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I used to hate your guts, you came into MY home and pretended to be my Dad, my friend, my male father figure. I had been looking after my household for 3 years after my Dad had left one Christmas when… Read More
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banned7m, 1w agoPosted 7 months, 1 week ago
I used to hate your guts, you came into MY home and pretended to be my Dad, my friend, my male father figure. I had been looking after my household for 3 years after my Dad had left one Christmas when I was 8.
I acted all tough, I was hard. I had been hurt, abandoned by my mother's past men before. Broken promises made, all broken. I had seen her hurt, abused and tortured by men just like you. I would not like, nor trust men again.
Then you came into her life, in your 20's. I'm in my 30's now. I can't imagine what it must have been like. To take on anothers offspring. You are so kind, you have supported me, despite no genetic link. I don't want to call it love... as that would be weird...right? But you have done so much to make my Mum happy. You do everything a real Dad would do for their kids...and more I believe. Attended my Rugby matches, stepped up when asked to coach without hesitation. I'm sorry it took so long, for me to recognise the sacrifices you have made, to make my Mum so happy. Thank you step-dad. You are the greatest Dad.
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banned7m, 1w agoPosted 7 months, 1 week ago
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howdiefellas
I don't want to call it love... as that would be weird...right?

Why would it be weird? You're allowed to grow to love people who aren't genetically related to you.

And... shock, horror, you're allowed to love men. It doesn't make you gay.

Edited By: deeky on Nov 13, 2016 00:22
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Nice but maybe you should tell your step dad? I'm sure he would appreciate it.
banned 21 Likes
I was 14 when my stepmum arrived.
From that day, I always called her "Mam" until the day she passed away.
We never argued, not even disagreeing on which TV channel to watch.
Although she hated making scrambled eggs, she did them for me every day.
Years after I left the army she admitted to crying herself to sleep, every day I was on active service.
I could not have wished for a better mother. xxx
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maclennanneil
arcangel111
maclennanneil
Why on earth would you post something like this on a deals website?
People attention seek in ever more bizarre ways these days.
Do you read misc ? you don't comment much for a 5 year member so I'm guessing not
People are free to post what they want (within reason) some need help others need to vent..
Indeed.
There is a simple explanation.
I have a life and friends.
There are people who post in this section for attention . Regulars know who they are and deal with them accordingly . There are also people who want to share something with like minded individuals and who maybe don't have the confidence to shout this out loud . There is nothing in op's profile that would suggest they are attention seeker , maybe they just need encouragement to be able to express their true feelings . With a little encouragement maybe two people can come to realise their love for each other . You say you have a life and you have friends , that's great . Maybe your life is brilliant but maybe that isn't the case for everyone .Does that give you the right to belittle someone who has made an effort to try and right the wrongs of the past umpteen years ? Give the guy a break ,

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22 Likes #1
Nice but maybe you should tell your step dad? I'm sure he would appreciate it.
banned 5 Likes #2
I'm drunk...the lift home wasn't long enough
24 Likes #3
howdiefellas
I don't want to call it love... as that would be weird...right?

Why would it be weird? You're allowed to grow to love people who aren't genetically related to you.

And... shock, horror, you're allowed to love men. It doesn't make you gay.

Edited By: deeky on Nov 13, 2016 00:22
7 Likes #4
copy n paste this and text it to him...

he'd appreciate it no matter how long it's taken to say
4 Likes #5
This is really beautiful send it to him
4 Likes #6
TIL Admin is the step dad.
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deeky
And... shock, horror, you're allowed to love men. It doesn't make you gay.

...or straight.
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deeky
howdiefellas
I don't want to call it love... as that would be weird...right?
Why would it be weird? You're allowed to grow to love people who aren't genetically related to you.
And... shock, horror, you're allowed to love men. It doesn't make you gay.

I love you deeky x

You make me grow without genetic modification.

