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ok ok so i know its my fault but been in kids room again and they drive me nuts!!!! you spend hundreds on toys for them which they never look after either break them or lose bits, i had little sort ou… Read More
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7y, 6m agoPosted 7 years, 6 months ago
ok ok so i know its my fault but been in kids room again and they drive me nuts!!!! you spend hundreds on toys for them which they never look after either break them or lose bits, i had little sort out the other day and when i did, my son asked ooohhhh where did u get that from?? when i said his room he said i never knew i had that!! ok so i buy my kids too much so its my own fault but i wanna moan, i think of kids that dont get nothing and wish i could box it all up and give it to them !!! and cancel xmas this year if i was brave enough i would!!! ok so i sound really mean but ive had enough, why should i spend hard earnt money when they dont care, anyone wanna give me some ideas to what i could do to make them aware!! as i feel ive been doing it so long now routine is hard to break, what can i do its driving me insane!!!
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7y, 6m agoPosted 7 years, 6 months ago
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banned#1
:friends:
#2
how old are your kids?
#3
tell them to sort them out - let them have a garage sale and give money to charity

ask in school can they put a notice up

getting rid of half of it - going to a good cause - merit from school:thumbsup:
#4
Charlie Scene
how old are your kids?
my boys is 5 and daughter is 8 but my son isnt too bad he keeps him room fairly clean well trys, but its my daughters repsonse i tell her it makes me sooo sad and she dont care!!
#5
awww hun, siddown and get a nice cup of tea you need it :) xxx

Bloomin kiddies eh, you know you love em :) xx
banned#6
we all moan - lol

but honestly, have you ever thought of selling their toys, my son broke everything when he was younger so couldnt do that but if they still good knick then maybe sell them, or give them to children who probabl;y have less, a childrens hospice etc,etc maybe ask them to help you sort through things to goive away to those others
#7
CraigVil
:friends:
thanks needed that :thumbsup:
#8
When i was a kid i never forgot any toy i had :(

Was it a big toy or was it like a doll or teddy lol XD
#9
sassie
we all moan - lol

but honestly, have you ever thought of selling their toys, my son broke everything when he was younger so couldnt do that but if they still good knick then maybe sell them, or give them to children who probabl;y have less, a childrens hospice etc,etc maybe ask them to help you sort through things to goive away to those others
i would thats the thing but they just dont care once i packed all her stuff up and stored outside shed and told her id given it all away and she still didnt care!!
banned#10
OMG wait till your daughter is older, it take my son 10 mins to sort his room out, pout books away, pons, games etc,metc daughter is 16 and its like a crap tip, and that after she been up there hours tidying it - lol
#11
My mother used to take away my telly or something that she knew i couldnt live without! and wouldn't give it back until i had tidyed up and put stuff away, it always worked
#12
ClarityofMind
awww hun, siddown and get a nice cup of tea you need it :) xxx

Bloomin kiddies eh, you know you love em :) xx
haha i know need to chill but by response bet you have same prob!! its the wanting your child to have everything but would like to know they appriciate it
#13
Why don't you sit your kids down and talk to them about Children who don't have nice toys and ask them if they will donate ones they don't use to a specific charity that they have decided on.It might make them more aware of how lucky they are.
#14
angelfacexx
my boys is 5 and daughter is 8 but my son isnt too bad he keeps him room fairly clean well trys, but its my daughters repsonse i tell her it makes me sooo sad and she dont care!!


he sounds ok then i think you need to get through to your 8 year old somehow, she should be old enough to start taking a bit more responsibility with her stuff. Warn her first that you will start getting rid of things instead of tidying them up in future.....also you may want to spend some "quality time" with her as a reward for good behaviour - something girly for just you two, i think you will see some benefit in her attitude if she gets positive attention for positive actions :thumbsup:

ps. whatever you decide- you are only as good as your word, if you dont stick to it.......then its not their fault,lead by example...
#15
sassie
OMG wait till your daughter is older, it take my son 10 mins to sort his room out, pout books away, pons, games etc,metc daughter is 16 and its like a crap tip, and that after she been up there hours tidying it - lol
why is that??? my sons the same he does it well trys his best lol and she goes up and nothing seems to of changed and been up there all day

Ella'sMummy
My mother used to take away my telly or something that she knew i couldnt live without! and wouldn't give it back until i had tidyed up and put stuff away, it always worked
not sure what as she can live without everything she dont care
i use to ban her from her cheerleading when she wouldnt eat her sandwich at school as i told her if she didnt eat good bits out of lunch she wouldnt have energy(thats with taking bad stuff out too) and she still wouldnt do it, in end teacher told her from club she wouldnt be allowed to do it if she didnt eat properly then she would!!
#16
angelfacexx
haha i know need to chill but by response bet you have same prob!! its the wanting your child to have everything but would like to know they appriciate it


Hun I have 4 and a quarter kiddies... I've SO been there before.... lol xxxx

I know just what you'll do too... you'll tidy the rooms and put everything just so then go absolutely nuts in a couple of days cos it'll be just the same.

