Home or Away! Getting married! the pros and cons! - HotUKDeals
We use cookie files to improve site functionality and personalisation. By continuing to use HUKD, you accept our cookie and privacy policy.
Get the HUKD app free at Google Play

Search Error

An error occurred when searching, please try again!

Login / Sign UpSubmit

Home or Away! Getting married! the pros and cons!

tovi Avatar
7y, 11m agoPosted 7 years, 11 months ago
Please can you share your experiences with me? My OH and I cant decide whether we want to get married in this country or another!
It be done on the smallest budget possible! But still want it to be the best day of our new lives together!
Although we dont plan to do it till 2011, your ideas and opinions would be greatly appreciated. And where did you "do it"

Just looking at the cost of doing it in this country seems sooooo expensive, and inviting the family, i would not know when to stop!!! There is so many of them!
In another country as long as our parents and close friends are there, it kind of seems a bit easier somehow! Dunno if this is true!
I live in the north east... anyone had any good experiences of venues here?

Terri
Tags:
tovi Avatar
7y, 11m agoPosted 7 years, 11 months ago
Options

All Comments

(43) Jump to unreadPost a comment
Comments/page:
Page:
#1
well the cheapest option will be in this country?

Pros for home -

More friends and family

Pros for away

Likely better weather
#2
Get married at gretna green. In this country and cheap. Still has nice places to choose from too.
#3
We did it in the Dominican Republic, my mum and outlaws came with us but paid their own way. We had a dance when we came back. It was alot cheaper and easier to organise rather than a wasteful big wedding back here.
#4
vengod
well the cheapest option will be in this country?

Pros for home -

More friends and family

Pros for away

Likely better weather


Ahh but more friends and family = more expensive! We went to Gibraltar and had 10 people there, was sub-£5000 i think...
#5
Actually i have just received the gretna brochure today!! And it looks very nice!
#6
Our Daughter got married in this country and to be honest it was the best choice.
1 Friends and family can come and you don't get that " Really that's nice but who is going to be there, i can't afford it"
2 It's a lot easier to solve problems at the last moment
3 :santa::gift::stocking:
#7
Pavers
We did it in the Dominican Republic, my mum and outlaws came with us but paid their own way. We had a dance when we came back. It was alot cheaper and easier to organise rather than a wasteful big wedding back here.

Th dominican looks very nice... but i hear so many bad stories... did everything go ok for you?
#8
IndianaBlues
Ahh but more friends and family = more expensive! We went to Gibraltar and had 10 people there, was sub-£5000 i think...

Did the 10 people pay for themselves?
Did everything go smoothly?
#9
Pros for abroad -
1 - almost guaranteed good weather
2 - You don't have to invite all the people in your family you don't really like (we've all got some!)
#10
mikebike
Our Daughter got married in this country and to be honest it was the best choice.
1 Friends and family can come and you don't get that " Really that's nice but who is going to be there, i can't afford it"
2 It's a lot easier to solve problems at the last moment
3 :santa::gift::stocking:


Yes presents!!
The option if we did it abroad was to have a party when we got back!!!
#11
i did the whole gretna green thing, it was a wonderfull day and very casual, you can make it as dear or as cheap as you want. had a nice meal in the hotel afterwards for parents and the witnesses and had a party a week after for family and friends, would recomend to anyone
#12
teambintip
Pros for abroad -
1 - almost guaranteed good weather
2 - You don't have to invite all the people in your family you don't really like (we've all got some!)


Oh yes!!
#13
We got married in St Lucia.

We could either afford a wedding in this country & no honeymoon or to get married abroad. We decided to go for abroad!

We told our families after we had booked it that we were getting married & they could come if they wanted to!! My mum & step-dad & my in-laws came.

It was a beautiful location and really relaxed and laid back. We got married in a gazebo on a cliff-top with the hills & sea in the background. It looked lovely in the photos. Then we went onto the beach for more photos.

Another alternative would be to go somewhere else in this country to get married. I know that you can get married in Cornwall for example & there are lots of lovely, magical places there.

I hope this helped. PLease feel free to ask anything else you may want to know as I will do the best I can to answer.

Good Luck x
#14
I'm getting married July 2010....proposed back in October.

We had conversations about going abroad or at home and more or less decided that one of the most important things about the day is having our closest family members with us, ie moms, das, grans, grandads, auntie and uncled and if we decided to get married abroad not all our closest family would attend, ie with grandparents in their 80's etc....

