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banned6y, 11m agoPosted 6 years, 11 months ago
i know this is way off topic for these forums but im hoping for some help.... if someone changes your passwords on yahoo hotmail and facebook and changes you status messages on facebook... is that illegal or can they get in trouble with facebook ect...
thanks x
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banned6y, 11m agoPosted 6 years, 11 months ago
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#1
if they knew your password in the first place i dont think so but if they hacked in then yes i think that illegal not 100% though
#2
Proving it and having something happen to the person responsible though is another matter.
#3
How did they do it?
banned#4
thesaint
How did they do it?


they didnt.... i did :oops:
having a great family christmas at my parents with my hubby and kids on the 27th in the morning me and my hubby laying in bed and he tells me he loves me more than anything... we was mucking around and stuff and i mentioned i wanted a new phone and he said i could have shi for a fiver so i took it..... long story short is by 4pm i had found out he had been having an affair and he said he hadnt loved me in a long time.... i popped out and when i came back he was running away no word to the kids or anything... on the 29th he moved in with his girlfriend.... its not the leaving me its what he did next that really got to me... he has told everyong that its all my daughters fault as she is spoilt and stroppy... she is heartbroken.. his sister had a go at her and everything and i just got mad and he loves his facebook..thats where he met her so i logged in and changed them.... now im a bit worried
#5
wifey
they didnt.... i did :oops:
having a great family christmas at my parents with my hubby and kids on the 27th in the morning me and my hubby laying in bed and he tells me he loves me more than anything... we was mucking around and stuff and i mentioned i wanted a new phone and he said i could have shi for a fiver so i took it..... long story short is by 4pm i had found out he had been having an affair and he said he hadnt loved me in a long time.... i popped out and when i came back he was running away no word to the kids or anything... on the 29th he moved in with his girlfriend.... its not the leaving me its what he did next that really got to me... he has told everyong that its all my daughters fault as she is spoilt and stroppy... she is heartbroken.. his sister had a go at her and everything and i just got mad and he loves his facebook..thats where he met her so i logged in and changed them.... now im a bit worried



OMG thats horrendous. You must be absolutely fuming raging mad and sooooooo upset. I cant blame u for anything you have done, as you are obviously so hurt and angry. Dont know what else to say
#6
wifey
they didnt.... i did :oops:
having a great family christmas at my parents with my hubby and kids on the 27th in the morning me and my hubby laying in bed and he tells me he loves me more than anything... we was mucking around and stuff and i mentioned i wanted a new phone and he said i could have shi for a fiver so i took it..... long story short is by 4pm i had found out he had been having an affair and he said he hadnt loved me in a long time.... i popped out and when i came back he was running away no word to the kids or anything... on the 29th he moved in with his girlfriend.... its not the leaving me its what he did next that really got to me... he has told everyong that its all my daughters fault as she is spoilt and stroppy... she is heartbroken.. his sister had a go at her and everything and i just got mad and he loves his facebook..thats where he met her so i logged in and changed them.... now im a bit worried



angry FB rape, i love it

sorry to hear that though
#7
wifey
they didnt.... i did :oops:
having a great family christmas at my parents with my hubby and kids on the 27th in the morning me and my hubby laying in bed and he tells me he loves me more than anything... we was mucking around and stuff and i mentioned i wanted a new phone and he said i could have shi for a fiver so i took it..... long story short is by 4pm i had found out he had been having an affair and he said he hadnt loved me in a long time.... i popped out and when i came back he was running away no word to the kids or anything... on the 29th he moved in with his girlfriend.... its not the leaving me its what he did next that really got to me... he has told everyong that its all my daughters fault as she is spoilt and stroppy... she is heartbroken.. his sister had a go at her and everything and i just got mad and he loves his facebook..thats where he met her so i logged in and changed them.... now im a bit worried


