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I hate fathers day....

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banned6y, 6m agoPosted 6 years, 6 months ago
Just reminds me of not having my dad around since I was 8. Now I'm talking to him more do you think he gets offended that I don't buy or wish him a happy fathers day? He hasn't been much of one so don't see the point. He once told my Mum he doesn't want to be my dad just my best mate. Why she had to tell me that I do not know, because it really hurt. I guess father's day is harder for people who's fathers aren't even around any more, but thought I would share why I hate fathers day.
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banned6y, 6m agoPosted 6 years, 6 months ago
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banned#1
In before...."explains a lot"
banned#2
its just another money making idea, mothers/fathers day like you need a day to remember them, or thank them, or spend time with them
banned#3
I don't really care...
#4
vibeone
I don't really care...


then dont comment lol.:)
banned#5
Thankfully me and my father get on these day's.

We argued all the time when I lived with him.

Unfortunately there are some terrible father's out there :x
#6
agree with above money making farce ! if you have a good mam or dad you dont need a day to show it
#7
Kinda know where you're coming from with regards to not liking fathers day as mine has sadly passed away :(

It's hard to comment on your situation without knowing you/him but are you sure he actually said that to your mum? It seems a strange thing to say.
Have you spoken to him at length about why he hasn't been there for you?
To be honest, if he's a half decent person, i'm sure it probably hurts him when he doesn't get a fathers day card ... i know it would me!
BUT you certainly shouldnt send 1 if you don't think he's been any kind of a father to you.
Only YOU know when it feels right to send 1.
Also, just think for a minute what you would feel if the worst happened and you lost your dad?
Would you have any regrets?
Would there be anything you wished you'd said or done?
#8
Is it farthers day today? (would know - dont have one)
#9
Doesn't sound like he's offended with what you say. You seem more bothered about it - why not mention it to him, even in a jokey sort of way like "You're not expecting a card are you?" etc. I think its quite sad - hope you work it out :)
#10
if you dont feel he is a father to you then dont bother getting him anything.
some people dont have it easy growing up, i was brought up by my mum as an only child when infact i had 3 brothers one i saw every saturday the eldest ive seen 3 times in 27 years and the other one i didnt find out about until i was 24.
i have also made the effort to track my dad down i hadnt seen him since i was 3 years old and it wasnt easy going considering he is in new zealand.(you may remember the thread i put on here.)
anyway he last rang me 13 months ago so he obviously isnt interested so i just say forget him i made the effort and he hasnt.
best thing is to get on with your life.
#11
Hmm, I can see why that comment was hurtful, but it depends on the context and intent with which he was saying it... for instance he may feel like an absolutely atrocious father and so does not want to be associated with that and instead wants to do right by you and just see you happy. He wants to get on with you is the main thing, and probably feels that he can't recover a father-son relationship with you due to the length of time that has passed.

It would be better however if he asked what you wanted. These situations are usually hard for all parties involved, regardless of fault - at least you are on speaking terms. As for father's day, it depends entirely on what you want. If you want him to be more involved as a father, then a simple card or phone call wouldn't hurt: it would at least send him the message of how you want your relationship to be and leave the ball in his court. Perhaps he wants the chance, I don't know. If you want to keep distanced or don't feel comfortable then don't: it's just a holiday literally manufactured by card companies anyway, and is only as significant as you make it.

Sorry if I sound like Dr. Phil... hope it's somewhat helpful and not preachy or naive.
#12
lumoruk
In before...."explains a lot"


My dad is a alcoholic seen him for the first time when i was fourteen that lasted for around 6 months then i got in touch with him recently im now 26. He said something similar that he is more like a friend to his kids and not a dad. I'ts disappointing but you cant choose your parents i grew up angry thinking it was my fault that i didn't see him especially after only knowing him for 6 months after i was 14 but after meeting him recently it's kinda took that feeling away and he's just an idiot.
#13
I love my dad.

And my mum.

Both great people, so I can't really relate at all...
#14
When is it? :oops:
banned#15
livingthelife07
When is it? :oops:


Sunday 20th June 2010
#16
DLM
Sunday 20th June 2010


Thank you :thumbsup:
banned#17
livingthelife07
Thank you :thumbsup:


I think it is the 2nd time my 2nd cousin has had his birthday on father's day.

