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Smaybelline Avatar
6y, 5m agoPosted 6 years, 5 months ago
Fuming! Ok so i have my nephews birthday and we are going away next week so i have ordered a lot of things online as i simply dont have the time to go shopping during the week. So i have a lot parcels due for delivery. I have been putting a note on the door every day to ask all couriers/royal mail that if there is no answer please leave the parcels with a neighbour and please dont take the parcels back to the depot.



So one morning last week one of the neighbours came out and said she had some parcels for me - I was thrilled that some had come and then she literally threw them at me! She complained that she is sick of me leaving notes saying "leave with neighbour". I said i would now leave a note saying " please leave with neighbour - not number 53"



Sorted - or so i thought! So this morning i put a note on again saying "not number 53" and then my fella gets home from the night shift this morning and there is a card behind the door from city link saying "number 53 refused" First of all why the hell did he attempt no 53 when i said in the note not too... and then why refuse it ?!!? Yeah it annoys her taking in our parcels, its not all the time just this week i have a had a few. I thought it was the neighbourly thing to do - Take parcels in for each other.



It really annoyed my fella when he had to get up after working a night shift to collect her Avon boxes - But he never complained, he just took them round - Its what neighbours do!



The city link depot is no where near us and we have no time to collect until weekend - When they are closed! Im fuming with the driver for not trying any other neighbours and fuming with her for refusing it!



What happened to lovely neighbours, why is everyone so grumpy and spiteful these days!! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr


Rant over!
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6y, 5m agoPosted 6 years, 5 months ago
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#1
To be fair, I wouldn't ask a courier to leave stuff for my neighbours without actually asking the neighbour first!

As far as everyone being grumpy and spiteful these days, well I guess it's just the world we live in. I've been staying down in Bognor for the last couple of weeks and I still can't get used to people I walk past on the street saying "Good morning" to me!! I tend to respond, but walk away feeling very weirded out. If you said that to someone back home in Croydon, they'd probably stab you.
#2
its just the done thing - People take parcels in for each other.... No ?
#3
We always have since we moved in - We have took parcels in for others and they have took in for us.
#4
If they had to do it on a frequent basis I would a) check with them it was ok and b) get them a little something as a thank you.

Perhaps they are on nights and you are waking them up?
banned#5
how do you know he didnt try other neighbours and then tried 53 as a last resort hence the message?

tbh, I'd be hacked off taking in other people's mail on a daily basis.

A lot of couriers require a signature from the buyer too.
suspended#6
cookiemonster83
To be fair, I wouldn't ask a courier to leave stuff for my neighbours without actually asking the neighbour first!

I agree i would expect them to accept the package if the courier decided him/her self to try and leave it with them but would not leave a note saying leave it with them if i had not asked first.
banned#7
maybe try ordering stuff for delivery when you might actually be in?
#8
I blame this site for the amount of parcels people are having delivered - deals too good to miss sometimes - I agree with you that some people are grumpy so and so's!
Maybe you could move to a Hotukdeals street where everybody is ordering!!
#9
I always refuse my neighbours parcels and i tell them not to call at mine again.

My neighbour is a busy body..really cant stand the old bag , has nothing better to do then watch me out of her window , cant even go in my garden without her bogging.

Every place ive moved to i avoid neighbours like the plague as they always get to nosey and cheeky... i wish some neighbours would leave me alone!


Its always women, never have problems with guys its the women what nose and poke the nose in when its not wanted....heard my neighbour even say how does he afford it all , grrrr
banned#10
Meh,

I don't think anyone would have a problem taking parcels here. In fact everyone does it, sometimes its an effort finding out who actually took it.

Summary: Your neighbour is a ****
#11
vibeone
Meh,I don't think anyone would have a problem taking parcels here. In fact everyone does it, sometimes its an effort finding out who actually took it.Summary: Your neighbour is a ****

I wouldnt have a problem with taking in nice neighbours parcels but its just a shame i always end up with bad ones :(
#12
But its not all the time - this is the only time i have ever put a note on asking to leave with neighbours.



I clearly stated "not 53" to avoid annoying her or having to deal with her grump complaints again!



But since we moved in we have always taken in parcels for the other side and they have for us - And we have always taken in parcels for her and she knows it so i dont get why its annoyed her so much.



Maybe its just me and my values - I would never complain and i would always accept the parcels (as i have done loads!) - Thats just what good neighbours do.



And if i was a courier driver and it said "not no 53" and yes ive tried all but everyone else was out then i would not go to 53 - Even if that was the last resort there is obvisouly a reason that i have put that on the note!



