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How did you cope with a second baby?

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I have an almost 3 year old and would love to try for another baby. For the last couple of nights, my little one has been up for most of the night, as she has a bit of a cold. Today I am so utterly sh…
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7y, 4m agoPosted 7 years, 4 months ago
I have an almost 3 year old and would love to try for another baby. For the last couple of nights, my little one has been up for most of the night, as she has a bit of a cold. Today I am so utterly shattered and was wondering how on earth I'll cope with that all the time, ie, having to be up all night with a baby, then up all day with a toddler. At least when there was just one, I could sleep when she slept.
Maybe I should wait until she's in full time school.
How do you cope?
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7y, 4m agoPosted 7 years, 4 months ago
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#1
you just learn to cope something kicks in and you can handle it and it is your kids so maternal instinct and their well being just oversees everything i do hope your little one gets better and as i have always said the more the easier as they do seem to occupy and keep each other company my 3 were 4 years apart but have grown very close and look out for each other the youngest is 8 and the oldest 15 and you soon forget the sleepless nights good luck you are doing great already :)
#2
i should have said if it were left to me and hubby our 3 would have been here one after the other but unfortunately it wasnt to be as we needed fertility treatment with all three! :)
#3
Thank you :-)
I really wanted them closer together, but my other half is absolutely adamant that we should wait a while longer. Nice to hear that kids can be close even when there's a bit of a gap.
#4
my daughter was nearly 20 months old when i had my son, she wasnt sleeping through the night either and i didnt know how i would cope but you just do!
it was easy to synchronize their naps so i got to rest then .. quite a few nights id end up with both of them down my bed and my partner in the spare room just to get some sleep..
having one more isnt as difficult as you imagine, its not twice as much work.. and id have another tomorrow if i had a bigger house :)
#5
Niafromwales
Thank you :-)
I really wanted them closer together, but my other half is absolutely adamant that we should wait a while longer. Nice to hear that kids can be close even when there's a bit of a gap.


i think its nice especially when they grow up when there are a few close siblings, then when they have children there are cousins etc for each to play with.
i have 2 boys 3 and 6 now, but i personally don;t want anymore i couldnt cope :w00t:
#6
kassy2005
my daughter was nearly 20 months old when i had my son, she wasnt sleeping through the night either and i didnt know how i would cope but you just do!
it was easy to synchronize their naps so i got to rest then .. quite a few nights id end up with both of them down my bed and my partner in the spare room just to get some sleep..
having one more isnt as difficult as you imagine, its not twice as much work.. and id have another tomorrow if i had a bigger house :)

+1 i would have more if i could have but never mind i have 3 great sons and i remember one night when they were all ill and there was 5 of us in the one bed! we laugh at it now but it was the only way to get a sleep! lol
#7
There's a year and a half between my two. There's no magic solution, but you do just cope. You might find that if someone offers to have the kids for a few hours, instead of going out or going shopping, you'll use the time to catch up on sleep if you've had a bad few nights, but if you've already got one little one, then at least you've got a rough idea what to expect :thumbsup:
#8
Just manage,mine are 6,9,( my eldest was in nappies in day till nearly 4 so I was doing 2 lots of changes for more than a yr when 2nd was born, then I have 1 who is 5wks and it's just me now with them,you just cope.
Have to say mine always very good as babies and never had sleepless nights,even when they sick when older,always been able to settle them and us all get sleep.
#9
As the others all say, you just cope and eventually it all becomes nothing more than memories.
My boys have 23 months between them and were very different, but now they're both adults (!!) they are really close. I also have a 2 year old daughter, who is idolised by them both. So little gap/big gap.....it all works out just fine in the end :)
Good luck whatever you decide to do, and hope your LO gets better soon x
#10
kassy2005
my daughter was nearly 20 months old when i had my son, she wasnt sleeping through the night either and i didnt know how i would cope but you just do!
it was easy to synchronize their naps so i got to rest then .. quite a few nights id end up with both of them down my bed and my partner in the spare room just to get some sleep..
having one more isnt as difficult as you imagine, its not twice as much work.. and id have another tomorrow if i had a bigger house :)


+1 there is the same difference between my two, i find it so much easier as they amuse each other most of the time and tended to sleep at the same times in the day, it seems daughnting but its really not :thumbsup:
#11
You will cope... it's what we do! Although it's a whole lot harder if you work full time! (Not sure if you do!)x
#12
We both work full time, our girls are four and we've got another one on the way.