Also, we have been to the caribbean several times, cuba, dom rep etc and have seen lots of weddings and it just doesnt do it for us.
Walking past the swimming pool, people half naked watching you, not always guarenteed the good weather etc etc......then the opposite being too hot dressed up ...lots to think about.

Good luck :thumbsup:
#15
me and the OH are currently planning our wedding. We've decided to get married next year in new york. there are plenty of places where we can have a small ceremony, the best most popular seem to be in central park in a private garden/ on a bridge in the park (my favourite idea) or on the brooklyn bridge, or grand central station etc etc

the hardest part is trying to find a date when both sets of parents can go with us!

so, our plan is to spend a week in new york and get married, then come back, have a party for friends and family and then jet off somewhere like the maldives a few weeks later.....

i'm looking forward to it
#16
Get married here. You will get more pressies and gifts that way.

If you get married here you will have more guests, therefore more money and presents. Invite enough people and the wedding could pay for itself.
#17
Im getting married in May, we got family in France so could have opted for the abroad wedding. We decided to get married local but not doing it OTT. Im not inviting people i dont want too. Its our special day and want to share it with people we want too.Not because its tradition or routine.
#18
We got married here last year, just a small registry office wedding, just close family and friends, then after at a local pub.........which didnt cost anything!
Family and friends helped by paying for different bits of the wedding to help us do it cheaply but get what we wanted. A couple of peple put together and hepled us get a plain M&S 2 tier wedding cake.........which we added some small sugar roses to and it looked fab!
Others put towards a small buffet, and people brought their own drinks at the bar.
We had such a lovely day and managed to do it very cheap and get a lovely honeymoon.........which while we were there we saw many weddings ..........all with just a handful of family and we felt we definately did the right thing having ours at home with as many people as we wanted.
Having the important people you love around you is a very important thing on the best day of your lives!!!!
Let me know if you want any help.......I loved planning my wedding, especially getting lots of bargains.
Our best being the little bridesmaid dreses in the wedding section of BHS in the sale for £8 each! People thought we had had them specially made!
#19
neilb1977
me and the OH are currently planning our wedding. We've decided to get married next year in new york. there are plenty of places where we can have a small ceremony, the best most popular seem to be in central park in a private garden/ on a bridge in the park (my favourite idea) or on the brooklyn bridge, or grand central station etc etc

the hardest part is trying to find a date when both sets of parents can go with us!

so, our plan is to spend a week in new york and get married, then come back, have a party for friends and family and then jet off somewhere like the maldives a few weeks later.....

i'm looking forward to it


wow new york... never thought about that, is there any companies or brochures you have been looking at?
#20
IndianaBlues
Ahh but more friends and family = more expensive! We went to Gibraltar and had 10 people there, was sub-£5000 i think...


We also did it in Gibraltar. On St George's Day no less :w00t:

We flew to Malaga, taxi to Gib, married and stayed in Rock Hotel(Fabulous by the way) and flew back 1 week later. All for under a grand.
#21
my friend got married in cyprus cost near enough 10 grand i got married in uk cost about 1 grand maybe abit more but it was still the best day of my life.
its not were it is that matters its the love yu share between you and no matter what it will still the be the happiest day of your life.

a place is just a place , love is forever and no where can replace that
#22
We got married in southern Spain. We had a church wedding, mercedes, flowers, photographer, reception with proper meal and wine for 90 or so friends and family (they flew themselves out on Easyjet for about £30 plus accomadation, some just came for the weekend) and 4* hotel for 2 nights all came to about £4000 though that was when you got alot more Euros for your pound. I reckon it would have cost nearer £15k here in the UK
#23
gamesrus
my friend got married in cyprus cost near enough 10 grand i got married in uk cost about 1 grand maybe abit more but it was still the best day of my life.
its not were it is that matters its the love yu share between you and no matter what it will still the be the happiest day of your life.

a place is just a place , love is forever and no where can replace that

So very true!:-D
#24
tovi
wow new york... never thought about that, is there any companies or brochures you have been looking at?


I got married in Manhattan (Central Park) a month ago... what would you like to know?
#25
Benn
We got married in southern Spain. We had a church wedding, mercedes, flowers, photographer, reception with proper meal and wine for 90 or so friends and family (they flew themselves out on Easyjet for about £30 plus accomadation, some just came for the weekend) and 4* hotel for 2 nights all came to about £4000 though that was when you got alot more Euros for your pound. I reckon it would have cost nearer £15k here in the UK


That sounds fab.... did you organise through an agent, or by yourselves?
I do fancy the canaries.
And some flights are cheaper than taxis!
#26
tovi
Yes presents!!
The option if we did it abroad was to have a party when we got back!!!