Anyway they are going to try and come back with it today - as its his fault for taking it to 53 - he did not attempt anyone else! But it will be the same thing, my fiance will be asleep and wont hear it!
1 Like #13
im afraid this is how england or the uk has progressed through the years

everyone looks after theirselves these days here.

after living in a country for several years where it is quite normal and acceptable to talk to the person standing in the queue next to you...... this country now feels too "foreign" for my liking and does not feel like home
#14
casparwhite
im afraid this is how england or the uk has progressed through the yearseveryone looks after theirselves these days here.after living in a country for several years where it is quite normal and acceptable to talk to the person standing in the queue next to you...... this country now feels too "foreign" for my liking and does not feel like home

I agree , after spending quite sometime in the US i was amazed at how friendly everyone was , even in the shops...here on the tills they act like its a big deal and most are grumpy..was even given a lift of a nice lady as i got lost , wouldnt happen in the UK

I treat others how they treat me.... just a shame morals have gone down the pan some what in the UK, nos its too much of a selfish society we live in.
banned#15
So your fiance is in bed?
TBH I can see why your neighbour thinks you are taking the p.
I've always taken neighbours parcels in and they have for me, but if I was expecting a lot in a short space of time, surely it's only courtesy to mention it to them in advance, especially if you have someone in at your house?

I think if someone had posted a thread saying

My Neighbours taking the ****
Everytime I sit down for a mean/feed the baby/sunbathe I get a bloody courier knocking on the door with a parcel for next door, which wouldn't be too bad except her boyfriends in bed! Then I find out she's put a note on the door asking them to deliver here.


I think the reactions on the thread would be slightly different!
#16
next time give the birthday money to your nephew.........
#17
My neighbours takes parcels in for me no problem - and I always hand in a tin of biscuits or Rose/Quality Street at christmas time just to say thanks (and in case she starts getting hacked off eventually!).
#18
colinsunderland
So your fiance is in bed?TBH I can see why your neighbour thinks you are taking the p. I've always taken neighbours parcels in and they have for me, but if I was expecting a lot in a short space of time, surely it's only courtesy to mention it to them in advance, especially if you have someone in at your house?I think if someone had posted a thread sayingMy Neighbours taking the ****Everytime I sit down for a mean/feed the baby/sunbathe I get a bloody courier knocking on the door with a parcel for next door, which wouldn't be too bad except her boyfriends in bed! Then I find out she's put a note on the door asking them to deliver here.I think the reactions on the thread would be slightly different!

How rude are you? He finishes work and gets home - Hes not in bed because hes a lazy guy or had too much to drink he is in bed because he works nights so day time is his sleep time! He sleeps like a log and cant hear the door - There are many people like that, so instead of taking the parcel back to the depot i just asked politely if it could be left with a neighbour.

This neighbour seems to forget about all the times we have took in parcels for her - So she should therefore return the favour - But no shes a cranky grumpy woman! Im not a nasty neighbour we are always pleasant but she has a face like thunder all the time - I thought i was solving the problem by puttin her number on my door saying dont deliver but obvisouly not

And yes i agree - Everyone seems to be out for themselves these days, she seems pretty selfish to me though its ok for us to take in her parcels but when its the other way round?!?!
#19
next time a parcel is delivered to yours for her just tell the courier "she has asked me to tell you to return it to sender".........

job done
#20
Here City Link won't leave it anywhere else,i know i've left notes before asking to leave with the neighbours and they don't they leave a card saying they will call next day and if still no joy you have to re-arrange re-delivery with them as you need to sign for it.

Can't you arrange for it to be re-delivered,rather than collect yourself.

Perhaps the driver mis-read the note and thought it said leave at 53 !
#21
Smaybelline
colinsunderland
So your fiance is in bed?TBH I can see why your neighbour thinks you are taking the p. I've always taken neighbours parcels in and they have for me, but if I was expecting a lot in a short space of time, surely it's only courtesy to mention it to them in advance, especially if you have someone in at your house?I think if someone had posted a thread sayingMy Neighbours taking the ****Everytime I sit down for a mean/feed the baby/sunbathe I get a bloody courier knocking on the door with a parcel for next door, which wouldn't be too bad except her boyfriends in bed! Then I find out she's put a note on the door asking them to deliver here.I think the reactions on the thread would be slightly different!


How rude are you? He finishes work and gets home - Hes not in bed because hes a lazy guy or had too much to drink he is in bed because he works nights so day time is his sleep time! He sleeps like a log and cant hear the door - There are many people like that, so instead of taking the parcel back to the depot i just asked politely if it could be left with a neighbour.


