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im really annoyed over what my OH just said!!!

edjaned Avatar
8y, 1m agoPosted 8 years, 1 month ago
my eldest son has just come home from high school and said next week there is an open evening at school and u have to come with me to speak to my teachers about my options to do with his gcse
i asked when it will be and he said prob around tea time
so when my son left the room my OH said to me "why cant his dad take him" i said its ok i want to go with him
my OH then said well in that case seen as it will be tea time are u gonna take all the other kids with u there?
WTF???
i just said i couldnt believe what he had just said and left it at that,but it has really peed me off
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8y, 1m agoPosted 8 years, 1 month ago
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#1
You should speak to him about it.

Getting silent or abusive(waits for the women to enter the thread) is detrimental to your relationship. :)
#2
That's a bit unfair of him, if i was you i would want to go aswell, men are sooo insensitive sometimes :x
#3
tell him seeing at it's at dinner time HE WILL have to get the other kids dinners ready :lol:
#4
thesaint
You should speak to him about it.


yeah i will later when kids are in bed,dont like to argue when they are around
what he did say was "u moan if i go out at tea time" and yes i do moan if he decides to take dog for a walk leaving me to cook tea and watch the 5 kids but this is different
if i ever go out at tea time i ALWAYS prepare tea for everyone first or when i get back
#5
i dont care what he says im going anyway

but what is his problem,i dont get it??
#6
jellybaby22
thats a bit unreasonable....WTF is wrong with men..really...why are they all such ............(fill in the blank)



How long have you got for me to fill in the blank :roll:

edjaned
yeah i will later when kids are in bed,dont like to argue when they are around
what he did say was "u moan if i go out at tea time" and yes i do moan if he decides to take dog for a walk leaving me to cook tea and watch the 5 kids but this is different
if i ever go out at tea time i ALWAYS prepare tea for everyone first or when i get back


Yes definately talk to him and hopefully you will get somewhere, sounds very much like mine though, the kids are my responsibility at ALL times
#7
cheerleader
tell him seeing at it's at dinner time HE WILL have to get the other kids dinners ready :lol:


yeah i will :x

if he cooks for them though its always chips!!

anyway how are u feeling today hope u are feeling better xx
banned#8
my daughter is only 21 months today and when she goes to school i would like both me and my partner to go to her parents nights when we both can unless his is working of course which then he cant lol but otherwise we both will be going
#9
OH wont come as he is not his dad my 2 eldest are from a previous partner so anything to do with the 2 eldest myself or their dad deal with it
#10
edjaned
yeah i will later when kids are in bed,dont like to argue when they are around


Don't prepare for an argument, you sound like you are setting yourself up for a fall out.

You have plenty of time to prepare for what his response will be, so try and think of a way to combat what he will say without getting angry and upset. :)
#11
thesaint
Don't prepare for an argument, you sound like you are setting yourself up for a fall out.

You have plenty of time to prepare for what his response will be, so try and think of a way to combat what he will say without getting angry and upset. :)


cant fault that advice :thumbsup:
#12
I don't get it :?
banned#13
Tell him to stop being such a lazy ass and take some damn responsibility for his children. Sounds like he has issues.
banned#14
thesaint
Don't prepare for an argument, you sound like you are setting yourself up for a fall out.

You have plenty of time to prepare for what his response will be, so try and think of a way to combat what he will say without getting angry and upset. :)


bitseylango
cant fault that advice :thumbsup:


Tip top :thumbsup:
#15
Foosball Chum
Tell him to stop being such a lazy ass and take some damn responsibility for his children. Sounds like he has issues.


dont you think that will result in a huge bust up? namecalling isnt going to solve anything :)
#16
Shengis
I don't get it :?


you should get out more:oops:
banned#17
bitseylango
dont you think that will result in a huge bust up? namecalling isnt going to solve anything :)


Say it as I see it babes, you know me :roll:
#18
edjaned
i dont care what he says im going anyway

but what is his problem,i dont get it??


mmm i would tell him if you have to take the others you might aswel be a single parent family:w00t:
#19
thesaint
Don't prepare for an argument, you sound like you are setting yourself up for a fall out.

You have plenty of time to prepare for what his response will be, so try and think of a way to combat what he will say without getting angry and upset. :)


its not me who argues
when i try and have an adult conversation with him he just gets moody and argumentative and usually decides to take dog out

tbh i think he is just being an ass,i sometimes think he just resents me having anytime with the 2 eldest,

i am just going to tell him that i think his comments were out of order,and ask him what his problem is
#20
louloo
you should get out more:oops:


Nope, im the happy hermit:-D
#21
Foosball Chum
Say it as I see it babes, you know me :roll:


yep strangely one of the few men who can see the female side-maybe its all the time you spend chatting em up gives you an insite:roll:
banned#22
edjaned
its not me who argues
when i try and have an adult conversation with him he just gets moody and argumentative and usually decides to take dog out

tbh i think he is just being an ass,i sometimes think he just resents me having anytime with the 2 eldest,

i am just going to tell him that i think his comments were out of order,and ask him what his problem is


