To cut a long story short I have never got on with my mother in law and we rarely speak because of it,she is a very demanding,opinionated woman who likes to tell people what to do.
I have been with my husband (her son) for 13 years now,married 9 and we have 2 girls,one is 11 and the other 4,I also have 2 older sons 14 & 16 from a previous relationship.
Hubby treats all the kids the same but his mother does not,she favours the girls as they are her sons,dont get me wrong she never misses the boys birthdays and if she has visitors she glams it up to them about her"grandchildren" but in all honesty its a show.
The girls on the other hand have always spent a wednesday at her house after school/playschool and then she has them overnight and takes them to school the following morning.
Back before the school holidays hubby and I told her that the youngest one would be going to a local village C of E school because the ofsted reports were glowing and its such a nice lil community school,she went off on one demanding that we send her to the school nearest her house (which is further away from me) and theres no point sending her to a C of E school when we as parents arent going to church every week etc etc,she also barked on about how there isnt any competition between the children in a smaller school.
She warned me that if we did put her into this school then she would not be having her on a wednesday anymore.
Now we are back from our holidays and the kids back at school true to her word she is refusing to have her but is having the 11 year old as her school is opposite the mother in laws house.
I had words with hubby over this lastnight as its not fair,the 11 year old has always been the 1st born favourite and my 4 year old was upset yesterday that nanny "didnt want her anymore"
I spoke to my 11 year old and asked her how she would feel if she were 4 and was in the little ones shoes but she just kicked off that I'm trying to stop her seeing her nan,this isnt the case at all but I do believe strongly in fairness,I have watched my lads being pushed out by her and I dont want to let her do that to the little one too.
Would you stop the 11 year old going? would you leave things as they are as its her thats missing out?
I have had so many rows with hubby over her its unreal,he is very supportive,knows what she is like but the bottom line is I feel she creates situations that make us argue
(sorry its a long one!)