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a friend of mine has just told me she has been diagnosed with severe post natal depression. I dont have a big understanding of this as didnt experience it with my child. Has anyone else experienced th… Read More
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8y, 1m agoPosted 8 years, 1 month ago
a friend of mine has just told me she has been diagnosed with severe post natal depression. I dont have a big understanding of this as didnt experience it with my child. Has anyone else experienced this? I feel bad as i didnt have a clue she has always seemed fine to me..always happy this was the first i had heard.. she said she was having a few money problems but that was it. The doctors has upped her anti depressents to a very high dose (she has always been on them since i have known her since schoolyears) but i dont think that is a good idea..surely they cant be working and something else need to be done. As i said im not a doctor im just a concerned friend. I thought a severe depressant has trouble getting out of bed..doesnt want to do anything....etc. I would like to be able to understand..but she wont talk. Anyone had any similar experience that they can tell me about..thanks.
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8y, 1m agoPosted 8 years, 1 month ago
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#1
I have had PND and its now turned into normal depression, it is a hell hole to be in, i had a phyc nurse and medication, also had to have the crisis team out to me a couple of times.

Its a nightmare and it can be hid as i hid mine for many a mths after the birth of my son nearly 7yrs ago.

I struggle to get out of bed, very unhappy and cry for no reason, everything and everyone feels against you, you sometimes with PND over protect your baby or reject which i did the latter, its hard to describe really.
#2
amcol
I have had PND and its now turned into normal depression, it is a hell hole to be in, i had a phyc nurse and medication, also had to have the crisis team out to me a couple of times.

Its a nightmare and it can be hid as i hid mine for many a mths after the birth of my son nearly 7yrs ago.


are you ok now? how did they help you? thanks:thumbsup:
#3
I suffered from PND through all of my children. It got worse with each one.
It seems to manifest itself differently do normal depression.
Just try and help out as much as you can and be as supportive as possible.
Try this link below it should give you some more answers

http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Understanding/Understanding+postnatal+depression.htm
#4
Im not right now nope, im on 40mg a day of citalopram, due to go to docs next week to try get them to change my meds or something.

The phyc nurse was great, she helped me as i didnt go out, had panic attacks and alsorts of probs and it was someone to talk to and reason with me, it took me a long time to accept the help though.

I would do it again i think, but couldnt guarantee as im very funny about new people around me and how they will judge me so clam up for ages.
#5
I had this too. Appeared normal, could talk to people normally, but could only do this for short periods of time, so, although, to the majority of people, I appeared fine, for most of the time I wasn't. Spent most of my time wanting to die/no point in living. Upping the dose of anti-depressants seems a sensible move to me as the lower dose is clearly not enough of the chemicals that she needs at this time. Over time, the dose will be reduced and she will be fine again. Since that time I have taken low dose anti-depressants. With them I'm fine - without them I find living very difficult. I really feel for your friend - it's a terrible illness. If she doesn't want to talk to you, let her know that you're there for her.
#6
amcol
I have had PND and its now turned into normal depression, it is a hell hole to be in, i had a phyc nurse and medication, also had to have the crisis team out to me a couple of times.

Its a nightmare and it can be hid as i hid mine for many a mths after the birth of my son nearly 7yrs ago.

I struggle to get out of bed, very unhappy and cry for no reason, everything and everyone feels against you, you sometimes with PND over protect your baby or reject which i did the latter, its hard to describe really.

