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Housework..who does it??

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8y, 8m agoPosted 8 years, 8 months ago
I am just wondering who does the housework in the house and if you do, do you expect your partner or do you help your partner do it??

Also if your partner works and you do the main bulk of it do you still ask for a little help for something??
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8y, 8m agoPosted 8 years, 8 months ago
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#1
Being male i do nothing, i expect my partner to do it all, after all, she is female...... :whistling::-D

(only kidding before i get the book thrown at me) !!
#2
I think I do more and she thinks that she does! Probably about even tbh - depends who is feeling laziest at the time! :)
#3
Half and half, depends on what mood were in...
#4
I think it is a shared responsibility, even if one partner works longer hours than the other (i work 22.5 hours a week and hubby works 40). We each try and do our bit every day so that neither of us are swamped on our days off.

I must admit i do a little more on my time off, but i also do the weekly shop and look after the little one so you can hardly call it a day off!
#5
I do the majority of the cooking and cleaning. Also do the weekly shopping (order online and bring in/put away)

Mum does the washing and cleans up after the dog
Dad cleans 1 day over the weekend (will do a really deep clean of 1 or 2 rooms) Also does the garden
#6
im on maternity leave at the mo but oh works part time,we both do the jobs our house would be chaos if we didnt help each other!
#7
Agreed, housework is a full time + job its a 7 days week being a homemaker/banker/nurse/cook/cleaner/psychologist/decorator/diy er - I could go on...............
#8
I do all the housework as I am at home most of the time:thumbsup: .... OH cooks at the week end & sometimes gets the vac' out if he's after something !!
#9
I do all the cooking and cleaning of the kitchen, mop and hoover whole house, other half does laundry and cleaning.
#10
im male and do all the housework as i live alone!
dont particularly enjoy it but a clean house feels gooooooooooooood
#11
I do it all myself and work full time...but then again i have no one else to do it for me...boy i'd love a cleaner!!!
#12
I do all the cleaning, cooking, washing, ironing etc. My Hubby doesn't touch housework at all, he does all the gardening, DIY, that sort of stuff.

When we where first married we both worked the same hours but I did all the housework! Didn't actually think anything of it as my Mum always had done all the housework (but she didn't work!) and my Hubby had previously lived with his Mum who did everything too! Then, I left work to have my eldest and was a housewife for about 16 years.

About 6 years ago I went back to work on a part-time basis. I work 16 hours, whereas my Hubby works 37.5 so feel my doing the housework is fair.

Times have now changed and I would never do it all whilst working full time as I did in the past. Its better these days, much fairer, my daughter and her partner both work full-time and share housework.
#13
bertv6
i do everything......cooking cleaning washing decorating.....all the childcare...take my daughter back and forward to school...my hubby...well he lets me know if Ive missed any jobs out!!!:giggle:

exactly the same here, he thinks because i am on maternity leave i am at home more and should do it all. Doesn't ever consider how hard it is to look after 3 kids and be running around all the time picking them up from school etc.. an then will walk through the door and tell me what a tip the house is
#14
I have a bit of a disagreement with my mate earlier and i ended up crying..(time of the mth and lots of other carp flying about atm), she said that because my hubby works i shouldnt even expect him to do one job in the house which is all i ask and thats the washing up, he doesnt work till 5pm and has Sunday and Mondays off, i dont have a problem with doing bulk of housework at all but i just ask him to do that and she said i was wrong to.
I have 5 children at home and 1 currently in fostercare due to severe mental health illness and 2 of my children at home has ADHD and Autism, so when they are home from school i cant do much round and about and then i have 2 other children at home in the day to entertain as well as do housework, so i thought it was ok just to ask him to do one job around the house on a daily basis, so thought i would ask your opinion.
banned#15
I reckon I do most of the housework while my girlfriend does the cooking. Mind you, I dont work and she does 40 hours per week.

