It's my uncle's 60th birthday on Saturday and he's having a family meal in a hotel in Liverpool.
He posted me an invite a couple of months back but for some reason didn't ask my girlfriend who I've lived with for almost two years now to come.
My uncle and his wife live in London so I don't see him very often. He's never met my girlfriend and knows practically nothing about her except for the fact that we live together. Infact with the exception of my mum and dad my other auntie is the only other member of my family to fleetingly meet her (we're just one of them kind of families who don't see each other much!) and they've always got on so he has no obvious reason to dislike her.
My mum and dad won't be attending the meal though as they fell out with my uncle after my granddad's death but I still seem him btw.
I thought it somewhat strange that he hasn't asked her and apparently his decision appears to be based on some kind of family generation hierarchy or something. There's probably a bit of money saving involved too but it's only a one off event and he certainly isn't skint either.
There was another family meal last year which he organised and my other uncle, who is in his 50's, was there with his new partner whilst myself (I'm 28yrs) and two of my younger cousins, who I presume both have partners, were all invited to come just by themselves. This year my older cousin (34yrs) who lives in Cheltenham will be there with his new partner as she got invited.
I then got a text from my uncle's wife on Thursday evening finally asking if my gf would like to come but this was only because my younger cousin Andrew had dropped out and they were looking for someone to fill the void.
I told my gf about it on Friday and she went mad. She wants to go but not as a second choice substitute so has turned the invitation down on principle. She's a very touchy person but to be honest I can't really blame her on this one and now she's demanding that I tell them where to stick their meal and go out with her on Saturday instead!
I'm totally undecided about what to do and most of all don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or let anybody down. The whole thing has driven a massive wedge between the two of us and we have been arguing about it non stop every night since the weekend. The atmosphere at home has become totally unbearable and is stressing the hell out of me!
OK I probably should have done something about it a little sooner but I didn't know how much it was going to upset her.
Would be interested in hearing your thoughts on what I should do.