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Screaming Toddler any parents out there?

mmmkbb Avatar
6y, 7m agoPosted 6 years, 7 months ago
recently whenever i bring my 17 months old out shopping, he will always be bawling n screaming n kicking in the public whenevr we try to put him in the trolley seat. even if we are holding him, he will try to climb down n crawl on the floor (he can walk). i am sooo ashamed but had try not to look at anybody' face

this is very annoying as he is at this stage where you know he understands whats right n wrong but you cannot reason with him.

any parents out there got any tips?
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6y, 7m agoPosted 6 years, 7 months ago
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#1
leave him at home
#2
masking tape?
#3
consequence and reward
#4
smack his ass
#5
terrible two's slightly early..... he's testing the boundries.
#6
cant begin to tell you what to do, am so thankful i've never had this as a recurrence, have had one public strop incident with each child and thats it (not being smug) hope you get some good advice and sort it, its stressful for both of you :thumbsup:
#7
I seemed to have that problem with my younger one. I didnt even attempt to take him shopping on my own for the same reason. Its nothing to be embarrassed about tho. If my son kicks of (hes 2 years 2 months now) i just leave him to it and ignore the stares i get from passers by. You find most of those with dissaproving looks will not have kids, and those with kids will fully understand. That way i dont let him get his own way.

Maybe a couple of idea try taking a favourite toy with him or maybe a couple of snacks whilst he sits in the trolley. Make it a game and let him put things in the trolley for you. Or try and get somebody to go shopping with you and invest in some reins.
My little boy always loves using the reins when we go out shopping and as an incentive we tell him he can look at the toys if hes a good boy.
#8
take a fold down buggy with you and stick him/her in it
and take a toy/book he/she like to distract them
#9
If he can walk, try to go shopping at less popular times of the day, stick some reins on him, keep hold of them, & let him walk.

Try to get him to hold onto the trolley & pretend he is pushing it in the aisles making that his responsibility on the shopping trip.

Remind him when he wanders away from the trolley that Mummy (or Daddy) really needs a strong boy to help push. Make it sound like he is doing you a favour & that you are really happy he is helping.

BFN,

fp.
#10
You can try all sorts of things, if they can't won't go in the trolley, they walk, if they walk they can help put vegetables etc in the trolley, if they don't walk, they don't get a carry but back in the trolley etc
#11
use yr shopping trips to educate him, help him draw a shopping list before you go and you write the words next to his pictures, buy him a little shopping bag and give him some money, it'll give him something to focus on and will help to get him in the right frame of mind for shopping, lets face it, it cant be fun sat in a trolley for 2 hrs
#12
My lads the same. He wants to walk everywhere. Does he have a dummy? That usually does the trick. Or something to hold when he is going arround the shop. I usually take a snack or juice.

I dont think men like shopping?
banned#13
It is extremely annoying for everyone else as well. I can't stand screaming kids. Leave them at home. Please for the love of god leave them at home
#14
You might already be doing this, but kids need warnings if going anywhere that might need them to behave, so I would try explaining you are going shopping and he/she has to be good and then it will be over quickly; plus they can help by choosing things. Say they can walk if they behave and then go in trolley when tired. I dont recommend treats, unless they choose healthy ones. Sounds like they wont understand, but they do if you talk to them quietly and simply what you are about to do.
#15
My son is 2 and a half now and went through a horrible phase of running off in shops and causing mayham. I tended to have a light weight puschair to strap him in if he was really bad but otherwise agree with the above.

Shopping we play 'where's the......' and get him involved or sometime throw in a really small bribe (but don't set yourself a rod for your own back!). Like i might say if he's good around tesco's we'll have a biscuit/ bananna in the car......

Also make things seem like a game - tell him to 'navigate' the trolley and tell mummy where to go....

