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The birds and the bees !!

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8y, 10m agoPosted 8 years, 10 months ago
My daughter who is 8 is starting to ask about the birds and bees. Heeeeelp I think it is to early. How can I talk to her. Can anyone suggest any good books and fellas dont tell me the top shelve mags!!!!!!!
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8y, 10m agoPosted 8 years, 10 months ago
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#1
Try your local library, they will have age appropriate books there.
#2
I agree. I think the easiest way is with a good age appropriate informative book. You can take it a couple of pages or so at a time depending on how much she can take:thumbsup:
#3
Ask in school to find out what they have already told her, so as not to confuse her with slightly different information. They may also be able to provide or suggest materials to help you
#4
kelly_o_fanatic
Ask in school to find out what they have already told her, so as not to confuse her with slightly different information. They may also be able to provide or suggest materials to help you


Slightly different information? You mean there's more than one way to do it?
#5
Ok .. Just hope the school doesnt teach them that Homosexuality is a part of the birds and the Bees. Now that would be confusing. Poor kids
Best thing is to try to explain to them that babies are formed in the tumies of the mother and when they are big enough they are born into the world. Leave the how do they get there in the first place to later lol
#6
Asking in school is a good idea, I agree.

I just got ours the 'Ultimate Health Book for Girls' for £2 from Red House Books in their January Sale section, but they have just gone out of stock (http://www.redhouse.co.uk/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10151_18251_25609_100_44603_44603_category_44603) although that is aimed at age 10! Might find similar on fleabay?
#7
Tell her to stop asking and wait til she's ten!!
...Then they'll tell her in Sex Education at school.

My son has just had his lessons.
Before, he was very paternal and wanted lots of children... one lesson of SE and...
He is now fostering or adopting children as he doesn't want to do all 'that business cos it is mank'.

No more awkward questions and contraception all in one day!!

On a serious note, there are some good books on Amazon.
#8
Books & school liason are good but use your instinct as well. It's not like you've had to have a big hoo-ha for all the other stuff she's wanted to know about. Keep it simple like you always have -she's 8:-D. And try to keep it to true facts - tumies/tummies are not a good explanation in my opinion: what have babies got to do with the stuff you eat?
Pets having babies is informative (and may be the reason she has asked you)!:)
banned#9
donnydude
Slightly different information? You mean there's more than one way to do it?


ive found out loads of ways from a book called "karma" somthing
#10
Craig david
ive found out loads of ways from a book called "karma" somthing
.......chameleon??
#11
karma karma karma karma karma chameleon.
#12
t0mm
karma karma karma karma karma chameleon.

thats the one!!:p
#13
Thanks for the tips she has asked me how babys are made. My answer was special kisses and hugs. She was satisfied with that.
#14
I know everyone has their own view on this one and there's no right and wrong way, but we've always been open with our kids. They are 5 and 7 and our 7 year old knows exactly how babies are made and wasn't phased at all.

We didn't push the detail, but didn't hide or make up anything either.
#15
SteveA
I know everyone has their own view on this one and there's no right and wrong way, but we've always been open with our kids. They are 5 and 7 and our 7 year old knows exactly how babies are made and wasn't phased at all.

We didn't push the detail, but didn't hide or make up anything either.


on a serious note, I agree with steve, mine are now 18, 12 & 11 and as the questions were/are asked we tell them as it is, I personally find this approach the best way.
#16
andreahh24
Tell her to stop asking and wait til she's ten!!
...Then they'll tell her in Sex Education at school.

My son has just had his lessons.
Before, he was very paternal and wanted lots of children... one lesson of SE and...
He is now fostering or adopting children as he doesn't want to do all 'that business cos it is mank'.

No more awkward questions and contraception all in one day!!

On a serious note, there are some good books on Amazon.


10? When I was in school we learnt the proper names for all the organs in nursery (staff checked with parents first and none were really bothered) then at about 6 we were learning all about babies, and all had our own baby (a food bag filled with water, with a plasticine baby in) which were pegged across a washing line in the classroom for a while, showing the different stages of pregnancy. At the same time we were taught how the baby was made (cant remember how detailed it was, but it wasnt all storks and stuff!)
#17
On a lighter note..........quite a few years back my youngest asked my friend who was expecting twins "why did you eat 2 babies?" :-D
#18
t0mm
karma karma karma karma karma chameleon.


you come and go...............
you come and go-o-o-oooo!!!

:whistling:
#19
grex9101
you come and go...............
you come and go-o-o-oooo!!!

