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8y, 3m agoPosted 8 years, 3 months ago
went out and left my 2 lads at home,one 16 and one 14,14 year old went out to play footy,16 year old stayed in,got home earlier than expected,he obviously didnt hear me come through the door and i found him with the home phone in his room in the middle of a conversation,snatched the phone off him and turns out he has been on the phone to his mates mobile for an hour and 2 minutes!!

I am ruddy fuming to say the least,am i mean or would you make him pay for the call? I'm waiting for an itemised breakdown and have spoken to virgin and had all calls barred for the time being.
I dont think this is the first time either as last months phone bill alone was £70+ but I didnt think to check it closely

I think he should pay and hopefully learn a lesson,he has a mobile and i have never allowed him to use the landline without asking first,he has a saturday job (works approx 1 and a half hours) and earns £25+ what would you do?,my mate thinks I'm mean making him pay for the call/s but I think it would teach him a lesson
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8y, 3m agoPosted 8 years, 3 months ago
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banned#1
There are far worse things you could of caught him doing.....



Make him pay, whether with money or chores etc up to you but teach him a lesson
#2
I'd make him pay, hopefully it will make him think in the future.
banned#3
if your son is aware of the fact you dont allow him to use the phone in tis manner then he should pay for the calls
#4
make the little sod pay, and if he doesnt when he tops up his mobile, (if its a pay as you go) use all his credit up!
[mod]#5
He's 16 now..........time to learn some responsability. Make him pay. :thumbsup:
#6
I had the same incident with my eldest, I cant remember the exact figure but it was a significant amount, he too had a part time job and YES we made him pay for the call. he learn his lesson and it never happened again.
They have to take responsibility for their actions, Im with you all the way hun!
banned#7
make him pay!! my parents always made us pay when we did stupid things like that - my sister got billed £45 by my parents one time!!
#8
its that horrible age,he thinks we are awful parents cos we wont buy him booze likes his mates mums n dads do and we wont allow him to wander the streets and now he is calling me tight cos i wont let him use the phone,give an inch they seem to take a mile
#9
make him pay half cash and half in chores,- hit him in the pocket- it will hurt the most! But by making him payback in chores you aint being too cruel ( I reckon anyway!) Teenage boys haven't got a brain when it comes to other peoples cash , but they mind BIG TIME when its their own:-D Good luck:thumbsup:
#10
nono2522
make the little sod pay, and if he doesnt when he tops up his mobile, (if its a pay as you go) use all his credit up!
oh now he wouldnt like that lol
#11
Just get a pin number put on the landline - it wont allow any outgoing calls without it except emergency calls
[mod]#12
Mardyass;2869905
its that horrible age,he thinks we are awful parents cos we wont buy him booze likes his mates mums n dads do and we wont allow him to wander the streets and now he is calling me tight cos i wont let him use the phone,give an inch they seem to take a mile



I have to say............his mates mum and dads are morons and idiots. :thumbsup:
#13
Mardyass
its that horrible age,he thinks we are awful parents cos we wont buy him booze likes his mates mums n dads do and we wont allow him to wander the streets and now he is calling me tight cos i wont let him use the phone,give an inch they seem to take a mile


stick with it hun, my eldest is now 19 and has his own place. Last time we went out, just the two of us, he told me how much he appreciated the way we bought him up and how it has made him a better person today.........its so rewarding to hear that from him as he was always moaning about how strict we were with him compared to his mates parents. :-D
banned#14
Mardyass
its that horrible age,he thinks we are awful parents cos we wont buy him booze likes his mates mums n dads do and we wont allow him to wander the streets and now he is calling me tight cos i wont let him use the phone,give an inch they seem to take a mile


One day he will have his own children, sadly with some kids it takes that to happen before they realise what a good parent is ;-)
#15
ChrisUK
Just get a pin number put on the landline - it wont allow any outgoing calls without it except emergency calls
thats what ive done,they said it will take 24 hours to activate tho,then its emergency calls only unless you know the pin code
#16
You can work out what it should cost from their prices here:
http://allyours.virginmedia.com/pdf/uk_non-geographical_calls_a.pdf?jun08

For most networks its 15p per minute but to 3 it seems it is 27p per minute (plus vat) so it will either have cost just under £11 or almost £20 - definitely make him pay!!!
#17
were off on holiday next week and because of his age he had to go as an "adult" ........oh thought he marvellous......he now reckons that as he is classed as an "adult" he can use the all inclusive to his advantage and drink as much alcohol as he wants,over my dead body,I've already peed on his fireworks and told him I will make sure the hotel give him a CHILDS wristband lolol
#18
jah128
You can work out what it should cost from their prices here:
http://allyours.virginmedia.com/pdf/uk_non-geographical_calls_a.pdf?jun08

For most networks its 15p per minute but to 3 it seems it is 27p per minute (plus vat) so it will either have cost just under £11 or almost £20 - definitely make him pay!!!
Thanks so much for that :)
#19
I would say he has to learn the cost of things, so make him pay. But you could do yourself a favour and start making a log book of all the additional or excessive costs he's put you to and present him with it at Christmas or his Birthday. Makes me think of that song, going way back, when a Mother writes to her son and says something along the lines of ... sorry had to google ...
Now our little boy came up to his mom
In the kitchen this evenin' while she was fixin' supper
And he handed her a piece of paper he'd been writin' on
And after wipin' her hands on her apron
She read it, and this is what it said.

