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I need a SPECTACULAR idea-any inspiration??

barky Avatar
6y, 5m agoPosted 6 years, 5 months ago
I have a friend who is a joiner-we have known each other since school,socialise regularly etc etc.

He has been here all week fitting our kitchen-arrived at 8am every day and stayed til 6pm-wouldnt stop for a coffee break even. He even brought his apprentice,had an electrician mate come and do all the new sockets,had a plumber friend of his come and do all the sink fitting,plumbing etc.

we bought all the materials obviously-he has done an absolutely spectacular job,right down to the minutest detail-even swept up after himself and took all the rubbish to the dump!

So,come time to settle up-and he wont take a PENNY from us! refuses to take money from friends. So offered him something to "give to his kids"-he wont take it-point blank refuses.

I am not in any way handy at anything,I will never be able to repay the favour in any way so what can I do? I never asked him for a freebie,never asked him for a quote either tbh,but I wanted him to do it because I knew he would do it right.

But now I need to do something,and something on a par with that "level"-he is a mad rangers fan and has never been abroad to see them,so Im thinking maybe take him to an away champions league match as a thank you,or will he be offended by that?would it be underhand to pay for a rangers trip,but tell him I won it or something so it looks more like a repayment of the favour?

or any other ideas?? Im all for friends doing favours for each other but this is an entirely different level.
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6y, 5m agoPosted 6 years, 5 months ago
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#1
get him tickets and plonk them through his letterbox then refuse contact from him until the after the match so he cant give them back lol

sound like a top bloke though!
#2
Wow what a lovely mate you have, you must be very nice yourself too!! Wouldn't have a clue what to do either-but your idea of a footy game sounds great although maybe speak to his partner (if he has one) first to make sure she'll be ok with that before you book it?
I would just say i've got hold of two tickets you fancy coming with me....then you can refuse to accept if he offers to pay you for them. I wouldn't mention you got them just because of what he did for you!!
#3
me and a couple of my mats are like this, i would be offended if someone tried giving me something like that. I have built shedloads of PCs for mates, and helped decoate there whole house, and a couple of mates came and helped me fit a whole kitchen / dinning room, its jsut what happens.
one thing we all did though was make sure we had a very good night with expensive Whiskey and fags after the job was done to chill until 4am nomally lol
#4
going abroad u need to be careful, as difficult to get refund, ie he not busy that day himself and if his passport isnt expired etc....weird i know bt something to keep in mind.

u could always say u wanna test drive ur new kitchen and make a fab meal and go all out. invite him and his fam.
#5
chas76
Wow what a lovely mate you have, you must be very nice yourself too!! Wouldn't have a clue what to do either-but your idea of a footy game sounds great although maybe speak to his partner (if he has one) first to make sure she'll be ok with that before you book it?
I would just say i've got hold of two tickets you fancy coming with me....then you can refuse to accept if he offers to pay you for them. I wouldn't mention you got them just because of what he did for you!!


that was my thinking-my brother does a lot of business with rangers players-I have had tickets before for hospitality there so it wouldnt be a huge stretch to claim he had given me 2 trips abroad to see them,but Im just not sure I should lie to my friend,even with the best intentions. its a quandry.
banned#6
Hire him some ladies for the evening and a nice hotel suite
banned#7
He's out of order not accepting anything for his hard work.
#8
Chuckles1001
me and a couple of my mats are like this, i would be offended if someone tried giving me something like that. I have built shedloads of PCs for mates, and helped decoate there whole house, and a couple of mates came and helped me fit a whole kitchen / dinning room, its jsut what happens.
one thing we all did though was make sure we had a very good night with expensive Whiskey and fags after the job was done to chill until 4am nomally lol


yes,I get your point,but there really is nothing I could do in return-I cant even build an ikea flatpack-Im hopeless! If I had done his pcs or summat in the past then I wouldnt feel so bad.
#9
barky
yes,I get your point,but there really is nothing I could do in return-I cant even build an ikea flatpack-Im hopeless! If I had done his pcs or summat in the past then I wouldnt feel so bad.


yo umissed my point, mates dont expect it, its something you do if you can, i mean helping a mte paint his rooms is not hard and most can do it. as long as you see your mate appreciated it thats enough, its like giving or reciving at Christmas, most would rather give and see someone face :)
but the having a good drink with expenive Whiskey (if they drink that) is very nice esepically with some nice fags with they smoke nice things ;) lol
1 Like #10
wow - what a fab mate ! I know he said no - but what about getting a wii or somethiing 'for the family'.....................
#11
lucerysmum
wow - what a fab mate ! I know he said no - but what about getting a wii or somethiing 'for the family'.....................


thats actually a good shout-his kids are same age as mine so they would enjoy that I think.
#12
barky
thats actually a good shout-his kids are same age as mine so they would enjoy that I think.


QUOTE "So offered him something to "give to his kids"-he wont take it-point blank refuses.".................. and the difference is??? i would be careful as its easy to offend
banned#13
barky
thats actually a good shout-his kids are same age as mine so they would enjoy that I think.