My 12 yr old is STILL doing what your 8 yr old does..... lol

You can try :

--revoking priiviledges ( such as internet access/tv time/ nintendo/wii/etc )
-- banning them from seeing their mates until their rooms are tidy
--removing the toys that they dont play with/are too young for them
-- be mean with yourself... DONT spend the money on the kids, they arent gonna die without the latest toy.... better that they have a happy mummy :) xxx
--reward them for a tidy room with something that has meaning.... such as time with Mum :)
#17
mikebike
Why don't you sit your kids down and talk to them about Children who don't have nice toys and ask them if they will donate ones they don't use to a specific charity that they have decided on.It might make them more aware of how lucky they are.
thats the thing though she wouldnt care if it all went but what child can live with nothing???

Charlie Scene
he sounds ok then i think you need to get through to your 8 year old somehow, she should be old enough to start taking a bit more responsibility with her stuff. Warn her first that you will start getting rid of things instead of tidying them up in future.....also you may want to spend some "quality time" with her as a reward for good behaviour - something girly for just you two, i think you will see some benefit in her attitude if she gets positive attention for positive actions :thumbsup:


i do try we have girly days doing makeup hair etc and have been selling stuff to clearout but she dosnt care she would live with nothing ??
#18
I'm pretty sure I used to keep my room tidy. My parents wouldn't let me get away with it.

Now I have my own flat of course it's a disaster zone :)
#19
MBeeching
I'm pretty sure I used to keep my room tidy. My parents wouldn't let me get away with it.

Now I have my own flat of course it's a disaster zone :)


go tidy your room!!!!!!!! :x
#20
If she really doesn't care about her stuff, stop buying it for her. Simples.

My daughters room is also a crap heap, but she looks after her stuff and always appreciates what I buy her. Her wardrobe is her floor though... lol
#21
ClarityofMind
Hun I have 4 and a quarter kiddies... I've SO been there before.... lol xxxx

I know just what you'll do too... you'll tidy the rooms and put everything just so then go absolutely nuts in a couple of days cos it'll be just the same.

My 12 yr old is STILL doing what your 8 yr old does..... lol

You can try :

--revoking priiviledges ( such as internet access/tv time/ nintendo/wii/etc )
-- banning them from seeing their mates until their rooms are tidy
--removing the toys that they dont play with/are too young for them
-- be mean with yourself... DONT spend the money on the kids, they arent gonna die without the latest toy.... better that they have a happy mummy :) xxx
--reward them for a tidy room with something that has meaning.... such as time with Mum :)


jellybaby22
my 7 year old is just the same......i have given up trying to get her to look after her toys or clean her room....quicker if i do it ..... :roll:
thats good idea i think im gonna have a try banning things and be mean and not buy anything well try!!!!
ive done the room tidy thing and then she loves her room and says this time im gonna keep it tidy 2 days later its the same and then dosses in her brothers room as its tidier??
#22
MBeeching
I'm pretty sure I used to keep my room tidy. My parents wouldn't let me get away with it.

Now I have my own flat of course it's a disaster zone :)


My sons room used to look like summin out of The Young Ones.

Then he got a girlfriend and suddenly it was all gleamingly tidy and ordered and even flowers in a vase.......... :?
#23
Get them to go through their toys etc with you and put things they dont want to one side. Either donate them to a charity shop or sell them at a car boot sale or ebay. Any money they make if you sell them donate to children in need.
#24
sassie
we all moan - lol

but honestly, have you ever thought of selling their toys, my son broke everything when he was younger so couldnt do that but if they still good knick then maybe sell them, or give them to children who probabl;y have less, a childrens hospice etc,etc maybe ask them to help you sort through things to goive away to those others


+1 Ive started to do this. Anything thats heavy and bulky and i couldnt get fair price for here i give to local womens aid. Have also given some brand new items id forgotten about.
Same for sons clothes if after few attempts they dont sell here i take them with me too. Youi get such a warm fuzzy feeling inside.
#25
angelfacexx
thats good idea i think im gonna have a try banning things and be mean and not buy anything well try!!!!
ive done the room tidy thing and then she loves her room and says this time im gonna keep it tidy 2 days later its the same and then dosses in her brothers room as its tidier??


lol!!!

