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Ranting time...get it off your chest!!

mamamia7 Avatar
7y, 10m agoPosted 7 years, 10 months ago
My hsband has worked hard all week and everynight has fallen asleep on the sofa at 8 ish. He went to Wales all day yesterday and fell asleep early again and this morning has gone off to play football!!!!! Me and my daughter hardly see him..i feel like a single parent getting up with my daughter 7 days a week. i just wanna spend some time with him..and yes i have said something to him..
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7y, 10m agoPosted 7 years, 10 months ago
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banned#1
rant rant rant ... feel better now ?
#2
join the club i hardly see my partner from monday to friday he has been in late though other people asking him to do stuff and then i was told he would see more of me on saturday so was planning on finishing work at 3pm and staying in but then another customer rang to see if he would fix there van and he wet didnt get back till 7pm and now this morning he has gone fishing and it will be then same next week i am forever whining at him that me and the kids dont see much of him but he always says its money and we need to get as much in the bank as possible ready for when we go away to pay his car payments etc and i know thats what he needs to do but sometimes feel like me and the kids come last it really does my head in that someone else asks him to do something and he does straight of then with us its like well if i have to work the weekend then thats what i have to do. rant over sorry.
#3
dog_cop
rant rant rant ... feel better now ?


a bit..im sure i will be moody til hes back from football...lol
banned#4
mamamia7;4519393
a bit..im sure i will be moody til hes back from football...lol

well rant rant rant.. and then rant rant some more .. but the main question I would ask.. does he love you ?
#5
dog_cop
well rant rant rant.. and then rant rant some more .. but the main question I would ask.. does he love you ?


yes we are very in love 4 yrs down the line.:thumbsup:
banned#6
mamamia7;4519405
yes we are very in love 4 yrs down the line.:thumbsup:

good .. so stop moaning woman .. and go get dinner ready :w00t:
#7
junkenstein73
Thank yourself lucky he has a job and works hard to keep it

Set yourself up some together time each week that you both stick to,

keep comunicating


yes i agree with that..i should be more greatful...he was made redundant twice last yr and i know the panic feeling setting in wondering where money would come from.
He has a job which he loves and we never go without. He works from half 6 til half 5 (he chooses too) so i can see why hes tired. I dont work (am going back end of march) so i look after our daughter full time and i dont drive so i stay in all week...i think these four walls are getting me down. I was hoping because we didnt get to go out yesterday we could go out today but has gone to football and wont be back past one..hardly a day out!...rant rant rant lol
#8
Sounds like hes avoiding you ....Oh Dear
#9
greyparrot
join the club i hardly see my partner from monday to friday he has been in late though other people asking him to do stuff and then i was told he would see more of me on saturday so was planning on finishing work at 3pm and staying in but then another customer rang to see if he would fix there van and he wet didnt get back till 7pm and now this morning he has gone fishing and it will be then same next week i am forever whining at him that me and the kids dont see much of him but he always says its money and we need to get as much in the bank as possible ready for when we go away to pay his car payments etc and i know thats what he needs to do but sometimes feel like me and the kids come last it really does my head in that someone else asks him to do something and he does straight of then with us its like well if i have to work the weekend then thats what i have to do. rant over sorry.


Lol...I am a fishing widow too. It will only get worse now the weather is getting better.
banned#10
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a new avvy mamamia :w00t:
#11
Jacob_Kreed
Sounds like hes avoiding you ....Oh Dear


i dont think so
#12
debbielon
Lol...I am a fishing widow too. It will only get worse now the weather is getting better.


oh gosh i sooo know it lol well will get him to myself when we go away in june i hope.
#13
Are you working too?
banned#14
Can someone say affair?
#15
imranmaz
Can someone say affair?


dont be silly:roll:
#16
greyparrot
dont be silly:roll:


I KNOW my husband so well...he has been chested on in the past and i KNOW he has never done it.its something he simply doesnt condone and he wouldnt do that...he knows i would chop off his balls and never see his daughter again..lol
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dog_cop
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a new avvy mamamia :w00t:


i love it!!!
banned 1 Like #18
mamamia7;4519511
i love it!!!