I hate the looks people give you and it's normally those without kids! My son was screaming mummy because i'd told him off and was getting looks like i'd abducted him!!! lol
banned#16
My little boy kicks up a fuss every now and then when im shopping. I usually tell him at the beginning that he can pick one treat from the shop if hes a good boy. If he kicks off once he gets a warning, twice he looses the treat and 3 times he goes into time out as soon as we get home. I find that really works if you stick to what you say you're going to do, as soon as you give in ie give more than one warning etc they know they can get away with it. I also make a game out of shopping, ie i tell him what im looking for next, get him to find it and help put into the trolly
#17
vibeone
[b]It is extremely annoying for everyone else as well. I can't stand screaming kids. Leave them at home. Please for the love of god leave them at home


Where is point a)? ;)

It is a good theory, but it is not always possible to find somebody to look after your kids when you go shopping.

We chose to use home delivery after a few years of stressful shopping trips.

BFN,

fp.
banned#18
fanpages
Where is point a)? ;)

It is a good theory, but it is not always possible to find somebody to look after your kids when you go shopping.

We chose to use home delivery after a few years of stressful shopping trips.

BFN,

fp.


Sorry but that isn't acceptable as an excuse.

Why should one family cause such an annoyance to - well in some cases - the entire shop? It really really annoys me.

Oh and fair play to going for home delivery, thats a start.
banned#19
vibeone

Sorry but that isn't acceptable as an excuse.

Why should one family cause such an annoyance to - well in some cases - the entire shop? It really really annoys me.

Oh and fair play to going for home delivery, thats a start.


So if you have a toddler you should shut yourself in the house and never go out? I understand not taking them to nice restaurants etc but be reasonable
banned#20
fairysel
So if you have a toddler you should shut yourself in the house and never go out? I understand not taking them to nice restaurants etc but be reasonable


If they are well behaved, take them where ever you like. I am being reasonable - supermarkets are not the place for screaming annoying brats. Unlike your friends and family, I don't think they are cute, I don't think its funny and I don't wanna hear it balling its eyes out.
#21
Whack him
#22
vibeone
If they are well behaved, take them where ever you like. I am being reasonable - supermarkets are not the place for screaming annoying brats. Unlike your friends and family, I don't think they are cute, I don't think its funny and I don't wanna hear it balling its eyes out.


the same goes for you in this thread

:roll:

hypocrite
banned#23
Alfonse
the same goes for you in this thread

:roll:

hypocrite


HAHA, that did raise a titter I admit.

From the other replies in this thread, it appears I'm not the only one with this view, though I'm sure your not the only one with yours :)
#24
talk to him, then if he continues ignore his behaviour and carry on (this should work over a period of a few weeks)

Other possible options are give him something to snack on during shopping (before he plays up. not after as he'll see it as a reward) this may keep him quiet for a while

Or try home delivery as some people have suggested
#25
My 11yr son is still like this when we go shopping


Seriously, I think its to do with the male gene as I have stopped taking my son shopping years ago as a nightmare - not so much with him having tantrums but with me having to rush round cause I knew I would only have so long before he would start.

He will honestly get better OP, just be patient and dont make the mistake of buying him something each time ur out as he will get used to that
#26
vibeone
HAHA, that did raise a titter I admit.

From the other replies in this thread, it appears I'm not the only one with this view, though I'm sure your not the only one with yours :)


i doubt i have such unique views actually but then you would have to be rather inept to believe I do, really
#27
bossyboots
My 11yr son is still like this when we go shopping


Seriously, I think its to do with the male gene as I have stopped taking my son shopping years ago as a nightmare - not so much with him having tantrums but with me having to rush round cause I knew I would only have so long before he would start.

He will honestly get better OP, just be patient and dont make the mistake of buying him something each time ur out as he will get used to that


do you by "own brand" beans? as a youth that used to pee me right off.
#28
smacking him,why not give it a go?

if you are too squeamish to do this then I will come and demonstrate

(unless you read The Guardian then ignore this)
banned#29
Alfonse
i doubt i have such unique views actually but then you would have to be rather inept to believe I do, really


err.. yeah I just said that? :roll:


boothy
smacking him,why not give it a go?

if you are too squeamish to do this then I will come and demonstrate

(unless you read The Guardian then ignore this)


LOL boothy, inb4 the usual hate, but getting hit when I was a total arse never did me any harm.

inb4 harm
#30
MinstrelMan
do you by "own brand" beans? as a youth that used to pee me right off.


huh?

