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what can i do with my life ????????????

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8y, 3m agoPosted 8 years, 3 months ago
i have just been cleared for another medical board and do not have to work for another 3 years,, after receiving sickness benefits for the last ten years!!! my head is actually quite shot and am seekin psychiactric evaluation to get medication for anxiety

i am 27 years old have just had a baby and luv my partner to bits i was in care myself from 11 years of age and the problem is i do not have any work history i am brilliant with pc's as I have made my own in the past and for friends and family (I AM ACTUALLY SELLING 1 ON HERE NOW WITH E6600, 4GB XMS2 800'S,P5K AND 9600GT)

I ALSO HAVE INTERESTS IN WOODWORK MAKING FURNITURE

but as i said i have no work history (how will employer's see this??? )I don't know i am out of touch
what can i do to get trainin and will I actully get a job at the end of it all ??(with my medical background??) am i going to be able to get stability out of a job??( I mean will it be like some of this temporary 1 to 2 years crap and get laid off

I just really don't know what to do :(

i am not a stupid i am actually quite bright (i was in most of the top classes all the way through to year 10 but due to bullying and getting pushed out of society i sunddenly found myself drifting between time and wind
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8y, 3m agoPosted 8 years, 3 months ago
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#1
Why have a baby if youre unfit for work? Serious question , not having a go
#2
i am unfit for work but partner isn't and she will be workin in a little while had a kid as i plan to work soon which is why i am looking for guidance???

and this thread isn't about the baby it is about me!!
#3
nafanny999
i am unfit for work but partner isn't and she will be workin in a little while had a kid as i plan to work soon which is why i am looking for guidance???

and this thread isn't about the baby it is about me!!


start at the bottom like every one has to
#4
baby also wasn't plan my partner was always on the injection but still got pregnant and doesn't believe in abortions
#5
but where is the bottom exactly??
banned#6
bank manager there s a few going at this moment
#7
nafanny999
i am unfit for work but partner isn't and she will be workin in a little while had a kid as i plan to work soon which is why i am looking for guidance???

and this thread isn't about the baby it is about me!!


Try some voluntary work if your anxiety isnt too bad, build your confidence up around people maybe to start with?
banned#8
can you not get an appointment at the job centre, who will, or should be able to help you into training
#9
nafanny999
but where is the bottom exactly??


bar work, mcdonalds, cleaner, no ones gonna give you an IT managers job with no work history, if youre serious youve got to be prepared to dive in and do some rubbish jobs to get a history imo
#10
I would seek out some advice from the job centre - I had a brilliant advisor when I needed one - He was able to sort out some top info for me and I believe he knows of training courses and things you can do. Also our local college does quite a few courses and a lot of them are free or nominal charges if you are on quite a few different benefits. They have copies of the prospectus in our library - now is the time to apply (if not too late) but you could always get some sorted for courses starting after Christmas.

Without wanting to sound patronising - good on you for wanting to do something - hope you find what you need and get what you want

Voluntary work is good but then so would doing any kind of job to show you have skills to offer - even basic ones like turning up on time every day appropriately dressed, being honest and friendly, cheerful, willingness to learn - all those kinds of things show character and go a long way at interview or reference stage. Courses will give you qualifications and job centre can also help you write a cv. Explaining a gap or lack of employment history also gains you plus points so I've been told as does good grammar and correct punctuation. You are building a picture - every piece helps
#11
My suggestion would be to get some training (Courses, would have thought that for you it was free) and show some commitment to any prospective employer. With reagard to your family I am at a loss to understand how you would have considered that without asking this question first! I wish you luck. Plus the advice mentioned in the above post is great!
#12
what about a driving job what would i need apart from my license
#13
No sé qué hacer con mi vida
me too...

ok serious...
but as i said i have no work history (how will employer's see this??? )

volantary work would be a good place to start, would show that you are keen, willing and trustworthy.
#14
nafanny999
what about a driving job what would i need apart from my license


An application form for a start
#15
Why not get in touch with a charity or some organisation that relies on voluntary work and suggest that you help them on an ad hoc / part time basis. You could ask for something that doesn't involve any stress and tell them you'll work at your own pace. This way you can get experience and references. You will also learn new skills and meet people. As you're not committed to them if you became unwell or needed a break then no problem. A lot of people get a sense of well being by helping others - I used to help out with people with physical disabilities and used to think if they can grin and laugh and cope with life - it used to help me get my own problems into perspective.
banned#16
have i misread your opening post, it says you are unfit for work for another 3 years yeah? so you are looking to to get some training in the next 3 years yeah?
#17
nafanny999
what about a driving job what would i need apart from my license


Maybe a car, road tax, and insurance..... and yeah an mot
#18
Oh and you should consider that you may well come under the DDA
#19
Anyway if youre fit enough to whack pc's together how come not fit for work? My job is easier than making pc's :thumbsup:
#20
HELPFUL SUGGESTIONS PLEASE GUYS