oh that horrible feel for you try not to worry im sure he wont take it any further after what he has done
banned#8
to say im heartbroken is an understatement.. ive never cried so much in my life it felt like i was being ripped in 2 .. he was my life ... i never see it coming.... if he had of just said things aint so great i could of understood and he could of left.. but to have been cheating so long and coming home to me makes me sick... but now 3 days later im still so sad and the pains unreal but more anger now that he is being a coward and dont want people thinking bad of him for cheating.. so he has invented this horrible life... but we had a good life and he knows it... my daughter feels to blame but i keep telling her its not her fault
#9
wifey
they didnt.... i did :oops:
having a great family christmas at my parents with my hubby and kids on the 27th in the morning me and my hubby laying in bed and he tells me he loves me more than anything... we was mucking around and stuff and i mentioned i wanted a new phone and he said i could have shi for a fiver so i took it..... long story short is by 4pm i had found out he had been having an affair and he said he hadnt loved me in a long time.... i popped out and when i came back he was running away no word to the kids or anything... on the 29th he moved in with his girlfriend.... its not the leaving me its what he did next that really got to me... he has told everyong that its all my daughters fault as she is spoilt and stroppy... she is heartbroken.. his sister had a go at her and everything and i just got mad and he loves his facebook..thats where he met her so i logged in and changed them.... now im a bit worried


I'm so sorry to hear all of this...I wouldn't worry about it at all though...I did the same to my ex and more!
Revenge is sweet...try not to worry.
#10
You and your kids are worth way more than that.

Spineless rat blaming it on the kids. :x

Good Luck
#11
wifey
to say im heartbroken is an understatement.. ive never cried so much in my life it felt like i was being ripped in 2 .. he was my life ... i never see it coming.... if he had of just said things aint so great i could of understood and he could of left.. but to have been cheating so long and coming home to me makes me sick... but now 3 days later im still so sad and the pains unreal but more anger now that he is being a coward and dont want people thinking bad of him for cheating.. so he has invented this horrible life... but we had a good life and he knows it... my daughter feels to blame but i keep telling her its not her fault


if thats the type of guy he is your better off without him :)
#12
wifey
to say im heartbroken is an understatement.. ive never cried so much in my life it felt like i was being ripped in 2 .. he was my life ... i never see it coming.... if he had of just said things aint so great i could of understood and he could of left.. but to have been cheating so long and coming home to me makes me sick... but now 3 days later im still so sad and the pains unreal but more anger now that he is being a coward and dont want people thinking bad of him for cheating.. so he has invented this horrible life... but we had a good life and he knows it... my daughter feels to blame but i keep telling her its not her fault


No consolation to you just now, but you will get through this. You need to call in your friends, if you have lost touch with them dont be embarrassed about calling them up. You need support. Dont lose you dignity by doing anything mental. No guy is worth that. If you have a friend who stays a good distance away I would scoop up your kids and head off their for a few days.
#13
micoo
if thats the type of guy he is your better off without him :)


+1
no one decent would blame it on your daughter such a cowardly thing to do
#14
louloublue
+1
no one decent would blame it on your daughter such a cowardly thing to do


exactly, i could never do anything like that to my gf, pulled another girl once when really drunk and felt sooo bad i had to admit i did it to her, i cant understand how people can do that type of thing to someone, i just couldnt
banned#15
thanks all for your messages it really does help.... i moved from my home in kent to hampshire to be nearer his kids from previous relationship and his family... who now all hate me well his kids dont they love me and are real mad at him but still wanna see me.. now i just feel lost ive never really settled here and made friends like i had back home but i do have a great family who have been great.... i cant move the kids again its unfair as they have settled well here and have lots of friends and i cant make them suffer any more than they already have....not to mention leaving me without a penny... real nice guy eh
#16
awh this sounds so lik what happened to my friends mums on the 27th too...its horrible.

As bossyboots says just call your friends they will be there for you xxxxx
#17
wifey
thanks all for your messages it really does help.... i moved from my home in kent to hampshire to be nearer his kids from previous relationship and his family... who now all hate me well his kids dont they love me and are real mad at him but still wanna see me.. now i just feel lost ive never really settled here and made friends like i had back home but i do have a great family who have been great.... i cant move the kids again its unfair as they have settled well here and have lots of friends and i cant make them suffer any more than they already have....not to mention leaving me without a penny... real nice guy eh


kids adjust pretty quickly - I would move back home as if your miserable - it doesnt matter how much u try hide it, it will come through - and that will rub off on your kids...............plus there is going to be all the inevitable rows and screaming matches still to come. I would move, dont live with the notion that he might "see the light" and come back - u might think u want him back, but a ***** like that will keep on ********.
#18
bossyboots
kids adjust pretty quickly - I would move back home as if your miserable - it doesnt matter how much u try hide it, it will come through - and that will rub off on your kids...............plus there is going to be all the inevitable rows and screaming matches still to come. I would move, dont live with the notion that he might "see the light" and come back - u might think u want him back, but a ***** like that will keep on ********.


