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How long were you with some one before you got married & is marriage as important as it used it to?

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Just wondering what's the longest someone has been with some one before they got married or have they decided not to get married & just live together as everything is perfect that way.. The reaso…
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5y, 10m agoPosted 5 years, 10 months ago
Just wondering what's the longest someone has been with some one before they got married or have they decided not to get married & just live together as everything is perfect that way..

The reason im asking is been with my OH now for nearly 9 years, an she keeps dropping hints & saying about getting married as she dont no any one who has had to wait this long to get married. (she been married once before, iv never been married)

I love her loads & do anything for her BUT a ring & a piece of paper will not change any thing about how i feel, the ring will just be for show & the paper well me tucked away in a draw somewhere. Plus we have 5 kids between us & have debts that never seam to go down. So I would prefer to spend any extra £'s that we have on the kids & trying to clear the debts......Is that such a wrong view to take?
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5y, 10m agoPosted 5 years, 10 months ago
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banned#1
Do it for her if it doesn't mean that much to you. You won't lose out either way.

Unless you're dead against it?

Weddings don't have to be expensive.
#2
Nine and a half years, I'm getting married tomorrow!
#3
we were together 6 years before we got married, i never really wanted to get married but i do feel like we are a proper family now
1 Like #4
I agree weddings don't have to be expensive and I think they are important. Yeah you could say that its just a ring and a bit of paper but its more than that. Its promising your self to each other, also as a woman its a nice status to be a Mrs.

If you are against it then don't do it, but if you know you want to be with your gf for the rest of your life's then ask her, you could even have a long engagement. But asking her will make her feel valued.
2 Likes #5
met my wife when i was 17, got married @ 21 and its our 25th anniversary this august.
2 Likes #6
I met hubby and he proposed 2 weeks later, we had our official engagement 2 months afterwards and married the following year. We celebrate our 21st year wedding anniversary this year.

My advise is each to their own and don't let anyone tell you what is right for you. Only you and your partner know what is right, and if that's not marrying then fine. Commitment, truth, honesty and love are important (as well has health and having a laugh!!)
#7
17 years with the same person & don't think I want or will ever marry.
#8
Me and my oh have been together for nearly 14 years and we aren't married. We will never get married either, I don't think!
#9
Been with my "missus" 8 years in august, got a daughter and another on the way...... don't think i'm ready for the commitment of marriage though
#10
It's normally the man in the relationship that are too scared to get married, the woman just go along with it as they "love" them. In reality the woman is dieing inside.

I wonder how the man would feel if the children wer born and took the woman's surname.
#11
pinkleponkle
It's normally the man in the relationship that are too scared to get married, the woman just go along with it as they "love" them. In reality the woman is dieing inside.

I wonder how the man would feel if the children wer born and took the woman's surname.

So who's fault is that? the womans for keeping it bottled up... complicated folk, you are.
#12
a year..then we got married
#13
Was with my first (and only wife) or 5 months before getting married and just five nights afterward.

Been with my current partner 7 years and never seen the point of getting married what is it other than a piece of expensive paper? It doesn't say whats in my heart, I have the view as weddings just being an excuse to show off in front of people, with the majority of people racking up massive debt to do so.
#14
We were married on our 10th anniversary of meeting, we always knew we would marry, it was just a matter of finance and time etc. We are close to our 5th wedding anniversay and 15th since meeting.
Getting married has made us even happier.

It was nice to be able to have a wedding just how we wished, sometimes I think we should have done it earlier, but then we may have had to scrimp on things, we planed on doing it only once so decided have our dream wedding. We didn't go wild finically, but we achieved everything we had on our wish list.

I might ad, i have always thought, if a woman is good enough to have your children then she is good enough to marry.

Problem is that some people have children with just anybody rather than considering it properly.

It hasn't changed our relationship that much, but it just makes us tighter, and it brings another level of respect for each other.

Edited By: skellysgirl on Apr 29, 2011 11:31: Add more.
[mod]#15
Six years and I am not wanting to get married yet. For me a career is more important at this stage in my life.
banned#16
8yrs or something, married 1.5 yrs now. Was best day of my life would do it all again.
#17
ive been with my partner 6years this year and we have 2 children together, we are engaged but not sure i want to get married well not just yet anyway, im not a fan of being the centre of attention so if i did get married it would be a small wedding probably at a registry office then a little do afterwards.
#18
Angryman81
Nine and a half years, I'm getting married tomorrow!

congrats
#19
get married imo
#20
WheresMeNuts
17 years with the same person & don't think I want or will ever marry.

33 years for us and i hope we get at least another 33 years too.
#21
13 1/2 years and 2children together before getting married - been together 31 years still don't know why i did it and still cant see the point in it - except he will be legally entitled to my stuff if i die - which i dont plan on doing before him
#22
We lived in sin for 13 years, we've been married for 13 years. We eventually gave in after being harrassed by my monster in law that until we got married our children were ****. I don't know why but I preferred living in sin X)
#23
We have been together 14yrs and have 3 children. We will be getting married in 4 weeks :)
#24
OP...holiday in do £999 weddings.... not bad :)

will be 9 years in july...couldnt imagine not being married to him...its more then just a piece of paper..its declaring ur love for each other through thick and thin
#25
We have been together 18 years had two kids,then got married 10 years ago and had 1 more kid,, last year
banned#26
15 years. Feels like a lifetime.... and murders serve less time! Was with my missus on and off for 12 years beforehand. (In between living in Oz and playing the field!)X)


JonnyTwoToes
Weddings don't have to be expensive.


Mine was. X)
#27
Co-incidentally I found out my cousin is getting married today after reading the local rags website

http://www.derbyshiretimes.co.uk/news/local/our_very_own_royal_wedding_1_3326093
banned 1 Like #28
LoveHearts
We lived in sin for 13 years, we've been married for 13 years. We eventually gave in after being harrassed by my monster in law that until we got married our children were ****. I don't know why but I preferred living in sin X)


Well they will always be **** because it's a child born to an unwed couple, the child can't be reborn after you're wed :p
#29
I was married after 6 months. Got together on xmas eve (I was just returning to Former Yugoslavia). Got Engaged on the following Valentines day and married in June. We'd been mates prior to that for 4+ years. We hadn't even kissed when we got engaged oO
#30
should add been married 12 years now (I was 20 She was 19)
#31
Moved the other half in after 3 weeks, Got married after 2 years, been together for around 6 years.

Edited By: spritey on Apr 29, 2011 18:09
#32
:( I've never been married.
#33
Met my wife when I was born, was in the same ward side by side, 20 years later we met again and 18 months later we got wed, in august will will have been wed 18 years :D

Best thing I have ever done.
#34
Thanks to every one for your replies,

Some mixed views & times when people got married, at least we are not the only couple that been together for a long time and not got married.
#35
lumoruk
LoveHearts
We lived in sin for 13 years, we've been married for 13 years. We eventually gave in after being harrassed by my monster in law that until we got married our children were ****. I don't know why but I preferred living in sin X)


Well they will always be **** because it's a child born to an unwed couple, the child can't be reborn after you're wed :p


Wash your mouth out with soap :p
#36
magicbeans
OP...holiday in do £999 weddings.... not bad :)

will be 9 years in july...couldnt imagine not being married to him...its more then just a piece of paper..its declaring ur love for each other through thick and thin


you dont need a bit of paper for that :(
#37
Cheers generaloneill :)
#38
Met at 17, married in July '81 :D

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