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I split up with my boyf who I still in love with

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arghhh Did it last night. After two and a half years since our first kiss, and two years of being together, I had to end it. Don't really wanna go too much into it, but it is basically the fact h… Read More
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8y, 2m agoPosted 8 years, 2 months ago
arghhh

Did it last night. After two and a half years since our first kiss, and two years of being together, I had to end it. Don't really wanna go too much into it, but it is basically the fact he has serious issues with communication - especially emotional stuff. But doesn't even communicate about anything in his life, and I'm fed up of not knowing what's going on in his world etc. Oh and we hardly ever saw each other.

Never thought I'd be able to do it! He thinks he can change (but I've been trying to get him talking for the whole time and it's not worked so I can't see how magically he can find the key to communication and start now even though I do hope so!).

Anyone else had to end things when both parties are still in love with each other?

It's soooo hard!!!

=(
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8y, 2m agoPosted 8 years, 2 months ago
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#1
If you still love him and he thinks he can change, give him another go; But let him know hes on probation.

Bit cruel just dropping him out of the blue like that
#2
it obviously bothered you enough to finish with him, not being funny but i think 2 years is long enough to communicate
#3
i ment to say aswell you have done the right thing imho
#4
Sometimes if you truly love someone you have to let them go because in your heart if you know it's not right then you have made the right choice :friends:
#5
Had to do it about 12 years ago now,
We had been togerther about 3 years and lived together but broke up over something silly, realised we still loved each other but I had arranged to move back home (100 miles away) we tried for a bit but it just wasn't the same and had to call it a day even though it hurt. I still think about him but am now very happy with my current partner (been together 6.5 years now)
banned#6
mikebike
Sometimes if you truly love someone you have to let them go because in your heart if you know it's not right then you have made the right choice :friends:


Very well said Mike Bike :thumbsup:
#7
I thought you were married - because of your username.

Doesn't sound good, bad times :(
#8
it's not out of the blue.... its been over TWO YEARS. he knows and has known for two years that I think it's a huge problem. I tried splitting with him last November too, so it's not out of the blue by any means. At least once every month or so I try to sort things and tell him how I feel etc, to no avail. I never get anything back in return.

DLM - yeah my boyf lived with me and my son for over 6 months last year then one lunch hour I came home from work and he picked a fight with me over nothing stormed out then called to say he'd phoned his mum and he was moving out. I came home from work 2 hours after that call and all his things were gone. That was after one of his grans cancer was found to be terminal. He is VERY awkward when there's family illness about. Always picks a fight with me, blames me for something I've not done then refuses to speak to me for a few days then just will text a normal text like nothings happened.
#9
Well, Ive been comprehensively outvoted lol
#10
thanks mikebike. that's the way I see it myself. the old saying "if you love someone set them free....."
#11
robtallica
I thought you were married - because of your username.

Doesn't sound good, bad times :(

my username is Scottish slang.

Wee = Small
Wifie = Woman

I'm a small woman hehe.

Actually it's my first boyfriend that started calling me WeeWifie. And it stuck like glue! That was 13 years ago...
#12
It's soooo hard!!!


Shame to waste it. :-(
#13
mikebike
Sometimes if you truly love someone you have to let them go because in your heart if you know it's not right then you have made the right choice :friends:

Had to do the same with my Dachshund, He was in pain with a back problem. It was the kindest option to let him go. It was painless for him at the end..but it hurt me like hell...:cry:

WeeWilfe.. I think you've done the best for yourself. If you're unhappy now, then you will always be the same with him.
banned#14
its happens, and hurts like hell, but remember the good times and keep your dignity :w00t:
#15
WeeWifie
my username is Scottish slang.

Wee = Small
Wifie = Woman

I'm a small woman hehe.

Actually it's my first boyfriend that started calling me WeeWifie. And it stuck like glue! That was 13 years ago...


I'm starting to think the English are in the minority on this site, so many of you tight gits about lol
#16
DLM
This will make you laugh.

My last boyfriend said to me in the November, I'm leaving you in March because my parent's extension will be finished.

I felt like he was resigning from a job what a bloody loser.

I said you are going next Friday, ring your mummy and tell her.


Haha, sounds like he thought you both had a rolling contract or something!
#17
robtallica
I'm starting to think the English are in the minority on this site, so many of you tight gits about lol


Hey less of the cheek,
you lot have always been in the minority :thumbsup:
banned#18
macdoona;4317147
Hey less of the cheek,
you lot have always been in the minority :thumbsup:

:roll:
#19
It did make me laugh DLM! OMG! I can't believe he said that, like he was giving notice on a tenancy! Wow.... men can be such cretins (my choice here would usually be classed as avoiding the swear filter ;-) ).
#20
dog_cop
:roll:


Evening DC how's you?
banned#21
WeeWifie
It did make me laugh DLM! OMG! I can't believe he said that, like he was giving notice on a tenancy! Wow.... men can be such cretins (my choice here would usually be classed as avoiding the swear filter ;-) ).