i agree, theres no point being somewhere where your miserable, your kids will pick up on it and that will make them unhappy, you have to do what will make you happy :)
#19
micoo
i agree, theres no point being somewhere where your miserable, your kids will pick up on it and that will make them unhappy, you have to do what will make you happy :)


+1 the happier you are the happier the kids will be
banned#20
you have a point... maybe i will move back but one thing for sure is i would never take him back no way... and i wont give him what he wants by arguing with him and he will hate that... he feels guilty about what he did and said so and now he trying to pick a fight so we have a huge fall out and he wont have to feel bad... so i text him and wished them luck and hope ya happy lol
#21
wifey
you have a point... maybe i will move back but one thing for sure is i would never take him back no way... and i wont give him what he wants by arguing with him and he will hate that... he feels guilty about what he did and said so and now he trying to pick a fight so we have a huge fall out and he wont have to feel bad... so i text him and wished them luck and hope ya happy lol


try not contact him unless to do with seeing your children - as I reckon the other woman and him will just be analysin your texts as obviously you dont wish them luck or hope they will be happy - no way!!!! dont text, dont call - just now keep contact to a bare minimum and only to do with access etc.
banned#22
well i did say i wasnt texting again that all contact will be via solicitor and he dont want to see the kids anyways.. he not their real dad but has been for 7 years so thats harsh... the house is council rented in my name and he signed out joint account over to me yesterday.. empty but i got it... so divorce should be easier but the kids dont get it my little boy wants to know when he can see him but how do i tell him he dont want to
#23
wifey
well i did say i wasnt texting again that all contact will be via solicitor and he dont want to see the kids anyways.. he not their real dad but has been for 7 years so thats harsh... the house is council rented in my name and he signed out joint account over to me yesterday.. empty but i got it... so divorce should be easier but the kids dont get it my little boy wants to know when he can see him but how do i tell him he dont want to


you dont tell your wee boy his dad doesnt want to see him. This is when you need to be strong - u need to make up stuff as you cant mess up your boys head with this as it will come out on him when he is older. I am talking from experience here - thankfully not my own, but my sister had a very similar experience.

If you are brave enough to make a fresh start - go for it. It will be so much better for you all in the long run - hard just now yes, but better off
#24
Poor you, good advice being given. Good luck in your new life, and good riddence to that looser!
banned#25
bossyboots
you dont tell your wee boy his dad doesnt want to see him. This is when you need to be strong - u need to make up stuff as you cant mess up your boys head with this as it will come out on him when he is older. I am talking from experience here - thankfully not my own, but my sister had a very similar experience.

If you are brave enough to make a fresh start - go for it. It will be so much better for you all in the long run - hard just now yes, but better off


oh no i would never tell him he dont want to i will just say like he busy and stuff... maybe he will change his mind and want to see them i dunno.. but thanks for your replies it has really help to talk
#26
Oh and change your user name to Strong Independant Woman, or Supermum, Or ExWifey(and smiling)!
xxx
#27
sorry to hear your news just wanted to wish you luck for the future and keep strong
my brothers partner split up with him on christmas day! just said she had changed her mind about them! just been helping him move all his stuff out
#28
Any news from this OP.

hope your doing okay if your about.
#29
What a *******, don't let the kids near him! Makes me so mad just reading about this! Good luck to you, it's a new year, get a fresh start and forget him!
banned#30
bossyboots
Any news from this OP.

hope your doing okay if your about.