There have been times when I knew I would be asleep when a courier was going to deliver a parcel and I put a big piece of paper in the window with big writing saying 'Dear DHL, If no answer, please can you call 0777xxxxxx as I am inside, but I may not hear knocking on the door as I've been sick/doing nights, thank you'. On the times I haven't woken up to the knocking I have had a call. Maybe this could be a solution.
And you never know, your neighbour may be having a rough time at the moment, she may be poorly and need her rest, have a bad leg so it hurts to get up, be mourning the death of her cat, anything really. If I was you I'd go round with some choccies or something, say thanks for collecting the parcels earlier in the week, sorry for the bother and if she is ok and if thing are going well ask and friendly then maybe her why she doesn't want to get them for you.
banned#22
cookiemonster83
To be fair, I wouldn't ask a courier to leave stuff for my neighbours without actually asking the neighbour first!As far as everyone being grumpy and spiteful these days, well I guess it's just the world we live in. I've been staying down in Bognor for the last couple of weeks and I still can't get used to people I walk past on the street saying "Good morning" to me!! I tend to respond, but walk away feeling very weirded out. If you said that to someone back home in Croydon, they'd probably stab you.

croydon,try that up here in glasgow,first thing they would say is "talking aboot" then stab you rob you and then stab you some more for the hell of it :)
#23
I have to agree with sickly sweet on this one.
Have you considered why the neighbour doesn't want to be disturbed? Having a husband who works nights I would have thought you would be more considerate.
You say it's not fair for your husband to have to answer his own door because he works nights but don't consider that perhaps the neighbour has a reason for staying in bed?

As someone who works late evenings I often sleep in and get very annoyed when the postman wakes me up only to discover he has a parcel for someone else, sadly unlike your husband the slightest noise wakes me up, luckily my disabled wife is a deep sleeper as she too will often still be asleep at the times parcels are delivered and she would not pyshcially be able to get to the door in time before the postie had cleared off.

I don't mind getting up to recieve my own parcels, and in fact if I am expecting one urgently I will leave all the doors in the house open so I can specifically hear the doorbell.
#24
I remember when I lived in a house 2 years ago and courier always left with neighbour even if I didnt ask and used to get this person give me "daggers" and act grumpy hand it to me, the first 2 times I thought it was the courier till I realised they were a neighbour.

Not my fault that the courier delivered to a neighbour
#25
Our postie is vey friendly and she now just leaves any parcels i have in our garage, with a note through the door to say she's been..sorted
#26
RFC
then stab you rob you and then stab you some more for the hell of it :)


lol, that made me think of this clip: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mkObnAlG124:D
1 Like #27
Smaybelline, you're being an ****.

Good neighbours are neighbours who'll do each other a favour, yeah. Thing is, a favour is something setup by saying, "Hey neighbour, is it okay if...", which is a question that offers a neighbour the chance to volunteer themselves to help you out. Getting them to volunteer to do you a favour is the point here, because when you just assume that they've got nothing better to do than take a load of your parcels in, it's really presumptuous and rude. It's really **** of you.

You should drop a card and a box of chocolates through their letterbox to apologise and as a thank-you for their time. Try and be a bit more considerate in future.
banned#28
By constantly asking your neighbours to take in your parcels it sounds like your the one being selfish, why not get your OH to pick up from the depot
banned#29
whatsThePoint
By constantly asking your neighbours to take in your parcels it sounds like your the one being selfish, why not get your OH to pick up from the depot

why dont you stfu,do you every stop trolling,seriously check your recent history........every thread moan moan moan.......jeeeeez.
#30
No time to collect from the depot but plenty of time to whinge and moan on here. Your OH works a night shift so has plenty of time to drive there and collect for you.
#31
i cant see what the problem is tbh, if im at home and a neighbour isnt and a parcel comes for them,then it doesnt take much of an effort to open front door, take parcel ,leave parcel in hallway, wait for neighbour to knock for parcel, hand over parcel, say goodbye, shut front door !! simples , imo
#32
your in the wrong here OP

u may think every neighbour takes peoples parcels out of courtesy but have u ever thought that they just dont want to keep getting your parcels?

did u ask beforehand?
#33
i cant see what the problem is tbh, if im at home and a neighbour isnt and a parcel comes for them,then it doesnt take much of an effort to open front door, take parcel ,leave parcel in hallway, wait for neighbour to knock for parcel, hand over parcel, say goodbye, shut front door !! simples , imo


What if that parcel was delivered at 4am? Would that still be fine? Because for some of us 4am is fine but 8am I would be asleep (which is when our postie comes) so not very appreciative of people sending there parcels round to me!

