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Mrs R Avatar
8y, 2w agoPosted 8 years, 2 weeks ago
Hi All,

I know this isn't really what the site is for , but a problem shared ..................

Mt little girl is 19 months and has all of a sudden developed a bad habit of hair pulling, it is getting really bad (and embarassing!!!)

Does anybody have any suggestions or advice?

Thank you
Mrs R Avatar
8y, 2w agoPosted 8 years, 2 weeks ago
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#1
1.shave her head off.
2.give her a toy or sommit so her hands are busy.
#2
black gerbil1
1.shave her head off.



nice :-D
#3
black gerbil1
1.shave her head off.
2.give her a toy or sommit so her hands are busy.


shave her head off? :w00t: bi extreme!
#5
1.sellotape her hands shut
2.bite her when she pulls your hair
3.get all your friends and relatives to wear tights on their heads "bank robber style" so no loose hair
4. shave everyone when they sleep

hope these help, my little lad used to bite my friends etc so i smeared marmite on everyone that came into contact with him, seems he is one one of those that hates the taste
#6
What have you tried?

I know this sounds cruel, but when my boys were going through "stages" ie pulling hair/biting - I asked them if they would like it to happen to them (they laughed and said yes) so I pulled their hair/bit their arm firmly - neither of them did it again. It didn't really hurt them, just gave them a shock factor. I had tried all the other avenues before I did this, telling them off, removing favourite toy, time out etc.
#7
Deek43
What have you tried?

I know this sounds cruel, but when my boys were going through "stages" ie pulling hair/biting - I asked them if they would like it to happen to them (they laughed and said yes) so I pulled their hair/bit their arm firmly - neither of them did it again. It didn't really hurt them, just gave them a shock factor. I had tried all the other avenues before I did this, telling them off, removing favourite toy, time out etc.


I must admit - If I can't distract from unwanted behaviour, then a few times I have used very similar methods too, as long as you don't overdo it and cause actual harm of course (should go without saying).
#8
Jo Frost
#9
Alfonse
Jo Frost


Yeah get Jo in there, she'll have that baby obedient and bringing you breakfast in bed in no time
#10
do the same back ;-)
#11
ChipSticks
Yeah get Jo in there, she'll have that baby obedient and bringing you breakfast in bed in no time


Jo doesn't train kids, it's the parents that need the training. :)
#12
pull her hair
so she realises it hurts and she should stop or shave ur hair then she cant:)
#13
Mine pulls my hair, gets a good fistful of the roots....shes only 9 months so unfortunatly a good "NO" has to do, i couldn't bring myself to pull her hair though, shes only a baby!
#14
Lulu'sMammy
Mine pulls my hair, gets a good fistful of the roots....shes only 9 months so unfortunatly a good "NO" has to do, i couldn't bring myself to pull her hair though, shes only a baby!


No she's too little. Put something else in her hands, make it soft so it doesn't hurt too much when she whacks you with it. Does she go for your earrings? Mine used to, I gave up wearing them in the end.
#15
Deek43
No she's too little. Put something else in her hands, make it soft so it doesn't hurt too much when she whacks you will it. Does she go for your earrings? Mine used to, I gave up wearing them in the end.

Nah she cant see my ears, hair is always down...but she loves her dads! A good pinch, i laugh which is naughty but it is funny!
#16
I've tried to tell her that it is naughty, but at 19 months I don't think she is grasping the concept!!!

She doesn't pull her own hair, just other people's especially her three year old sisters!
#17
Mrs R
I've tried to tell her that it is naughty, but at 19 months I don't think she is grasping the concept!!!

She doesn't pull her own hair, just other people's especially her three year old sisters!


You have to be consistent.

Tell her it's naughty, put her in a "Naughty corner" for a minute, and then tell her why you don't like her doing it.

It takes time, but it's the best way to stop the behaviour.
In general, kids will do what they are allowed to.
#18
Children learn to behave by watching the adults behaving around them. I'm not sure what to add to that except to maybe make sure the message about what behaviour is acceptable and what is not acceptable is imparted in a clear and unambiguous manner and that you do so consistently. For example, avoid 'playing around' in front of her at times like these as she might get mixed signals and misinterpret the message. Be serious and she'll learn that the issue is serious. Be calm as well as firm and she'll learn that Mummy doesn't like this behaviour and that being calm is a good way to behave. In a nutshell, show her that this is not acceptable and provide an alternative model of good behaviour until the episode is forgotten about. The message soon sinks in, and before long your child will be letting you know when your behaviour is bad! Good luck with it - :thumbsup:

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