hi again... and once again thankyou for all the kind replies ...... update time
i am feeling a lot better than i was and most the the time im ok but i keep having panic attacks... my head knows all the answers but my heart still hurts....i would like just for 5 minutes for him to feel the pain im in. i was texting him trying to sort contact but he dont want any i could not even get him to email my little boy who now thinks its all his fault. he said he just wants to get on with his life.... i said a week ago we was your life...i have decided to stay put at least for now and instead try and build up a life for us... im going to see about a part time course that sort of thing... now you have all been good with advice so here is a question.... the gifts he recieved christmas day.. but left at my mums when he ran away... he now wants.. anyone else think thats cheeky? he wants to have the things my daughter bought him but he wont talk to her...
#31
blaming the children is out of order,
it is not there fault
if he wants to be selfish and have no respect for a children then fine
he should have any if hes got no respect
as for seeing them if he cant make contact or be bothered to see them ten his should be ashamed of hinself,
that those little darlings will love him not only will they blame them selfs for him leaving they might not understand either, they wil be confused as well.

worse thing to tell a child as its there fault, NEVER EVER BLAME A CHILD,
if he cant act like an adult and look for a proper excuse to leave a relationship then he is a mouse not a man and an cowered not a respectable human being


as of the gifts

tough he left them there while cowardly running away so no i don't think he deserves them
if he got no respect for the kids then no she does not deserve to get them
and if he doesnt want contact thats his choice but make sure you get an agreement saying he doesn't want it or if he does its all written down as you don't want him changing his mind and making things difficult later on


he sounds like a peace of sht, and my motto was i dnt make sht, i flush it
banned#32
he just wants it all over.. me to divorce him so he dont have to pay.. and in his words to get on with his life.... he will just sign it he said he dont care on what grounds and he will sign it saying no contact.... the new girlfriend has 3 kids so i guess after 7 years he decides he dont need these ones now..

i dont want to give him the gifts but im worried i might get in trouble as they are his..... bet thats the only reason he stayed... cos he wanted them hmm
banned#33
any1 else got advice on the gifts?
#34
wifey
any1 else got advice on the gifts?


you would think getting his christmas presents would be last thing on his list of things to collect after his marriage ending.

I would just give them to him, as you can imagine what sort of stuff he is gonna be saying about you anyway and keeping them will just give him more ammunition to bad mouth you.

messy situation
#35
wifey
he just wants it all over.. me to divorce him so he dont have to pay.. and in his words to get on with his life.... he will just sign it he said he dont care on what grounds and he will sign it saying no contact.... the new girlfriend has 3 kids so i guess after 7 years he decides he dont need these ones now..

i dont want to give him the gifts but im worried i might get in trouble as they are his..... bet thats the only reason he stayed... cos he wanted them hmm


Seems he has a habit of walking out on children, just give him the presents and hold your head up high. The grass made be greener on the other side of the fence but take heart that he will always be looking over the fence at the next lot of grass so you are well out of it. Focus your time and attention on your children, sit down and ask them if there are any new hobbies they would like to try and join in with them, it will take the focus off whats going on :) Just think, you have a whole new exciting future to look forward to :thumbsup:
#36
About these gifts, has he opened them or are they still wrapped up? If he hasn't opened them, I'd say it was up to the sender to choose whether they still want to give them to him. If they've been given, opened and received already, I'd be inclined to pack them up and leave them outside (after telling him that's where they'll be). You won't want them, if they've not gone by tea time take them to the charity shop, make someone else's Christmas a bit nicer.

Sorry, btw. Sounds awful. We're having a bad time atm, but I KNOW we will get through it. But I've been there before with previous partners, and sometimes a clean break is easier. I'd be moving back to my family, kids will adapt - they've no family round there now have they? Call your friends, let it all out.

Chin up.
#37
return all the gifts to the shops and buy yourself and your children something nice you all deserve it x
#38
Don't give him the presents, I can't believe he's worrying about them, and not his kids or you... Return them and buy yourself something, or take a short break away with the kids with the money.
banned#39
thanks for all the replies..... im feeling so bad today.. last contact with him was just i dont want to see the kids and you cant make me and im not giving you a penny....
i feel like such a fool i didnt think he had a mean bone in his body ... how can he change so much.. or maybe the last 7 years was all an act.... i didnt see it coming we was happy even on the morning he left he was telling me he loved me . i think he only left cos he got caught otherwise he would of just carried on cheating.. arrrghhhhhh i dont want to love him any more....

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