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My 3rd wedding question - church wedding

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I've got a personal issue now. I don't believe in the stories of the bible. Its an adult book of nursery rhymes. I've been christened I used to go to sunday school and been to church a few times. I've…
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banned7y, 8m agoPosted 7 years, 8 months ago
I've got a personal issue now. I don't believe in the stories of the bible. Its an adult book of nursery rhymes. I've been christened I used to go to sunday school and been to church a few times. I've prayed and felt like at times i have been tested by a greater presence.

So does this mean we can't get married in church or can we change what the dude at the front can say? Dependent on the church?
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banned7y, 8m agoPosted 7 years, 8 months ago
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1 Like #1
You are definitely not due another thread on the subject of weddings until the day after tomorrow!
What did I say right at the start? The Floodgates have opened.:w00t:
You can get married in your local church - no probs. They have recently relaxed the criteria but you would have been OK anyway.
Talk to your vicar as to the vow options.
I opted out of 'obey' a long time ago.:-D
1 Like #2
I would say you can still get married in church! :)

Is your OH religious? Does it mean a lot to her, or is she much the same as you?

I have been to weddings that are REALLY religious, and ones that are not bad at all, I guess you need to speak to the Priest/ Vicar you want to perform the wedding.

My Mum was Catholic, my Dad Church of England... back in the '70's, the Catholic preist my Mum wanted to marry them said they could only get married on the side altar, my Dad told him... "main altar, or not at all....." guess where they got married!!! :-D
1 Like #3
There are many people who don't believe any of the stories in the bible, however it doesn't mean they do not believe in god.
1 Like #4
cant really answer your question tbh but here is a really useful site, hope you find the answer to your question :thumbsup:
http://www.free-wedding-information.com/
banned#5
Oh okay sounds promising. She's much the same as me though i think she would be more likely to fore sake her principles for a church wedding :p we are both CoE
1 Like #6
If you don't believe in the stories of the bible. Why would you want a religious ceremony? Just for show? That would be hypocritical. Just have a civil do they can be equally as good.
banned#7
I'll give out rep tomorrow, sorry on phone at work at moment.
banned#8
crd67
If you don't believe in the stories of the bible. Why would you want a religious ceremony? Just for show? That would be hypocritical. Just have a civil do they can be equally as good.


Yes it would be hypocritical but i want to make her happy and i've always wanted a church wedding. I suppose yes i want someone up there to know we are going to be together for the rest of our lives. But jesus was just a pre mental clinic patient.
#9
crd67
If you don't believe in the stories of the bible. Why would you want a religious ceremony? Just for show? That would be hypocritical. Just have a civil do they can be equally as good.


If you have been brought up in a religious home... but then made your own decisions... it is called 'hedging your bets' !:)

Half of you wants to believe... but the other half isn't so sure!

Just making sure! :thumbsup:
1 Like #10
I hate infant baptism services where the parents and godparents aren't believers as they are outright lying in the ceremony; but I think weddings are a little different although I still feel it's not quite honest.

I can't talk though as my wife and I weren't Chrstian when we were married in church - we had a belief in a 'creator' but didn't have any particular views on Jesus (certainly didn't rate him as a looney) ;-)

Depending on where you live there are some fantastic civil halls - we went to a wedding at Windsor Great Hall a few years back - grander than almost any church (and no more expensive).

Also some churches will do a blessing type ceremony where the wedding itself is civil (usually the day before) and the showy bit is in the church.
#11
Or you could just stay single and keep your money and sanity!!
#12
karaokecolin
Or you could just stay single and keep your money and sanity!!


Lololol.... or this!! :w00t:
1 Like #13
"My 3rd wedding question - church wedding"

I misread that!!!

Thought you meant "My 3rd wedding..... question - church wedding"

questioning the 3rd time?!?!!?

Solution is simple... if you're paying for it.. do what your heart says.. if your parents are paying for it... do what their heart says :P

/whatever you choose.. have fun :)
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It's a really easy question - if you don't believe 'in all that stuff', don't get married in a Church. Not only is it hypocritical, but an insult to those who are religious.

You want to change the vows too? Sure, change 'em to something else but the fact remains that the idea is your promises are said in the house of God because you believe they should be kept. If you don't even believe in the things around you, how much conviction are you going to have when saying them?

If you want to make your OH happy, tell her the truth about your beliefs, rather than go through the motions of a meaningless ceremony.
#15
well sadly you dont have to beleive to marry in church.
changing the words i think its only obey you can change. However, you might be able to add a few words if you say them yourself.
#16
Xb0xGuru
It's a really easy question - if you don't believe 'in all that stuff', don't get married in a Church. Not only is it hypocritical, but an insult to those who are religious.

You want to change the vows too? Sure, change 'em to something else but the fact remains that the idea is your promises are said in the house of God because you believe they should be kept. If you don't even believe in the things around you, how much conviction are you going to have when saying them?

If you want to make your OH happy, tell her the truth about your beliefs, rather than go through the motions of a meaningless ceremony.


what they said.
#17
Im an aethiest, but will prob marry in a local church as its cheaper than anywhere else. what does that make me? :whistling:
#18
shanecr
Im an aethiest, but will prob marry in a local church as its cheaper than anywhere else. what does that make me? :whistling:


A hypocrite AND a tightwad ? :whistling:
#19
Xb0xGuru
A hypocrite AND a tightwad ? :whistling:


lol thats me :-D
#20
Im due to get married in August, I myself do not have any religious beliefs, however, the OH does.
We are actually getting married in a registry office in the morning, and then in the afternoon we are having a blessing (I call it a fake wedding, lol) We'll be doing the exchanging of rings and all that stuff that normally happens at the blessing...
We are doing this because of cost mainly but we can also personalise what we do and avoid the legal bit in the church as we would already be married...

A good site to use too is [url]www.weddingpath.co.uk[/url].
You can make your own wedding site up with details of the wedding to send to your guests!
#21
shanecr
lol thats me :-D


I forgot to add "...with a sense of humour" :thumbsup:
#22
shanecr
Im an aethiest, but will prob marry in a local church as its cheaper than anywhere else. what does that make me? :whistling:


And if there is a god... you get a +1 rep
#23
I recently got married in a hotel, civil ceremony.It was beautiful!
#24
i guess the church option has the advantage of usually having loadsa seating for your friends and family, and good acoustics! saying your vows in 'the house of God' is just b****x. There's a church about 50mtrs from my house and I've never seen him coming in or out. -I'm starting to think that it's all made up...

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