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Partner earns more than me and i think it bothers me

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It makes me feel less of a man, because the man of the house is supposed to earn the most right? Anyone else in the same situation how do you forget about it. I've decided i don't like her talking abo… Read More
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banned8y, 5m agoPosted 8 years, 5 months ago
It makes me feel less of a man, because the man of the house is supposed to earn the most right? Anyone else in the same situation how do you forget about it. I've decided i don't like her talking about how much she earns as it makes me feel s***, but i enjoy my job on less pay, more benefits and lots of flexibility. Where as she hates her job and is looking at getting a job where the staff are treated better but less pay. I supported her through uni paying for meals out, drinks driving for 2hrs every weekend to see her. I just hate money i wish we could just all go back to exchanging services and favours (not the rude ones).
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banned8y, 5m agoPosted 8 years, 5 months ago
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#1
only fair and logical thing to do would be to tell her to get a lower paid job orull leave her.
#2
acecatcher3
only fair and logical thing to do would be to tell her to get a lower paid job orull leave her.


ignore this idiot and report him
#3
Men are so stupid.
#4
:w00t:
#5
Shouldnt really make any difference who earns the most, as long as you are happy with each other, thats the main thing
#6
is this a wind up??

You can't be serious!
#7
ask her to set a direct debit up to your account every month so it eventually equals that your income is more than her income.

On a serious note, forget about it. If you love her that is. If not beat her ass and hold her hostage.
#8
i used to earn more than wife now i dont deosnt bother me was my old flat sales profit that put down the deposit on house

does it make me feel less of a man? no

i want my wife to get promoted again so that i can stay at home and bring up our son
#9
Charge Her For Sex Then You Earn More Than Her
#10
i wud fleece the woman if she earned more
#11
I don't think you can just forget it. You can work towards reversing the situation, though. Would she support you through uni or college, so you can get into some level of skilled employment in which you can use your natural abilities (ie. your genitals, tyvm the gender pay divide) to surpass her as breadwinner? Or would you really want to? Is it something you could get over, if you considered maybe that you're satisfied taking less money for a better job (and, as a job is a large part of your waking day, better life), or that she'd perhaps be made unhappy if you usurped her womanly ego-boost as bread winner?
banned#12
deb8z
is this a wind up??

You can't be serious!


Sorry did i forget to put (serious) in the title? :cry:

Some posts making me laugh though. She wants to buy a house off her mate at work as she's guaranteed to rent it from us, but i.ve told her no way will the bank give us the money for a buy to let in current conditions? We already have our own mortgage.
#13
I understand where your coming from as us men are oviously the dominant sex. I'd be happy enough if I was you though.

None of that other stuff will matter when your 6 feet under.
#14
I thought most relationships that the people are married and like each other they share a bank account. If not don't worry if she loves you she wouldn't mind.
p.s Try acting sad about it and aim to get a threesome with your partner and new girl from the gym to cheer everyone up.
#15
I earn more than my husband and he couldnt care less. He just cares that I am happy as thats all that matters really. If you earned more than her what difference would it make to your relationship?

If you are happy together and as you say you are happy in your lower paid job then I cant understand why this is even an issue? You should just be proud of her that she is doing well and stop being silly.
banned#16
Just be happy you have some money.
#17
DLM
Just be happy you have some money.


LOL
#18
Just be happy you have a job and can pay your mortgage, the setup in our place is - i work seven days a week and the missus minds the kids and runs the house, its convenient that way but if there was extra income coming in it would take a lot of pressure off me! I sort of know where you are coming from although i think it is slightly oldskool these days!:thumbsup:
#19
I am sure you are superior in many ways, you are thinking that this makes you inferior. Women don't think like this, particularly with money. Who gets the car sorted, unblocks the drain etc ??? ( I presume you are a typical alpha male?). My husband goes one step further and has to have a certain amount of cash on him, just to make him feel good.......be happy that you can pay your bills, don't stress as one day it may all change.
Live life, don't look for problems there will be enough real ones on the way!!!
#20
For real?

Welcome to the noughties sunshine.

Geez, what does it matter?

Is this really to do with the size of your bits? lol
#21
Slap her up a little and then she will know who's boss.
#22
OP only picked out my comment,i wonder why:w00t:
banned#23
starsparkle2311
HI DLM!!!! You ok? Hope you are, nice to "see" you again:)


I'm not too bad, might join you on a £9.50 holiday :thumbsup:
#24
starsparkle2311
Why should it matter? Being with someone you love and in a job you love is what counts!!!

I'm female and I really can't be bothered with women who think men should be the breadwinner etc and go overboard fleecing them, Equality rules!!!!! So what if she earns more, as long as you're happy together:thumbsup:


I always thought you were a man - sorry !

:?
#25
tell her to quit her job (serious) do you have kids?
#26
So what actually prompted this train of thought? Something happened or said? Or has it just been gnawing away at your self-esteem??
#27
star is a woman??????
#28
I was with my ex for 16 yrs 10 of which I earned alot more than him, I thought of it as I was earning for the benefit of us both but it did bother him. Then when he was on the higher wage later in the relationship he would
Lord it over me and tell me he was bigger earner so could do what ever he wanted. I agree with most people on this post. If you love each other just pool yr resources if it still bothers u work out bills etc into half and each put that into joint account what's left over is then yours to spend. At the end of the day are you a couple or two singles dating?
banned#29
I decided we should have a joint account and our own seperate accounts. I.ve got quite a few accounts with various amounts in. I don't want her money but I want to be able to buy her treats but after i.ve treated myself there's not much left after putting money into savings as well.

I was brought up by my mum and seeing her going from a house wife to single mum at uni to getting a job. I just think women do a better job at home and the men should be out working cause men (my dad) aren't very good with kids. I just feel i.m going to be **** with my kids when they come along.
#30
it doesnt bother my husband one iota that i earn more money than him - he is more than happy to not have to pay for things
#31
lumoruk

I was brought up by my mum and seeing her going from a house wife to single mum at uni to getting a job. I just think women do a better job at home and the men should be out working cause men (my dad) aren't very good with kids. I just feel i.m going to be **** with my kids when they come along.


Do you think part of it is you worried that when you have children she will have to continue to work if she earns more and you'll have to stay at home to look after them and that is worrying? xx
#32
Leah_D
I earn more than my husband and he couldnt care less. He just cares that I am happy as thats all that matters really. If you earned more than her what difference would it make to your relationship?

If you are happy together and as you say you are happy in your lower paid job then I cant understand why this is even an issue? You should just be proud of her that she is doing well and stop being silly.


Ditto :thumbsup:

Welcome aboard Leah :)

The best 1st post I've seen to date.
banned#33
torapoole
Do you think part of it is you worried that when you have children she will have to continue to work if she earns more and you'll have to stay at home to look after them and that is worrying? xx


I just think mum's bring a more loving environment at home. Where as us men are cold.

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