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Should an engagement ring be more money than the wedding ring or less?

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7y, 11m agoPosted 7 years, 11 months ago
Just a quick question here but should an engagement ring 'generally' be more money and more important etc than the wedding ring?

Serious question as looking at engagement rings but need to know whether the general rule of thumb is to spend more on the engagement than the wedding ring.
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7y, 11m agoPosted 7 years, 11 months ago
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#1
I cherish my wedding ring more, its been "blessed" on the actual wedding day :)
#2
An engagement ring generally costs quite alot more than a wedding ring.
#3
I'd say that likely to cost more for engagement ring, depends on styles though
[mod]#4
Engagement should cost more. Sadly
banned#5
Shouldn't it be a ring you both like rather than one that costs £xxx? Surely a ring you both love that costs £100 is far better than one that costs £1,000 but is only bought because it "looks expensive"?

The cost should be irrelevant
#6
DanJackson
Shouldn't it be a ring you both like rather than one that costs £xxx? Surely a ring you both love that costs £100 is far better than one that costs £1,000 but is only bought because it "looks expensive"?

The cost should be irrelevant


Totally agree:thumbsup:
#7
Yeah i agree about that 'Danjackson'. Just not sure whether to get the ring before I ask her or wait to ask her (hope she says yes lol) and then both buy one that she will like.
#8
ashbbly;3982036
Yeah i agree about that 'Danjackson'. Just not sure whether to get the ring before I ask her or wait to ask her (hope she says yes lol) and then both buy one that she will like.

if you're gonna wait til you've asked her get a ring out of a christmas craker or something to propose with & say that you want to make the decision on what ring she has together :thumbsup:
#9
Usually the engagement ring is the blingy one, and it costs a good bit more, unless, like me, she wants a diamond eternity ring for her wedding ring :D
banned#10
ashbbly
Yeah i agree about that 'Danjackson'. Just not sure whether to get the ring before I ask her or wait to ask her (hope she says yes lol) and then both buy one that she will like.


I think you have to get a ring before you ask her, that's just tradition. Just don't get hung up on what it costs, get her something you know she'll love.

Or what about looking in a jewellers with her and subtly looking at rings together?
#11
Do you really think your partner will love you any less if you get a cheap one?
#12
jellybaby22
yes...yes she will.......

I would want to see the reciept.......


:p


lol

well my mrs picked her own out...and decided to get one customer made..only cost about £150
but she loves it
#13
An engagement ring you pay for once in the shop; the wedding ring you end up paying for the rest of your life!!!
#14
Tradition used to dictate that the engagement ring was a months salary. So if you are in a high paid job do a sabatical and go with the xmas cracker ring instead.

In terms of what I did. The engagement ring was the blingy one with the larger diamond (not that you can fit much on a ring finger that is smaller that my little finger is, something like a J size if I recall LOL) and my wifes wedding ring was a band but had smaller diamonds set within the band itself i.e. not raised like the engagement ring.

Enternity ring came with the 1st child. Couldn't really begrudge her that as I'm not the one having to go through the labour am I LOL.

Funnily enough our 2nd child is due next month and when I joked about bigger and better pressie she nearly floored me with her reply as what she'ed like is a WII after playing on one at our friends house LOL.
#15
Personally I really enjoyed shopping for my engagement ring and choosing it with my fiance. If I had left it to him to choose it would have been something really traditional which really isnt me, after trying on rings in both his choice of style and my own he came to realise this and 20 years later I have a lovely ring that I still love to wear and I still feel it reflects my style. :-D
#16
Njay;3982297

Funnily enough our 2nd child is due next month and when I joked about bigger and better pressie she nearly floored me with her reply as what she'ed like is a WII after playing on one at our friends house LOL.

You sure she didn't mean a wee, babies often press on the bladder late in pregnancy!!!!
#17
my engagment ring was £69!!!
i chose it too, not too bothered about the expense i saw the one i liked as long as it was white gold had 3 stones and at least one had to be pink
banned#18
mine was dead cheap, that cheap i didnt bother going for the wedding ring
#19
hi sass, good xmas luv x
banned#20
ilovepink
hi sass, good xmas luv x


as good as it was gonna be, full of a cold for the last 4 weeks - lol

and i dont need to ask if you had a good one ;-)

I been looking for a pink stoned ring for ages, never found one i like, well not that i could afford as i want a big pink sapphire
#21
Njay
Tradition used to dictate that the engagement ring was a months salary. .


I would say a month's salary too!! Net obviously, Gross would just be silly.
#22
don't worry about the price, get one she likes,
why not take her to a jewellers, look through the windows, ask her to marry you, go into the jewellers and she picks the one she likes, (better take your credit card with you!!!!!)
good luck
#23
my weddng ring was a fair bit less than my engagement ring-mainly because it had a diamond in, rather than a gold band (with 3 small flakes of diamonds in !).

It was a long time ago-but my wedding ring was less than hals the price-i think if you look around wedding rings are generally a fair bit less-unless you buy a 'set' of rings.:thumbsup:
#24
I just proposed to my partner on boxing day, and this is what I did...

I used a jeweller based in Dubai to make the ring. I sent him loads of pictures of one that I wanted him to replicate, and told him the exact diamond I wanted him to use. He then came back to me with a price and after a bit of haggling I ordered it. I then went over the Dubai to pick it up, but to my surprise he hadn't made it yet. But this was normal - he took the diamond out of the sealed packet and made the ring there and then. It took about 4 hours in total.

