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8y, 2m agoPosted 8 years, 2 months ago
whats your thoughts on stay at home PARENTS (Not just mums) and Parents who work for a living....

Would be interested to hear peopls views on the matter as i have always wondered if/when i have kids what would i and the mother do !!
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8y, 2m agoPosted 8 years, 2 months ago
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#1
I think i would choose to work as i wouldn't want to take other peoples money by singing and stuff like that although the way that is going jst now looks like by the time i have kids you would NEVER get money...

would maybe miss a little time with my kids but the rewards of providing for them imo would be an amazing feeling

not that im sayin ppl shouldnt stay at home thats jst how I feel
banned#2
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#3
my other half has gone back 2 days a week, she had to go back for the money but we managed to get her a year off. We didn't want Maddie to do 5 days a week childcare so young so 2 days a week was a compromise.

After visiting the nursery we decided that it would benefit Maddie to go for a day or 2 a week anyway to mix with other kids & some of the things they can do there we can't offer her at home (like covering the entire room in paint!)

I'm not sure what we're gonna do when\if we have a 2nd though.
#4
sassie
I personally believe that there should be a parent at home when the children are, there will be all sorts of we have to work or this and have to work for that, i am not knocking them but i would rather they say they work for the luxuries in life, rather than hear they have to work to pay the bills, anyone who doesnt earn enough can get help, the same help i get


would you not feel better earning that money for yourself though rather than relying on other people to help you!

i just dont know how i could handle that i would feel like i was unable to provide for my kids!

Genuine comment not bickering!!
#5
sassie
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sassie:
I personally believe that there should be a parent at home when the children are, there will be all sorts of we have to work or this and have to work for that, i am not knocking them but i would rather they say they work for the luxuries in life, rather than hear they have to work to pay the bills, anyone who doesnt earn enough can get help, the same help i get

lol.

depends on the situation imo
#6
sassie
deleted, did not notice who the op was, but now know what thread is about


i left a genuine reply to your comment!!!
#7
i do not work and am a stay at home mum but the only persons money i am taking is my partners so i personally think that is ok no one can say i am taking ther money as we pay our tax.
#8
louloo
yep i agree! if you just cut back while they are small and work round them its the best plan:thumbsup:
Too many people work for the luxuries they dont need these days-or to pay debts for items they can well do without. I guess people expect a better standard of living than years ago and think they should have it-but there is no substitute for having your Mum or Dad home.
My opinion sorry if it offends:oops:


see i would rather work for the luxurys that my kids wanted and have to pay them off for the rest of my life so long as they were happy

i suppose they will never be happy no matter how much they get and i could change my mind when i have/if i have a kid...

and you opinion didnt offend if aimed at me i am GENUINLY interested!
banned 1 Like #9
scotland88
would you not feel better earning that money for yourself though rather than relying on other people to help you!

i just dont know how i could handle that i would feel like i was unable to provide for my kids!

Genuine comment not bickering!!


of course i would, but whilst they where young at home this wasnt a priority (my feeling good about working) my priority was to be there when they where, now i am looking at trying to get back into work, but only whilst my children are at schol, when you have children they become number1 and what i want usually goes out fo the window, as i believe they should have a parent there for them
#10
My mother stayed home and raised me and my brother. I can't Imagine what it would have been like to not have had that luxury. I think you should do what you feel is best for you and yours. If you have to work then so be it. But you only have one life and one family and to miss out on their early years would be a shame.
#11
There are always going to be differing opinions on what people see as right and wrong with regards to bringing up children and working.

Personally, I think if the parent can get by on which ever route they've chosen, then good luck to them. :thumbsup:
#12
sassie
of course i would, but whilst they where young at home this wasnt a priority (my feeling good about working) my priority was to be there when they where, now i am looking at trying to get back into work, but only whilst my children are at schol, when you have children they become number1 and what i want usually goes out fo the window, as i believe they should have a parent there for them


i guess it all could be based around how you were brought up in!! as my mum and dad have both worked my and my brothers whole lives but i never felt like they werent around cos i would see my grandpa and syliva (his partner) after school for an hour or two then home to my own house and i never hold/held grudges for them working and i appreciated everything they done for us!

maybe they regret doing it now and not spending the time with us then as we are both at that age where we dont see them much anymore

but i think providing my kids with what they need/want would be the most important thing to me as long as they were brought up in a happy enviroment and i loved them and provide for them i cant see me needing anything else in the world
banned#13
black gerbil1


depends on the situation imo


True.

Does your mum stay at home to look after you or does she have a job?
#14
I have always worked part time fitting it in around my OH, and as he is the main earner what i earn is used for luxuries like holidays etc, i don't have to work but i choose to as it gives me a break from the little darlings and i only do a couple of hours an evening so am still able to do bedtime stories and baths etc. Some people don't have the choice and maybe have to work therefore need to use private nurseries and childminders and single parents aren't always able to work as they don't have the support of a partner to share the childminding duties. It all comes down to personal choices and situations.
#15
guv
True.