We were going to do that but when we started mentioning it family and friends it got.....unplesant!
It should all be about your day but trust me it isn't really even if you say it is!:x
#27
Flodd
I got married in Manhattan (Central Park) a month ago... what would you like to know?


this is HUKD... so did it cost very much?
Cost is actually a big issue to us!
And did it all go smoothly, I dont want to be stressed!! although i know that will happen anyway!
#28
mikebike
We were going to do that but when we started mentioning it family and friends it got.....unplesant!
It should all be about your day but trust me it isn't really even if you say it is!:x

Aint really bothered about presents, we both have our own houses, and have almost everything, but a new tv would be nice, and i dont think anyone would buy us one of those!!
#29
Went with friends who were getting married in Florida, really nice, but he 'forgot' to register it back here so i don't think they are officially married here!

Pro or Con?
#30
ifyoudontask?
Went with friends who were getting married in Florida, really nice, but he 'forgot' to register it back here so i don't think they are officially married here!

Pro or Con?

Hmmmm are they still happily married? or happily not married?
#31
tovi
this is HUKD... so did it cost very much?
Cost is actually a big issue to us!
And did it all go smoothly, I dont want to be stressed!! although i know that will happen anyway!


It cost us a fair bit but you could do it on the cheap if you wanted to... A marriage license only costs $35 and you could pick up a minister for $200-$300... We chose to get married in the Ladies Pavillion @ hernshead, a permit will cost you $20 and means you get it to yourself for the specified time... google it - it's a lovely place and just right for small parties...

The hotel is the main sticking point as a decent Manhattan Hotel will cost a bit...
#32
We got married in Las Vegas and never registered the marriage, so I don't think we are leaglly married!!
#33
tovi
Hmmmm are they still happily married? or happily not married?


Happily never officailly married and happily not together so the break up was very easy! :thumbsup:
#34
Flodd
It cost us a fair bit but you could do it on the cheap if you wanted to... A marriage license only costs $35 and you could pick up a minister for $200-$300... We chose to get married in the Ladies Pavillion @ hernshead, a permit will cost you $20 and means you get it to yourself for the specified time... google it - it's a lovely place and just right for small parties...

The hotel is the main sticking point as a decent Manhattan Hotel will cost a bit...


Wow, that looks really pretty!
#35
my friends was stressed out rite up until the flight , i was stressed out right to the day were ever you are theres no such thing as a stress free wedding lol
#36
I got married on the beach in Barbados in September. Best thing we ever did & saved a fortune in terms of getting married over here.

You can also chill out & not get bothered, or the plans interfered with by anyone. Just do it :)
#37
tovi
That sounds fab.... did you organise through an agent, or by yourselves?
I do fancy the canaries.
And some flights are cheaper than taxis!


We arranged it ourselves though my wife can get by on her Spanish and we were lucky to find a priest who spoke English. Yes, you're right, the flights and hotel can actually work out less for your guests than if you get married in the UK. We asked them not to buy us gifts as that just seemed greedy! The Spanish were very welcoming and helpful.
#38
tovi
Th dominican looks very nice... but i hear so many bad stories... did everything go ok for you?


Yup everything was fine for us. There was a hurricane about 3-4 weeks before we went but didn't affect our resort as it hit the other side of the island.
#39
Pavers
Yup everything was fine for us. There was a hurricane about 3-4 weeks before we went but didn't affect our resort as it hit the other side of the island.


my sis got married in florida, and hurricane was on its way! it was very windy, not long after that the hurricane struck!! I actually think that i am a jiinx!
#40
We just googled weddings in New York and went through all the different searches. See below some of the links we found really useful. Also look at this photographers website................this is was made us decide on New York, the pictures are just Fab!!!!!
http://www.getmarriedinnewyork.co.uk/?gclid=CKOUmr3ZvZcCFQrolAodWH1DTA
http://www.ultimateusaweddings.com/
http://www.thebridalconsultant.co.uk/newyork.htm?gclid=CLzil_HZvZcCFQqIlAodMwrVSQ
http://www.nyweddingclergy.com/ - We are thinking about using this lady as she has recommended some great florists, photographers (see the next link) and make up and hair stylists!
http://www.b-freedweddings.com/#

Hope this helps!

Post a Comment

You don't need an account to leave a comment. Just enter your email address. We'll keep it private.

...OR log in with your social account

...OR comment using your social account

Thanks for your comment! Keep it up!
We just need to have a quick look and it will be live soon.
The community is happy to hear your opinion! Keep contributing!