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I have a westie, 15 years old. for the past 7/8 years hes suffered with skin problems. . . typical westie problem. he has outbreaks of skin / yeast infections. usually controlled with steroids and … Read More
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7m, 1w agoPosted 7 months, 1 week ago
I have a westie, 15 years old. for the past 7/8 years hes suffered with skin problems. . . typical westie problem.

he has outbreaks of skin / yeast infections. usually controlled with steroids and antibiotics. this time its much different.

he has a severe skin infection. 3 weeks ago diagnosed as deep pyoderma. hes been unresponsive to antibiotics and has been too and from the vets several times in the past few weeks.

Having come home from work today, hes not well. the scabs on his skin are cracking and bleeding. its a terrible sight. he has sores on hos back and underside. his paws are also sore. having been to the vets this evening I feel its time to let him go.

His skin this time is different to any other. its 10 times worse than ever before. also in the past 12 months hes probably only had 3 months of good skin.

Vet will not advise to let him go, but does agree. His age and other his other health problems are against him. he has senior caterax, heart murmer, dry eyes and often suffers with congunctivitis.

its a very difficult decision, and he his still eating and drinking. althouhh he has no interest in his toys or going for walks.

Im trying to get comfort in the thought he will no longer be suffering but its the hardest decision Ive ever had to make.

I'll miss him so much, hes my boy :'(
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Edited By: juliet_bravo on Oct 20, 2016 23:53
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Hi all, im very upset. Been in floods of tears all day. Took my boy for his last trip to vet this afternoon. They reassured me I had done the right thing. It was heartbreaking. I held him the whole time and watched the pain wash from his face. Im happy that hes now at rest but very upset Ive lost my dear boy.

Just want to say a massive thank you to all who have commented thanks for your support
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When I lost my dog to cancer 2 weeks after his 3rd birthday, I was devastated. The only thing that gave me any sort of comfort was when a work colleague said that dogs live for the moment. They don't make plans. They don't have ambitions. They just live, there and then. You've given your dog the best life possible for 15 years and its his time. Don't let him suffer.
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here are a few more images . . . showing some happy and interesting times xx

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Edited By: BobIzYaUncle on Oct 21, 2016 21:41
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and this one seems to be so appropriate right now :'(

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banned 3 Likes #1
I understand. x
#2
double post. please delete
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It's a hard decision but think what is better for him, I have a 16 year dog and every day is a blessing and I dread having to make the decision but you have to be strong and do the right thing for your dog.
banned 7 Likes #4
Damn I almost teared up reading that. All the best mate and if you need to be cruel to be kind you will be doing the right thing as hard as it may be.

I wish you well and only a PM away as strange as that sounds, always good to talk.

Take care.
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Think of all the love you've given him over the years... he's been cared for and in return will leave you with many happy memories... it's hard letting go of our pets but you must have shared a lot of tender moments together...
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When I lost my dog to cancer 2 weeks after his 3rd birthday, I was devastated. The only thing that gave me any sort of comfort was when a work colleague said that dogs live for the moment. They don't make plans. They don't have ambitions. They just live, there and then. You've given your dog the best life possible for 15 years and its his time. Don't let him suffer.
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we had westie and had him put to sleep at 19
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Post some pictures. In his prime, more recent, whatever. The HUKD community is fantastic in these circumstances. Let everyone celebrate his gorgeousness. It helps. <3
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Its a tough decision that you have to make. Yes, you love your dog and he has given you love and affection for many years. But now comes the time when you don't want him to suffer and I think its time to say goodbye. You will have so many wonderful memories of all the times you spent together to last a lifetime. I know its hard letting go but you have to be strong and let him go :(
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Be kind to yourself and don't feel any guilt.
When it's time to let him go you will know somehow.
In the meantime just enjoy the time you have left.
I think dogs are quite stoic so I think he'll be okay.
He's probably worrying more about how you will cope than himself. :)
Be grateful for what you've both shared.
Good luck to you both. Peace.
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So sorry to hear this BobIzYaUncle. Nothing I can say except I feel your pain.
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BobIzYaUncle

Vet will not advise to let him go, but does agree.

Well at least you have a good vet.

I read your post thinking "why does this owner want to get rid of their dog for a skin condition?"

Then I read the rest. Best of wishes at this sad time.

You & only you will know the time to do the right thing.

Edited By: YouDontWantToKnow on Oct 20, 2016 22:58
[admin] 4 Likes #13
Don't really know what to say; heartbreaking.

Someone once told me that life isn't about the length of time you're here, it's about the memories you leave behind. Seems like your little guy has given you a lifetimes worth, no matter what you decide to do.

Massive hugs, I think, from all of us
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Thank you all for the comments. they are helpful. I find comfort knowing Im doing the right thing how ever difficult. not something Ove ever had to do before.

