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Hi all very late i know i can't sleep my reason (long story short) I'm 19 and a full time mum my daughter is 2 and a carer for my mum i left school in year 10 because i hated it and im going to sta… Read More
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8y, 5m agoPosted 8 years, 5 months ago
Hi all very late i know i can't sleep my reason (long story short)
I'm 19 and a full time mum my daughter is 2 and a carer for my mum i left school in year 10 because i hated it and im going to start a hair dressing course on the 7th of jan...... im worried about starting because i havent been in any form of education for five years and im set in my ways, im worried my daughter will feel lonely and think i might not love her or something (probs being silly) but i feel i need to do something to make our lives better and i need to do it for myself but then i feel selfish..... am i being silly or selfish??? i dont know what to do xxx
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8y, 5m agoPosted 8 years, 5 months ago
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#1
silly itll be fine and will benefit you and your daughter eventually!! it will be good to have some you time too and most of all make some new friends!! :thumbsup:
#2
go ahead with the course......hope things turn out well for u....keep positive and 2009 will b a great year for u! x
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thanku xx
#4
don't stress, its for the best in the long run and your daughter will benefit in loads of ways. At 19 you'll not be so stuck in your ways that they can't be changed - good luck! :)
#5
Dont take this the worng way but i think you are over reacting a bit my mum went thorugh the same situation all you have to do is tell your daughter that you love her, even tho im sure you already do, so wont fell unloved, my mum went through the same the thing you might be worried now but when yopu get out there you will enjoy it,
#6
good on you girl sounds like a great idea once you have qualified you can pretty much choose your own hours nor even start your own mobile hairdressing business to suit you

look at the long term itll open doors for you .....even be able to immigrate to australia as they are shoprt of hairdressers believe it or not
#7
I would say go and do the course. I am not being funny but more serious, I would take a few English classes too as you have used 1comma and 0 fullstops in your post.

Who will look after your child as you say your a Carer for you mom, is she fit to look after your daughter.
#8
You daughter will cope fine - kids are very adaptable. You'll be happier and more fulfilled in yourself with the job which will have a positive effect on her too. You'll also appreciate more the actual time that the two of you will have together too!
#9
You're not being silly or selfish - you are being practical, positive & good luck to you.

You hit te nail on the head when you said you feel you need to do something to make your lives better. And this is precisely what you are doing.

And don't worry about leaving education early & not having done much since. You have been a mum & a carer so you must be an organised & patient person - 2 qualities required for a hairdresser.

And besides that, you will probably find other people on your course in a similar position.
Good luck & happy 2009!!

Col.

ps - ignore the above comms re your punctuation - in the real adult world it's your attitude & outlook that matters. Things like dots & full stops only come into play when you have too much time on your hands!!
#10
Go for it. You're doing it for all the right reasons.

Most colleges/uni's offer short term courses to familiarise students who havent studied for a while, you know, like a 4 week course with a mix of english, maths etc just to jog their memories to help them get into the studying frame of mind, so you might want to check that out as well.

Like you said, you're doing it to improve both you and your daughters lives so there's no need for any guilt or negativity. :)
#11
karaokecolin

ps - ignore the above comms re your punctuation - in the real adult world it's your attitude & outlook that matters. Things like dots & full stops only come into play when you have too much time on your hands!!

she will hardly pass the exams if she cannot pass the written test. no h4te here just being honest.:thumbsup:
#12
cheer up op, at least ur not this guy looool such bad luck, give this a read...

http://news.uk.msn.com/world/article.aspx?cp-documentid=12386557&ocid=today
#13
black gerbil1
she will hardly pass the exams if she cannot pass the written test. no h4te here just being honest.:thumbsup:


I'm not sure hairdressing requires much essay writing...
#14
With a blink of an eye your daughter will be in school better yourself for her and you she knows you love her your afraid unstandable but wait and see the confidence you get and your daughter because when your happy she is happy believe me I did something similar i am glad I did I feel like I am worth something now and my girls seem happier too so the best of luck and I hope everthing works out for you:thumbsup:
#15
angelfairee
I'm not sure hairdressing requires much essay writing...

u'd think that!

alot of courses have written exams that you would not expect too.
banned#16
black gerbil1
I would say go and do the course. I am not being funny but more serious, I would take a few English classes too



black gerbil1
she will hardly pass the exams if she cannot pass the written test. no h4te here just being honest.:thumbsup:


I LOL.

Irony is such strong humour! :p
#17
black gerbil1
u'd think that!

alot of courses have written exams that you would not expect too.


Be realistic BG.

I'd rather have a hairdresser who could use scissors correctly than one who could use commas correctly.
#18
black gerbil1
I would say go and do the course. I am not being funny but more serious, I would take a few English classes too as you have used 1comma and 0 fullstops in your post.

Who will look after your child as you say your a Carer for you mom, is she fit to look after your daughter.



BG1 = Mr English Language Hypocrite. It should be you enroling on a few English classes.
Your punctuation is wrong too. You are missing a question mark at the end of your question - "is she fit to look after your daughter?".
It should be "you are" not "your".
The word carer is lower case as it is a common noun not a proper noun in the context you used it.
It should be your not you.

