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Hello everyone. Over Christmas I got engaged!!! We are both very happy! Starting to think about the wedding now. When and where that sort of thing, still all in the early stages. Just … Read More
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6y, 6m agoPosted 6 years, 6 months ago
Hello everyone.

Over Christmas I got engaged!!! We are both very happy!

Starting to think about the wedding now. When and where that sort of thing, still all in the early stages.

Just wondering what the average wedding is going to cost?

I know that will vary greatly. I remember seeing the £1000 wedding on here ages ago, but that's not really for us I don't think.

So far we have a budget of around £5000.

Just wondering if anyone who has "been there done that" can offer any advice

Thanks for any contribution.
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6y, 6m agoPosted 6 years, 6 months ago
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#1
Congrats!

Do not go overboard on dresses etc, put that money into the meal. Good time to dress hunt in the sales as well. Other than that, enjoy the planning, it should not be a trying time but a pleasure.
suspended#2
my MIL got married in august and she spent 7 grand. Deffo have a look on bhs atm For bridesmaid dresses etc. That budget was with a £1300 dress :)
#3
check out http://www.confetti.co.uk/ it has everything you need to know about weddings and costs
#4
go abroad and get married, you have your honeymoon as well then.
#5
Although I will add my wedding cost £16k over 10 years ago!! And it wasn't a grand affair, so not sure what wedding you will get for £5k
#6
Thanks for the input so far guys....£1300 on a dress!! Wow!!! I might hide that comment from her!!! Lol

Do people think £5000 is enough, or is it better to get a bit more together?
#7
Check out ch 266 on sky tv too. It's a good start for resources
#8
congratulations! i agree with scoff tbh.
Main point is dont spend what you cant afford.
Many people get married on a budget (my son just has in USA) and it was a perfect day. Beautiful hired garden with gazebos and lovely food completed the day. The most important thing is everyone you love is there and you have the memories you want. What your dress cost wont matter as chances are it will be out of fashion on the pics pretty soon! Spend on things that last. Be sure you will be comfortably off after the wedding. Its all personal choice but i would rather a cheaper wedding and a blissful honeymoon!
#9
That website looks good! Thanks for that. I will point the soon to be Mrs in the direction of the sky channel too. Thanks again
#10
Try chineese dress makers via ebay for the dress, simply just get it altered over here.

For photographers and cake, try local colleges/uni for trainee's and students, you'll sometimes find that these can produce better results than people who've been doing it years as they put their heart and soul into it as they'll be wanting to build up a reputation, but do it for a fraction of the cost.
#11
Mine cost about £20k. But would guess that is a pretty expensive wedding for a non-celebrity/millionaire. Couldn't care less as it was exactly what me and the missus wanted.
We broke up 3 weeks later.*
Anyway, for us, rough costs were:-
£3,000 venue
£1,500 Her dress
£500 Hired Suits for me and ushers
£2,300 Food
£200 Entertaiment
£1,000 Photography and video
£200 Cake
£1000 Hotel rooms and Honeymoon suite
£300 Wedding day makeover
£500 Church fees
£250 Flowers
£300 Wedding gifts
£2000 Booze
£500 Cars
£1500 Wedding rings

I know it doesn't add up to £20k but I'm sure there are other costs I've forgotten about. Not sure where you live, but we found a great venue called Smeetham Barn Hall. Beautiful old barn and the owners allowed us to bring in our own caterer and booze without paying corkage. Result. The caterer was a new-start who had been classically trained by Prue Leith. Stunning food and she only charged us £23 per headm which is absolutely dirt cheap.

*Actually a lie.
#12
Congratulations:) I got married over 20 years ago, so wedding budgets will be different. But my input/advice would be to remember that it is YOUR day, don't let other people put pressure on you to do things a certain way (guests, venues, colours etc) Some people may have their noses put out of joint if your decisions aren't the same as theirs - too bad - just remember 'you can't please all of the people all of the time - so please yourself!' However you plan your day, i hope it turns into everything you hoped for x
#13
I got married 5 years ago and we did it for £5000, nice dress, registra, meal and a reception. we did it on a friday which made a huge difference.
#14
My best friend got married abroad. she says she wished she never did now.
Im sure if you get the dress/suit flowers all within a sale Im sure you can have a nice do for about £5-£7k xx

Congratulations x
#15
Congratulations thearbiter65.