@professorEX thanks for the link. the vidoe isnt working at the mo so I will try onnmy laptop later. seems a very interesting blog. thank you
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Thank you all
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BobIzYaUncle
Thank you all for the comments. they are helpful. I find comfort knowing Im doing the right thing how ever difficult. not something Ove ever had to do before.
@professorEX thanks for the link. the vidoe isnt working at the mo so I will try onnmy laptop later. seems a very interesting blog. thank you
We've had to make this decision in the past for different reasons (health related)

All I can do is say I'm so sorry to hear this and I feel your pain.

Just remember you're making the right decision and doing what is best for your dog.

Edited By: Aaron_QPR on Oct 20, 2016 23:07
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BobIzYaUncle
Thank you all for the comments. they are helpful. I find comfort knowing Im doing the right thing how ever difficult. not something Ove ever had to do before.
@professorEX thanks for the link. the vidoe isnt working at the mo so I will try onnmy laptop later. seems a very interesting blog. thank you
Keep in touch and let us know how you get on and could you post a picture of your lovely lad for us <3
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You know what is best for your dog, very sad and a very difficult decision, dogs are very much family members and losing one is just as painful but I'm sure your dog has had a very good life, 15 years is a good age for any dog. All the best.
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It's a horrible decision to have to make, we always hope they'll pass away quietly and at peace in their sleep but unfortunately not always. It's a difficult truth to accept but once they reach that point in life, there's no pulling through or getting better it's just a question of when. I had to have my cocker spaniel put down back in 2009 and it still upsets me thinking about it but I've never regretted doing it, I didn't want to lose him but there's not really a choice and you have to let them go. If they weren't such special little characters then they wouldn't be so hard to be without them, I always feel the line in Bladerunner sums up dogs perfectly - "The star that burns twice as bright burns half as long and you have burned so very, very bright"

Although they're out of fashion now, I found digital photo frames were a big help to remember the many, many great times I had with Jake and not to dwell on his time at the end so I still see him each day on my desk at work or on my Chromecast screensaver.

https://photos.smugmug.com/Jake/Jake-1996-to-2009/i-QGhGxRP/0/XL/P4136120-XL.jpg
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Johnmcl7
It's a horrible decision to have to make, we always hope they'll pass away quietly and at peace in their sleep but unfortunately not always. It's a difficult truth to accept but once they reach that point in life, there's no pulling through or getting better it's just a question of when. I had to have my cocker spaniel put down back in 2009 and it still upsets me thinking about it but I've never regretted doing it, I didn't want to lose him but there's not really a choice and you have to let them go. If they weren't such special little characters then they wouldn't be so hard to be without them, I always feel the line in Bladerunner sums up dogs perfectly - "The star that burns twice as bright burns half as long and you have burned so very, very bright"
Although they're out of fashion now, I found digital photo frames were a big help to remember the many, many great times I had with Jake and not to dwell on his time at the end so I still see him each day on my desk at work or on my Chromecast screensaver.https://photos.smugmug.com/Jake/Jake-1996-to-2009/i-QGhGxRP/0/XL/P4136120-XL.jpg
Nice picture, thanks for sharing :)
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Edited By: juliet_bravo on Oct 20, 2016 23:53
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Fixed yr image up - he's a handsome little man <3
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Im not sure if its worked, but there should be a link above to photo of my boy last year. One of my fav photos of him
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BobIzYaUncle
Im not sure if its worked, but there should be a link above to photo of my boy last year. One of my fav photos of him

Its done x
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juliet_bravo
Fixed yr image up - he's a handsome little man <3
Thank you so much. Been struggling
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I can only speak from the heart.

I hear you
I feel your pain
Nobody wants to have to make the decision you need to make
I've been there over 10 years ago and I won't forget how playful she was, how she used to fetch balls of bacofoil or clingfilm
And like many others your pet is your family, your best friend forever - they don't argue back but sometimes the tell you the right answer
Our pet was a cat 17 years young (still looked like a kitten) but cancer had got hold of her nose and we were in your position - we'd tried this n that but what we wanted most for the suffering to stop and she couldn't tell us or the vet.

Cherish the memories and know you are about to do the right thing like every other day only this time he's going to another place less painful but still happy and loved.
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BobIzYaUncle
http://image.prntscr.com/image/30ba533104964055ba4e24793d38108b.png


That is a happy dog. Enjoyed the best life he could have ever wished for.
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This is why im never having a pet :(

Cannot cope with the loss!
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My mum (God rest her soul) had a solid little Westie; he had terrible skin, the vet said he was allergic to grass. He's with my sister now, she never lets him on the grass, but instead lets him run crazy on the beach by her house; he's still got sore ears etc but otherwise doing as well as can be expected.

Thoughts go to you, Op; many years ago with another family dog we were in the position you find yourself in now :(
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SkyBlu75
This is why im never having a pet :(
Cannot cope with the loss!