thats £5 paypal gift you owe me for finding your new avvy miss ranty pants :w00t:
#19
mamamia7
I KNOW my husband so well...he has been chested on in the past and i KNOW he has never done it.its something he simply doesnt condone and he wouldnt do that...he knows i would chop off his balls and never see his daughter again..lol


yeah i know what you mean same here if he was up to something he would not be coming home full of oil or in his fishing gear now if he was coming home getting changed having a shave and putting aftershave on then that would be a different matter he is clearly working his nuts off to keep the cash flowing.
#20
It is even worse here. I work from 7am to 9pm ish but at least I work from home so I'm here but just not emotionally available if you know what I mean. I have to "click out" to be a Mum to the kids at times, but my husband isn't "emotionally draining" if I can put it that way. He rarely if ever asks anything on emotional terms. Have never heard him say " you never talk to me" in the normal run of conversation lol

Similarly he works 6days a week, well 5 and a half really as he's usually home by mid afternoon on a saturday and mostly the rest of saturday is a mad grocery buying exercise. Sunday we chill out and do stuff with the kids, and all the little things a household needs to do to survive.

I dont think either of us has ever been jealous of work stuff, we do things independently of one another all the time. I find the fact that we are so independent a real relief.
#21
dog_cop
good .. so stop moaning woman .. and go get dinner ready :w00t:


yes and dont forget the beers to wash his dinner down with.lol:)
#22
bargainman
yes and dont forget the beers to wash his dinner down with.lol:)


ha ha...i do everything and make sure everything is perfect for when he comes home...proper little wifey.
#23
well i can only say which would be on most male minds, are you very good at vaccuuming! lol:roll:
#24
dog_cop
thats £5 paypal gift you owe me for finding your new avvy miss ranty pants :w00t:


ha ha..you want me to have another rant...accept my rep as thanks:thumbsup:
banned#25
mamamia7;4519868
ha ha..you want me to have another rant...accept my rep as thanks:thumbsup:

no we want Mrs Ranty Pants to have some more ranting as I find it funny .. so pay up :x
#26
I was married before and my hibby never got up till 4pm and went back bed at 7pm after dinner. well to his computer room where he had a bed. So he didnt have to go upstairs cos he was sooooooooooooooooo idle.
It gets lonely yes grateful he works but the lady is lonely with out him. But men just dont get it do they?
I understand how you feel.

Im lucky now im remarried to an angel.
#27
If he was made redundant twice last year, it sounds as though he is trying to make himself indespensable (god I know I spelt that wrong!) at his new job. It also sounds as though he is trying to save as much money as possible just in case the worst happens again, he probably doesn't want you to worry.
I know it sounds harsh, but it probably seems to him right now that everytime he sees you, you nag him about never seeing him and your daughter. He is probably fully aware of it, and feels bad enough already. If I were you, what I would do is just a couple of times a week, slip a note into his packed lunch or work bag telling him how much you love and miss him and how much you appreciate what he's doing. Sometimes a little stroke to a guys ego can make him think hes come up with the magical idea to spend more time with you....
Good luck anyway!
#28
chryssie
If he was made redundant twice last year, it sounds as though he is trying to make himself indespensable (god I know I spelt that wrong!) at his new job. It also sounds as though he is trying to save as much money as possible just in case the worst happens again, he probably doesn't want you to worry.
I know it sounds harsh, but it probably seems to him right now that everytime he sees you, you nag him about never seeing him and your daughter. He is probably fully aware of it, and feels bad enough already. If I were you, what I would do is just a couple of times a week, slip a note into his packed lunch or work bag telling him how much you love and miss him and how much you appreciate what he's doing. Sometimes a little stroke to a guys ego can make him think hes come up with the magical idea to spend more time with you....
Good luck anyway!


Or conversely finding other activities to do to keep you "interesting" can reawaken their desires lol

Its hard on men cos they're expected to be the breadwinner and "head of the household" and society has changed so much, women can now go out to work for themselves and support their own families so their identity has somewhat been torn away. There is this new idea of " the fragile male".

My husband, the children and I went out for a meal the other night and we were discussing our 11yr old as she had been so helpful with the housework that week, my husband wanted to treat her. I pointed out to him that just that week, she'd already had £50 on new clothing, and a trip to the hairdressers for a new hairstyle. He said to me, "Hey, when did I last get £50 on new clothing. Generations ago women used to put their husbands first and the wife and kids came after". I pointed out that generations ago HE woulda been the main breadwinner and I wouldnt have been out to work all week, all I'd have to do each day would be to take care of the house and kids and since I do work, it's down to me if I wanna treat one of the kids with the money I earn.... He couldn't disagree. lol

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