Cost depends on what you want to do at your wedding, where you get married, and when you get married.

I had a registry office wedding @ 4.30pm, then had the reception (at a hotel) as the evening do, which went straight into the disco. (only 1 lot of food to fork out for then!)
I managed to get my wedding dress & bridesmaid dress off ebay (brand new).

Its sometimes cheaper to get an all in 1 package, some places will do deals on hotel rooms for guests e.g. so many says over get a discount on all bedrooms.

See if any friends can help out, i.e. good photographer, make the wedding cake, do the flowers. Have theses are their gifts to you, this makes it a bit more special as well.

I did my wedding on £2,000.
Like i say, it all depends on what you want. :)
#16
We got married in wales just outside Cardiff in a small castle HERE That cost around £350. We could only have 26 guests in the actual room we got married and that suited us perfectly.

We then took everyone for an Indian all you can eat buffet and had a party at home. Pretty much EVERYONE said what a great time they had, we didn't stress about "omg the day better be perfect" and for us it was perfect!

Total cost for everything was around £1500 quid and we had an AWESOME honeymoon with the money we didn't waste :)

Some advice I would give, plan what YOU both want, not what your families want! If your wanting it big with lots of expense then do that, however if you plan on buying a house anytime soon then don't be going for the 20k wedding :P
suspended#17
I got married in 2009 & we invited no one. Apart from hubbys mother as she is a battle axe and would not have spoken to him again. Told everyone the next day. Was very cheap day but I didnt want any fuss. (_;)
#18
check out local hotels for wedding package deals - you can get a great deal that way - also definitely look at weekday dates rather than the weekend as it's a lot cheaper.
#19
We paid about 5K 4 years ago (spent more on the honeymoon!)
We had a mid afternoon wedding which rolled into the meal and night time all at the same hotel. (Much better for everyone involved imo)
Wife made her own dress and invites. (Shes a bit of a dressmaker and very crafty in her spare time)
No cars as the wife was staying at the hotel the night before with her family and i just travelled with my best man in his car.
Photographer was about 1K, we met him at a wedding fair they held at the hotel. He'd only been pro about 6 months so was still trying to build a portfolio (his prices start a 3K now) He also set up a video camera in a side room and did a "diary room" where people could come in and leave messages. Very funny watching people return through the night getting more and more smashed!
I think the most important thing to remember is do what YOU want to do. Pay for it yourselves so now one can dictate to you what to do or invite.
#20
I deal in Wedding quite alot(sort of a wedding planner)- If you need further info then pm me.
I got married in August just gone and i paid £18k and i had everything from a sweetie table to horse and carriage.

To be honest though its each to there own. Fortunately our parents contributed, if they had not we would have not had such an expensive wedding.

I think the key is to look around and try to barter with people, afterall they want your business.
Also if you find a dress for 1k for example- shop around and you will find it cheaper if you ring around diff local bridal shops- Or even order a dress from lightinthebox (google it).
Anyway i do have loads of tips should you wish to pm me.
#21
I got married abroad came in around or bit under 5k

Best thing for us was getting back to hotel after and a group of italians started singing and inviting us over serenading us which was priceless

Best decision we ever made

Wedding is each to there own like many things set a budget with a little reserve to go over but do it how YOU want as you may only get to do it once.
#22
My friends got married recently and they spent no more than 4K

The dress, sale rail, absolutely **** gorgeous - originally £1500, reduced to £400 and they threw the alterations in for free. Grooms & best man suits hired from Debenhams, I was the only "bridesmaid" and wore a dress that I bought off here actually £12 then bought a sash from ebay to tie in with the colour scheme.

They got married in a registry office, think it was about £150, car cost around the same

The reception - 3 course sit down meal for around 40 people, hot buffet for 100 in the evening cost £2000

Favours - silver boxes from ebay tied with ribbon from ebay filled with mini love hearts & chocolates.

