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The article (link in next post) talks about striking up conversation with strangers and how Polish immigrants have been told that commenting on the weather is a great way to break the ice. The ar…
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8y, 8m agoPosted 8 years, 8 months ago
The article (link in next post) talks about striking up conversation with strangers and how Polish immigrants have been told that commenting on the weather is a great way to break the ice.

The article itself is a good read, but the comments below are even more interesting, are people really that adverse to having quick conversations with total strangers for no reason at all? Do people assume you're a nutter? I hope not, I do it all the time!
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8y, 8m agoPosted 8 years, 8 months ago
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1 Like #2
omg makes me think twice about being the nutter..i talk to everyone me i dont care...and will offer help if i can see it may be needed. Funny though someone has helped me twice the last couple times ive been shopping and the looked embarrassed to help-what a shame eh?
anyway if you dnt want to talk its your choice but miserable gits should stay at home-lol
#3
Yes, I tend to think someone striking up a random conversation is going to be weird.

It's one thing if you're at a bus stop and start talking about the bus being late, or you comment in the supermarket queue about there not being enough checkouts open...but to just randonly open a conversation...hmm...sets off my nutter alarm.
#4
you missed the bit where it said it was normal for northerners to do it.
#5
Its good to talk.
#6
yep but look at the stockport woman's comment?
#7
Is this also good for chatting people up?
banned#8
guerilla
you missed the bit where it said it was normal for northerners to do it.


I'm a northerner and too friendly and polite

Must become harder, note to oneself
#9
'Oop North everyone talks to everyone... It's more apparant with people you have to meet - bus drivers, supermarket cashiers, etc.

I don't know whether I'm mis-guided here, but it doesn't seem to happen as much in the South-East of England (particularly in London).

I love Marcus Brigstocke's stand up where he says "is anyone in here from London?" and when people cheer he says "congratulations, that's the most you've ever said to somebody you don't know. It could be a greeting, it could be the makings of a fight - who knows?". :giggle:
banned 1 Like #10
duckmagicuk2
'Oop North everyone talks to everyone... It's more apparant with people you have to meet - bus drivers, supermarket cashiers, etc.

I don't know whether I'm mis-guided here, but it doesn't seem to happen as much in the South-East of England (particularly in London).

I love Marcus Brigstocke's stand up where he says "is anyone in here from London?" and when people cheer he says "congratulations, that's the most you've ever said to somebody you don't know. It could be a greeting, it could be the makings of a fight - who knows?". :giggle:


Very true, i find a lot of southerners a bit stand off ish or maybe my armpits are not up to standard :p
#11
DLM
I'm a northerner and too friendly and polite

Must become harder, note to oneself


i was reassuring the op that he was not a nutter and that it is common for northern people to chat to strangers
#12
Marcus Brigstocke is ace :thumbsup:

I think people have the weird notion that if they talk to someone they don't know then they will be percieved as a mental case. However I think a lot of people would like to have a small conversation to let the passage of time flow quickly.
banned#13
guerilla
i was reassuring the op that he was not a nutter and that it is common for northern people to chat to strangers


I know, but i know that i am better than most people and have higher standards than them :w00t:

So shouldn't waste my breath or time on them.

The reason most southerners are richer than us northerners is because they do not spend their time talking nonsense to people.
#14
The few times I've been to London I've noticed everyone keeps very much to themselves and random conversation is practically nil, even when holding a door open for someone or offering to help someone with a buggy down some steps (which I tend to do if ever i see someone struggling) results in being snubbed or ignored, its a shame really. I have loads of mates who live in London and they're all really friendly, so I don't know what triggers the 'stranger paranoia'!
banned 1 Like #15
Robotochan
Marcus Brigstocke is ace :thumbsup:

I think people have the weird notion that if they talk to someone they don't know then they will be percieved as a mental case. However I think a lot of people would like to have a small conversation to let the passage of time flow quickly.


That's what we do here instead, us nutters behind the computer
#16
duckmagicuk2
'Oop North everyone talks to everyone... It's more apparant with people you have to meet - bus drivers, supermarket cashiers, etc.

I don't know whether I'm mis-guided here, but it doesn't seem to happen as much in the South-East of England (particularly in London).

I love Marcus Brigstocke's stand up where he says "is anyone in here from London?" and when people cheer he says "congratulations, that's the most you've ever said to somebody you don't know. It could be a greeting, it could be the makings of a fight - who knows?". :giggle:


I live just north of london and my bf lives further south (hampshire) than I do he gets amazed as to how many people stop and talk to me in the street!