Edited By: Joey Bloggsy on Nov 13, 2016 00:40
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Joey Bloggsy
deeky
howdiefellas
I don't want to call it love... as that would be weird...right?
Why would it be weird? You're allowed to grow to love people who aren't genetically related to you.
And... shock, horror, you're allowed to love men. It doesn't make you gay.
I love you deeky x

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4 Likes #10
I SALUTE this just find ANY way to send/give him this message it would literally make his and your Mums life much better even after all of these years, and as for Love this guy through the Love for your Mum most definitely Loved you from what you've described as your the next closest thing to your mum and we know as we get older and hopefully more emotionally developed that Love doesn't know such boundaries as genetic limitations its just Love.


Edited By: GQ Man on Nov 13, 2016 00:47: .
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haritori
Nice but maybe you should tell your step dad? I'm sure he would appreciate it.


always one isnt there lol who gives a beep beep if hes put a - where it shouldnt be
7 Likes #13
ianmcshane7777
haritori
Nice but maybe you should tell your step dad? I'm sure he would appreciate it.
always one isnt there lol who gives a beep beep if hes put a - where it shouldnt be


don't think he was implying that he'd put a hyphen in .. he was telling him to say all this to his step dad ..
banned 21 Likes #14
I was 14 when my stepmum arrived.
From that day, I always called her "Mam" until the day she passed away.
We never argued, not even disagreeing on which TV channel to watch.
Although she hated making scrambled eggs, she did them for me every day.
Years after I left the army she admitted to crying herself to sleep, every day I was on active service.
I could not have wished for a better mother. xxx
4 Likes #15
this, if true and not just the booze talking , is so heartwarming- I suggest you need to listen to mike & the mechanics living years?
#16
love that song!
2 Likes #17
Some people (Ie some step parents) have big hearts , it just comes as surprise to some who have not felt the joy in giving.
9 Likes #18
A step dad that still ferries you around when your drunk, in your 30s? Wow, you really did hit the jackpot.
banned 2 Likes #19
moneysavingkitten
A step dad that still ferries you around when your drunk, in your 30s? Wow, you really did hit the jackpot.

Mum and step dad looking after the kids while out with the lads...it's a blue moon when I ask them. As wife is out with her friends too.
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howdiefellas
moneysavingkitten
A step dad that still ferries you around when your drunk, in your 30s? Wow, you really did hit the jackpot.
Mum and step dad looking after the kids while out with the lads...it's a blue moon when I ask them. As wife is out with her friends too.

Have another drink and copy paste your first comment into an e-mail ;)
1 Like #21
Couldn't help it but you brought me to tears I so hate you!
1 Like #22
this is just so heartwarming
3 Likes #23
puzzled why your drunk typing has better grammar etc.. than most people's sober text (me inc.)
banned#24
Your stepdad uses HUKD?
1 Like #25
Why on earth would you post something like this on a deals website?

People attention seek in ever more bizarre ways these days.
2 Likes #26
maclennanneil
Why on earth would you post something like this on a deals website?
People attention seek in ever more bizarre ways these days.
God, how many times have I seen this type of comment? This is MISC, people can talk about what they want, not just deals.
7 Likes #27
maclennanneil
Why on earth would you post something like this on a deals website?
People attention seek in ever more bizarre ways these days.


Do you read misc ? you don't comment much for a 5 year member so I'm guessing not
People are free to post what they want (within reason) some need help others need to vent..
banned 3 Likes #28
Just tell him you love him - nowt wrong with that, put some clothes on though.

Edited By: cchopps on Nov 13, 2016 03:35
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arcangel111
maclennanneil
Why on earth would you post something like this on a deals website?
People attention seek in ever more bizarre ways these days.
Do you read misc ? you don't comment much for a 5 year member so I'm guessing not
People are free to post what they want (within reason) some need help others need to vent..

Indeed.

There is a simple explanation.

I have a life and friends.
1 Like #30
That was beautiful to read, if you haven't already, let your stepdad know how you feel. It really doesn't matter how long it's been. It's hard to trust when you've been hurt, and at such a young age. It takes time and patience. Your stepdad sounds like a good man.

My mum had some real **** in her life and they'd come and go. I know men get a rough deal and we can often tar them all with the same brush (guilty as charged :-/). So it really is refreshing to read something so positive and remind us that not all men are ****.

