feeling a bit teed off today over this one......
Basically I had 2 kids from a previous relationship when i met hubby,his mother i have never seen eye to eye with and i think the majority of the problem is that i already had kids when i met her son (the youngest of her 2 kids)
We have been together 11 years now and have 2 children of our own,now dont get me wrong the mother in law has a heart of gold as far as her 2 grand children are concerned,the 2 kids from my previous relationship are left out a lot,she does bother with them on their birthdays and if someone visits they are her "grandchildren" but any other time they are given the back seat.
It all started when i went tro try my wedding dress on 10 years ago,mother in law came with me got the gown on and some accesories and pulled back the changing room curtain to hear her say rather loudly"you look like a whore" this was because i had put on a pearl choker with the dress and prostitutes wear chokers!
obviously i went home in tears hubby to be wasnt happy and spoke to her
then she got over involved in the wedding plans and this was wrong that was wrong etc
over the years i have bit my tongue so hard and tried for hubbys sake to keep the peace
we recently moved house,she refused to visit our new home but came round a fortnight later!
my little one starts school in september and i have chosen for her to go to a village school as the ofsted report for it was gleaming,that was also wrong as the mother in law says "there is no competition between the kids"
she has the 2 grandchildren every wednesday but as of september is refusing to have the little one because i havent enrolled her in the school she wanted her to go to!
Yesterday was hubbys birthday,he got stuck up in epsom and the mother in law turned up with fairy cakes etc she had made
now hubby is 34,she then started having a go that i hadnt got him a birthday cake! i did ask him but he didnt want one as were saving for our holiday later this year.
I put the kettle on was in the process of making tea and emptying bins and washing up and she was moaning that i had to find a candle for the cake she had made him (hubby still wasnt back)
I told her to wait a moment whilst i finished off the things i was doing and then i would find a candle,she continued moaning and I'm afraid after all these years i let rip and boy did i go for it so much so that i f'ed and blinded at her,slammed a few doors,hubbys sister also joined in with the mother in law and i and went off out,as i got to the end of the path hubby was coming up and i just shouted at him to sort her out.
his family then all got in their cars and left.
I feel like im the black sheep,im 31 years old for crying out loud and hate being bossed around and told what to do,its getting to the point where our marriage is suffering because of her,hubby has said we will move away but why should i leave everything i know,I've lived in this town all my life.
sorry tis long but needed to get it off my chest,i know his family will be back stabbing me now,i havent spoken to my own mother in 16 years since she disowned me and certainly would of put up with this crap from one of my family members,maybe i kept stum too long and she got away with it and just carried on,feel so bad it ruined hubbys birthday :(