You could say the same about never getting married or having kids BUT the joy they bring far outweighs the loss x
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Re the skin condition

About 3 weeks ago my dog (a Staffie) started to show signs of skin irritation. He dragged his bum around so much he rubbed himself raw. I gave him a does of Spot-On, but that didn't sort it, so then I gave him a worming tablet which seemed to improve things but still didn't sort it out completely. I have since been dabbing him with Dettol in the relevant area every time he shows any signs of irritation and that has really helped, although not cured the problem completely. Then, last week I bumped into another dog owner I know in the park and she told me her dog had developed a skin irritation about 4 weeks ago. She had taken him to the vet who had prescribed steroids (and antibiotics as well, I think) but this had made it worse. She ditched the steroids and had been applying aloe vera gel instead and that had produced good results. I suspect both of our dogs have the same issue, and I believe it is some sort of mite as occasionally I am getting small, itchy raised lumps on my arm or leg (like a stinging nettle rash) when I've been petting mine (never had this happen before). It does sound very coincidental that several dogs should start experiencing the same symptoms at roughly the same time.

So, to get to the point, I would like to suggest you consider stopping the steroids (and possibly the antibiotics too) and try applying some aloe vera gel to see if that relieves the problem at all - if your dog has badly broken skin I really wouldn't recommend the Dettol.

All the best.
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3guesses
Re the skin condition
About 3 weeks ago my dog (a Staffie) started to show signs of skin irritation. He dragged his bum around so much he rubbed himself raw. I gave him a does of Spot-On, but that didn't sort it, so then I gave him a worming tablet which seemed to improve things but still didn't sort it out completely. I have since been dabbing him with Dettol in the relevant area every time he shows any signs of irritation and that has really helped, although not cured the problem completely. Then, last week I bumped into another dog owner I know in the park and she told me her dog had developed a skin irritation about 4 weeks ago. She had taken him to the vet who had prescribed steroids (and antibiotics as well, I think) but this had made it worse. She ditched the steroids and had been applying aloe vera gel instead and that had produced good results. I suspect both of our dogs have the same issue, and I believe it is some sort of mite as occasionally I am getting small, itchy raised lumps on my arm or leg (like a stinging nettle rash) when I've been petting mine (never had this happen before). It does sound very coincidental that several dogs should start experiencing the same symptoms at roughly the same time.
So, to get to the point, I would like to suggest you consider stopping the steroids (and possibly the antibiotics too) and try applying some aloe vera gel to see if that relieves the problem at all - if your dog has badly broken skin I really wouldn't recommend the Dettol.
All the best.

Hi, thanks for the info. Over the years I have tried many differnt potions and lotions. Some even natural / herbal. None of which worked as well as steriods to easy the itch and antibiotics to help the infection.

As I said in my original post, this is 10x worse than ever before. He had a mass cell tumor removed about 5 years ago and my fears are this time it could be skin cancer with all the damage caused over the years.

I feel he has suffered enough this time and I dont want to make it worse or prolong the agony. The look on the vets face today said it all. The shock of how it has progressed despite high dose antibiotics, bathing and cream. Just seems tgeres no stopping this one :'(

Sad times
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BobIzYaUncle
http://image.prntscr.com/image/30ba533104964055ba4e24793d38108b.png
What a beauty and love that the photo is in black & white :)
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Lovely little dog, you can repay his loyalty and affection by letting him go before his suffering is unbearable. It's suxh a tough decision and your heart will be broken but you can take comfort in your wonderful memories and the knowledge that the little fella clearly knew how loved he is and his long life was filled with affection and happiness.

<3
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If you or anyone in your family wants a comforting chat.

https://www.facebook.com/PetBereavementCounsellingbySkype/?fref=ts&__nodl
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We've had 4 dogs over 35 years, and have had to take this heartbreaking decision in the past. It's totally devastating, even though you know is the right thing to do. When you take on a puppy you take on the responsibility of giving him a good life, and at some point, you'll also owe him a 'good death'.

He looks a lovely little fun filled character, it's a very sad time for both of you. You'll probably find everyone who has posted has done so through tear filled eyes.

Edited By: booky on Oct 21, 2016 06:49
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BobIzYaUncle
http://image.prntscr.com/image/30ba533104964055ba4e24793d38108b.png


fine looking dog ...great example of the breed
#38
Take him elsewhere and let him stay there for a while if it's an option as it maybe something in the environment that's doing this and see if any improvement then make your decision.
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You know in your heart that you are doing the right thing. It is the hardest decision that we have to make, but they rely on us to make these choices for them. I'm sure if he could speak your wee dog would tell you that he is tired and sore. He has had 15 good years, but immune systems fail with age and there is little else you can do now. I have left it too late before and wished I could go back and make the call when they still had quality of life. If you leave it too long, this is the point that you will wish you could come back to. It is the most important thing and the final act of love we do for our pets. My heart truly goes out to you. Sending love to you and snuffles to your gorgeous little old man. Sleep well sweet boy. xx
#40
Sorry to hear about your dog. There's no way to sugar coat it - it's a horrible thing to have to deal with, but deal with it you must. It feels like it might not be possible, but you have to put all of your emotion aside for a moment, and do what is best for the dog.

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