The 1st time was the day he was born nearly 17 year's ago :-D
#18
DragonChris
I love my dad.

And my mum.

Both great people, so I can't really relate at all...


Thanks for sharing :whistling: :-D
banned#19
livingthelife07
When is it? :oops:


Just got email from truprint about an offer, maybe I should complain and get a money off voucher :w00t:
1 Like #20
OP, no offence but i really just don't get why people share their inner most feelings to all and sundry on a shopping forum :?


I just don't get it!
#21
mr.potato_head
Thanks for sharing :whistling: :-D


Anytime spud :thumbsup:
#22
transit
OP, no offence but i really just don't get why people share their inner most feelings to all and sundry on a shopping forum :?


I just don't get it!


i have shared feelings before but i find it easier to come on here and speak to people that dont know me.
also when theres no one else around to listen.
#23
greyparrot
i have shared feelings before but i find it easier to come on here and speak to people that dont know me.
also when theres no one else around to listen.


Fair enough, but i still don't get it :thinking:
#24
transit
Fair enough, but i still don't get it :thinking:


lol sometimes when i have put threads on that are quite personal i have regretted doing so and have taken them off.
sometimes people dont think and just do it.
#25
I love my dad to bits, we have our differences but doesn't everyone.

Fathers day is another bs thing to get more dough outta us. My dads birthday falls on fathers day this year so we will be doing something fun and I will tell him I love him.

You can get new friends but you can't change your father.
#26
greyparrot
lol sometimes when i have put threads on that are quite personal i have regretted doing so and have taken them off.
sometimes people dont think and just do it.


Ok but i still just don't get it :)
#27
transit
Ok but i still just don't get it :)


You can vent, and have people give their opinion, and they only know the little bits you say.

It's another way of letting the emotions / frustration out without killing anyone :whistling:
#28
faevilangel
You can vent, and have people give their opinion, and they only know the little bits you say.

It's another way of letting the emotions / frustration out without killing anyone :whistling:


In reality though , the OP ends up in a worse state after being mocked and slated for a 100+ thread.......surely killing someone would be less hassle?:)
banned#29
transit
OP, no offence but i really just don't get why people share their inner most feelings to all and sundry on a shopping forum :?


I just don't get it!


As faevilangel said, got an uncle locked up in a mental asylum because he jumped out and threatened someone with a knife, he had a crazed look on his face....apparently.

To above comment, nah it's the internet, not serious business. I would mock me as well.
#30
lumoruk
As faevilangel said, got an uncle locked up in a mental asylum because he jumped out and threatened someone with a knife, he had a crazed look on his face....apparently.

To above comment, nah it's the internet, not serious business. I would mock me as well.


Yeah i remember reading that story in the newspaper, poor old uncle festa :whistling:
#31
i dont like fathers day !
#32
i hate fathers day too - i don't have any children to get presents from
#33
Your Dad hates your birthday. Feeling is mutual.

Haven't bothered reading the rest of this thread so this could be a bit harsh if everyone has been really sympathetic, if so, woops.
banned#34
transit
OP, no offence but i really just don't get why people share their inner most feelings to all and sundry on a shopping forum :?

I just don't get it!


I have no shame :oops:
#35
...... So, No offence - but I just don't get why people who have nothing constructive to add to a thread bother to type anything at all.... Be it derogatory or not....

Now fancy THAT......
So, no point is made about the original post or comment - just their own thoughts as to why and what people should in 'their' opinion put....
Be it in MISC or otherwise......
MISC... Hmmmm? Now, let me think?

xxxx

Purrrrfect.....
#36
My old man died of a brain tumour when i was 24, i'm a dad now - I hate father's day with a passion !
#37
I know people look on that day as very commercial ................but I love fathers day. My dad has been so fantastic to me and I love getting him a card and whatever for Fathers day. That doesnt mean I dont appreciate him every other day.

Christmas is now very commercial ....as is valentines day, mothers day etc, but its nice that these people have a "special" day to themselves

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