I take the dog out for a walk to throw the ball and get rid of some rage. Last thing I want is to get heated and end up punching the wall (it hurts), but it also gives me time to think about what I want to say reasonably..........might be worth telling him to take the dog out :-D
#23
[QUOTE

resents me having anytime with the 2 eldest


sounds like you know the reason;-)
banned#24
louloo
yep strangely one of the few men who can see the female side-maybe its all the time you spend chatting em up gives you an insite:roll:


Hmmm, probably........most of my best friends are women, I tend to not have great friendships with men. Strange, but hey :roll:
#25
he has just got back from taking the dog after his comment
will see what he says.........
#26
when my boy had his parents ev it was at tea time so u get a baby sitter in or someone as in my eyes they grow quick so u wont get another chance
#27
edjaned
its not me who argues
when i try and have an adult conversation with him he just gets moody and argumentative and usually decides to take dog out

tbh i think he is just being an ass,i sometimes think he just resents me having anytime with the 2 eldest,

i am just going to tell him that i think his comments were out of order,and ask him what his problem is


Oh Dear, :-(

It takes at least two people to argue, if he starts raising his voice, you need to make an extra special effort to lower yours and be in control of the situation.
If he takes the dog out, let him.
When he comes back, tell him calmly that you need to discuss the matter as it hasn't been resolved.

If the father of your child isn't going, then your OH should be going in his place. You shouldn't let that situation develop any further, it's not healthy.
#28
Foosball Chum
Hmmm, probably........most of my best friends are women, I tend to not have great friendships with men. Strange, but hey :roll:


im the same
i tend to get on better with males than females always have done :)
#29
edjaned
OH wont come as he is not his dad my 2 eldest are from a previous partner so anything to do with the 2 eldest myself or their dad deal with it


Thats a shame tbh.
Hope your OH sees sense and will go.
banned#30
louloo
[QUOTE

resents me having anytime with the 2 eldest


sounds like you know the reason;-)


Yeah to quote ODB, but its the best thing said in a long while. But if you think that is the reason, it is probably the case.......he'll put it better than I can, over to ODB
#31
Foosball Chum
Yeah to quote ODB, but its the best thing said in a long while. But if you think that is the reason, it is probably the case.......he'll put it better than I can, over to ODB


odb? what did he say?
#32
ADAMHODG
Thats a shame tbh.
Hope your OH sees sense and will go.


he wont come

he never has done
#33
Foosball Chum
Yeah to quote ODB, but its the best thing said in a long while. But if you think that is the reason, it is probably the case.......he'll put it better than I can, over to ODB


now im totally lost :thinking:
#34
edjaned
he wont come

he never has done


my partner doesnt-although he does many other things for my kids-so i dont worry about it.
#35
bitseylango
now im totally lost :thinking:


yep me too:oops: FC please explain??
#36
louloo
my partner doesnt-although he does many other things for my kids-so i dont worry about it.


he doesnt come to his own childrens so he wouldnt come to my childrens
he is a good father to the kids (his own)but since my eldest has become a teenager they dont really get on any more :-(
#37
edjaned
he wont come

he never has done


Well i guess everyone is different etc.
If it were me i would go, but im not in that situation so cant really comment.
#38
edjaned
he doesnt come to his own childrens so he wouldnt come to my childrens
he is a good father to the kids (his own)but since my eldest has become a teenager they dont really get on any more :-(


yep teenage is worse...even with your own kids sometimes its hard to really like them (sorry if this offends some people!) They can be the most difficult selfish, lazy, well i could go on:oops:
Anyways hopefully later in life things will change and he will be friends with him at least:thumbsup:
I have three over teenage years now so have experience of all the pitfalls-but still make mistakes on a daily basis.
People can say 'well i would do this' but all families are different and you got to figure what works for you. If you are not happy with it change it if you can.
#39
edjaned
he doesnt come to his own childrens so he wouldnt come to my childrens
he is a good father to the kids (his own)but since my eldest has become a teenager they dont really get on any more :-(


My OH has brought up my eldest as his own since he was 4, they used to get on really well until he hit his teens. I used to feel like piggy in the middle with the two of them arguing all the time, feeling like I should stick up for my son and back my husband up at the same time.
We have 2 younger sons together and he always appeared to favour them.................however, now that they are approaching/entering their teen years I hear the same arguements between them and their dad as I did from the eldest!! It really is just a clash of hormones and personalities and all of them attempting to rule the roost.............when will they ever learn.......I am head of this household! :-D
#40
bitseylango
My OH has brought up my eldest as his own since he was 4, they used to get on really well until he hit his teens. I used to feel like piggy in the middle with the two of them arguing all the time, feeling like I should stick up for my son and back my husband up at the same time.
We have 2 younger sons together and he always appeared to favour them.................however, now that they are approaching/entering their teen years I hear the same arguements between them and their dad as I did from the eldest!! It really is just a clash of hormones and personalities and all of them attempting to rule the roost.............when will they ever learn.......I am head of this household! :-D


lol here, here:thumbsup:

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