Different people work and sleep different times so just because it's ok for you doesn't mean it is for someone else.
1 Like #34
Love how people somehow think there us some kind if moral code for bringing in neighbours parcels when clearly there isn't. I would take a neighbours package only if they are genuinely nice neighbours - for example, the neighbours to the right of us are lovely, very kind and always say hi in a morning if we see them, however the neighbours to the left of us are Hitlers spawn.
#35
Three options for future parcels;
1. Deliver parcel to your workplace.
2. Deliver parcel to your local pub (clear with landlord first) making sure you stay for a drink when you pick the parcel up.
3. Deliver parcel to friends/family address. (This is what i do)
#36
Satan_Claws
i cant see what the problem is tbh, if im at home and a neighbour isnt and a parcel comes for them,then it doesnt take much of an effort to open front door, take parcel ,leave parcel in hallway, wait for neighbour to knock for parcel, hand over parcel, say goodbye, shut front door !! simples , imo
What if that parcel was delivered at 4am? Would that still be fine? Because for some of us 4am is fine but 8am I would be asleep (which is when our postie comes) so not very appreciative of people sending there parcels round to me!Different people work and sleep different times so just because it's ok for you doesn't mean it is for someone else.


yeh fair enough , but im just talking in general tbh , not going into times etc , besides by the sounds of it its been city link not postie with parcels and im guessing they have been delivered at a reasonable time during the day !!! i was only saying that if i am in and i am not in bed then i have no qualms in taking a parcel in , thats all , but like you have said we all have different circumstances/lifestyles/sleep patterns !
#37
pmsl this place never changes...

OP it was wrong of you to assume it was ok for your neighbour to take in the parcels....i used to work nights when i also bought and sold on ebay and i never missed a parcel....if i did and had to collect idid so on the way home or to work

mind i always take in stuff for a lot of our neighbours as im not working now, and the rest of the block dont im the designated drop off point...only for the nice neighbours thou....
#38
I am a postie (Royal Mail) and we are not supposed to leave parcels, even with neighbours without a prior agreement with the addressee. Your note would give me permission to leave at a neighbour (If Possible) but obviously having read your note i wouldnt have gone to 53. You must have a sadistic postie. If i was posting regularly to your neighbour i am sure she would have voiced her displeasure to me and i would have looked elsewhere.

If your parcels dont require a signature, perhaps you could offer the postie an alternative drop point ie a shed, greenhouse, those large plastic stores, something you would feel was secure.

Another option is to phone your local office and arrange something suitable for you, perhaps a specific day for redelivery.

On a side note, a colleague of mine almost lost their job recently for leaving parcels with a neighbour who subsequently complained for having to take in parcels all the time. He's now on a "final warning" and thats not a nice thought to be in your head everyday you start work.
1 Like #39
Wow - Lot of negative comments!

Whoever said - no time to collect parcels but time to whinge on here & why dont you order things when you know you will be in well - I leave the house at 8am and im back at 10pm, i work 2 jobs. My fiance works nights and takes his little boy to school, he goes to bed when he gets in at 10ish and he gets up at half 2 to go and get his son from school - You tell me when i could be in for the parcel? Im on here while im at work (ssshhh)

There would have been no issue if the coureir had tried another house, there are a lot to choose from - But no he picked the one i said not to! He did not attempt any other as i have rung and spoken to the depot. He is redelivering it tmw.

As for the chocolates and a thankyou note - Thanks for wht? She never did that for us when we took in her parcels all over xmas and her constant avon orders - That is what is making me annoyed, that we do it all the time for her and she refused mine! And its not all the time it was 3 little parcels on the same day last week and 1 today that she refused!!

I would always take parcels in for others, we have all done it on our close since i moved in - Its just what people do - Or so i thought, most of you here are being very negative and assuming things about me and my fiances lifestyle. We are always so friendly and always acknowledge and smile and do xmas cards. Well what goes around comes around, im going to carry on being friendly and taking parcels in for others and carry on being what i think is a good neighbour and she can carry on being a grumpy bitch.
1 Like #40
Smaybelline
Wow - Lot of negative comments! Whoever said - no time to collect parcels but time to whinge on here & why dont you order things when you know you will be in well - I leave the house at 8am and im back at 10pm, i work 2 jobs. My fiance works nights and takes his little boy to school, he goes to bed when he gets in at 10ish and he gets up at half 2 to go and get his son from school - You tell me when i could be in for the parcel? Im on here while im at work (ssshhh) There would have been no issue if the coureir had tried another house, there are a lot to choose from - But no he picked the one i said not to! He did not attempt any other as i have rung and spoken to the depot. He is redelivering it tmw.As for the chocolates and a thankyou note - Thanks for wht? She never did that for us when we took in her parcels all over xmas and her constant avon orders - That is what is making me annoyed, that we do it all the time for her and she refused mine! And its not all the time it was 3 little parcels on the same day last week and 1 today that she refused!! I would always take parcels in for others, we have all done it on our close since i moved in - Its just what people do - Or so i thought, most of you here are being very negative and assuming things about me and my fiances lifestyle. We are always so friendly and always acknowledge and smile and do xmas cards. Well what goes around comes around, im going to carry on being friendly and taking parcels in for others and carry on being what i think is a good neighbour and she can carry on being a grumpy bitch.

clap clap clap , WELL SAID X

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