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My Daughter is terribly upset over the rabbit - he's been killed - very sad

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7y, 8m agoPosted 7 years, 8 months ago
Ok we let the rabbit out on daily basis and last night the hutch can't of been shut properly up at night,we've had a lot on lately and guess my partner been slack and not checked it.

Anyway I get up today to let the rabbit out and find the hutch door is open,and his soft toy is on the patio,he never takes his toy out of his hutch and keeps it in the side he sleeps in. Anyway so I check all over the garden and my side gate is closed up so I know he's not escaped the gate,I also got the steps that go down the side of the house blocked up so he doesn't go down there.

I check around the garden and well don't know much else to do,it's not like a lost dog where you can call around dog wardens/ pounds etc.

Anyway children come in from school and I explain the rabbit is no longer with us and I'm not sure what's happened,I say he's lost etc. My partner at work and insists that I should let them play in the garden as I was just going bath them and try take their minds off it, I'm upset too. Anyway about 5mins later they come in from back garden and say there is a bone on the side bank and bring me out to see.
Aww it's so sad,there a back rabbit leg,it's covered in blood and there is a tuft of fur left at the top,and it's def our bunny :( My daughter is in absolute tears and been crying for ages now. I've finally settled her down and she drawing at moment.

I presume a fox come in the garden and has had him and took him off elsewhere to eat I guess. I explained it's nature and it's just an accident it's happened,however I'm really annoyed this happened.

I've had a lot of questions asked me now about it all,mainly by my daughter,my son doesn't seem to realise the nature of the event,probably because he autistic and doesn't quite understand why his sis was crying,he can be quite blank to emotions and events that happen concerning peoples feelings.
I'm pretty shaken up too,by the discovery,I did check the garden and didn't notice the leg and am upset they found it.
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banned#1
Best way to get over this is to kill a few foxes. They're vermin.

Hope your kids get over it.
#2
:( Sorry to hear about your rabbit, it's always sad when a pet dies but even worse in circumstances like those. You've done all you can explaining to your daughter what happened, don't beat yourself up about not finding the foot!!
#3
aww thats awful and even worse for the kids to find but as you say these things are nature and hopefully she wont be upset too long and will find something to occupy herself either that or get another one :)
#4
Thats no way for a kid to find out about a pet.

Maybe a hamster will soothe the pain a little?
#5
Sorry to hear op, hopefully you can get a new one soon !!

Fox could have been hired by this guy, he is always after wabbits!

http://www.hcdigest.com/assets/Doug%20Howlett/elmer_fudd.jpg
#6
:friends:feel for you, I really do. We forgot to put our rabbit away properly one Summer night. It was obvious a fox had had him and explaining to the kids was awful.:friends:
#7
Its really hard for kids to understand but they are fairly resilient and will bounce back, we lost a rabbit last year and after searching the garden for days the kids gave up but were very sad, my dad took them to a rabbit breeder almost immediately and allowed them to pick a new baby fom the litter, they had to wait a few weeks for her to be ready, but they were distracted enough that they werent too upset.
#8
torapoole
:( Sorry to hear about your rabbit, it's always sad when a pet dies but even worse in circumstances like those. You've done all you can explaining to your daughter what happened, don't beat yourself up about not finding the foot!!


Makes it much worse doesn't it?
I don't know what else to say to her,she sure asked a lot of questions.
#9
oh no :-( give cerys a big hug from me xx :friends:
banned#10
awww hun, so sorry for the little ones, just try and take their minds off it, all you can do really, sweets always works with my little chap, all you can do is try and answer their questions as honestly as you can
#11
wulshaz
aww thats awful and even worse for the kids to find but as you say these things are nature and hopefully she wont be upset too long and will find something to occupy herself either that or get another one :)


My children know noone lives forever and she said that she would like another when the rabbit wasn't with us anymore,but for now,it's not a good time to buy 1 as we got a lot of other stuff on.
#12
bitseylango
:friends:feel for you, I really do. We forgot to put our rabbit away properly one Summer night. It was obvious a fox had had him and explaining to the kids was awful.:friends:


:( aww,I expect it's happened to lots of people.
I guessed this what happened but when I explained he was lost when they got in from school,I never told them anything much other than lost,only till the discovery they found then there no point lying to children.
#13
sassie
awww hun, so sorry for the little ones, just try and take their minds off it, all you can do really, sweets always works with my little chap, all you can do is try and answer their questions as honestly as you can


I imagine she be asking for days about it all :(
#14
Oh their Dad just in now from work,she's gone speaking to him now,oh she's ever so upset.I'm crying now too.
#15
Mum2Connor&Cerys
Oh their Dad just in now from work,she's gone speaking to him now,oh she's ever so upset.I'm crying now too.


awwwww have another hug :friends:
#16
bitseylango
awwwww have another hug :friends:


Thanks.
#17
Now feed them Chicken Pie/Nuggets for tea and explain the food chain to them :-D
#18
Ok,well my partner been out to garden,I've got a steep bank and right in corner the bunny been found,can't really see it from garden level but the kids wanted to say goodbye and he's going bury him now.
My partner says there is a scratch mark on the door of the hutch and there is a scratch mark on patio. We think now the hutch as been pawed open,damn.
#19
Mum2Connor&Cerys
Ok,well my partner been out to garden,I've got a steep bank and right in corner the bunny been found,can't really see it from garden level but the kids wanted to say goodbye and he's going bury him now.
My partner says there is a scratch mark on the door of the hutch and there is a scratch mark on patio. We think now the hutch as been pawed open,damn.



We had kids break into a hutch once and set their dog onto a rabbit, no cage ever foolproof.
#20
kidcat
We had kids break into a hutch once and set their dog onto a rabbit, no cage ever foolproof.


Damn,why would they do such a thing.

Although upset by what found,least I know what's happened to an extent,I was thinking someone might been in and took him,so least I know,it's all nature but still,shook us all,we not even had dinner yet cos of it all.
#21
kidcat
We had kids break into a hutch once and set their dog onto a rabbit, no cage ever foolproof.


Thats shocking!
#22
Oh bless, so sad :(
#23
Lulu'sMammy
Oh bless, so sad :(


Yeh,I can't believe he's gone...and in way it's happened.
#24
I found out the same way when i was about 5-6 the back legs where in my garden and the head was in the next door naibours garden, back in those days early 80s everyone had the wire fences in green plastic about 3-4 foot high so you could see it :( Sorry to your little girl, but dont say your hubby should have checked it, it's no ones fault.
banned#25
A good life lesson for the kids I say, had a life long dog put down when I was 13 (she was also 13) cried for days but helps you to cope better in the future I reckon. Buy another rabbit when you're ready best solution :)
#26
Aggghhh soooo sad. We had 3 baby chicks and one of the other chickens killed two and the other one died too - not sure why.
#27
awww I'm so sorry hon, terribly bad luck for the rabbit to be killed and awful the kids found it. Please don't be too hard on yourself or your partner, as you yourself said, these things happen sometimes it's natural for the fox to have killed the rabbit, just so terrible for the kids to come face to face with it this way.

I understand how hard it must be for your son to understand whats going on too.

As a suggestion that might help....Can you take the rabbit leg and wrap it and place it in a shoebox with the bunny's toy and then bury it? The children can help. They can collect little flowers to put on the grave. Then if ever they feel upset they can place a flower on the grave or say a little song or poem to the rabbit to help them.

This is taken from the Autism Society website: "It is difficult to predict anyones reaction to the death of someone close to them, and individuals on the autism spectrum will be no different. Each person's reaction will be unique to them. You may not recognise the person with ASD's displays of grief, but any difference in their behaviour may be an expression of their confusion and loss. Howlin (1997) describes how the "person with autism may seem apparently unconcerned, even by the death of someone very close,... "

so watch for any more subtle signs of distress.

Hope this helps xx
banned#28
Boooo. Nasty fox. My littlun is out the back with "Bugsy! I'll remind him to make sure he locks the doors securely!!!


ClarityofMind

This is taken from the Autism Society website: "It is difficult to predict anyones reaction to the death of someone close to them, and individuals on the autism spectrum will be no different. Each person's reaction will be unique to them. You may not recognise the person with ASD's displays of grief, but any difference in their behaviour may be an expression of their confusion and loss. Howlin (1997) describes how the "person with autism may seem apparently unconcerned, even by the death of someone very close,... "


Out of interest...why the "Autism Society website" ? (I dont mean why was it there - but why you were looking on it!)
#29
guv
Boooo. Nasty fox. My littlun is out the back with "Bugsy! I'll remind him to make sure he locks the doors securely!!!




Out of interest...why the "Autism Society website" ? (I dont mean why was it there - but why you were looking on it!)


cos the op's son is autistic :)
banned#30
loupomm
cos the op's son is autistic :)


Ah, OK, I wondered if that was the case.

(And in case she is wondering why I asked..... me too!!!!!!!):?
#31
guv





Out of interest...why the "Autism Society website" ? (I dont mean why was it there - but why you were looking on it!)


As OP says... " my son doesn't seem to realise the nature of the event,probably because he autistic and doesn't quite understand why his sis was crying,he can be quite blank to emotions and events that happen concerning peoples feelings."

and I know it is particularly hard to communicate intangible issues such as death can be to someone who is autistic, which makes it harder for OP to handle emotionally also.