My 12 yr old does just the same thing :) xxx

Charlie is right... it has something to do with them needing a sense of RESPONSIBILITY... to look after their things.
#26
ClarityofMind
lol!!!

My 12 yr old does just the same thing :) xxx

[SIZE="4"]Charlie is right[/SIZE]... it has something to do with them needing a sense of RESPONSIBILITY... to look after their things.


awww you're just saying that :oops: xxx
#27
thanks guys im gonna give all ideas a go and see how i get on IM NOT GONNA CAVE IN OR GIVE IN" im gonna stick with it and see how i get on, thanks guys i feel bit better knowing everyone is going through same thing well some of you anyway
#28
Charlie Scene
awww you're just saying that :oops: xxx


Nope :w00t:

I agree with ya :) :-D
#29
Agree with previous posters re. responsibility.

Try buying storage boxes (including under bed storage) to make it easier.

:thumbsup:
#30
Its a girl thing! My lil lady is the same (shes only 4) Its our own fault for buying so many toys, but its hard not too isnt it?

I went out bought some new storage boxes (The 99p shop have some fantastic bright pink ones - good size) sorted all her room out, put boxes into catergories (sad I know) animals,characters,cars etc for all the small bits and it has worked really well.

I know where your coming from its healthy to moan about it, well so I tell myself! :)
#31
4lyons09
Its a girl thing! My lil lady is the same (shes only 4) Its our own fault for buying so many toys, but its hard not too isnt it?

I went out bought some new storage boxes (The 99p shop have some fantastic bright pink ones - good size) sorted all her room out, put boxes into catergories (sad I know) animals,characters,cars etc for all the small bits and it has worked really well.

I know where your coming from its healthy to moan about it, well so I tell myself! :)
i did that and then the boxes never got opened i think what i need to do is have a major clearout and get rid of tons and maybe then it might be easier, just wish kids had it in then to look after things they dont even put the laptops in there cases it makes me wonder if i did as a child clear up after me??
#32
angelfacexx
i did that and then the boxes never got opened i think what i need to do is have a major clearout and get rid of tons and maybe then it might be easier, just wish kids had it in then to look after things they dont even put the laptops in there cases it makes me wonder if i did as a child clear up after me??


I think when we were kids we ddnt own as much stuff...

and we had more time to tidy things ( I remember sorting all my books into alphabetical order! )

Because we didn't have so much electronic frippery :)

My 15yr old even says to me... " Mum, dont buy me any more stuff cos I really dont wanna have to take the responsibility of owning it ".

I think sometimes they do just fine with NOT having summin xxx

It's less " baggage" for em x
#33
Why are you blaming the kids? It's the parents responsibility to make sure they learn possessions should be looked after. If they find toys that they didn't even know they had, then they are getting far too many. Limit the number of toys that you buy them, and they will learn to look after it better. If they get lots, then when something breaks, it's ok, because they've got something else.

Think of it like an adult with a car, it may be an old car, but they look after it well, because it's all they can afford, so becomes valuable to them.
banned#34
With xmas so close, do EXACTLY what you say you want to do. Box up all their old toys and take the kids with you to the charity shop, or better still the hospital. It will make you feel better giving toys to those who need them, and the kids will see that if they dont respect or play with their toys someone else will :thumbsup:

P.S. you will replace with new toys come xmas time anyway :lol:
#35
peodude
Why are you blaming the kids? It's the parents responsibility to make sure they learn possessions should be looked after. If they find toys that they didn't even know they had, then they are getting far too many. Limit the number of toys that you buy them, and they will learn to look after it better. If they get lots, then when something breaks, it's ok, because they've got something else.

Think of it like an adult with a car, it may be an old car, but they look after it well, because it's all they can afford, so becomes valuable to them.


But kids will be kids!
#36
I think its a good thing that you want to do something about this! I am also at wits end with my kids and have decided this year to buy ten things from poundland each for them for christmas! this way they think they have recieved a lot but when they inevitably break these gifts i will not feel so bad about it! I have done this on a previous birthday and my child never noticed the difference! NEVER feel guilty about doing this as kids dont need stuff to make them happy.....its just us stupid parents believing that we are bad if our kids dont have the latest stuff! anyway a happy parent makes happy children.....buy yourself stuff instead of them! That might teach them!!!
#37
If I think my kids dont use any of their toys I put them in a safe place for a while if they haven't noticed them missing in about a month I ebay them and put the money in their savings accounts, they are loaded and don't even know it!!

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