Sleep deprevation is the worst kind of torture - but I'm used to three hours a night now LOL :w00t:
#13
Once you've gone through sleepless nights with one then you've already adapted. My son was three when his sister was born and he seemed to settle really well after she was born, I think it made him feel really grown up!
#14
I have a 3 year old, and a 7 month old. It is easier 2nd time around, you know what you're doing, more relaxed, and even at a very young age they entertain each other. My 7 month old daughter is miserable when her big bro ain't around acting like a dork lol!! The first month/2 months are hard, but after that it's alright, just more luggage to take everywhere (I had just gotten out of having to take bag of carp everywhere, and it's here all over again!)
#15
Serious thread.
Nia, cariad, if you literally cannot cope, don't even think about it, but if your partner and you want it and can, then go for it.
I wanted mine as close together as possible but couldn't, for medical reasons. As it happened, as soon as I stopped breast feeding my first son hubby took over all the night time stuff. Same for my second son who I feed for 14 months. There is 2 1/2 year between them.
ONLY ever go with what is right for YOUR family circumstance. I never, ever, adapted to sleepless nights. The kids kept waking up for 10 years or more and hubby sorted it. Nothing to do IMO with relaxed etc etc - if the kids are waking up, they are waking up and someone ( thank god, not me) has to be there. We had 4 in the bed rather a lot and that was lovely TBH but, I suppose, would be frowned on now-a-days!
[mod]#16
We have a 5 year old and a 2 & 1 year old. :)

Cope fine.........you adjust to what sleep you get etc. :)
#17
i think it's only when you get two that you realised how easy you had it with just one!
#18
scrumpypaul
i think it's only when you get two that you realised how easy you had it with just one!


Imagine twins :thumbsup:
#19
I may find out soon hopefully, i have a one year old and we are currently ttc another, i think i must be mad but im 26 and oh is quite a bit older than me so i want them close together for his sake!
Im sure it will be hard work but obviously worth it :)
#20
I found it ok. My daughter was 3.5 by the time my son came along, and it wasnt too bad, she was independant and loved helping me with her new brother.

They are now 11 months & 4.5 and get on great, best thing I did was to have another.

Good Luck :)

The 1st few weeks were hard, as had to get into a routine, but you just manage.
#21
You know, I don't even think I thought about if I'd cope before TTC or whilst TTC....I just thought we've done if before we can do it again? Our 2 year old is lovely and rarely wakes up in the night (unless of a rare nightmare or rolls out of bed)...but these are few & far between. We're irritable the next day but we see it as 'practice' for this next baby which is due in 2 weeks. The only thing I've found incredibly hard is keeping up with a very active 2 year old and being very heavily pregnant without whinging and needing to sleep a lot!

I'm told by a few people that having 2 kids is hard, but as I've not yet experienced it I cannot comment, but I am looking forward to trying!

Good luck in your decision :)
#22
Thanks for all your answers :thumbsup:
Most of the time, I really want another one, like, now. I'm really close to my sister, there's 2 years between us, and I'd hate for my daughter to miss out on being close to her sibling. Saying that, there's no guarantee that they'd get on, I suppose.
My daughter absolutely loves babies, so I'm sure she'd be great.
Most of the time, she's a little angel, but still has bouts of the terrible two's that are so bad, at the time, I swear I'll never have another child! Her tantrums are always out of the blue and for the most random things, like, last week, I picked the wrong trolley at the supermarket!!
Just need to persuade the OH now! He's more reluctant because he works shifts and therefore really needs his sleep. I only work part time so he thinks I have it easy :roll:
Thanks again for all your replies xx

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