It's really strange how ignorant people are in different areas of the country.

Thinking of that I over-heard a girl remark today that she would never go out with a british boy! Haha, and they'd wanna go out with you?! Ego!
#17
Abvance
Is this also good for chatting people up?


The weather's nice today isn't it... ;-)
banned#18
chrishill
The few times I've been to London I've noticed everyone keeps very much to themselves and random conversation is practically nil, even when holding a door open for someone or offering to help someone with a buggy down some steps (which I tend to do if ever i see someone struggling) results in being snubbed or ignored, its a shame really. I have loads of mates who live in London and they're all really friendly, so I don't know what triggers the 'stranger paranoia'!


They don't have time for it, too busy moving out of the way of blades and making lots of dosh.
#19
Heh, I made my comment before reading the article. Glad to see that the Beeb agrees with me.
#20
DLM
They don't have time for it, too busy moving out of the way of blades and making lots of dosh.


You say that, but I know plenty of people who do the same job as me and 'technically' earn more but are actually no better off because everything costs more down there, personally I'd rather live where I do, earn a couple of grand less a year and be able to afford a decent house and way of life rather than have a higher wage and have to live in a box with all my money going on an insane mortgage, congestion charges, higher petrol prices and £4 pints!
banned#21
chrishill
You say that, but I know plenty of people who do the same job as me and 'technically' earn more but are actually no better off because everything costs more down there, personally I'd rather live where I do, earn a couple of grand less a year and be able to afford a decent house and way of life rather than have a higher wage and have to live in a box with all my money going on an insane mortgage, congestion charges, higher petrol prices and £4 pints!


I'm commenting on people i've known, that live in Surrey.

My last boyfriend was from there and most people who lived there were stuck up and had no emotion.
#22
I agree some areas are more friendly, round here(Chesterfield, Derbys) if you pass a stranger on the pavement people will always say hi even complete strangers, even in town if there are strangers in a bus queue, shop queue, or any other where people are stationery you will find yourself in some sort of dialogue, yet other areas people will steadfastly avoid any eye contact in case it leads to a conversation.
#23
You are all strangers to me here.
#24
chrishill
You say that, but I know plenty of people who do the same job as me and 'technically' earn more but are actually no better off because everything costs more down there, personally I'd rather live where I do, earn a couple of grand less a year and be able to afford a decent house and way of life rather than have a higher wage and have to live in a box with all my money going on an insane mortgage, congestion charges, higher petrol prices and £4 pints!


I quite agree with you, would love to move away from london, difficult to stir up a chat without someone thinking you re a nut case, what I hate most is the stupid grin you get when you say ordinary hello to stranger.
#25
DLM
That's what we do here instead, us nutters behind the computer


Missed that comment before, you're spot on - all the nutters congregated in one place commenting on how good/bad the weather is!

I might make a point of having a random conversation with someone new, for no reason at all, every day. If only I had some writing ability to document it, look what meeting strangers did for Dave Gorman!
#26
chrishill
Look what meeting strangers did for Dave Gorman!


:-D
#27
i remember I was at Uni at Leeds, and people had mentioned that Tea and weather were good ice breakers.. so I was coming back by train from london and it was pissing down, like really really wet!! And I got into this black cab and i was all wet, I mean I was carrying some luggage and some univerisity kit and stuff. I mean people would have felt bad for me. So I just thought I'd ask him about how the weather has been. And then I jokingly said, "But its bloody aweful weatehr today isint it.. ?", to which he replied, "why dont you ****** off to your own country then!!" ... Where ****** wasnt the word he used, being a family forum I wont really write it down.. Havent mentioned the weather or tea since!!
#28
DLM
I'm commenting on people i've known, that live in Surrey.

My last boyfriend was from there [COLOR="Red"]and most people who lived there were stuck up and had no emotion[/COLOR].


quite a generalisation there :roll:
#29
Britain, cold weather and even colder people (not my words but from my boss who's from another country!)

Personally I don't go around talking randomly to people (sometimes I do if a pretty girls involved), but I always try acknowledging people, wether its by nodding my head or smiling to whoever makes eye contact...

As for random talking people being nutters, I'd disagree as I think it's good, and if i was a bit more eccentric I'd do it more often!!
#30
loupomm
quite a generalisation there :roll:


lol agree
banned#31
loupomm
quite a generalisation there :roll:


I don't want to upset the nice surrey people, of course.
banned#32
I was in Manchester last night and a young lady in the toilets latched on to me and loved to talk, bless her.

I think she was from Ireland, very pretty young lady and if i was a man, i would :oops:

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