For mowin' the lawn, five dollars
For makin' my own bed this week, one dollar
And for goin' to the store, fifty cents
An' playin' with little brother while you went shoppin', twenty-five cents.

Takin' out the trash, one dollar
Gettin' a good report card, five dollars
And for rakin' the yard, two dollars
Total owed, fourteen seventy-five.

Well, as mom looked at him standin' there expectantly
And I could see the mem'ries flashing through her mind
And so she picked up the pen, and turnin' the paper over
This is what she wrote.

For the nine months I carried you growin' inside me, no charge
For the nights I've sat up with you
Doctored you, and prayed for you, no charge
For the time and the tears
That you've cost through the years, there's no charge
And when you add it all up
The full cost of my love is no charge.

For the nights filled with dread
And all the worries ahead, no charge
For advice and the knowledge
And the cost of your college, no charge
For the toys, food and clothes and even for wipin' your nose
There's no charge, son
And when you add it all up
The full cost of my love is, no charge.

Well, when he finished readin'
He had great big old tears in his eyes
And he looked up at her standing there and said
Mama, I sure do love you
Then he took the pen,
And in great big letters
He wrote PAID IN FULL.

Lord knows when you add it all up
The cost of real love is, no charge...
#20
definity pay for all his socails calls.

my parents were overjoyed when bt introduced itemised billing. i could go on the phone for as long as i wanted so long as i paid.

your lad has to learn the value of money.
#21
Syzable
I have to say............his mates mum and dads are morons and idiots. :thumbsup:


thats a pretty moronic statement in itself.
#22
Mardyass
Thanks so much for that :)


You sound like a sensible parent, pity there are not more like you.:thumbsup:
#23
ODB_69
There are far worse things you could of caught him doing.....



Make him pay, whether with money or chores etc up to you but teach him a lesson


Def make him pay!

but much like ODB said, at that age I was doing much worse and my parents were just glad it wasnt a 097 number, or whatever they are these days.

( I always paid the price, in more ways than one on the odd occasion.)

But you need to learn responsibility so it should be taught and encouraged.
#24
hey they need to learn, i am making my little lad pay for his own toothbrush cause he thought it was funny to chew it, he is not quite yet five but its never too early for them to learn about looking after your money
#25
I agree, make him pay because he wouldn't have done it if you had been at home. At that age some teens can just take everything for granted. They don't realise the true cost of everything that parents provide.

(BTW where is he working at £25 for 90 minutes?! You might want to ask him for £5 digs money each week. Some parents do that and save it up to give back at holiday time/Christmas etc)
#26
cannyscot
I agree, make him pay because he wouldn't have done it if you had been at home. At that age some teens can just take everything for granted. They don't realise the true cost of everything that parents provide.

(BTW where is he working at £25 for 90 minutes?! You might want to ask him for £5 digs money each week. Some parents do that and save it up to give back at holiday time/Christmas etc)


The digs idea is genius, making him pay for his own hol/christmas. I would still get him to pay the phone bill as well though. I worked since 14 moved out at 17. you need to pay your way. You're helping him. I know so many spoilt folk that dont have a clue about the value of money.
#27
Syzable
I have to say............his mates mum and dads are morons and idiots. :thumbsup:


If drinking is seen as a 'big thing' to someone that age, they will want to do it more. It's always the same.
#28
why let him get away with simply paying you ... introduce his rear end to a cane ... thatll teach him a lesson.
#29
:thinking: Never known a male species to talk for that long on a phone....thought it was just females.

I can talk for hours, not to mobiles though
#30
cannyscot
I agree, make him pay because he wouldn't have done it if you had been at home. At that age some teens can just take everything for granted. They don't realise the true cost of everything that parents provide.

(BTW where is he working at £25 for 90 minutes?! You might want to ask him for £5 digs money each week. Some parents do that and save it up to give back at holiday time/Christmas etc)
his football coach owns a business and he works for him on a saturday morning,its a parcel company and all he has to do is load packages into the correct trolleys for their postcode area,think I need a job there too lol sometimes he only spends 30 mins sorting the parcels and he still gets paid £25
#31
He obviously knows what he has done was sneaky beaky - which is why he wiated for you to be out before makinbg the calls - check your previous bill - it could be that he made calls before and because nothing was said expected the same result again - if he made calls on that occasion you have already paid for the calls so on this new occurance make him pay for his calls - He wont like it and will show it verbally and behaviourally but it will or should stop the problem from recurring - though from the sound of things you have a bigger problem with him than unauthorised phone calls.
#32
i'd make him pay if it were my sons. and if you do get a pin on your phone, make sure if you dial any number after putting it in as my mum used to have a pin on her phone and she had a phone that displayed the numbers on the screen and i pressed redial and found the pin out. (the things you do when you're young lol)
#33
MAKE HIM PAY!!!!

He might not like it now, but in the future he will thank you! When starts work etc... he will know discipline and it will help him immensely.
#34
remember running up my mums phone bill £180 many many years ago
she made me pay £150 and still takes great pleasure in reminding me about when i moan
about my daughter using the phone.make him pay
#35
yup pretty unanamous about making him pay lol

Mum always made us pay our phone bills. Used to dread the postman comng whne I know it was phone bill time

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