Was just tryin to help :thumbsup:
banned#32
ClarityofMind
As OP says... " my son doesn't seem to realise the nature of the event,probably because he autistic and doesn't quite understand why his sis was crying,he can be quite blank to emotions and events that happen concerning peoples feelings."

and I know it is particularly hard to communicate intangible issues such as death can be to someone who is autistic, which makes it harder for OP to handle emotionally also.

Was just tryin to help :thumbsup:


Ah.... Yes. I did read it, but it hadn't registered! Doh!!!

My Autistic littlun is on a school trip all this week to the Isle of Wight. First time he's been away from home (apart from a couple of sleepovers.) Hopefully, the couple of school bullies that often pick on him and cause problems are kept in check or better still, keep away. Seems awfully quite here ATM.... and the number of videos being submitted to youtube must have diminished considerably.!
banned#33
People have to accept live is cruel and not perfect............animals kill each other for survival, Man invented
Myxamatosis to kill millions of rabbits each year - SLOWLY.....if I were a rabbit I would rather die quickly, like by a fox
#34
lumoruk
A good life lesson for the kids I say, had a life long dog put down when I was 13 (she was also 13) cried for days but helps you to cope better in the future I reckon. Buy another rabbit when you're ready best solution :)


Yeh,kids do need to know about how life works at times,they had their goodbyes today.

Yeh we will do when we got less on,we'd def like another.
#35
Chuckles1001
I found out the same way when i was about 5-6 the back legs where in my garden and the head was in the next door naibours garden, back in those days early 80s everyone had the wire fences in green plastic about 3-4 foot high so you could see it :( Sorry to your little girl, but dont say your hubby should have checked it, it's no ones fault.


Yeh I know it's one of those things thats happened and we had so much on lately,we not so sure it been left unsecure now as there is a scratch mark on 1 side and think it's been clawed at.
#36
Oh hun, I am sorry how sad. I hope your kiddies will be ok, very sad for them to have to see that. Hope your ok too.
#37
ClarityofMind
awww I'm so sorry hon, terribly bad luck for the rabbit to be killed and awful the kids found it. Please don't be too hard on yourself or your partner, as you yourself said, these things happen sometimes it's natural for the fox to have killed the rabbit, just so terrible for the kids to come face to face with it this way.

I understand how hard it must be for your son to understand whats going on too.

As a suggestion that might help....Can you take the rabbit leg and wrap it and place it in a shoebox with the bunny's toy and then bury it? The children can help. They can collect little flowers to put on the grave. Then if ever they feel upset they can place a flower on the grave or say a little song or poem to the rabbit to help them.

This is taken from the Autism Society website: "It is difficult to predict anyones reaction to the death of someone close to them, and individuals on the autism spectrum will be no different. Each person's reaction will be unique to them. You may not recognise the person with ASD's displays of grief, but any difference in their behaviour may be an expression of their confusion and loss. Howlin (1997) describes how the "person with autism may seem apparently unconcerned, even by the death of someone very close,... "

so watch for any more subtle signs of distress.

Hope this helps xx



He's been buried now,the rabbit we did find ( was a lot of posts you might missed me saying later on in thread ) but his heading missing :( ,they free to go out there and see whenever they like.

Yeh I see what you saying,I'll keep a look out how he is,it's actually his rabbit,a birthday gift 4 yrs back almost,my daughter asking questions constantly,she's drawn a pic for bunny and left it by back door and just gone to bed now.
#38
superskilly
Aggghhh soooo sad. We had 3 baby chicks and one of the other chickens killed two and the other one died too - not sure why.


Animals do that to other the other babies,even some animals kill their own. Not that I've ever bred anything but I know rabbits and small rodents will hurt their own if you touch them early on,I've heard of it happening a lot.
#39
guv
Boooo. Nasty fox. My littlun is out the back with "Bugsy! I'll remind him to make sure he locks the doors securely!!!




Out of interest...why the "Autism Society website" ? (I dont mean why was it there - but why you were looking on it!)


I probably had to gone and had a read somewhere about how they are with this kind of thing anyway,so it's just aswell she pasted some info about it as I'm unsure what might happen with him. He had 1 burst of tears when he saw the actual body,I asked them if they wanted their last goodbyes etc but yes I'm surprised he's not been more upset,but who know's something my come out later on.
#40
guv
Ah.... Yes. I did read it, but it hadn't registered! Doh!!!

My Autistic littlun is on a school trip all this week to the Isle of Wight. First time he's been away from home (apart from a couple of sleepovers.) Hopefully, the couple of school bullies that often pick on him and cause problems are kept in check or better still, keep away. Seems awfully quite here ATM.... and the number of videos being submitted to youtube must have diminished considerably.!


Same problem here,he's more or less okay at school aslong as noone bothers him. So another boy with autism hey,it's often the boys...oh yeh Youtube,funnily enough thats 1 of my boy's fave websites.

Yeh you keep that bunny of yours safe best you can.

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