My girlfriend is chuffed to bits. The best part is that as he makes the rings himself, he said that if she wanted to get anything changed he would re work the entire ring for nothing. The value (profit) is in the diamond so putting it on another band is easy. This made it low risk for me to design it myself (well, from other rings in the magazines). Fortunately, she said yes and doesn't want to change it at all so no need to go back, but may well go over just to get the bands done.

In terms of price, I had to have it valued for insurance purposes and lets just say that I paid 1 months salary, and it got valued in Hatton Garden, London at well over 3 months salary, so even more chuffed.

Obviously getting to Dubai isn't cheap, but if you save £300 (1 return flight), then its possibly worth it!
#25
To be brutally honest - if the value of the ring (relative or absolute) is a real concern to you or your partner I think you're possibly not ready to be getting into a lifelong commitment situation :)

Also, re: Diamonds - this...

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v12/Helen/diamondspic.jpg

Just buy something beautiful that you know they will love - and that (if you're planning to do both rings - many people don't these days) will work with another ring at the appropriate time of course.

I really like those George Jensen interlocking rings - but that's just me and my dislike of overvalued rocks I guess :)

http://www.georgjensen.com/English/Collections/Jewellery/Top%20Collections/Fusion/Fusion%20Ring.aspx?pagenumber=1
#26
therealjohnpeat
To be brutally honest - if the value of the ring (relative or absolute) is a real concern to you or your partner I think you're possibly not ready to be getting into a lifelong commitment situation :)

Also, re: Diamonds - this...

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v12/Helen/diamondspic.jpg


I don't think that just because some couples have more disposable income than others means they are any more ready to be getting into a lifelong commitment. The commitment is to each other. If the commitment were buying a house then I would agree with you.
#27
mcampster
I don't think that just because some couples have more disposable income than others means they are any more ready to be getting into a lifelong commitment. The commitment is to each other. If the commitment were buying a house then I would agree with you.

Way to miss the point completely!

It's got nothing to do with wealth or the actual sum of money involved (or the difference between ring prices!) - it's the fact that you or your partner shouldn't care how much it cost (and you shouldn't be saying anyway!) - you should only be caring how nice/suitable it is...

You're not buying your way into someone's heart - you're inviting someone to share your life - the value of the trinket is irrelevant (as is nonsense like carats etc.) - it's all about the gesture and the romance of the thing - and not cherrching!!
#28
jellybaby22
yes...yes she will.......

I would want to see the reciept.......


:p


You sound like my ex lol.
#29
therealjohnpeat
Way to miss the point completely!

It's got nothing to do with wealth or the actual sum of money involved (or the difference between ring prices!) - it's the fact that you or your partner shouldn't care how much it cost (and you shouldn't be saying anyway!) - you should only be caring how nice/suitable it is...

You're not buying your way into someone's heart - you're inviting someone to share your life - the value of the trinket is irrelevant (as is nonsense like carats etc.) - it's all about the gesture and the romance of the thing - and not cherrching!!


Fair enough, I pretty much agree with you. But I would say, when you say its the gesture, if that person earns a large sum of money and ends up purchasing a 'lizzy duke', there are a lot of people around that would think that wasn't much of a gesture considering the circumstances. Their answer could still be the same, cos they're saying yes to the person not the ring, but they may think you're a bit of a tight wad!

In the perfect world, I agree that that wouldn't matter, but unfortunately, this is not the case
#30
I told my Oh that i would wear string around my finger, its not how flashy or pricey it is, its what i represents.

I would wear a coke ring pull, its the marriage, commitment and relationship that holds the meaning.

Id rather be treated right,respected, loved forever and wear a ring pull. The cost of the ring means nothing.
#31
Njay
Tradition used to dictate that the engagement ring was a months salary. .


Best to do it while at uni then :-D

£4000 / 12 = £333.33 - beer money and rent ( you have to get buy ) = £25.49 :thumbsup:
#32
Njay
Tradition used to dictate that the engagement ring was a months salary.

I think you'll find it wasn't tradition -it was jeweller's marketting people and *******s like DeBeers who made that suggestion...

Remember this is a ring you're supposed to wear constantly so BIG ROCKS and delicate settings etc. are a daft idea.

My partners first engagement ring was quite expensive - I just liked it a lot - and she used to take it off to wash dishes etc. When I found it on the bathroom floor one day I put it back in it's box and thought nothing more about it.

2 weeks later she came to me very sheepishly and said she thought she'd lost it in the bathroom and had been worried sick for over a week. I suggested she check the box and she said "I never put it in the box" - and... - you can see the rest.

6 months later she came to me and said "where have you put it this time then?" - and I'd never seen and and haven't since - so the message is "buy something you can afford to replace" :)
#33
saveuk
Best to do it while at uni then :-D

£4000 / 12 = £333.33 - beer money and rent ( you have to get buy ) = £25.49 :thumbsup:


err - that particularly stupid rule is a month's salary WITHOUT deductions - otherwise everyone would have a ring out of a Christmas Cracker :)

£333 is plenty of money to get a nice engagement ring tho - more than enough - so...
#34
mcampster
if that person earns a large sum of money and ends up purchasing a 'lizzy duke', there are a lot of people around that would think that wasn't much of a gesture


erm - someone is asking you to spend the rest of your life with them (I realise some people don't actually think like this but it IS the idea!) - how much they spend on a ring isn't the only measure of the person you need to be making here :)

This isn't the 19th century either - people live together and get to know each other MUCH better before marriage - if you've not noticed your partner is mean and hordes their money by the time you're getting engaged - there's something rather wrong :)

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