Actually - and thankfully - none of us eat beans!!!
#31
vibeone
:


LOL boothy, inb4 the usual hate, but getting hit when I was a total arse never did me any harm.

inb4 harm


never done me any harm either, but I wouldnt hit my son...............though I do threaten him with it most weeks lol but wouldnt do it - ever!!
#32
bossyboots
huh?

Actually - and thankfully - none of us eat beans!!!


spaghetti then.
#33
vibeone




LOL boothy, inb4 the usual hate, but getting hit when I was a total arse never did me any harm.

inb4 harm


+1

I am not suggesting a beating,just a smack on ankles or clipped ear may just shock the lad into behaving himself


Dont see what the big issue with it is tbh
#34
vibeone
getting hit when I was a total arse never did me any harm.


I'd imagine it still happens...
#35
bossyboots
never done me any harm either, but I wouldnt hit my son...............though I do threaten him with it most weeks lol but wouldnt do it - ever!!


never say never. i was hit a handful of times as a kid and its a must on the odd occassion and u learn from it
#36
Don't feel the shame, don't rush off to get away from the public glare. Deal with it properly and thoroughly there and then. My eldest is three now, so it doesn't happen any more but once or twice they've all had a proper strop in ASDA. Everything has to stop. Get right down to his level and explain what you want him to do. Mine always screamed at me while I was trying to speak to him, I just repeated over and over, calmly and quetly that I will not speak to him until he's calmed down. Takes a few goes, but once they get the idea, next time it's much quicker. I tell them before we go in the shop that they must be on their best behaviour and if I have to tell them just one time to calm down then they won't get their sticker. I have sticker charts for each of them and they get a star sticker each time they do something good or extra nice either without being told or asked to, or at least at the first time of asking. When they get 10 stickers, they get a special treat, just for them. If they get a naughty sticker (it's actually a ring reinforcement!) they have to start counting to ten stickers again. My two year old now has three sheets of stars and not one naughty one since he last saw his brother have a special treat. The littles is too small to understand, but it makes her brothers realise she gets treats too, and get's told off when there is naughtiness. Since we introduced the sticker chart I only have to go to get the naughty stickers out of the drawer and they are angels again.

In ASDA especially I get more stressed than they do, so they are promised an apple once we get to the freezer section. This means they are still eating through the checkouts and are too busy to be naughty when I have to take my eyes off them to pack the bags. The staff don't mind as long as you buy the apples in the prepacked bags. I do object to parents giving them the fruit they won't be paying for! (Or crisps or chocolate etc!)

I don't think it would be a good idea to stop taking him - he'll never learn that way. Maybe try doing smaller shops until he realises this isn't the only thing that will happen today. Maybe a quick walk round grabbing a couple of things, then straight to the park? Gradually build up the trips round as long as he behaves he'll get to go to the park??
#37
MinstrelMan
spaghetti then.


does the pasta type count :lol:
banned#38
Penny Saver


In ASDA especially I get more stressed than they do, so they are promised an apple once we get to the freezer section. This means they are still eating through the checkouts and are too busy to be naughty when I have to take my eyes off them to pack the bags. The staff don't mind as long as you buy the apples in the prepacked bags. I do object to parents giving them the fruit they won't be paying for! (Or crisps or chocolate etc!)


Totally unacceptable. Whatever the staff say, its theft in my book. You buy your goods, then they are yours. Not before. Are you not ashamed of yourself? I can't believe you admitted doing that with no shame.

#39
vibeone
Totally unacceptable. Whatever the staff say, its theft in my book. You buy your good, then they are yours. Not before. Are you not ashamed of yourself? I can't believe you admitted doing that with no shame.



Admitting to shopping in ASDA is worse that feeding the kids before paying for goods tbh
banned#40
boothy
Admitting to shopping in ASDA is worse that feeding the kids before paying for goods tbh


fair point.

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