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family trouble, what would you do?

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8y, 4m agoPosted 8 years, 4 months ago
Im feeling really peed off and upset at the moment with 2 things.

First of all it was my step-dads birthday yesterday, and my mam took him out for a meal, inviting his 3 kids and their girlfriends, but not me and my fiance and son, or my brotherI know im not his daughter, but i thought i would be invited as all his family came out for my mams birthday.

Second, which bugs me even more; My fiance has a son (lets call him Fred) from a previous relationship. His mam has 'Fred' every single week for his tea from school, and all day on a wednesday in school holidays, BUT never has our son (who we shall name Barney). She will come down to visit 'Barney' on a weekend, but her first question is "do you have 'Fred' this weekend" and if we say yes, she always asks to come down to visit. It peeves me right off she doesnt spend any time with 'Barney' but spends alot with 'Fred' taking him out for the day to softplay out out for his dinner.

My Fiance has mentioned this on more than one occasion but she never does anything about it after promising she will.

What would you do in these circumstances, as talking to her doesnt seem to help!!!!!
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8y, 4m agoPosted 8 years, 4 months ago
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#1
are you annoyed at your partners ex for not taking your own son out?
#2
:roll:what his mams name wilma or betty sorry couldent resist:oops:
#3
yimmie
are you annoyed at your partners ex for not taking your own son out?


No im annoyed at my partners mam for not taking our son out but having my partners other son ever week!
#4
nono2522
No im annoyed at my partners mam for not taking our son out but having my partners other son ever week!


Ooh I misread it then, just refuse her to see the boy for a month or so... :thumbsup: say the two boys would like to spend time together, or you would like to spend time with both boys, she might then offer to take 'barney' too. :)
#5
Parents Eh!! Grandparents always favour the first born grandchild she prob doesnt even realise she is doing it, poor 'Barney' is second best
#6
:?well the day thats she has his other son you should just put it to her straight she can take your son aswell as its not very fair if she dont agree wash your hands of her dont let her back over your front door thats what a would do :evil:
#7
..this used to be what my grandparents we're like wen i was little. They were alright with me, but used to even refuse to acknowledge my sister..just because she was from a previous relationship (if you get me).. its beyond me why they do it.

very harsh on the child in question.
#8
Have you tried letting her know your thoughts ? If not do so asap as she might not be aware that it is bothering you :)
banned#9
how old are fred and barney
#10
fre is 6 barney 3
banned#11
nono2522
fre is 6 barney 3


maybe she had a bond with fred from birth, maybe she feels she has to spend time with fred when she can due to him not being aorund 24-7, there may be many reasons and unless you talk to her then you will only ever be thinking of the reasons, ask her and you may find out them
#12
From experience, my mum has 9 grandchilden, there is 1 who is favoured. Can't say too much for fear of being 'caught out', but it causes resentment. Answer is always child 'x' has a hard life............ Yeah right!!!!

It is a mystery, there is no answer. Just make the most of the time you have with your children, and be sure never to do the same when you become a granny.

:-)
banned#13
its a real shame to see things like that as favouritism, we may all be family but doesnt mean we bond and have the same relationship with each member
#14
sassie
its a real shame to see things like that as favouritism, we may all be family but doesnt mean we bond and have the same relationship with each member


We are a close family, and I thought our family was unique in the one child who is lucky enough to get annual holidays with granny and every weekend sleepovers. Treats out for dinner etc. The list goes on, we feel 8 children in the family are unfortunate not to have the opportunity to spend the quality time with their granny. It is favouritism, this child is not the eldest or the only child from one of my siblings. Even her own brother and sister miss out. They notice, and I will not behave in that way when I become a granny. My children have a very close relationship with my mum, but because they do not ask to be taken out they get overlooked.

Equal opportunities for all :thumbsup:

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