I have a good one now, thank god.

He is so steady and I hope he will alway's be here for me.
#22
Sorry to hear that - I was in a similar situation around 18 months ago where I'd been with someone for 3 years and although I was in love with them I didn't love them. (If that makes sense). Was incredibly hard thing to do at the time but friends and family were a big help and I ended up getting a rescue dog to keep me company as I had a big house to myself! Also had more time to focus on my career which is no bad thing.

Chin up, you look odds on to win HUKD 'rear of the year' ;-)
banned#23
OP to be honest you will probably get back together.... I just did...
banned#24
WeeWifie;4317163
It did make me laugh DLM! OMG! I can't believe he said that, like he was giving notice on a tenancy! Wow.... men can be such cretins (my choice here would usually be classed as avoiding the swear filter ;-) ).

its amazing that men always get the kak end of the stick, but women are just as bad, no one person is perfect
banned#25
macdoona;4317169
Evening DC how's you?

fine thanks cinema was excellent
#26
dog_cop
fine thanks cinema was excellent


Good to hear.
#27
macdoona
Good to hear.


Hey Mac.............I've been ever so good..wink,wink,nudge nudge....:whistling:
#28
you need good communication and love care and attention and a big poker to make a long lasting relationship with a woman
#29
well I hope we could work things out... but I can't see him suddenly changing now... even though he is saying he will. it's like "can a leopard ever change his spots?". we will see....
#30
why should he change :?

ya love someone for who they are , not what ya want them to be.
#31
SpecialK
you need good communication and love care and attention and a big poker to make a long lasting relationship with a woman


You sound like you know me so well :lol:
#32
Och get over, theres tonnes of guys out there.
#33
robtallica
You sound like you know me so well :lol:


its why i have to fight the women off at work lol.
#34
go with your heart i say (if this makes any sense)
1 Like #35
You say you still love him......

but are you still in love with him ? There is a big difference. People confuse these emotions but from the way you mentioned him on this site recently he hasn't been making you happy.

By ending the relationship you have been very responsible.......you'll both find someone else who you truly connect with.

Life isn't about settling or changing people but accepting and being happy with your loved one's traits and peculiarities.

Feels hard now but you'll feel a lot better in the long run xx
#36
rockyfella
Hey Mac.............I've been ever so good..wink,wink,nudge nudge....:whistling:


Am I really meant to believe that?????? :)
#37
choc1969

Life isn't about settling or changing people but accepting and being happy with your loved one's traits and peculiarities.




ya got brains and body :-D
#38
choc1969
You say you still love him......

but are you still in love with him ? There is a big difference. People confuse these emotions but from the way you mentioned him on this site recently he hasn't been making you happy.

By ending the relationship you have been very responsible.......you'll both find someone else who you truly connect with.

Life isn't about settling or changing people but accepting and being happy with your loved one's traits and peculiarities.

Feels hard now but you'll feel a lot better in the long run xx

yeah I'm still in love with him. not just love him. that's how things got with my last two exes. but it's different this time which is why it's been so hard.

my brother text me telling me that his fiancees told him thats why they split up coz he couldnt communicate, and she's learned to live with it that she's not gonna be able to change that. (They had their first child last Sunday and are getting married in July). However i just can't do that. I'm a EXTREMELY chatty person, and I just can't be with someone who cannot even have a chat about stuff - like the news, days at work man even the weather!! I need to speak and for someone to ask me how my day was. and he can't do that right now.
#39
Am going through the same thing at the moment and it's the hardest thing I've ever experienced. Would rather be tortured with big scary...painful things than have to go through the hurt. Boooooo. Make sure you're 100% that you've made the right decision and that it's what you want.
#40
WeeWifie;4317470
yeah I'm still in love with him. not just love him. that's how things got with my last two exes. but it's different this time which is why it's been so hard.

my brother text me telling me that his fiancees told him thats why they split up coz he couldnt communicate, and she's learned to live with it that she's not gonna be able to change that. (They had their first child last Sunday and are getting married in July). However i just can't do that. I'm a EXTREMELY chatty person, and I just can't be with someone who cannot even have a chat about stuff - like the news, days at work man even the weather!! I need to speak and for someone to ask me how my day was. and he can't do that right now.


If you were IN LOVE with him it wouldn't matter hun.......

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