I was over-protective and was always convinced that something was wrong with my baby. I wouldn't let anyone touch her - not even her father.
#7
i have been diagnosed as having severe depression since i lost one of my son's. i had twin boys alfie and austin at just 26wks and so were extremely premature and after a week of life austin passed away, that was 6 years ago in may and i still suffer from severe depression. at first mine was diagnosed as post natal depression which through circumstances developed into something deeper. i have been on different meds since then and although feel stable at times you know when you are not ok and the blackness returns.
although your friend is, as you put it ,happy and not ill as such depression presents itself in different forms. yes the classics are low energy, low self esteem and sleeplessness,tearfullness etc it may be that she doesn't want to burden you with her anxieties.
i was very like this and didn't feel like getting out of bed, i dont sleep well so i read till 2ish and am up at 6am everyday, i am very tearfull at times and just feel rubbish about myself ~ my guess is she will be the same but cannot share with you yet.
please be patient and keep showing her you are there for her she will eventually confide and then you will realise how much pain she is in.
i hope as a friend you will stick with it you sound so nice and really concerned about her give yourself a huge pat on the back, everyone needs friends and mine have been wonderful too.
#8
alfie and harrys mum
i have been diagnosed as having severe depression since i lost one of my son's. i had twin boys alfie and austin at just 26wks and so were extremely premature and after a week of life austin passed away, that was 6 years ago in may and i still suffer from severe depression. at first mine was diagnosed as post natal depression which through circumstances developed into something deeper. i have been on different meds since then and although feel stable at times you know when you are not ok and the blackness returns.
although your friend is, as you put it ,happy and not ill as such depression presents itself in different forms. yes the classics are low energy, low self esteem and sleeplessness,tearfullness etc it may be that she doesn't want to burden you with her anxieties.
i was very like this and didn't feel like getting out of bed, i dont sleep well so i read till 2ish and am up at 6am everyday, i am very tearfull at times and just feel rubbish about myself ~ my guess is she will be the same but cannot share with you yet.
please be patient and keep showing her you are there for her she will eventually confide and then you will realise how much pain she is in.
i hope as a friend you will stick with it you sound so nice and really concerned about her give yourself a huge pat on the back, everyone needs friends and mine have been wonderful too.


I just want to send big hugs and loads of love your way xxx
#9
LisaJT
I just want to send big hugs and loads of love your way xxx


aww thanks so much
#10
sweetie, depression is a very hard thing to recognise at times so please dont feel bad for not realising your friend was so depressed. Often when we are suffering from depression we work hard to maintain a sane and happy face to the world and keep our unhappiness very intimate and closed off from others gaze for fear they will judge us, hidefrom us or just simply not understand.

dont feel bad. Just be kind to your friend. She is going through a great deal at the moment and needs love, understanding and support x x
#11
easier said than done, but the best ways to beat depression that i know - (close family member with it)

is to keep the person happy and occupied.

the thing with depression is to get the person out of the negative spiral of thoughts they consume themselves with. time on your hands allows you to think and this is what a depressive person does a lot of -think!

this doesnt mean bung them in front of a telly, cos from what my friend has told me she probably takes on board 10% of what is on the telly, cos she is just thinking away.

so something like gardening, a shopping trip. even vaccuming the house, doing the laundry, walkin your way about instead of driving to places allows you to use ur senses and take on other input.

Medication is not the answer, though they do help many anti-depressents are simply sedative - and put your brain to sleep. some actually can cause more harm than do good - (suicide?)

how do you make someone happy?

keep happy thoughts flowing, watch there favcouirte movie with them, pull out the family album, visit a place where you feel good and have good memories of, meet people - your local community centre etc

from what i have learnt from my friend, the days are ok and its the nites that are never ending and this is when she uses his anti-depressnet if he must.

hope some of this helps
#12
adam2116
easier said than done, but the best ways to beat depression that i know - (close family member with it)

is to keep the person happy and occupied.

the thing with depression is to get the person out of the negative spiral of thoughts they consume themselves with. time on your hands allows you to think and this is what a depressive person does a lot of -think!

this doesnt mean bung them in front of a telly, cos from what my friend has told me she probably takes on board 10% of what is on the telly, cos she is just thinking away.

so something like gardening, a shopping trip. even vaccuming the house, doing the laundry, walkin your way about instead of driving to places allows you to use ur senses and take on other input.

Medication is not the answer, though they do help many anti-depressents are simply sedative - and put your brain to sleep. some actually can cause more harm than do good - (suicide?)

how do you make someone happy?

keep happy thoughts flowing, watch there favcouirte movie with them, pull out the family album, visit a place where you feel good and have good memories of, meet people - your local community centre etc

from what i have learnt from my friend, the days are ok and its the nites that are never ending and this is when she uses his anti-depressnet if he must.

hope some of this helps


Good advice, she definitely needs to be kept busy and not alone. My mum has had severe post natal depression for nearly 18 years since my younger brother was born and i have had depression for nearly 10 years and the worst thing is to be alone with nothing to do as it causes you to think more which makes you feel worse.
My mum is on a very high dosage of medication and is constantly drowsy.

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