You are such a dim Twonk!
#19
black gerbil1
I would say go and do the course. I am not being funny but more serious, I would take a few English classes too as you have used 1comma and 0 fullstops in your post.

Who will look after your child as you say your a Carer for you mom, is she fit to look after your daughter.


Poor lass has come on here for some help not to be slated! who says we have to use proper grammer on here! Mine terrible ha!
Go do ur course ur little girl will be in school soon and then you wont know what to do with urself, at lease ur tryin unlike some single mums who dont bother! No offence to anyone as i am a single mum too!
#20
Tracey6101
Poor lass has come on here for some help not to be slated! who says we have to use proper grammer on here! Mine terrible ha!
Go do ur course ur little girl will be in school soon and then you wont know what to do with urself, at lease ur tryin unlike some single mums who dont bother! No offence to anyone as i am a single mum too!


how am i slating her, im just saying, i know what its like my mum dodne the same and not to worry, ? tell me in what way i slated her?
#21
You lot are mad, My punctuation isn't that bad lol!!! :oops:

Thanks for the positive comments much love xxxxxxxxxxx
#22
karaokecolin
You're not being silly or selfish - you are being practical, positive & good luck to you.

You hit te nail on the head when you said you feel you need to do something to make your lives better. And this is precisely what you are doing.

And don't worry about leaving education early & not having done much since. You have been a mum & a carer so you must be an organised & patient person - 2 qualities required for a hairdresser.

And besides that, you will probably find other people on your course in a similar position.
Good luck & happy 2009!!

Col.

ps - ignore the above comms re your punctuation - in the real adult world it's your attitude & outlook that matters. Things like dots & full stops only come into play when you have too much time on your hands!!


Just like Col says. You will have gained so much by having the responsibilities that you've had over the past years since school. It's time ( and I think you know it) to take on some more and a course with vocational skills sounds just about right,

Absolutely everyone in a similar situation would be scared so deep breath and go for it. You're being neither silly nor selfish but improving yourself and your daughter can only benefit from that.
All the very best of luck to you.:thumbsup:
#23
My little girl will be starting nursery (so that will be exciting). My older brother will be helping out with looking after my mum (about time) lol, Thankyou for the concern x
#24
shosie
how am i slating her, im just saying, i know what its like my mum dodne the same and not to worry, ? tell me in what way i slated her?


sorry didnt mean to click ur post x:oops:
#25
sophiemeee
My little girl will be starting nursery (so that will be exciting). My older brother will be helping out with looking after my mum (about time) lol, Thankyou for the concern x


Good on yer' Soph!!!

Go for your life & when you pass, I'll have a grade 1 at the back & sides with a bit of length left on the top. Not too much product in it either, just enough to distract from my bits of grey!!!:-D
#26
yeah can we all have a freebie?? lol
#27
Tracey6101
sorry didnt mean to click ur post x:oops:


ah then you are forgiven lol.
#28
u can just take the grade off the shaver for me please.....

1,2,3,4 i love the marine corps
#29
shosie
ah then you are forgiven lol.


thanks :thumbsup:
#30
Tracey6101
thanks :thumbsup:


npz ;-)
#31
:thumbsup: Haha you're all BONKERS!!!! YEP:-D freebies all round!!!!


and when i am done you will all go :w00t: hehe
#32
im surprised how many people are still up!!???
#33
Bunch of crazy insomniacs on here!!
#34
I went back into education when I had small children (my ex left me). I had all the doubts you had and had been out of education for about 12 years! I did it to make a better life for myself and my children than we would have had on benefits. It worked out really well for us. My children are now grown (youngest is 23) and agree that I made the best decision for all of us. You should go for it. It'll all work out. xx
#35
Don't worry, I have been where you are now, being a parent is all about guilt sometimes! I recently had to increase my hours at work which meant my little girl had to go to a kids club after school everyday and felt awful about it - sheloves it, she gets to see other people rather than just me all the time and it means that when we are together we make the most of it by actually spending proper time together rather than just tripping over each other!! I do miss her and sometimes she says she misses me but I enjoy getting out there and meeting other adults, you will be fine when you have done that first day on the course and you are building a better future for you both by doing it, never forget that. When I feel bad about it I just ask myself whether we would be having such fun if I was still on benefits and depressed about where the next penny was coming from. Good luck to you, it will take some adjustment but you will both be happier for it. x
#36
Go for it. Don't stress yourself about exams etc as there will be people to make that more manageable on the staff. But whether or not you gain an exam you will gain a skill that will be useful to you.
Good Luck.

@ BG .... foot in the fire this time. lol.
Happy New Year
#37
shosie
Dont take this the worng way but i think you are over reacting


agreed........OP its called living in the real world and all mams do it, well , not round here haha
#38
im just telling it how it is.
#39
it isn't over reacting it is just being a parent!!!!!!!!!!!! if i had a penny for every time i felt guilty or worried over whether i am doing the right thing for my kids i would be a very rich mother!!!!!
#40
helcatamy1
it isn't over reacting it is just being a parent!!!!!!!!!!!! if i had a penny for every time i felt guilty or worried over whether i am doing the right thing for my kids i would be a very rich mother!!!!!


lol

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