DJ - £120

Flowers & balloons - one large arrangement for the head table and 2 bouquets, 6 or 8 button holes - 4 lots of helium balloons for tables and then a few more for head table.. less than £200

I think £5000 is easily do able - i'm such a fussy person and thought my best friends wedding was just gorgeous. Shop around and do lots of bartering!!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck :)
#23
I have 2 girls and would hate for them to be expecting £15k-£20k weddings! lol We would no way be able to help out that much with each wedding.
I do think your budget is great, im sure you can do it :) Enjoy planning or at least your future wife will enjoy planning :)
#24
As others say it is achievable.
But you will have some dead ends with some people.

Just shop about, you can pick up photographers for free.

Its all about bartering.

Good luck and Congrats
#25
thearbiter65 - i can send you over a budget planner as well which which really help you
banned#26
Stopha
Mine cost about £20k. But would guess that is a pretty expensive wedding for a non-celebrity/millionaire. Couldn't care less as it was exactly what me and the missus wanted.
We broke up 3 weeks later.*
Anyway, for us, rough costs were:-
£3,000 venue
£1,500 Her dress
£500 Hired Suits for me and ushers
£2,300 Food
£200 Entertaiment
£1,000 Photography and video
£200 Cake
£1000 Hotel rooms and Honeymoon suite
£300 Wedding day makeover
£500 Church fees
£250 Flowers
£300 Wedding gifts
£2000 Booze
£500 Cars
£1500 Wedding rings

I know it doesn't add up to £20k but I'm sure there are other costs I've forgotten about. Not sure where you live, but we found a great venue called Smeetham Barn Hall. Beautiful old barn and the owners allowed us to bring in our own caterer and booze without paying corkage. Result. The caterer was a new-start who had been classically trained by Prue Leith. Stunning food and she only charged us £23 per headm which is absolutely dirt cheap.

*Actually a lie.


And divorce is still 50/50.

X)
#27
We got married in March and didn't spend a fortune, kept the day time to the min and had only immediate family and close friends (becuase my family extends and extends and extends). Had a fab time with a massive knees up for our evening bash where everyone was invited, was at local club so was cheap and cheerful for us and our guests. I had a dress custme made and it was less than £800 and was exactly what I wanted. Decide what you and your other half REALLY want and then don't let anyone else lead you astray. Ask people to help with cost for discos etc as wedding gifts and ALWAYS ask for discount, shy bairns get nowt!!!!!!!!! Most importantly, enjoy your day when it arrives!!!!! x
#28
Oh yea.. ALWAYS ask for discount! You dont ask, you dont yet!

have you a date? Idea of numbers? Depending on location, I can recommend a brilliant Photographer!

Edited By: Disco on Jan 03, 2011 11:42
#29
We got married in Thailand, as the wife was from Kent and I was from the midlands.
We had 3 weeks in 5 star hotels, all the arranging was done for us, total cost was just under 5k.
We then had a reception when we got back for the family members.
Think we went through Kuoni...
#30
thearbiter65
Thanks for the input so far guys....£1300 on a dress!! Wow!!! I might hide that comment from her!!! Lol

Do people think £5000 is enough, or is it better to get a bit more together?


Im currently in the process of planning my wedding. We set an initial budget of 5k but now we have upped it to 8k.

It all depends what you want, what you dont need and probably more importantly how many people you have coming! whats driving our costs up is the amount of family, she has quite a large family so initialy we were aiming for around 60 people but now its at 100 for the wedding and reception which put the cost up by £2k alone

So far costs:

Venue £750 for the day and evening
Dress £830 (she found "the one" a few days ago, too much in my opinion for a dres but her parents are paying for that one)
Not getting married in a church so the registrar is ~£300

Consider a MIDWEEK wedding. our venue costs dropped from £2750 on a saturday to £750 on a wednesday.. other costs drop too, our photographer drops by 2-300 aswell!


Edited By: Jetpac on Jan 03, 2011 12:14
#31
pontprennau
We got married in wales just outside Cardiff in a small castle HERE That cost around £350. We could only have 26 guests in the actual room we got married and that suited us perfectly.

We then took everyone for an Indian all you can eat buffet and had a party at home. Pretty much EVERYONE said what a great time they had, we didn't stress about "omg the day better be perfect" and for us it was perfect!

Total cost for everything was around £1500 quid and we had an AWESOME honeymoon with the money we didn't waste :)

Some advice I would give, plan what YOU both want, not what your families want! If your wanting it big with lots of expense then do that, however if you plan on buying a house anytime soon then don't be going for the 20k wedding :P


sounds great and sound advice as well
#32
WOW!!!