Mod it too and get a load of games for nothing :thumbsup:
#14
Chuckles1001
QUOTE "So offered him something to "give to his kids"-he wont take it-point blank refuses.".................. and the difference is??? i would be careful as its easy to offend


I know,believe me-its impossible isnt it? mrs barky says leave it for now,and the next time my brother comes up with hospitality tickets for a game then give them to him and his wife.

I just feel I should acknowledge it in some way,but if I just got a case of beer or summat thats almost insulting for a weeks work,and the thing is surely he must have paid his apprentice? I dont know HIM,and the electrician/plumber?
#15
barky
that was my thinking-my brother does a lot of business with rangers players-I have had tickets before for hospitality there so it wouldnt be a huge stretch to claim he had given me 2 trips abroad to see them,but Im just not sure I should lie to my friend,even with the best intentions. its a quandry.


I don't think you have to lie about, i'm sure it's nicer for you to go to these things with a mate, so just say you fancy going and it would be great if he could come along too :thumbsup:
banned#16
Just explain how uncomfortable you are not repaying him somehow. Really emphasise the importance to you that you acknowledge his hard work in anyway. It's obviously going to come between you as friends if you don't pay him in some way.
#17
I'm the same with my mate. I'm a mechanic and repair/service & fix anything he's tried to "fix" with thier cars for no monies, he supplies all the parts, but i dont expect anything back, he offers but i decline, he may buy me my supper if we are at the pub, but at the end of the day thats what true mates are for. He's there for you when you need help & one day you'll be there to offer your help :thumbsup:
#18
barky
I know,believe me-its impossible isnt it? mrs barky says leave it for now,and the next time my brother comes up with hospitality tickets for a game then give them to him and his wife.

I just feel I should acknowledge it in some way,but if I just got a case of beer or summat thats almost insulting for a weeks work,and the thing is surely he must have paid his apprentice? I dont know HIM,and the electrician/plumber?


People like that do favours for each other so dont worry about the people he got to help him. I know what you mean ablut the crate of larger, thats why i said ask him round for a good p*ssup and make sure you have what he likes there, it does not repay it but he knows you appricate it by doing that./... then wait for your mrs to get tickets.
#19
master_chief
Just explain how uncomfortable you are not repaying him somehow. Really emphasise the importance to you that you acknowledge his hard work in anyway. It's obviously going to come between you as friends if you don't pay him in some way.


got to ask are you a woman?

*Edit i did not mean that in a bad way at all
banned 1 Like #20
Chuckles1001
got to ask are you a woman?

*Edit i did not mean that in a bad way at all


no he isnt, and if he was, i dont think that kind of offer would go down well :p
#21
Just let it lie.

Tell him he is a top mate, that he can always rely on you and that one day you will be able to repay him in kind but meantime here's a crate of beer.

No need to push it - he's said he is happy so give his opinion respect.
One day you will be able to be there for him and it will matter a lot more.
#22
wow, top geezer.
banned#23
Chuckles1001
got to ask are you a woman?

*Edit i did not mean that in a bad way at all


No. I get what you're saying about doing stuff for mates without recompense and I would happily build someone a PC (couple of hours work) or fix their PC etc for no fee but the scale of this work demands some sort of reward even from a friend. It's clearly making the OP uncomfortable so his mate should accept something.
#24
I think someone fitting a kitchen its not as easy as painting a room etc, I mean most people could probably 'give it a go' but to get it done properly you need to be skilled. To ask for nothing would make me uncomfortable also because its something you would expect to pay for!
#25
jubbyme
no he isnt, and if he was, i dont think that kind of offer would go down well :p


Repped for making me lol

master_chief
No. I get what you're saying about doing stuff for mates without recompense and I would happily build someone a PC (couple of hours work) or fix their PC etc for no fee but the scale of this work demands some sort of reward even from a friend. It's clearly making the OP uncomfortable so his mate should accept something.


I onlt meant that blokes normally dont see it that way, when my mate came and fited my kitchen with me, i offerered him some cash and his mrs later told me he was offeneded that i tried cos thats what mates do

numptyj
I think someone fitting a kitchen its not as easy as painting a room etc, I mean most people could probably 'give it a go' but to get it done properly you need to be skilled. To ask for nothing would make me uncomfortable also because its something you would expect to pay for!


I know what your saying but at the same time a mate is there when you need them, what goes around does come around, its the way of the world. Be thankful you have mates that good, and try to be as good a mate as you can
#26
chesso
Just let it lie.

Tell him he is a top mate, that he can always rely on you and that one day you will be able to repay him in kind but meantime here's a crate of beer.

No need to push it - he's said he is happy so give his opinion respect.
One day you will be able to be there for him and it will matter a lot more.


Here is your answer.

I know when I do stuff for people and don't ask for anything, I don't like getting anything. Get the first round in at the pub and that would do for me.

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