Sending love n hugs to you all x
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maclennanneil
arcangel111
maclennanneil
Why on earth would you post something like this on a deals website?
People attention seek in ever more bizarre ways these days.
Do you read misc ? you don't comment much for a 5 year member so I'm guessing not
People are free to post what they want (within reason) some need help others need to vent..
Indeed.
There is a simple explanation.
I have a life and friends.
There are people who post in this section for attention . Regulars know who they are and deal with them accordingly . There are also people who want to share something with like minded individuals and who maybe don't have the confidence to shout this out loud . There is nothing in op's profile that would suggest they are attention seeker , maybe they just need encouragement to be able to express their true feelings . With a little encouragement maybe two people can come to realise their love for each other . You say you have a life and you have friends , that's great . Maybe your life is brilliant but maybe that isn't the case for everyone .Does that give you the right to belittle someone who has made an effort to try and right the wrongs of the past umpteen years ? Give the guy a break ,
2 Likes #32
That is very heartwarming. It's a great post to read for anyone contemplating introducing a new partner to their child or children and offers hope that things can work out well.

I hope you let your step dad and your mum know how you feel about them.
#33
ianmcshane7777
haritori
Nice but maybe you should tell your step dad? I'm sure he would appreciate it.
always one isnt there lol who gives a beep beep if hes put a - where it shouldnt be

I didnt even notice, not sure if you seen any of my posts, I'm not the best at grammar and spelling so I certainly wont be giving unwelcome advice on that. I was just saying he should tell his DAD.
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maclennanneil
arcangel111
maclennanneil
Why on earth would you post something like this on a deals website?
People attention seek in ever more bizarre ways these days.
Do you read misc ? you don't comment much for a 5 year member so I'm guessing not
People are free to post what they want (within reason) some need help others need to vent..
Indeed.
There is a simple explanation.
I have a life and friends.

And yet here you are, trolling a shopping website at 4am oO
2 Likes #35
Lovely post. Sometimes you just need to say things out loud in the weirdest of places and it's acknowledgment enough, but still tell him. ;)

Also it highlights being a dad isn't simply about biology, it's about what you do, what you sacrifice and what kind of man ( or woman!) you raise and by that measure he seems to have done a good job too.
12 Likes #36
I so hope when you get up this morning you send a version of this to your step dad and don't just do the sober bloke thing of blaming the drink for your feelings . Let me try and put this in a little context as to why, I have two children and by luck or good judgement, we have always got on really well. My son is 17 and my daughter 20. A few weeks ago after watching a parenting programme with my daughter we were discussing some of the more unusual ways of raising children. I said to my daughter that even if they seemed a little odd, a good parent always tries to do what they think is best for their kids. I jokingly went on to say however that obviously my way was the best. In turn my daughter reduced me to tears by saying that she thought I was a brilliant mum and she could think of so many occasions when I had guided her in the right direction. She went on a bit and I'm honestly not trying to blow my own trumpet here, just saying that as a parent you never expect thanks from your children for all that you do for them, but when it does happen spontaneously it is so much appreciated.So much more if it comes from the heart rather than a one liner in a birthday/Father's Day card etc.
So be amazing today and send him the message, I guarantee it will make his day :)


Edited By: tinkerbellian on Nov 13, 2016 12:06: X
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You're welcome
#38
does he use hukd
1 Like #39
maclennanneil
Why on earth would you post something like this on a deals website?
People attention seek in ever more bizarre ways these days.

Jesus, this is the MISC.. No shopping related garbage allowed.
To be honest, it has given me a warm fuzzy feeling. Although it could be the codine kicking in that I have recently taken.

Thanks for sharing OP.
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4 Likes #40
This is great i should copy and paste some of this to my stepdad whos done a great job of stepping up for me and my brother even when my mum passed away he still stayed to look after us as best he possibly could. I am now married with 3 kids and one of those kids is my stepchild i hope one day he can come back and say something like this to me its an honour having a stepdad and its an even bigger honour now been a stepdad.

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