneliness being stuck 24/7 indoors. Main reason of my stress during the exam days was being stuck indoors - all alone. My mum sat with me, doing her own stuff, while I studied and it helped a lot. Hope this helps, do ask her and act accordingly.

gbspurs comment is very good, very practical advice, specially the reassuring part. This reminds me of something which I read some time ago, might be worth reading.

Edited By: pied_piper on May 04, 2011 21:14
#25
dunfyboy
What's a DD?

a huge pair!
#26
Not the end of the world. i went in with barely any revision or pressure and ended up getting 7cs 1b.
banned#27
I have just started. Did my art last week, Maths yesterday and English on friday. On study leave so do a couple days of revision for each one and that's me. Can't wait until 3rd June when they are over though 8) Get my xbox back too :D

Why not give her something to look forward too? If i attend all my exams i get my 12 month xbox live and if i get good results il get something big. Hopefully a mo'bike or scooter :)
#28
vibeone
Can someone tell me how old you are when you take GCSEs? If legal and above board I *am* available for hugs.

In all seriousness, just follow the school of vb1 - don't bother revising, go in stress free and fluke decent results you have no entitlement to.

That is also the autolesbona school of thought
#29
Rupz
dunfyboy
What's a DD?

a huge pair!

But there can be no too huge
1 Like #30
autolesbona
Rupz
dunfyboy
What's a DD?

a huge pair!

But there can be no too huge

not massive but big enough to think phorrrrr!!!! :D
#31
Sometimes you have to stop wrapping kids in cotton wool & make them grow a backbone.
Things in life can be hard,but it's even harder if parents keep walking on egg shells around the kid/kids.
#32
When I was doing my GCSE's I did NO revision, in fact i've never revised in my life, whoops. I was only particularly worried about my biology exam. I was so worried in fact that the night before I was vomiting so violently that when I woke up in the morning I had a rash all over my face that looked similar to meningitus, therefore I had to go to the hospital and have tests done, in doing so missing my biology GCSE and being "given" a grade based on my past work in class.

Thank Christ because I would have failed science miserably otherwise. Yay for burst blood vessels!

My advice though in all seriousness is to not revise TOO much, or to take the revision else where, maybe sit in the garden or out at the park, for a change of scenery. Worrying about it will only make things 10X worse.

Good luck to her x

Edited By: RosieWoo on May 05, 2011 10:35
banned#33
RosieWoo
When I was doing my GCSE's I did NO revision, in fact i've never revised in my life, whoops. I was only particularly worried about my biology exam. I was so worried in fact that the night before I was vomiting so violently that when I woke up in the morning I had a rash all over my face that looked similar to meningitus, therefore I had to go to the hospital and have tests done, in doing so missing my biology GCSE and being "given" a grade based on my past work in class.

Thank Christ because I would have failed science miserably otherwise. Yay for burst blood vessels!

My advice though in all seriousness is to not revise TOO much, or to take the revision else where, maybe sit in the garden or out at the park, for a change of scenery. Worrying about it will only make things 10X worse.

Good luck to her x


Jammy sod
#34
csiman
I thought it was impossible to fail a GCSE anyway? oO


Me fail English? That's unpossible!
#35
No0b!$T
RosieWoo
When I was doing my GCSE's I did NO revision, in fact i've never revised in my life, whoops. I was only particularly worried about my biology exam. I was so worried in fact that the night before I was vomiting so violently that when I woke up in the morning I had a rash all over my face that looked similar to meningitus, therefore I had to go to the hospital and have tests done, in doing so missing my biology GCSE and being "given" a grade based on my past work in class.

Thank Christ because I would have failed science miserably otherwise. Yay for burst blood vessels!

My advice though in all seriousness is to not revise TOO much, or to take the revision else where, maybe sit in the garden or out at the park, for a change of scenery. Worrying about it will only make things 10X worse.

Good luck to her x


Jammy sod


Try it :D
banned#36
RosieWoo
No0b!$T
RosieWoo
When I was doing my GCSE's I did NO revision, in fact i've never revised in my life, whoops. I was only particularly worried about my biology exam. I was so worried in fact that the night before I was vomiting so violently that when I woke up in the morning I had a rash all over my face that looked similar to meningitus, therefore I had to go to the hospital and have tests done, in doing so missing my biology GCSE and being "given" a grade based on my past work in class.

Thank Christ because I would have failed science miserably otherwise. Yay for burst blood vessels!

My advice though in all seriousness is to not revise TOO much, or to take the revision else where, maybe sit in the garden or out at the park, for a change of scenery. Worrying about it will only make things 10X worse.

Good luck to her x


Jammy sod


Try it :D


I am, and if i fail you'll be receiving a strongly worded letter :p And what grade did you get? :)

Edited By: No0b!$T on May 05, 2011 12:48
#37
No0b!$T
RosieWoo
No0b!$T
RosieWoo
When I was doing my GCSE's I did NO revision, in fact i've never revised in my life, whoops. I was only particularly worried about my biology exam. I was so worried in fact that the night before I was vomiting so violently that when I woke up in the morning I had a rash all over my face that looked similar to meningitus, therefore I had to go to the hospital and have tests done, in doing so missing my biology GCSE and being "given" a grade based on my past work in class.

Thank Christ because I would have failed science miserably otherwise. Yay for burst blood vessels!

My advice though in all seriousness is to not revise TOO much, or to take the revision else where, maybe sit in the garden or out at the park, for a change of scenery. Worrying about it will only make things 10X worse.

Good luck to her x


Jammy sod


Try it :D


I am, and if i fail you'll be receiving a strongly worded letter :p And what grade did you get? :)


B overall for science :)

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