:whistling:



Come n Go???... Not very romantic way of describing it to a kid is it??!
;-):)
#20
iluvshopping
Come n Go???... Not very romantic way of describing it to a kid is it??!
;-):)


Could be worse, look what pandas do:

"eats shoots and leaves"!!!!
#21
grex9101
Could be worse, look what pandas do:

"eats shoots and leaves"!!!!


He he he :w00t:
#22
Why do adults insist on treating children like they are idiots.

As others have said just tell them the truth, they will understand and thank you for it in later years when they realise they weren't the dummy who swore to others in the playground that babies were delivered by stork to the nearby gooseberry bush.

You don't need to go into the realms of femdom or transexuals etc but the plain truth about how babies are made etc is not going to hurt them at all, just the opposite.

My opinion anyway :)
#23
grex9101
Could be worse, look what pandas do:

"eats shoots and leaves"!!!!


:giggle:
#24
hottoshop
Why do adults insist on treating children like they are idiots.

As others have said just tell them the truth, they will understand and thank you for it in later years when they realise they weren't the dummy who swore to others in the playground that babies were delivered by stork to the nearby gooseberry bush.

My opinion anyway :)


Im Irish, and in Good old rural Irish style, babies came from the potato fields!!(???)
Imagine my shame when I came to UK and discovered that this was infact not true and I was declared some sort of freak for believing that babies grew out with the spuds!!!
:oops::oops::oops:
#25
kim44
Thanks for the tips she has asked me how babys are made. My answer was special kisses and hugs. She was satisfied with that.


What a waste of time this thread was. :thinking:
#26
what is the birds and the bees? :whistling:
#27
kim44
Thanks for the tips she has asked me how babys are made. My answer was special kisses and hugs. She was satisfied with that.


God forbid next time Grandad asks his special girl for a special hug and kiss then cos I'm damn sure I have done that with my grandson. :w00t: :oops:
#28
I'm 20 and still clueless. someone tell me
#29
surfer90
what is the birds and the bees? :whistling:




It's when a guy puts his who who dilly in a woman's cha cha...
#30
sadiebabes
It's when a guy puts his who who dilly in a woman's cha cha...


to the painful shriek of the bagpipes ??
#31
Look for 'The Body Book' from the Early Learning Centre by I think Claire Rainer. Its matter of fact, not really graphical. Gave to our girl and twin boys to read over time, usually as a bedtime story and no one was embarrassed and all grew up knowing but not 'enuendo' and happy with everything and complete chaste. Daughter now married and expecting.:thinking:
#32
thesaint
What a waste of time this thread was. :thinking:


Now you know why I stopped trying to help users on here :whistling:
#33
Speaking from experience, be open with your child, answer all questions truthfully, though there's no need to go into detail unless your child specifically asks for more information. Most of the time children don't really want to know the full 'ins & outs' (so to speak:whistling:), they just want assurance about something (e.g. their friend told them that 'Mum & Dad kissed and then had a baby' - can you have a baby just by kissing?)
#34
We were always frank with the kids about babies and sex, after all it's only a biological function. it's our imbuing it with added meaning that leads to smut and innuendo, and leads to parents having problems discussing all sorts of things with their kids as they get older. When I was younger I was given a library book about it to read, and my mum's reluctance to talk about sex or any aspect of reproduction lead me to realise this was not the way to go. I suppose everyone's different though, but if you have problems talking to your daughter about the basic facts of life how will you cope with discussing periods, and most importantly safe sex without embarrassment?
#35
hottoshop;1524207
Why do adults insist on treating children like they are idiots.

As others have said just tell them the truth, they will understand and thank you for it in later years when they realise they weren't the dummy who swore to others in the playground that babies were delivered by stork to the nearby gooseberry bush.

You don't need to go into the realms of femdom or transexuals etc but the plain truth about how babies are made etc is not going to hurt them at all, just the opposite.

My opinion anyway :)


Completely agree. I intend to be open and honest from the start, it's just so much better in the long run ... again in my opinion.
#36
suze
On a lighter note..........quite a few years back my youngest asked my friend who was expecting twins "why did you eat 2 babies?" :-D


All that talk about tummies!:)
#37
kim44
Thanks for the tips she has asked me how babys are made. My answer was special kisses and hugs. She was satisfied with that.


SteveA
I know everyone has their own view on this one and there's no right and wrong way, but we've always been open with our kids. They are 5 and 7 and our 7 year old knows exactly how babies are made and wasn't phased at all.

We didn't push the detail, but didn't hide or make up anything either.


Both right as far as I can see. If she wants to know more, she just has to ask.:thumbsup:

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