NOT CHARACTER BASHING

OP is asking for advice and help - we are not here to judge other people and their situations. You dont know the whys and wherefores and its none of your business. If you cant help then please keep the catty comments to yourselves. There are enough people out there who cant be bothered to do anything - the OP is looking at ways to help themself.
#21
Also I heard that there is a real shortage of carpenters and joiners (Partly due to some Polish carpenters going back to Poland due to the credit crunch) - So if you're good at woodwork it could be worthwhile getting on a course at a college - by the time you've qualified the credit crunch will be about finished and house building and renovations will have taken off again.
#22
The 3yrs that you are getting benefits will allow you to focus and concentrate on something that you like,as oppossed to having to take a job as a cleaner,or work in McD's etc. to try and get some work history,forget that imo...If it was me,I would decide where my heart lives,is it in making furniture,working with wood, ie. joiner,or is it with computers..? Once you decide on that then start looking for courses that you can do from home,distance learning,possibly with the option of being able to go in to a nearby college to get some assistance,the way you would if you were doing an ECDL course (basically getting all the bumf from a local college,beng able to do it,study at home,but also with the option of booking in and using their facilities,talking to tutors etc.) Now,you will not be able to do this with any practical courses. ONC Carpentry etc.,but you can join Open University and in 3 years could easily gain a degree in something that you are interested in...
In your position you will get funding,and we are all entitled to £200 ILF (independent learning fund I think) for starters. Also,if you have the space,you could maybe set up a small workshop/space in your home (spare room) or invest in a second hand shed and some second hand tools (freecycle,gumtreee) and start to make some of your own furniture. You could start out small,table lamps,tables,chairs from old wood,or from stuff that has been thrown out,skips,dumps etc. and you could maybe customize it. Or,if you live near a forrest try and get some dead wood,and you could make some art pieces,or come up with your own designs. Set up a free website to list your stuff,details,pictures etc. and then come up with a good evilbay username and start selling the stuff on there...possibly linking the two...
Don't listen to the haters,follow your heart,have faith in yourself,and everything will work out as you want it to.
Stay strong :thumbsup:
#23
i too suffer from really bad anxiety and have no self esteem so i know where you are coming from

luckily i have had the same job for about 8 years so i am comfortable with it and always work with the same people and enviroment

if you think you can brave mixing into a class maybe try a confidense building course as a start

i find the problem with me is concentration,i can be doing something but my mind is always elsewhere worrying about silly things,i can watch a film but couldnt tell u what its about sometimes

i have recently been put onto some new tablets and take diazepam for when days are bad but some tablets its best not to drive on so you have to be careful if thinking about a driving job

to be honest the person who i found very helpful for advice in career and anxiety was my health visitor,maybe mention to him/her your situation and they maybe able tell you of any organisaions that offer work to people in the same boat

good luck
#24
rehydrated
The 3yrs that you are getting benefits will allow you to focus and concentrate on something that you like,as oppossed to having to take a job as a cleaner,or work in McD's etc. to try and get some work history,forget that imo...If it was me,I would decide where my heart lives,is it in making furniture,working with wood, ie. joiner,or is it with computers..? Once you decide on that then start looking for courses that you can do from home,distance learning,possibly with the option of being able to go in to a nearby college to get some assistance,the way you would if you were doing an ECDL course (basically getting all the bumf from a local college,beng able to do it,study at home,but also with the option of booking in and using their facilities,talking to tutors etc.) Now,you will not be able to do this with any practical courses. ONC Carpentry etc.,but you can join Open University and in 3 years could easily gain a degree in something that you are interested in...
In your position you will get funding,and we are all entitled to £200 ILF (independent learning fund I think) for starters. Also,if you have the space,you could maybe set up a small workshop/space in your home (spare room) or invest in a second hand shed and some second hand tools (freecycle,gumtreee) and start to make some of your own furniture. You could start out small,table lamps,tables,chairs from old wood,or from stuff that has been thrown out,skips,dumps etc. and you could maybe customize it. Or,if you live near a forrest try and get some dead wood,and you could make some art pieces,or come up with your own designs. Set up a free website to list your stuff,details,pictures etc. and then come up with a good evilbay username and start selling the stuff on there...possibly linking the two...
Don't listen to the haters,follow your heart,have faith in yourself,and everything will work out as you want it to.
Stay strong :thumbsup:


that is such a good idea... some good advice in this post.
#25
If you are getting any sort of psych help e.g. assigned a CPN then he/she can actually assign you an employment advisor who will help you i.e write a cv, job searches, training courses, find suitable jobs etc etc Just be strong have faith in yourself and stay +. :thumbsup:
#26
Aquatic
HELPFUL SUGGESTIONS PLEASE GUYS

NOT CHARACTER BASHING

OP is asking for advice and help - we are not here to judge other people and their situations. You dont know the whys and wherefores and its none of your business. If you cant help then please keep the catty comments to yourselves. There are enough people out there who cant be bothered to do anything - the OP is looking at ways to help themself.


Well said. I was about to say the same.
What about Open University? In 3 years you could finish a degree, and have some contact with other students.
Or - what about enroling at your nearest university as a mature student? Even better contact with students and both of these would give you support in finding a job at the end.
#27
If your really interesting in teaching people to drive i think the below links will help you

http://www.go-red.co.uk/

http://www.go-red.co.uk/work-for-red.htm

I hope you find something you can do and good luck with your baby.
#28
Go self employed - either making furniture or making computers.

With the computers - People could come to you give you a budget and yu do it etc - or fix them?

Get yaself a website created and spread the word.
#29
Everyone suggesting that he does a degree can I ask when you did your degrees didn't you find it stressful? After being out of education and work for so long going back to education and concentrating for long periods, learning and revising for will be stressful - take things easy mate - start small and when you feel upto it then go and do a degree if you want to. In the meantime little victories will build your confidence and self esteem and hopefully made lead to you being able to bring some extra money home for you and your family.
#30
Wish I had not sent you that "Jack in the Box" for Xmas now !!!

Ha Ha !!!!
banned#31
Get down to your local driving (HGV) agency and sign on as a drivers mate. Many companies require a mate to go with the driver (I have one) that simply helps out the driver at the destination, for security and moving stock off the back of the trailer.

My drivers mate spends most of the night, whilst I'm driving, asleep, and he gets paid for it (£16k pa :w00t:)
#32
Ever thought of working from home with web marketing and such?

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