Just reading through all the helpful replies!!!

Thanks a lot for all the input guys. It is definitely helping!

I'm going to have a good read through when I am not checking the forum on my phone.

I managed to do engagement on a budget thanks to travelodge. We stayed in London on 21st Dec and the 22nd (tower bridge). On the 21st there was a carol service going on in trafalgar square. I asked the questio during that under the HUGE tree from Norway. She loved the ring too!!

Once again thanks for all the nice and helpful messages! Happy new year to all of you (can I still say happy new year on 3rd Jan?)
banned#33
One of my neighbour's deals in wedding dresses.

If you see one you like I will ask him if it is fairly priced.

This might also help:-

http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/family/cheaper-weddings

Congratulations!
#34
Ah! thearbiter65 - that is soo sweet! you soppy ****!

Where do you acutally live / where are you looking to have wedding?
#35
Congrats first off.

We got married over 8 years ago, and our budget was around 6k - we underspent. You don't have to go mental buying a dress etc - hire one, shop around the local hotels for offers, restrict your attendees at meal etc - it is achievable for that kinda money even today.
#36
Congratulations... If you search for weddings on here you'll see done Groupon offers which pop up which seem like really good value. Also I know last year somewhere was offering a hotel wedding package for £1000 think it was holiday inn but can't find it now. Best way to get exactly what you want is book on a Friday in the winter. Even better have a late wedding so that you only pay for one meal.
I did the whole big wedding last time but if I did it all again i would go abroad
banned#37
12k last christmas, her Dad contributed some which annoyed me as he got to invite his crappy relatives that no one liked.

Also my Mum made the cake and my sister the flowers, the most expensive single item was her dress which is sat behind me covered in mud hanging up in our spare room. What a pointless purchase! I refused to pay for the fancy car so she paid for that :p
banned#38
DLM
One of my neighbour's deals in wedding dresses.

If you see one you like I will ask him if it is fairly priced.

This might also help:-


http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/family/cheaper-weddings


Congratulations!

thanks for the link
#39
Congrats

We got married in august last year, we spend around £5000, the wedding we did at a registry office which didnt cost much at all couple of hundred, we book a hotel for the evening do paid about £3000 for the room, dj, and a proper meal, the rest went on decs, dress, cake, suit hire, luckly my uncle is a photographer so he did the pics, my mums best mate is a hairdresser so she did my hair as a wedding gift, and my uncle is a chef at the hotel so we got a big discount, and some room for the guest for next to nothing.

my firend went to a college for a photographer and haridresser as they were training, the pictures came out really well and she saved a lot doing that.

guess you have to think whats more important, my family wasnt having the best year so it was all about the evening do and getting everyone together
2 Likes #40
Hi Congrats!
We got married May 05 on a budget of £1500, in a registry office we made our own CD (our song) played while my Dad walked me in, beautiful room just close family and friends.
My dress was made by a dressmaker i bought the material total cost was £200 hubby and best man hired suits from bridal shop,my wedding shoes i got on sale in debenhams for £10 along with one bridesmaid dress for £50. The flowers were done from our local market i went and talked to the flower lady and had a small bouquet of roses and 6 button holes for £30 she did a really great job she said she had never been asked before!! My friend did my hair (hairdresser) and i did my own make up!! During the wedding my brother set up a camcorder in the corner and left it running, For photos we asked all of our guests to bring their cameras and click away!! We had some really lovely ones not posed some of those are my favorites, then my sister sort of took over and got some really nice formally ones!! The car that took me was my dads he decorated it with ribbon etc and after the wedding we walked back to my parents house (not far) it was really lovely just married hand in hand, we got some lovely comments from passers by and people honking car horns!! We had a massive party back at their house with other guests, we had a BBQ and poshed it up (all prepared in the morning) Lots of decorations and balloons from Flingers in Bristol, and lots of booze from asda!!! All about£300, The cake came from M&S £20. It was a really fantastic day very relaxed and informal but thats what WE wanted. Then with all the money we didn't spend on our wedding we had 2 blissful weeks on a 5 star island in the Maldives,For us that was perfect but Its all really about what you want to do!!
Good Luck with all your plans and your wedding day x

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