Dontcha just love equality :)
#16
All the cooking, and food shopping, tht's me done
#17
surfer90
All the cooking, and food shopping, tht's me done


Same here + a bit of hoovering
#18
I iron, get the girls ready for school, stack/unstack dishwasher, clean the shower down every day, hoover once a week, kids baths and story time, car washing (x2) - my missus does the hoovering all the rest of the time, cleaning & Dusting, cooking, and lawn mowing. We share eldests homework. I make most of the cups of tea, missus does the coffee machine.
Works out as I work full time and my missus part time as well as being a full time Mum.
After 20 years, it all sort of muddles along
#19
My husband worked full time and i stayed at home to look after the children, so i did all the housework, cooking etc.
Now though i have severe arthritis so i cannot stand and cook so he has to do it.
I think it depends on who has the most time to do the housework and what is fair for each couple.
I was talking to an elderly man once and he told me that his wife had just died and because she had done everything for him, he hadn't a clue about housework or cooking.
Everyone should be taught how to run a home and the basics of cooking.
#20
i'm at home with the kids and also have a child on autistic spectrum, whilst i take responsibility for most of the housework , cooking and childcare my husband is always prepared to help when he gets home.

he accepts that a five minute dash with the hoover can really cheer me up and doesn't take too much trouble.

as for disagreeing with your friend , i think she is being unfair, its a long day with kids especially dealing with kids who need more attention than others. can't she help and cheer you up?

and why should his day end at 5pm when yours can go on into the night.
#21
My fiance and myself both work full time, when we come home, He heads for the kitchen to cook us all food whilst I sit with the kids , reading,homework etc,( he brings me a cuppa )
We then have our food, I was up whilst daughter wipes, whilst my OH does bed time routine with my son then takes him to bed....

On our days off we BOTH spend one day doing housework from head to toe then the next day off its kids time, we spend the day dediated to the kids, playing , movies etc.
#22
I get pretty obsessive about cleaning at the weirdest times, usually around 12am.. other than that we both do our share
#23
me and my partner moved in together when we were 18 and being young we were pretty lazy about we have recently moved and are 22 now. and we are getting more and more equal admittingly it was rather one sided with me the man doing all the work but ive had faith and my parters becoming more and more considerate with the work load she still aint at the 50/50 level yet...around 70/30 id say right now!!!
#24
I have to admit my hubby is good and will help as much as he possibly can but i just asked her a random question then it blew up out of proportion but i think difference is was brought up the "old fashioned" where the woman does everything for the man and make sure everything is ready including tea when they walk through the door.

Im glad im not the meany that asks him to do something lol
#25
I like this thread!!

My husband works Saturday Mornings while I spend the time doing the food shopping, washing, ironing and some of the cleaning. I do plug the hoover in for him to do the weekly whole house clean for when he gets in, which caused a raised eyebrow from his work colleague recently who called in after work!!

We both work. I do 37 hours, he does 60. Have 3 children, although at 15, 13 and 9 they are expected to help too. They are boys and I feel very good training them for their partners in the future!!

At weekends I cook Saturday, husband does the Sunday lunch. He even cooks Christmas dinner for 18 (all my family!!) He is a star!!!!!!!!!!! (but then so am i!)
#26
amcol
I have a bit of a disagreement with my mate earlier and i ended up crying..(time of the mth and lots of other carp flying about atm), she said that because my hubby works i shouldnt even expect him to do one job in the house which is all i ask and thats the washing up, he doesnt work till 5pm and has Sunday and Mondays off, i dont have a problem with doing bulk of housework at all but i just ask him to do that and she said i was wrong to.
I have 5 children at home and 1 currently in fostercare due to severe mental health illness and 2 of my children at home has ADHD and Autism, so when they are home from school i cant do much round and about and then i have 2 other children at home in the day to entertain as well as do housework, so i thought it was ok just to ask him to do one job around the house on a daily basis, so thought i would ask your opinion.