Does your mum stay at home to look after you or does she have a job?


lol Guv v funny:thumbsup:
banned 1 Like #16
scotland88
i guess it all could be based around how you were brought up in!! as my mum and dad have both worked my and my brothers whole lives but i never felt like they werent around cos i would see my grandpa and syliva (his partner) after school for an hour or two then home to my own house and i never hold/held grudges for them working and i appreciated everything they done for us!

maybe they regret doing it now and not spending the time with us then as we are both at that age where we dont see them much anymore

but i think providing my kids with what they need/want would be the most important thing to me as long as they were brought up in a happy enviroment and i loved them and provide for them i cant see me needing anything else in the world


i do rpovide my kids with what they need, the wants get provided for when the money is available. The most important thing to me is my children are loved and feel 100%secure, my daughter doesnt have another parent, and my son has another one once a fortnight, oh life was so easy before children
#17
oh before you all go thinking a sit on my a*** and take everything from my partner i dont i am a ebay seller so do my bit it suits me as i am at home for the kids etc but gives me work to do.
banned#18
moschino
I have always worked part time fitting it in around my OH, and as he is the main earner what i earn is used for luxuries like holidays etc, i don't have to work but i choose to as it gives me a break from the little darlings and i only do a couple of hours an evening so am still able to do bedtime stories and baths etc. Some people don't have the choice and maybe have to work therefore need to use private nurseries and childminders and single parents aren't always able to work as they don't have the support of a partner to share the childminding duties. It all comes down to personal choices and situations.


excellant post, when my daughters father was alive i worked the two days he had off, after that i still worked and my daughter struggled with it, i used to take her out to a cc minder at 7am and get in at 6am, over those 2 days i spent exactly 3 hours with her, and boy did she feel wanted- not
#19
starsparkle2311
I don't know how old you are, not that it matters, but sometimes life doesn't work out how you plan it! I ended up a single mother because of a very bad rel. I had no choice but to leave. I'm trying to get back into work right now, but is hard. Especially when you live in a small town with limited childcare, and no family to help you out either. Being a "scrounger" as you may see me Is not something i would recommend or personally feel happy about doing, but at the moment i can't change it.


Never once said the word scrounger!!! Never even implyed it!

And im 20 at the moment!
#20
starsparkle. i dont see you as a scrounger sometimes you have gotta do what you gotta do.
#21
im a SAHM and i guess the majority of posters will be.. hence they have time to come on...but with the credit crunch and sparing mortgage rates u can see why ppl would need to work as well...do agree they shouldnt work for luxuries.....

parents and famly will love a child.... companies will only care for ur child....

i know ppl who work to get away...ie the social aspect... i can understand this... but in the grand scheme of things..whats more important...that or spending valuable time with ur child...needing and wanting to work..two differet things.

i wanna work..feel bored..but once my children are both in school i will look for work..but only work that is term time (local council advertises these) but then i have the luxury of one income being more that enough for us.
#22
jellybaby22
my daughter would rather I was home giving her my time and attention than out trying to earn money for material luxuries......a parents time and attention are much more important to a child than toys/hollidays etc...... just my opinion


I remember my mum pushing me around in a buggy selling Avon door to door. She was always there for me and I guess never had to worry if i was ill what would she do with me. I hope that I could offer my kids the same one day. Like I say, if you gotta work then so be it, different strokes for different folks. I'm sure we would all do what we thought was best for our families.
#23
Loving these 'benefits in disguise' hunting threads that pop up now and again, ive said my views on it many times, a parent should financially be able to provide for any children it has, if theres 1000's of parents out there doing it (inc single parents) then so can all :thumbsup:

China have got the right idea :p
#24
guv
True.

Does your mum stay at home to look after you or does she have a job?


I live in my own apartment now brah, London, ballin.
#25
i want to work so bad just to keep me sain lol, but im a stay at home mum, if i could earn more than my partner it would prob be the other way round, once ive have this baby and there both in school i'll get myself a part time job, as much as i love being a mum and love seeing how my daughter changes from day to day, i just need something to do rather then play cook clean ect it drives me mad, even if i could find something to do at night while the kids were in bed would be ok, but my partner works different shifts and doesnt have set days off so its not possible at the moment, and his staff keep messing him around at the moment.
#26
Not everyone is lucky enough to have the choice!! I consider myself to of been very fortunate in being financially able to choose wheather or not I stayed at home or not.
I stayed at home & brought up all 3 of my children & if I were to go back in time I would defo without hesitation do exactly the same again.
I think it all depends on the person, you have to do what you think is right & whatever feels right for you. (I was never career minded anyway!!)
If at all possible I would advise anyone to stay at home as I think they benefit so much from you being there all the time for them, they grow up so fast & before you know it will ''fly the nest'' . :cry:
banned#27
kungfu
Loving these 'benefits in disguise' hunting threads that pop up now and again, ive said my views on it many times, a parent should financially be able to provide for any children it has, if theres 1000's of parents out there doing it (inc single parents) then so can all :thumbsup:

China have got the right idea :p


i provide the same for my children now as i did the day they where born, whilst the goverment allow the other parent to walk away for that responsibities then i will continue to take their money :thumbsup:
banned#28
kungfu
Loving these 'benefits in disguise' hunting threads


Yes, they are pretty transparent.:thumbsup:
#29
I worked for the first year after having my daughter .Some thing i deeply regret. I missed her first word.etc. I vowed i wouldnt do that again. Having children is a big responsibility.Noone can say what is right or wrong about working or being at home. It depends on home circumstances.
When i had my son I chose to be home for the first few years. I was NOT going to miss out on precious moments again!.

