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7y, 1m agoPosted 7 years, 1 month ago
12 year old daughter used to be fine at public speaking. she was the main part of the school play and everthing but gradually she began to lose her confidence when reading out. Now whenever shes asked to read out she goes red and loses breath and cant speak out/trembles. I have seen all the advice on the internet abou looking at audience, pretending they are not there but nothing has worked for her. Can i take her to a doctor if so what will they do? can anything be prescribed? (very much doubt it myself but..) or what?
any help very much appreciated
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7y, 1m agoPosted 7 years, 1 month ago
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#1
Maybe it would help if she spoke infront of you first? Then maybe more of your family?
#2
deadduck_145
Maybe it would help if she spoke infront of you first? Then maybe more of your family?


we've tried it all.. maybe ill find one of them groups
#3
ecstacy?
#4
maybe get her to try speaking out in front of a mirror first

i no i sometimes do this lol (sad)

but sometimes if your about to do a speech or a monologue or sumink talking to yourself and psyching yourself up can help
#5
jon1000jon
ecstacy?


bad joke..
#6
why would you want to give your daughter medication so she can speak publicly? sorry i dont think thats the way forward, i say dont push it, she should do it if she is comfortable with it :)
#7
have you found out from her if there was ever an incident when she was doing any kinda of performance which may have made her now lose her confidence?

sometimes an idiotic comment from someone can give a big knock to confidence
#8
If its causing that much distress for her speak to the teachers and explain it them. She should not be forced into something she is clearly not comfortable with.
#9
loupomm
why would you want to give your daughter medication so she can speak publicly? sorry i dont think thats the way forward, i say dont push it, she should do it if she is comfortable with it :)

yeah but the teachers nowadays pick random people to read out which is stupid

numptyj
have you found out from her if there was ever an incident when she was doing any kinda of performance which may have made her now lose her confidence?

sometimes an idiotic comment from someone can give a big knock to confidence


did ask and she said the teacher laughed when she said something wrong! she said she was okay reading in her other lessons for a while though but not anymore
#10
urbanlegend11
If its causing that much distress for her speak to the teachers and explain it them. She should not be forced into something she is clearly not comfortable with.


i think ill ring the school.. its a rubbish school unfortunately only one local
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GentleTouch
yeah but the teachers nowadays pick random people to read out which is stupid



did ask and she said the teacher laughed when she said something wrong! she said she was okay reading in her other lessons for a while though but not anymore


would say thats the issue there.

i no when i did drama in college i got more nervous when friends or family were coming to see
cos if something went wrong then i no i would have to see them later on or next day and they would mebbe say something

when u do a performance in front of randomers u can just get a big buzz cos even if there are minor mistakes u no u wont see them again

cos its her teacher i guess she sees them most days and it might remind her about it and it gives a negative effect
#12
numptyj
would say thats the issue there.

i no when i did drama in college i got more nervous when friends or family were coming to see
cos if something went wrong then i no i would have to see them later on or next day and they would mebbe say something

when u do a performance in front of randomers u can just get a big buzz cos even if there are minor mistakes u no u wont see them again

cos its her teacher i guess she sees them most days and it might remind her about it and it gives a negative effect


thanks anyway, rep added. Do you know if there are groups which can help improve speaking back to normal?
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It probably has more to do with her peers than anything else. I'd hazard a guess that your daughter has been picked on as a result of her previous confidence. Sometimes it is best to conform, rather than stand out as a confident young girl. The shortage of breath is a reflex from a fear of rejection, or a lack of belief in herself brought on by other girls picking on her.
I think Emmerdale is about to deal with a similar issue. Often parents have no idea it is happening, and when it becomes apparent it is often too late. My sister was not so much bullied, but made to feel like she was different because of her confidence, her higher than average intelligence. Teen, and pre-teen girls can be as harsh a foe as any other.
Speak to your daughter, and try and find out what is at the heart of the matter. I suspect it is a mental thing, rather than anything to worry too much about physically.
My girlfriend works in a similar area to this, hope it helps.
Good luck
#14
dale4020
It probably has more to do with her peers than anything else. I'd hazard a guess that your daughter has been picked on as a result of her previous confidence. Sometimes it is best to conform, rather than stand out as a confident young girl. The shortage of breath is a reflex from a fear of rejection, or a lack of belief in herself brought on by other girls picking on her.
I think Emmerdale is about to deal with a similar issue. Often parents have no idea it is happening, and when it becomes apparent it is often too late. My sister was not so much bullied, but made to feel like she was different because of her confidence, her higher than average intelligence. Teen, and pre-teen girls can be as harsh a foe as any other.
Speak to your daughter, and try and find out what is at the heart of the matter. I suspect it is a mental thing, rather than anything to worry too much about physically.
My girlfriend works in a similar area to this, hope it helps.
Good luck


ty rep added
#15
I would say it is pretty normal for most almost teens to start to clam up. That is how most teens behave, not right but fact of life.

Quite normal for teens to be very self concious. You cannot help them with it, you will only make them worse and resentful.
#16
iglimpse
I would say it is pretty normal for most almost teens to start to clam up. That is how most teens behave, not right but fact of life.

Quite normal for teens to be very self concious. You cannot help them with it, you will only make them worse and resentful.


she says everyone is fine though
#17
not sure about any groups soz hope she can sort it, its a good quality to have in life cos confidence can tie in to a lot of things in interviews etc
#18
do you have a relaxation cd?

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