Amcol, i would get rid of your so called "friend"
You will have a nervous breakdown if you don't get more help and what would your husband and kids do then?
You sound as if you badly need some "me" time.
My daughter goes out all day on a Sunday and the son-in-law on a Saturday to do their hobbies [horse riding & shooting] and this seems to work for them as they both get a day off.
Your friend is wrong, wrong, wrong!!!
#27
im also a stay at home mum, but to 2 kids so a lil easier i guess....agree is hard with the kids... house is relatvely clean till my 4 year old gets home.. thats also when i start tea...we eat in the kitchen and so at the end of the day kitchen looks a tip no matter how clean! DH does the dishwasher and bins whilst i clean the sides and do the hoovering.he then bathes the kids and we get them dressed together....

other bits like laundry and cooking are my responsibility, but i think he pulls more than his fair share tbh as he does work really hard and is a good dad... although id never tel him that!!!
#28
It is something we argue over all the time. It is worse if his mum and dad or my mum and dad are there because they all think it should be tea on the table when they get home from work.

It really annoys me as it isnt how it used to be and my mum is terrible as she is up and down all night getting things for my dad and my brother as they are men and shouldn't be expected to do it.
banned#29
do a little but lady does the most
1 Like #30
My mate she is a fab friend, she has dug me out of depression no end i must admit, only time we have disagreed in over 3/4yrs we have known each other, i get on great and we help each other lots. We are off out tomorrow evening and she is getting her daughter to babysit for me whilst hubby at work.

We also getting some time away in October :)

Im just feeling down atm tbh and just a tad rough round the edges!
#31
amcol
My mate she is a fab friend, she has dug me out of depression no end i must admit, only time we have disagreed in over 3/4yrs we have known each other, i get on great and we help each other lots. We are off out tomorrow evening and she is getting her daughter to babysit for me whilst hubby at work.

We also getting some time away in October :)

Im just feeling down atm tbh and just a tad rough round the edges!


:friends: Big group hug ..
#32
amcol
My mate she is a fab friend, she has dug me out of depression no end i must admit, only time we have disagreed in over 3/4yrs we have known each other, i get on great and we help each other lots. We are off out tomorrow evening and she is getting her daughter to babysit for me whilst hubby at work.

We also getting some time away in October :)

Im just feeling down atm tbh and just a tad rough round the edges!


Hope you have a great night out. :)
#33
He does do the housework sometimes but I mainly do most of it. But when it comes to the cooking most of the time he cooks even though he works and gets in house about 5.30pm.
I do the main running of the house such as work out cash,pay rent bills c/tax ( mine in yesterday you be next! )purchase most items,do online groceries,he wouldn't know where to start and couldn't even give a figure how much our home costs to a run a mth or yr or anything.
#34
amcol
My mate she is a fab friend, she has dug me out of depression no end i must admit, only time we have disagreed in over 3/4yrs we have known each other, i get on great and we help each other lots. We are off out tomorrow evening and she is getting her daughter to babysit for me whilst hubby at work.

We also getting some time away in October :)

Im just feeling down atm tbh and just a tad rough round the edges!


Hope you feeling good soon,I know kind of what you mean,it cna be a bit up and down at times.
#35
Amcol, I wouldn't worry about the disagreement too much. If she's a really good friend, just agree to disagree coz we are all different eh? I think you are quite right though to ask him to do the washing up - I'm sure he doesn't mind and might well do more if you ask him...!:thumbsup:
#36
We have just passed it, i worry more about this sort of thing than she does, when its happened it has, we havent had cross words i just lost it a bit and thru my mobile across the room so she couldnt see me lol....Thanks for all the nice comments just got a tough 24hrs coming up well just under 24hrs ish, so should be better tomorrow night :)
#37
amcol
We have just passed it, i worry more about this sort of thing than she does, when its happened it has, we havent had cross words i just lost it a bit and thru my mobile across the room so she couldnt see me lol....Thanks for all the nice comments just got a tough 24hrs coming up well just under 24hrs ish, so should be better tomorrow night :)


Hope it goes okay for you, at least you can relax tommorrow night - just take some deep breaths until then! Take care...:)
1 Like #38
amcol, just remember you have lots of friends here to cheer you up when things are bad. You can email me anytime. Take care of yourself x
#39
awwww thank you ever so much Sophie i appreciate it xx
#40
What-ever works for the family is right. Situations change all the time - kids arrive, grow, leave; partners work full/part-time or not or leave or take time off work to raise kids- financial situation often dictates. I do most of the housework now that I work part-time, but probably did a lot more when I was younger and more energetic.

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