With both children at school now i work ( yes alot from home as well so added benefit) therefore my children now benefit from having me at home as well as parents who work. I think were lucky though in our situation. Our balance is right. Alot of people do not have the option to choose. Its very hard no matter whether you work or not.
#30
starsparkle2311
Yeh thanks for that, you can't really say what life's gonna be like with kids 'til you've had them. It's not all baking cakes and storybooks.:whistling:


that is so true, and having 4, aging from 5 to 20 years not sure what is the hardert age ( you have different worries)

i have been lucky enough to stay at home with them, but we are all different, i have friends that dont need to work but choose to which is their choice.

everyones circumstances are different, and i truely can say i dont know how i would manage to , do housework......school runs.........shopping and dinner if i had to work. lol


p.s o/h has his own company reason i dont work, but then who knows what will happen in the furure..............
#31
sassie
i provide the same for my children now as i did the day they where born, whilst the goverment allow the other parent to walk away for that responsibities then i will continue to take their money :thumbsup:


lol 100% agree, if handouts are there, then people will take them , governments fault and something i supsect is being addressed right now with the rumours of all benefit claimers to eventually be doing some sort of work to earn the money they get :thumbsup:
#32
babyxxxxx
i want to work so bad just to keep me sain lol, but im a stay at home mum, if i could earn more than my partner it would prob be the other way round, once ive have this baby and there both in school i'll get myself a part time job, as much as i love being a mum and love seeing how my daughter changes from day to day, i just need something to do rather then play cook clean ect it drives me mad, even if i could find something to do at night while the kids were in bed would be ok, but my partner works different shifts and doesnt have set days off so its not possible at the moment, and his staff keep messing him around at the moment.


I remember seeing your little girls bedroom - you did a good job would you not like to do some sort of course in decorating and offer children's murals as a little business?
banned#33
black gerbil1
I live in my own apartment now brah, London, ballin.


ROTFLMFA.

Of course you do son.
1 Like #34
Totally agree with sassie and jellbyaby22.

I am a stay at home mum. My eldest age 6 is at school 9am-3 pm and my youngest (4) has just started 9am-12 noon. Even if i had to/wanted to go out to work there wouldn't be the time in the day. I don't agree with paying someone else a large chunk of hard earned money to look after my own children. They would prefer me to spend time with them, talk to them and play with them than for me to dump them on someone else.
My husband is a freelance chef so his hours are all over the place and sometimes he will leave at 7am and i wont see him again until 11 pm. I believe children need a parent around them especially after school to talk to and to share their day and feel secure. Thats how i was brought up and my mum and i were best friends until she died recently. I have a lot of love and respect for my parents something that i think is lacking in todays society.
If at the end of the day you are happy to have bought in lots of cash to the home and you can buy anything you like and not spent quality time with your offspring then good on you but personally i could't do this. I would miss them too much!
Children make wonderful memories- the lastest must have gadgets do not!!!
No offense intended just my humble opinion.
#35
guv
ROTFLMFA.

Of course you do son.

lol i sea the green eyed monster comming out
banned#36
kungfu
lol 100% agree, if handouts are there, then people will take them , governments fault and something i supsect is being addressed right now with the rumours of all benefit claimers to eventually be doing some sort of work to earn the money they get :thumbsup:


to right, and hope im around in 20 years time to see the backlash from it, the goverment have been forcing two parents out to work for a long time, offer them this, offer them that and they will go, and to right they have, i havent up until now because i truely believe my children are more important to me than the extra few quid they offer to buy myself a little luxury, whilst the goverment continue to make parents unresponsible for their small children then the goverment have to be responsible for where these children are into 20 years time
#37
I was a stay at home Mum whilst my children where small, I have never regretted this for a moment, I was lucky my hubby was earning enough for me to be able to do that.

Most do not have that luxury today, although I do feel expectations have risen leading to earnings having to be more. People want more "stuff" these days.
#38
i know first hand my partner was made redundant not too long ago infact i posted it on here! we were very lucky and i spoilt my girls god i remember i wouldnt go out shopping with less than a grand on me and the exspensive cars etc but now jesus you realise and come crashing back down to earth with a huge thud because while you have that kind of lifestyle you dont think about what is important the money or your family.
banned#39
black gerbil1
lol i sea the green eyed monster comming out


Best put it away and get down the doctors. :thumbsup:
#40
bellabonkers
I remember seeing your little girls bedroom - you did a good job would you not like to do some sort of course in decorating and offer children's murals as a little business?


thanks hun, i would love to do something like that, ive been looking at college courses, but it doesnt seem i can get help paying for it and we couldnt afford it at the moment, my partner earns too much for us to get help with anything, yet we just about make it by every month, might see where we are when this baby comes

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