TTC _- does anyone else find it really annoying the amount of people that fall pregnant that don't want to be?! When loads of woman would love to be?! - HotUKDeals
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TTC _- does anyone else find it really annoying the amount of people that fall pregnant that don't want to be?! When loads of woman would love to be?!

Shellywelly Avatar
6y, 9m agoPosted 6 years, 9 months ago
I've been trying for a baby with my partner for 6 months now with no luck. I have had a ectopic pregnancy 4 yrs ago - unplanned but much wanted. And I have a son who is 6 again unplanned but much wanted. Now I am planning a pregnancy and it just isn't happening everywhere i look people are pregnant but not me and I am finding it hard.

But what upsets me more than anything is the amount of girls that are getting pregnant and having abortions and the amount that would make truly awful mothers, ie most of the people on Jeremy Kyle!

Plus it infuriates me when I see mothers screaming at children in public, who are truly awful mothers, why do they get to have all these children but not me?! I am very lucky to have my son and he is great, one elderly lady even congratualted me today how well behaved he is. It just upsets me that how come this world works that all those who are bad parents get children yet those who could be a great parent to many can't. I know I am luckier than some as I know people who have not had any at all and again they would be fantastic parents. Some times this world is so unfair!

What do others think?!
Shellywelly Avatar
6y, 9m agoPosted 6 years, 9 months ago
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#1
drink lots of beer and have a night on the town..
works for most of the girls I know
#2
I think relax and don't put so much pressure on yourselves to have one. Just chill, keep trying and it'll eventually happen.

I can't imagine stress is going to help conception.
#3
I know exactly how you feel. i went through the same feelings when I was trying and not succeeding and all these people who seem to pop them out appeared to be flaunting it in my face. Dont stress yourself out about it, relax with a few bottles of wine some night and you never know. All the best x
#4
DragonChris
I think relax and don't put so much pressure on yourselves to have one. Just chill, keep trying and it'll eventually happen.

I can't imagine stress is going to help conception.


Ah I know. Thats how it started but after 6 months it does get stressfull.


It just annoys me as out today and saw one chavvy looking woman screaming at her kid and swearing at her kid and its so unfair :-(

I am lucky in having my son but some friends of mine have none and it annoys me that these drains on society do have children but not people who make great parents!
#5
Shellywelly
Ah I know. Thats how it started but after 6 months it does get stressfull.


It just annoys me as out today and saw one chavvy looking woman screaming at her kid and swearing at her kid and its so unfair :-(

I am lucky in having my son but some friends of mine have none and it annoys me that these drains on society do have children but not people who make great parents!


I totally agree with you. Just keep your chin up x
#6
Shellywelly
Ah I know. Thats how it started but after 6 months it does get stressfull.

It just annoys me as out today and saw one chavvy looking woman screaming at her kid and swearing at her kid and its so unfair :-(

I am lucky in having my son but some friends of mine have none and it annoys me that these drains on society do have children but not people who make great parents!


Life sucks sometimes, but there's a reason for everything. It'll happen when it's meant to happen - apparently it wasn't meant to happen over the last 6 months. Just keep trying and I'm sure it will eventually :)
#7
6 months is nothing, you want to try 8 years of ttc and then you'll be peeved. I gave up after said 8 years and was pregnant within 6 months, just relax.
#8
I dont think 6mths is a long enough time to become stressed! I had to wait 6 years!
And please dont be so judgemental of others when there is a bigger picture to see than the small cameos you have witnessed.
Good luck, be patient and be kind, you will reap your rewards
#9
What upsets me is women who have one healthy child and moan about problems conceiving another when there are woman who can't have children.
#10
choc1969
What upsets me is women who have one healthy child and moan about problems conceiving another when there are woman who can't have children.


I said I am lucky to have my one child. But I have tried previously failed when I had my ectopic and started trying again 6 months ago. My son was with my previous partner I would love one with my now partner it just annoys me when I see people who obviously don't want there children when people out there are desperate for children. As I say I feel very lucky I have my son as my freind has no children and cant have children.
banned#11
I know it must be difficult but I think you are zooming in too much on people who are negative with their children.

There are good and bad parents out there.

Turn over when JK comes on.
banned#12
Also people have abortions for a variety of reasons.

It isn't an easy decision to make for everybody.
banned#13
I know what OP means.

I have no kids, but am intelligent, have a great job and a great body.

When I see some of the people reproducing, it makes me wonder where the species is going exactly.
#14
Just luck of the draw why some find so easy to get pregnant and have and then some have diffuclties.

Not really sure how ectopic pregnancies effect things,like if tube removed or not in your case and ,how it can affect conception but at 6mths for anybody,it's early days,took me some time to fall pregnant at times.

Perhaps you would consider adoption or something? There a few members here who conceived through IVF too.
#15
I understand how you feel as we had our first child so easy but then it took 5 years of trying to have our second and that was 22 years ago. I do remember watching the tv and seeing that everything reminded us and seemed to be about babies. Just hope it all works out for you :thumbsup:
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my opinion is that its pretty pathetic to be insinuating that you deserve kids more than someone else
#17
i would def recommend trying ivillage.co.uk they have forums on their which are very good. When i was trying for my first it took me over a year which at the time felt like forever (although i know many have it worse) but the boards on ivillage really helped me they have ttc board with women all trying the same as you and mods with very indepth knowledge. i found them really friendly & helpful and glad to listen to the bad as well as the good. also have you though about charting (taking your temp each morning to check you are ovulating etc) i found this really helped as the knowledge i learnt charting when ttc my first meant i knew how my cycle worked and i got preg with my second first month trying.
#18
micoo
my opinion is that its pretty pathetic to be insinuating that you deserve kids more than someone else


Maybe she dosen't give a damn about a childs opinion, who needs acceptance from a shopping forum, op, I would look into the forums mentioned above tbh ^^^^ not here.
#19
tinkerbell28
Maybe she dosen't give a damn about a childs opinion, who needs acceptance from a shopping forum, op, I would look into the forums mentioned above tbh ^^^^ not here.


child? lol, acceptance? lol

so you think its ok to say she deserves kids more than someone else :roll:
#20
i know you must be feeling bad, but dot take it out on others it will only stress you out more!!!

i remember when i lost my 2nd baby and my sister in laws friend was crying down the phone to her coz she found out she was having a 3rd boy and she wanted a girl i was like FFS at least you have children!!!!

but dont dwell on what others have because you desire it

good luck TTC, hope it works out for you

and six months i not a long time at all, i think you should do as tink said speak to others in the same situation as yourself, i was lucky(unlucky) as my good friend was TTC the same time as me and we both had MC so we had each other to talk to
#21
Youve only been trying for SIX cycles and youre having a fit already? Chill out woman!

Almost half of couples trying for the woman to get pregnant, don't do so in six months, I truly dont understand why youre freaking out, sounds actually tantrummy and a bit unstable to me.
#22
TTC is stressful it took us 2.5 years of trying for a baby before the docs did any investigative work. We needed treatment to have our son and that was nearly 6 years ago. We had been trying ever since although we were told any more children would be unlikly. It took us along time to come to terms with that and I finally accepted it this summer. I was pregnant again in the autum. 6 months is a short time Its fairly normal for it to take up to year or more even if everything is in working order. :)
banned#23
some **** people cant have kids to, treasure what you have, not what others do
banned#24
If it takes you more than 6 goes to pass the driving test, god doesn't want you behind the wheel:whistling:

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