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I on on AOL and when my daughter went online with aol or on msn I had emails sent to me telling me whare and what she had been on and with msn I recieved copies of all conversations she had and with w… Read More
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8y, 3m agoPosted 8 years, 3 months ago
I on on AOL and when my daughter went online with aol or on msn I had emails sent to me telling me whare and what she had been on and with msn I recieved copies of all conversations she had and with who. It was just a security measure so that she knew I was watching her and was careful what she did. I do have a quick flick through what she has done but, not to excess just enough to know she is ok online.
I hear you all shouting OVERPROTECTIVE mother!!!
Anyhow, get tothe gist, she now has her own laptop so I want to know can I link it to my computer so that I can still watch over her activities? We both go off the same router but, she uses google on hers now instead of AOL.
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8y, 3m agoPosted 8 years, 3 months ago
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#1
You only have to watch the news to know you are not being over protective.

My daughters PC has net nanny on it, stops her using any sites I deem unsuitable and all the usual filth. Haven't heard of anything like what you describe above though.
#2
I think you're doing the right thing .. WATCH HER & don't take your eyes off her for a second!! good for you. :thumbsup:
#3
MSN Messenger can automaticaly save convo's on exit.

You could share the folder which the chat message it saved in and view it on your computer, will need to set up a network but that will take 2 mins.

Not sure what AOL software does... whether it simply watches her convos and records it itself or views the saved msn convos...
#4
Or try installing AOL on her computer, and setting up the software so that it sends you an email...
#5
There's software out there that can give you a realtime view of your daughter's laptop as if you were sitting in front of it. There are likely to be free alternatives, but one of the ways that I've used over the years is PC Anywhere. It's great.

Although, while I dig that you're being protective, how would you have felt if your mum stood listeing intently to every conversation you ever had with your friends as a kid? Kids misbehave, they have feelings, they tell things to their friends that they won't tell their parents. It mightn't bode particularly well for household relations if she discovers that you're spying on every word she says and every intimate little detail of her life.
#6
She knows I have check through who she is talking to. I dont partic check through every conversation she has. If I know it is her mates who I know then Don't look to indepth and if it some new name cropped up then I do look. I also want to know which websites she is trawling through. Bebo for instance is for under 18 years of age but the content they were sending her in emails which she actually showed me when she logged on once was disgusting. I emailed them telling them this and she hasn't had anything since. It does pay to watch over them. My daughter does know and she appreciates why I do it.
#7
Oh, and thankyou all for your help.
#8
dxx
There's software out there that can give you a realtime view of your daughter's laptop as if you were sitting in front of it. There are likely to be free alternatives, but one of the ways that I've used over the years is PC Anywhere. It's great.

Although, while I dig that you're being protective, how would you have felt if your mum stood listeing intently to every conversation you ever had with your friends as a kid? Kids misbehave, they have feelings, they tell things to their friends that they won't tell their parents. It mightn't bode particularly well for household relations if she discovers that you're spying on every word she says and every intimate little detail of her life.


I understand what you are saying, but I would rather watch my daughter and know she's safe than her be the next 15 year old in the paper who has disappeared with a 43 year old perv.
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#10
good for you mrgooboo i would do the same
#11
A few months ago, I was checking what my daughter had been doing on her facebook account and found an application where people could vote them cute or sexy, I looked through some of her votes and they were from men were in their late 20's or older... It clearly has my daughters age on her account (14 at the time) but these men were tellin her she was sexy...

Why does a grown man need to be telling a 14 year old girl she is sexy?

I went mad, and trust me, I never thought for a second that I shouldn't be checking.
#12
So she has already shown you material which she must have known would not be to your taste anyway, sounds like a level headed girl who feels comfortable sharing even the "typical teen" parts of her life with you.
Your intrusion may dampen that, walk this line carefully.
The threat to average girls of this age who have received a decent education/level of upbringing is often blown out of proportion by the media and is usually less than walking down the street on an evening.
#13
maddogb
So she has already shown you material which she must have known would not be to your taste anyway, sounds like a level headed girl who feels comfortable sharing even the "typical teen" parts of her life with you.
Your intrusion may dampen that, walk this line carefully.
The threat to average girls of this age who have received a decent education/level of upbringing is often blown out of proportion by the media and is usually less than walking down the street on an evening.


no, she didn't show me, I found it. And I'm thankful I did.

oh and resent you saying that it was "intrusion"
#14
asl lolzers hehe
#15
Intrusion is commonly defined as "unwanted involvement"
Only your daughter can be the judge of if this "inspection" is "unwanted" so your resentment is not very logical which is why i tried to be reassuring and suggest that maybe a bit of alternate thinking may be a better way forward.
If we are to believe the opposite to that, ie your daughter "wants" that inspection, then there is no problem.
If there is no problem then you have no real need for further advice you can simply ask her to view the msn logs on spot checks.
Have a think about that, and feel free to apologise (and ask for further advice) if you now feel you may have actually been wrong with that snipe.
Either way, for the childs sake i have no objection to offering technical advice on how to achieve this if i can.
A bit more detail as to what it is your are wanting to achieve and any limitations such as budget
Take note, many of the features needed to achieve such surveillance on a standard system will be quite obvious to anyone moderately IT literate but may also my be open to abuse by third parties.
#16
maddogb
Intrusion is commonly defined as "unwanted involvement"
Only your daughter can be the judge of if this "inspection" is "unwanted" so your resentment is not very logical which is why i tried to be reassuring and suggest that maybe a bit of alternate thinking may be a better way forward.
If we are to believe the opposite to that, ie your daughter "wants" that inspection, then there is no problem.
If there is no problem then you have no real need for further advice you can simply ask her to view the msn logs on spot checks.
Have a think about that, and feel free to apologise (and ask for further advice) if you now feel you may have actually been wrong with that snipe.
Either way, for the childs sake i have no objection to offering technical advice on how to achieve this if i can.
A bit more detail as to what it is your are wanting to achieve and any limitations such as budget
Take note, many of the features needed to achieve such surveillance on a standard system will be quite obvious to anyone moderately IT literate but may also my be open to abuse by third parties.


What?

I will refrain from farting in your general direction, but seriously, what planet are you on?

If I want to look at my daughters Facebook page from time to time, then I will. If I see something on her page I don't like, then I will bring it up with her and deal with how I see fit.

I most certainly don't need your reassurance or suggestions on how I feel best to raise my daughter, nor will you be receiving any kind of apology from me. I resent you asking for one.

The fact you think I am in the wrong for pulling up my 14 year old daughter for having an application on her account that allowed men of 30+ to tell her she is sexy makes me very sick actually.

Eejit.

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